₦airaland Forum

ruggedtimi:
Is an ijaw wedding culture...Is a normal thing.

exploitative behavio is a cultural thing? Ride on

Juliearth:
I know it looks dicey, but I don't think he is responsible. I don't think he would risk committing such a crime under close call. Let the police do their job and I hope the crimal(s) is/are apprehended.

who is usually the closest person to a husband or wife? No be their spouse? Yoruba said a man's death is usually from his household and the insect that destroys a leaf is usually inside the leaf

Fearcom:
awọsanma laisi omi; omo egun
Ewúrẹ ninu eniyan ti a ṣe fun iparun

ewure yen gangan nie.eranko jati jati.broda ode

Juliearth:
Same thing came to mind. If only our streets are littered with functional CCTVs...

yes I agree but they should hold the husband. If hand touch am he will have a lot to say

Nigeria my country. Smh

Acekidc4:
If your protest turn violent, of course yes you should be teargassed and as a matter of urgency shot in the head with live bullet.

the person who swear say you nor go get sense don die

And who are you complaining to? Una no dey collect money for security votes annually?

Una don extend una madness to innocent Fisher men.people wey no dey Follow una do politics who just dey find their daily bread for themselves and family, una kill them just like that?

Continue killing o,when curse start to follow you and your children, don't start blaming devil o

Demolish yi noni. I have not heard build, renovate,fix,adjust from naija government

Salowise:
If couples can overlook some things, this won't be an issue, but trust me much they've
had serious quarrell about it, there are chances that this incident may reoccur. Though this is just my view

if couples have not yet matured beyond church vs church contention it then means anybody can break that marriage. I can equally walk to the husband and introduce myself as your wife's colleague at work say I saw your wife in a hotel with another man, boom,you rush home to start quarrelling with your wife and before you say Jesus is lord, marriage don scatter. That is how easy it is to break modern day marriage. If churches, pastors,,amebo inlaws and tribe can break marriage, what is false allegations that cannot break today's marriages,worstill with weak men everywhere aka my mummy said

Salowise:
This isn't weakness, you can't know everything. Knew a family that had this church issue, before it was nothing until the husband's church request his wife worship with them, the wife's church now gave her position in church. It wasn't a small issue.

Nigerians are their own problem. You let politicians use ethnicity ,tribe ,political affiliations,social ,economic and religion divide and manipulate you,now una don extend am to denominations aka my church is better than yours.in the same christiandom o.

Politicians never flog una reach

Tareq1105:
Both the bride and the groom are still children so they're not matured enough to marry.

Why would you allow your mother to dictate your life? She doesn't have the right even if she's the main sponsor.

On the part of the Bride, why would she refused to respect her husband to be by agreeing to follow him to his church? Is it that she wants to be the husband and dictate (control) to her husband?

even if the groom marries 10 times, it's the grooms mother that will scatter that marriage. There's no marriage that can stand with an overbearing mother inlaw and a baby husband because the husband is a Weakling and his mother narcissistic and you know narcissist love control,the moment the husband becomes a man and tells his mother to stay out of his marriage or the woman tells her to back off ,all he'll will break loose because the mother inlaw still wants to exert dominance and she will do everything within her reach to cause a separation either by making the husband hate the wife or telling malicious lies against the wife and since the baby husband has no common sense he will believe hook line and sinker without verification

Salowise:
Sometimes it's very good to heed to your parents advise, this may seem small but might turn out to be a major issue when they get married.

make the groom marry him mama since he doesn't have a mind of his own and he trusts his mom than himself. Weakling masquerading as a man

bukatyne:
She is a wise woman.

very wise bride.any man wey him mama still dey tell am to brush teeth,bath,wear payint,comb hair,when,how and who to marry nO be man na sub man

The marriage looks like something the grooms mother will destroy so its better for her to run before she see shege banza

louken:
Since they couldn't find a common ground, aborting mission was the best option, else they would have a marriage filled with bitterness, rancour and frustrations.
They are not meant for each other.

even if they got married na the mother of the groom go still scatter the marriage because a controlling mother inlaw that always wants to dictate what the couple does and have her way in all things is a disaster waiting to happen. The bride should go home and thank God that God delivered her from an intrusive and overbearing mother inlaw. Its the mother inlaw type that will be carrying all of her son's marital Buisness to pastor and pastor will be using the couple to cash out and then be playing on the intelligence of the wife

This bride didn't know what God delivered her from. She should be thanking God

May God not let any Weakling omo mummy man near me.tufiakwa

Fearcom:
Alaimoye, are you asking me
ti mo ba dahun ibeere omugo nigbana omugo ni mi bi o ṣe jẹ
ẹlẹdẹ pẹlu oruka goolu ni imu rẹ
Aburo Omugo
Go amd talk to your elders that way and see whether it's an insult or not
Leyin egan e ti n bere lowo Baba e ti e ba bu egan

o goh,ofenu hora.olegbon mo titi jesu afide.broda ode,oponu,alayi ni ilakaye

stormborn28:
Sammy Sammy. I know you too like sweet diick but the only difference between you and those nonentity be say you dey use common sense .. Condom Na method oooo

the same way every straight man likes cookie is the same way every woman loves d1ck.my point is I don't care if you fvck everyday like a dog on steroids just don't bring children Into the world that you cannot afford take care of,shikena!

Hussein035:
If we check your background now your great grand father might had 25 children even with only 5 plot of land farming job yet he raised all the children

If you think people must be rich BEFORE having children go and ask those who earn over 500k before having children but their source of income hit a big rock should they return their children back to God since there's no MONEY again

Stop typing nonsense on people's situation you are only covered by grace

another poor mam talk.yes my grandfather had 8 children and he had the financial means to take care of them because my grandfather was a lawyer and my grandmother was a jewelry and fabric trader so both of them took care of their kids well and that's why they have sensible children not like you whose pen1s is doing the job of his brain.

Am I against having kids,no.i am absolutely against having kids you have no financial resources to cater for.if you like be having 20 kids every 3 eke market days that's your cup of tea as long as you can take care of them and cater to their wellbeing- food,clothing, health care and education. You cannot afford N200k yet you're breeding children like rabbits so tomorrow they can be nuisance. You nor get sense?

Kobojunkie:
See the example of the result of useless upbringing that many Nigerians have been subjected to?

as in hen and some clowns are still justifying the madness. A couple that cannot afford N200k talk less of N500k what are they doing with 2 children talk more of 3.i was saying it the other day that is condoms, family planning or pregnancy preventing pills not cheaper than N500k and a 3rd child they can obviously not cater for and some sex obsessed fools were saying its not sweet with condom,nor be every withdrawal dey dey successful, how I go dey use condoms with my wife when nor be say na olosho I dey fvck, because poor man nor get money mean say make he nor fvck or born pikin and some stup1d excuses like that. Meanwhile if you check the 2 kids they're likely malnourished and out of school yet they're still having more kids. I no know which kain stupid ass konji dey worry them

Fearcom:
No you don't.
Una no dey hear word!
What will it cost you to keep your mouth shut Nothing.
But you won't because you wan use your own hand take spoil your own destiny

shogbadun sha? Is agba tinde an insult? Everybody will grow old and old age is beautiful so how you wan take spoil your destiny brother ode

BlueStripper:
I know emotions are high but this is not the best time for anyone to speak. Non Arewa's will never know the pain our people are going through. We are being persecuted in and outside our lands.

Hausa's are not Fulani's. We are peaceful and learned people.

We love to share.

We deserve to be loved.

All we have done is live peacefully and open our arms to receive everyone, including the Fulani's. But what did we get in return?

imagine Killin people unnecessarily and still playing victim. Wonders

Smh women can you at least respect yourself. Must you turn yourself to sex objects everywhere and in every situations. Na una go say men are promiscuous and indecent but na una go dey distract these men and when una see wetin una dey find una go dey play victim

See as them dey cry bitterly because of another person's choice

The way women dey decenter men dey make them throw bitter tantrums you never start to cry it's the audacity and entitlement for me

Agba tinde.we understand

Naija man and their abnormal obsession with s3x. You have maniac tendencies for s3x sotey you extend am to child porn

Nice

Babangidapikin:
I feel sad this happen, I know people are blaming the couple in this Emilokan era , but except you are not living with a woman will your one eye snake not move. I don't know if it cost 500k to give birth now, and if it's CS obviously it was unplanned for . I think we should improve our health insurance process to help in emergency like this ... Every life is important Biko.

it is only a brainless man and a woman who them don use poverty swear for that will be birthing indiscriminately. How can you even be living in poverty lack,hunger and the consequences of poverty like insults, embarrassment, injustice and your pen1s still dey rise.i don't care if you're living with a woman or her yansh is bigger than mount everest. If you are broke as a man in this tinubu era you should be sitting down thinking strategizing, working, networking and making moves on how to escape the poverty trap and have your bills paid not having endless s3x

Even too much s3x doesn't make a man think.thats why the only thin poor man get to show is 9 malnourished, unhealthy and unkempt looking children because all the time he is supposed use in thinking, making moves and working towards moving his family away from poverty, he don use am nack.have you read and heard of people who came from poverty and decided that it will end in his lifetime. At some poi in their life they secluded themselves from food, sex,friends and all forms of distractions.thry fasted ,prayed and meditated till thry got ideas,inspiration and vision that changed their lives forever and now if they want to birth 10 children every 3 eke market days they can afford it because they paid the price.

The thin here is I don't have any problem with the numbers of children a man chooses to have. Even if he wants to be having 1 dozen of children every Month its fine but make sure you can afford to take care of them So they'll not be a nuisance to yourself and others.

spiceadole:
That's the whole truth.
A lot of men hate women very much but marry them because of what women do for them

Sex mate
Baby maker
Nanny for their children
Housekeeper: Cook,laundry,Clean,etc

Marriage benefits men more.
Reason why they remarry as soon as their wives die.


Some men look dirty and unkempt until a wife comes into their lives.

As for me,I have no trust in my husband.
He is a typical Nigerian man.

I started having Pregnancy induced hypertension in my second pregnancy but my husband(in the selfish nature of men) kept hammering that we were going to try for a 4th child,despite my health condition..Asthmatic(and I had bad exacerbations in both pregnancies) plus preeclampsia.
Eventually signed for a BTL during my CS.
3 Children are more than enough.
I had even wanted 2 ,only for the second pregnancy to come as twins.
I always put myself and children first.
Na mumu dey trust man

you can go for 8 more children after all he's your husband and you came to the world to make him happy. Even if the 8 children will cause you asthma just have it.your health doesn't matter,your needs are not important, your dreams should only revolve around making him happy all the days of your life.lol

The amusing part be say you typed "na mumu dey trust man". No ma,you should trust him o.is he not your alpha and omega he gave you the highest trophy of being called mrs someone so why should you not give him your brain and kidney if he asks even if you must die

Gerrard59:
He had two children already. Why did he need another when he cannot afford 500K in today's inflationary Nigeria?

These are the issues....when we talk, we get insulted.

Nothing surprises me any longer...

exactly my point and one pickmesha who is amusingly a medical doctor said I should calm down.thats to say even education cannot cure the foolishness of being a pickmesha

DrFunmisticGlow:
honesty at this point, is it worth it to get married?

More than the fear of getting married for me, is the fear of being a single mother or worse, a married single mum.

choose your poison wisely