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Ediwife ooooo

All those parents here in Nigeria. I'm not talking of obodo oyinbo o.I mean here in Nigeria who leave their kids for weeks and leave food in the fridge for them to help themselves while they are away nko? It's part of letting them grow fast and taking care of themselves and their siblings independently when you're away

My owanmbe friends do that.though the kids may break few plates but they cope and they do well.so I don't see anything wrong. I mean for adolescents o not young lads

edwife:
If you are talking about that then i still stand by my words. I will never in my life leave my 10 and 13 years old all ALONE at home and fly to ANOTHER CONTINENT to PARTY! It is highly IRRESPONSIBLE and DISGUSTING. Are you for real?

She did not just left them for a day but WEEKS! Be it in Nigeria or Abroad, i will never try that. And to think we live in a country whereby any small mistake will make you lose your kids to social service and you want me to go through that just because i want to eat jellof rice and wear lace to celebrate with people who won't give a Bleep if anything happens to my kids.

Yeah right, i agree i live in a fantasy land and i am snow white.

Ewuro4:
Actually, My first once asked me that when she was 4 or so , it was very funny coz others never did, sometimes I had to refund them when we are in the store and they needed to buy toys or treats,

that kid looveees money like crazy... We use same Apple ID and I dare not use her credit I tell you.

lol

Orisirisi. That's your own parental style and I respect that however I will NEVER subscribe to such. If you ask me that kain yeye question it's my eyes that will do the talking

That's good.bottomline just as there are no perfect persons there are no perfect parents. Parents raise their kids differently based on what they perceive as their reality. So the point is we should all endeavour not to raise overspoilt rotten brats buy intelligent, smart hardworking and domesticated kids instead of all this indomie agric fowls

edwife:
You are very correct, no one can tell you how to raise your kids.. we can only give suggestions but that's all it is. We all different and variety is the spice of life.

I started saving once i was in secondary school. I had pocket money and was aware of the importance of money.Prior to that, i just did what my parents asked me to do as they never asked for something i wasn't able to do.

It is well with us.

I am good, thanks darling.

edwife:
You must be joking right? And you are real because?

I am very real darling and only post stuff I know or do not just under the influence or for validation. We are all different and have different upbringing.

Do me a favour, what do you define as being real or fantasy island?

remember that time there was a thread that had to do with a woman who left her tesident country to do owanmbe in Nigeria and then left her 10 and 13 year old kids. You were part of the people saying that child abuse.it's This it's that. You nor see were parents they leave Theo children for house with heaps OF clothes to wash and it must be spread on the wire before their arrival. Is that not building castle in the air by saying it's child abuse to leave children at home and go out as if it's not a common occurrence in Nigeria

Ewuro4:
Sambarry,easy oh

all this end time mother's dey vex me

I dey wait for wura make she grows fast con tell me mummy I can't wash the pots because you've not paid me

This is Nigeria o.I no dey for all this sme sme oyinbo style.

ableguy:
You make me laugh, mum didn't raise us that way. In fact you dare not leave the house unkempt, she doesn't even need to remind us of what to do because if you fail to do so. Hmmmm u go hear nwiiiiii
You make me laugh, mum didn't raise us that way. In fact you dare not leave the house unkempt, she doesn't even need to remind us of what to do because if you fail to do so. Hmmmm u go hear nwiiiiii.

so why is the op now asking whether its ok to pay them for doing house chores.

No problem na.they should come and collect money from me for washing their pants or shaving their armpits.shiorrrr.oshiii nle pako

Take 5.This is the first time I'm seeing you being real.This your post isn't the usual fantasy island,castle in the air post.This is Nigeria and we're training kids on how to survive in a harsh Nigerian environment or anywhere at all where there's no daddy or mummy to pay them to do what they are supposed to do

You need to listen to lagbaja music titled "akebaje" that song adressed end time mothers

edwife:
How about just telling them to do chores because it's a way of life? When you use something,you clean after yourself.

Pocket money is different from getting paid to clean after yourself. Otherwise we should also pay them for doing homework, going to school and sleeping.

I am good, yeah you have been MIA lately.You good?

Ewuro4:
nothing really... I've to admit, did that for a long time coz I read it on different parenting blog as a great way to encourage children to start doing chores from early stages of life. (Rewards)

I still did that to ingrain chore doing into them until they're 6, then changed its cause & we call it 'pocket money' (weekly) which every child is entitled to.

You have to do your chores Abeg. We all have a part to play in a family.

Edwife , looong time

mayb when theyre all grown up and leave your house you will keep paying them for washing their clothes, cleaning their fridge,washing their car and arranging the cloths. Ogedenbaje lo elonpo

ableguy:
But she justifies her action, saying most parents give allowance but she rather pay for job done to motivate them.

the question you should ask yourself especially if you are in a zoo like country called Nigeria where nothing is predictable. Assuming mummy hasn't been paid salary for Lik 4 months.how does she pay her children? This kids are still young and impressionable.of course they'll be like mummy hasn't paid us for cleanning the house this week so I'm not going to wash the dishes,empty the thrash,clean the zinc,wash the bathrooms and toilet, tidy up the rooms.I'll just leave the home messed up.

You have already giving them entitlement mentality that why you read of a 30something grown a55 adult still living with his mummy and beating up the mother because the mother didn't prepare his food like we read on nl

This is where it starts from.kontinu spoiling them rotten.they will soon disgrace you

All this end time mother's giving end time training sef

How can you pay YOUR CHILD MONEY for performing HIS RESPONSIBILITIES IN HIS HOUSE?like are you serious ?

He eats in my house with the Money I EARNED,that same money puts food on the table and pays the bills and he thinks he doesn't have complementary RESPONSIBILITIES.life IS give and take.

I pay your school fees,feed you,cloth you give you emotional support and you think I should pay for YOU For performing your duties and expectations.smh

The day YO don't have money to give let's see how clean the house will be

*in yandy's voice * this is ridiculous

Smh.is this a thread?

At 8.53am Monday morning

It says a lot about how you spend your time

Phenese over brain


If you like quote me for nonsense

SucreB:
Rubbish!..... so what was his response. make una dey deceive una selves there. shior..

you're the one deceiving yourself

You you don't know more than women.we're talking ABOUT serious national issues affecting the lives of Nigerians everyday and you're talking about giving someone your rock.smh

Shymm3x:
Lol.

Nah g, all my sisters are taken - go search for ya Ijebu chic somewhere else.

I need to start chirpsing bare Yoruba chics now and maybe, I might get lucky cos there are loads of Ijebu folks in Ldn town. And I used to heck one but one of her lousy and crazed bredrin set me up. I might've to shout her. The chic is super nice, fam. Messed that shyte up...fvcking alcohol lool.

Bethelwealthy:
lucky she didnt grow up in this part of the world.

I'm telling yoi

Mattkent:
Reading your comment I perceive disgust in them. You have to be careful bro... if not your type might end up as the extremist you so preach against. And don't diss 'God' you are just a human.

smh.hypocrites,pretenders,lovers of evil everywhere. People who see evil but cannot call it by its name



Even countries that aren't as religious as us don't put up with all this nonsense. If you claim he's an extrmist show me the place he lied or exaggerated

That aside the wise elders say the success of a leader is determined by the standard of living of the people. If majority of them are living in squalor he has FAILED as a leader. If he as the GRAND COMMANDER OF THE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF zooland cannot ensure NIGERIA'S SECURITY.he has failed as a leader.

Imagine little school girls abducted in broad day light and up till today we can't rescue them SHAME SHAME SHAME ON HIM


Even o yinbos wey we dey abuse came to our country to help us.what did we do just like crabs we sabotaged their efforts

In 2016 when other sensible countries are go In to the moon we're still dealing with electricity unpaid salaries poor infrastructural facilities in hospital and everrywherr and your president cannot sit down and make sure these policy makers do their work.he's traveling up and down like ajala

Compare a 13 years old girl in the north and the interviewer.her mates in the north are already wives to a paedophile. Their intellect have already been squashed and reduced to a sex machine and baby factory.

Oyao counter my claims.bloody hypocrite and lover of confusion and disorder

Patrick obaigbon jnr

isacolukay:
It is because of the directionless directionlessness, because of the planless planlessness, because of the purposeless purposelessness that a microscopic few who have piloted the affairs of this nation continue to facilitate in.... enthusiasm while the vast majority live in peasant solicitude.
Mr drss, today I am happy I'm a Nigerian, I am happy I am a nairalander and vehemently hold on to this logomachy without lingua partia.

missjahiniekpe:
Yes. Family doesn't recognize 'me' but us', its a sharing of lives. They are both working, so spending a little time with her is not a big deal. What the woman is asking for is not too much except for the fact that the man is self centered. I pity the children, the will so want a daddy like i did and will never have.

smh.i give up

fairheven:
u nailed it.

the man value pilgrimage no be small.
pilgrimage to MECCA,MEDINA, EQUATORIAL GEANEA, GERMANY, FRANCE, USA,UK,GHANA,... what have you...you call it foreign trip, he calls it pilgrimage.

even the Holy book says "we are nothing but pilgrims in the this earth"

but my problem... when will his sojourns bring him to Nigeria?

we ARE religious hypocrites and Pharisees in this part of the world. Instead of him to sit down and strategizing how to make this country great again you're traveling for a useless pilgrimage at the expense of the sweat of millions of Nigeria. Civil servants have not been paid their salaries the electricity system is in shambles and you're travelling for pilgrimage.


How many times has he seen president Obama and other presidents of G8 globe trot aimlessly when there's serious work to be done at home that needs urgent attention

fqudus:
Buhari and his fellow he-goats from the Allah region would probably have stolen you from school and taken your virginity at 10.
You will also be forced to wear a dirty smelling burka/hijab while in captivity in a pedophilic Emir's palace.

At times it's better you are silent than open your mouth to say unreasonable things, what you say can put you in trouble, you are here talking nonsense when a 13 year old is interviewing world leaders. I feel pity for you.

shut up your mouth hater of truth. Blood sycophant.

If your daughter ,mother, sister or aunty was one of the abducted chibok girls sold into slavery like a piece of ram will you Be ranting this rubbish. Abi the girls wen them kidnap no get family and loved ones

Your home is on fire and in disarray yet you're traveling up and down trying to paint a picture that all is well when the world already knows how pretentious and fake Nigeria is

Dklef:
They leave pressing issues and be chasing shadows. Well said

exactly. Unfortunately Nigeria is full of hypocrites,a55 lockers and sycophants so they won't say the truth meanwhile if others say the truth they begi to attack the person.

Honestly we still have a very long way to go in Nigeria

teadrake:
Your contribution is full of hatred which indicated you're kinda confused and pathetic. Tufiakwa

the truth is always bitter.instead of you hating the situation you're hating the speaker. If his claims are not true point it out with objectivity. Of course because you don't have any substance you have to respond with insults.

He's Ver right. If she was in zoo republic of nigeria.the little girl won't even smell his car garage talkless of interviewing him.the truth is staring at your face yet you're lamenting

missjahiniekpe:
He should have remained single if he wanted 'the me time' married couples can't afford the me time.

so because he's married she shows be all over his face. No Tim for self evaluation and personal reflection OR meditation that needs to be done alone in total tranquillity

You gossiped to the daughter ABOut her mother to the hearing of the mother and you expect the mother to like you?

If I were the one too I will dislike you and that'll lead to distrust. I'm sure she can't wait for you to get out of the house. Imagine a woman who pays your school fees,accomodates you and feeds you and all you can do is backbite?you think the daughter will respect you?

It's very unfair and ungrateful for you to bite the hands that is feeding you.besides how many relatives do you think will willingly oblige to accommodate you and pay your school fees in this harsh economic times.you're even lucky she cared.many family members won't care especially your father's family. They'll give you a thousand and one reasons why they can't help you Bu tell them you want to do graduation part or wedding, you'll see that the money they claimed they didn't have will come out of no where

Solution :involve another family member the one she respects to beg her

Change your ways and mind what you say to her in her presence and behind her

Be nice to her daughter.

Help with the chores and see how she Chan

If you cannot do all that go and live with a boyfriend
within one month I assure you you'll Be pregnant and be evicted. Then you'll know the difference between men and family


*drops mic*

Siena:
[color=Blue]Siena is male, NOT female. [/color]

my bad.Mr sienna

Mrs siena at that age a child doesn't know what is right or wrong good or bad.its for the patents to instill it into their children before they become juvenile delinquents.at that age commanding works better. YEs she'll resent you for it but as she grows and matures she'll start understanding why mummy or daddy usually commands her to do this and that. You're preparing/moulding the child's character for a harsh world outside.there'll be a time mummy and daddy won't be there to entertain all your whims and caprices

Siena:
Dictating to your child will make him or her resentful.

I understand there are certain doctrines that need to be instilled in children from a young age, but there are better ways to accomplish this than being a dictator. I would like to believe "dictate" was NOT the word you intended to use. Influence, probably?

Forming her personality from the age of 18?? That is NOT possible. Children begin to develop their personalities shortly after birth. Your suggestion implies that prior to the age of 18, a child has no personality, or should not have developed one. As I previously stated, this is not possible, even if the child was born severely brain-damaged, with learning difficulties.

You can influence their personalities from a young age, what you can't, or shouldn't do is curtail or halt their personality's natural development.

And you wonder why there are so many lazy spoilt disrespectful sloppy and undisciplined kids everywhere who will do everything for attention. When she said mummy are you stupid the mama no dash am one headache inspired slap for cheeks.gosh I hate when some parents don't know the difference between training and pampering. Useless children every where experimenting sex drugs school bullying stealing etc.Why do you think they do this

They're looking for attention because they are used to their parents giving Them attention and indulge their childish excesses so they are used to it and want the world to equally give Them that attention and indulge their excesses.When they don't get it they start misbehaving about

You will see all this oyinbo children carry gun to school and start shooting all their classmates and teachers for nothing. Why? Same reason

Talo lomo oshi

cherrymum:
God bless my parents' slaps and canes. At almost 30, I can NEVER tell my mother that I'm mad at her. I can grumble inside my mind or to my siblings but no one DARES form westernisation with my mama. My mother will tell u dat okra no dey grow pass person wey plant am.

Op pls teach ur child how to talk to older people with respect before she will embarrass u outside. I used to teach in one of these oyibo schools. You'll hear things like "mummy you are silly, why are u just coming to pick me now". And mumu mummy will smile, hug and say "sorry darling or baby I was held up in traffic. Chai! If I slap that child, luth will reject ur case!

Na small small like this e dey start. I went to visit a friend few weeks back as we were talking her daughter said, "mummy stop talking u talk too much" and mummy replied "I will just pinch your breast now". In the first place u cant be around where mummy and her visitor are talking. Mummy should have given u "the look" since Na.

Pls these are the children we are praying that will take over from us in the nearest future. Let them learn to speak with respect and regard in their tongue. Teach them what is right inside before they disgrace you outside. Mbok!

classicB:
do not beg her. at 3 years shes already telling dad she is mad at him and getting unnecessarily angry. if u continue saying sorry to everything u think you did wrong then u will have to keep doing it, your kid looks like a potential angered person. who born me to say such thing to mum even at this age not to talk of a 3yr old?? my mum used to force Us to eat excess food we want to waste by the time we feel like "am okay" she will ask whether we no dey there when she dey dish the food. discipline ur child. dont be a feeble dad, you dont pamper kids with 'indiscipline' like mummy used to say "i cannot pamper a kid with indiscipline, a lot of varieties are in the market to pamper you with" i always get surprised when i see these new generation kids abuse their parents all in the name of freedom nonsense!!
if i keep saying sorry to a toddler what will i say by the time she is all grown up? my opinion would not even count.
my next door neighbour would beat that child right

take 5.

You have spoken my mind. Na where all this overspoilt,overindulgent excessive tantrum throwing kids they start from.sebi she still dey say "I'm mad at you " small time she go soon tell her mama or papa "fok you"

Udochee:
spot am.the look was epic.my mum needs not say anything. jus "the look" is enough to process the coded information.

gbam.take 5.all this oyinbo training sef hennn.especially the one efemena suggested e dey vex me like seriously. No wonder all this Nigerian ajebo raised overseas Don spoil finish. Them nor even get respect. Na them go tell their mama mummy shut up I'm still talking

When you eye the child the message is delivered and understood.apologise for what? Nonsense. Why do I have cane.cane of 50naira under the chair or behind the curtain will make her behave even without using it on her.seeing it alone is enough

Dyt:
Sambarry Iya wura
I see you ooo

awa niyen o jare

Dyt:
Oya I love the way you gimme that ukwu

Boobi e
Oja milaya
Omoge Manchester
Shale wa united

lol.shorin omo luabi niyen

banttieman:
Daughter said I'm ok.
Dad said Finish it.

That is coercion if u dont know. I will rest my case here aa u dont seem to understand my point.

wow that's nice.I love that. Finish it means she won't be thirsty anytime soon and that is a good way of training.

I give him a round of applause

Ejytex:
For ur small mind ko

perv go and do something productive with your time and life.everything is not phenese and v@jyna