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Sophyrocks: Gbam! Society and I are in opposite direction. As you see me so, I rock my world. Society cannot dictate rubbish to me. I'm an adult for God's sake. It takes a really stubborn woman with self esteem to stick to what she wants and get it. thats the ish.

I feel you o jare

Come as you are.afterall the widow just gave what she had

Profcamsey: Are you saying we shld accept divorce as a normal thing in nigeria. i dont get u

divorce from the very beginning is not normal but when matter don pass be careful, omo waka

cococandy: Haha. I know. I was saying from a woman's POV.

i am with you on this

Op roftl






you remind me of Whitney Houstons song "heart break hotel"

ileobatojo: You don't know they are the real 'wife material' ni? Don't knock their hustle.

lobatan

beeevan: How do some women become so helpless? So docile and downright worthless? Very pathetic tale. Let her keep begging, mtcheeewww!!!

as in ehen.i just taya. When for goodness sake are we going to read something positive about many nigerian men on nl. something edifying not barbarism shockers.when you think you have heard the worst another worse one will surface from nowhere

Then let her keep begging then since she's enjoying her slavery. She will soon beg before she wears bra sef

5minsmadness: She is free to 'waka' oh, nobody is stopping her. Na op talk say she dey beg to come back.


On the contrary , Madam zubairu owns one of poshiest, air-conditioned restaurants in town All the big bankers go there
And Ebola is gotten from poorly cooked monkey or rat meat. As far as I know, madam serves her monkey well cooked

Accept him with his buts since he's your blood

5 minutes you're unbelievable. In fact I had to edit my posts because if I send it the way it's in my mind. This thread will be locked . meanwhile

5minsmadness: So because I didn't join the chorus in insulting the man without listening to both sides of the story I must be a slave dealer and worse than your neighbor. Lol.

Nope. I simply like to be analytical about things and I try not to let my emotions becloud my judgement on Saturdays.

Also I don't subscribe to joining the crowd so as to receive accolades and 'likes'. I try to tell it as it is.


I saw your picture on your profile and felt it would be preferable to you to address you as girl instead of woman. But if you prefer lady, fine, its no skin off my bones.
Note:
You are only addressed as a lady if you behave like one: a lady has finesse, class, is calm and collected, not rude, polite, truthful etc.

Sophyrocks: My sister, call me crazy buh i take some of her comments veeeeeeerrrry seriously.

me too o



as if she's a prophet. Everything she says keep revealing itself on nl every day





no wonder many men on nl don't like her. They think she's crazy

5minsmadness: Sorry for the delay. Went to have my bath
Sambarry/kulyie abeg free me You know say this Na d first time I dey quote you for nairaland biko nu

go and eat your idoti (isiewu) no body cage you before but quit dirtiness its a big turn off



ahen don't forget to shave your pewbik hair and the one under your arm pit and use roll on in your armpit





eyin obun United wonyi

So she had to beg or be patronized before she baths?


are you reading your posts at all





must you justify stoopeedeety.so he wants to prove he's a man.like you dared me . Are you for real? Of course when a woman's source of livelihood is from all knowing oga she has to beg.if them check it now them go see say she no get job or good education hence beg oga before poverty finish am.an empowered woman for don eaka tey tey but illiteracy and poverty fuels foolishness, subserviency and over dependence

who suppose carry her pikin and take necessary documents before leaving him to wallow in filthiness




Meanwhile you are free to go and eat your road side isi ewu but no forget say ebola dey town




today I went to my tailors shop to collect my dress and a woman was complaining of maggots she saw inside the roadside isi ewu she was eating unfortunately she saw it to late when she has put some morsels in her mouth.


Bottom line continue dey eat doti dey call am food. Them go soon cook rat intestine for you you go call am round about

5minsmadness: Pardon me, men smell just as badly as ladies if they haven't had their bath for a day, unless the woman is seeing her period.

Secondly I'm not supporting anybody not having their bath. I'msaying the man probably didn't mean it, he said it out of anger and he got all the more angry when he came back ?in the evening? to see she had already dared him.
Anger breeds anger. The cycle can only be stopped when one person calms down. If he was angry when he left the house and she knew logically there was no way the 'no water ' thing would hold even past that day she should have been prudent enough to wait. When evening comes and then night and she goes to him and say 'so you are really serious about this water thing? No problem o, but we must sleep in the same bed so you can enjoy my smell with me, etc! ' there are better ways to resolve conflicts than to quickly go to your neighbors and borrow gen to pump knowing fully well it will only make your Oga feel stupid and piss him off further. Okay now she is begging to come back and you people are saying she should divorce but obviously she knows better.

I'm saying some squabbles don't need to be escalated. There is a way the bible put it but unfortunately I can't remember now(backsliding things SMH ) about a sweet tongue turning away anger.
What I find is most women are sharp with their tongue. You talk one they talk 100 then when Tue man makes good his threat they now start crying up and down as if they have been murdered.

Well, I don talk my own sha. Make I waka my own, mama zubairu dey cook isi-ewu special tonight

I wonder myself where thus so called bush meats spring out from.so bathing is now a privilege?






tufiiiiaaaaakwa





now I understand when kanwulia calls some nigerian men smelling bliko.ses.i thought she was just clowning I didn't know there were elements of truths in her post





I wish she was here to see mr obun in action

Sophyrocks: I am sooo disgusted by some comments here. Chai!! Men of the same kind will always defend themselves. I am not surprised that the issue would be dragged on to blame the woman as usual. Barbaric caveman mindset!! Really, ladies must do well to avoid men with poverty of the mind walai! Men who behave like this are those who have been so poverty stricken for soooo many years such that they become sadists!! And when they manage to get lucky to hit riches, their barbarism increases by 100. No wonder ladies avoid poor men. The many years of poverty and suffering does no good to the thought process of a human.

Nigerian women, i fear for you all. The kind of mind and heart some men have developed to treat their wives with such disdain seems to me like they have harbored an inherrent and accumulated hatred for women in general. because i can't seem to understand where such women are meeting such cave men. Where do you women meet these kind of men? from the jungle or what?

5minsmadness: Ehen! Thats what I'm trying to say! Better ways at conflict resolution instead of the one of sticking her head out unnecessarily.

are you sure you yourself dey baf everyday. Why are you supporting the man's dirtiiness



its unreasonable just accept when you are wrong. If another ear hears what transpired between the two of them they will immediately know that man na obun 1st class.i no even fit touch his singlet sef if I be washer woman

smokescreen4: Am a woman and am your biggest fan

lobatan

Abeg op let me hear word because

smokescreen4: @5minsmadness something is most definitely responsible for the way the man is treating the wife, you made it look like the wife brought it upon herself by her actions or like she deserves it, men don't just do this, or do that again I say speak for yourself.

thank you o.so I can finally see a reasonable man on nl

priscaoge: The kind of things that happens these days always make me to wonder if these people really have any conscience.

i am telling you. Like kanwulia will say "another one Don cam o"

So you mean he can comfortably eat the food of somebody that didn't bath for 2days.abi?




The woman sef no try. She suppose go baf for her neighbours house, dress and come back to the house and pretend she didn't bathaquote author=5minsmadness]
No cooking and eating for two days is better than not bathing for 2days? So you people can come and quickly open thread 'Man tries to starve family to death?'

Its obvious he didn't mean to go through with his threat, he just said it out of anger; only to come home and see that wife had pumped water and even tell him to his face 'yes! I pumped water and there is nothing you can do about it!' . so he did something about it.

Stubborn.

All the other things you said were just to insult the man. I guess this is kind of a pity party.
Those of you already screaming for divorce, please note that divorce can sometimes work in the man's favour as well. He might even ask for the divorce before she does. Just saying.[/quote]

priscaoge: Seriously it surprises the devil no be small,that pic is funny. Even if the man don't want to marry her again because of his reasons,coming to the hospital to divorce her isn't wise @all. Too bad

as in ehen.the kinds of alarming tales I read on nl I wonder whether there are still normal men in naija.if its not justifying paedophilia its justifying rape or justifying reasons to dump the wife when it's not genuine but if it's the other way round. I for don read biatch Like 50times

But it's not sickening not to bath for 2days.is it not crystal clear that the man wants to get rid of her




if you know say your sister no baf for 2days courtesy her husband and she came to your house you no go lock your kitchen?



its not about male bashing but what's wrong is wrong. Dirtiness is a bad spirit which you shouldn't force on anyone. If you don't want to bathfor one year no problem but to force someone you are living with into your Dirtiness is disgusting to say the least.



If a woman didn't bath her young child for 1day I go bash her taya on or of nl talk less of 2days.you to look am and women's bodies aren't the same with men.if dirt dries up in that body it can lead to something else and that's not the same with men

5minsmadness: Did you see the babe?
Did op even hint he was cheating?
I thought you girls just surmised that he's ugly as an ape, now he has a babe following him?

What was the purpose of this thread? To start another rant against men?

This is family section for goodness sake! Its a place where people are supposed to come for help concerning family issues, not a male-bashing or pity-party place! If you ladies are so adamant about airing your views against men you can ask seun to create an 'the evils of men' section.

A girl comes online and starts a thread with how men become demons and all the ladies are like "Yes! Men are eeeeevilll!" Yet you won't leave men alone! And all males that agree with you without question are tagged 'mature'. Its sickening!

I don't care if the woman is heady but it takes only a swine.a filthy pig for that matter to tell another person not to bath for 2days ahannnnn


he is supposed to feel uncomfortable that anybody around him didn't bath and you are ok with your wife not bathing for 2days




I don't need anyone to tell me that dude is dirty as fok




Assuming he even wanted to punish his wife and say no cooking and eating for two days that's still reasonable but not bathing for 2days. Hiannnn I won't be surprised if he doesn't bath for one week and wear boxers that sweat mixed with semen has dried inside.tufiaaaaaa



I can't even go anywhere or do anything if I don't bath in the morning and then coming back from work bath again in the evening





after now na their type go dey day my wife's pooshie is smelling or her armpit stinks




some people dey try o.their bedroom go dey smell pass mortuary when them dey use water do bathing strike. Iyama

5minsmadness: OK.
I'm not the man's lawyer or anything.
But...
I believe in balance.
I believe in CAUSE and EFFECT


Could it be that the man's wife is very stubborn?

Could it be that he nags(thank god you didn't say beat) his wife all the time because she likes doing things her own way without listening to him?

Could it be that the reason he has been threatening to divorce her despite having 4kids(boys and girls) for him is because of her stubbornness?

Could it be that he has warned her several times not to overuse the water, that fuel is costly and she should be economical but she repeatedly refuses to listen?

And then after this last episode the man got angry and in a bid to reprimand her he told her he won't pump water for 2days out of anger? And then walked out of the house?(because if he was still in the house she wouldn't have stubbornly come to collect gen from you and pump water successfully)

People who don't bath after a day smell horribly. Also like you said they need water for cooking and feeding. And there are kids involved. Could it be he said so in the heat of anger, walked out to calm himself knowing fully well he wouldn't carry out his threat, only to return a few hours later to see that wife had stubbornly challenged him once again? And this now led to his driving her out of the house in a fit of rage?

You see how many 'could it be's? can enter this story of yours, thus making it not so one sided?

Obviously the man doesn't want her a long time and he just found the perfect opportunity to use (disobedience) to send her out so I don't understand why she should stay in a marriage where the husband doesn't want you again and most likely has someone else lurking around the corner so I think her priority shouldn't be staying in a dead marriage but how to get the kids and call his bluff abi them born 2 of them together. She nor get job ni




mshewwwww




I wonder when we will start hearing good news about marriages in this nl sef.i don taya for all this stories that touch

The kinds of men some women marry this days ehen

onirugbon1: You don't get it. Im translating ogunnaike literaly. Ogun is pricing plastic. innit?

omg I am just getting it now

onirugbon1: Ogun is pricing plastic (at the market)

lol well I don't believe in traditional worship but go to their shrine, steal their ogun idol and go and sell it then now see what happens to you

DukeNija: Nope not just divorce. There are things worse than divorce my dear. Far far worse than divorce.

the only thing worse than divorce is not having a life . When you have a life you will just see divorce as a phase of life or one of those things.i don't even understand why divorce is overhyped in this part of the world as if it is a death sentence



My dear when there is life, life still keeps going.



By the way divorce is like a torn cloth, its either you fix it by giving it to the tailor or save yourself the stress by disposing it

It's a clan name from a particular yoruba tribe who worship ogun.god of iron

emperorchedda: These hoes aint loyal

lmao but them brohoas are loyal



I like it as everyone was served perfectly


speaking of when the player became the played and when the hunter became the hunted