Hello Nairalanders, please i just completed my Nysc program in Kaduna, I studied Human Resource Management in university and graduate with a second class lower. I'm currently in the labour market trying to secure a job. Distance is not a barrier for me. Please if there's anyway you can help, I'll really appreciate it

Thank you.

I was really worried about what was going through my mind yesterday night, decided to share abit of it here on Nairaland and i was surprised with the number of people that actually commented, some people expressed their sense of maturity with their comments while some commented like they deserve to b sent back to crèche, but either way i thank you all for taking your time to read my plight and sharing your opinions, May God keep blessing y'all ijn...stay safe

ojuu4u:
Uh


Am a bit convinced that ur post is not myth, let me advice u as a man who is experienced than you when it comes to marriage.

If by error or pity you mistake to settle down with a girl who doesn't love you for who you are, of course *vice versa.

(You can see that in my previous post, I didn't mention any derogatory word towards her of being after 1)

If you make such mistake, you either leave with regret with rest of your life or you battle with marry and remarry issue.

2. you confirmed it above that you don't have resources yet to foot marriage, my brother marriage comes with loads of responsibilities!!
....this clearly shows you are not capable financially to foot her expectations, the little one you did that big in your eyes is too small for her considering her beauty as you said.


You see sooooooo many guys and men are on the radar of average Nigeria girls not to talk very beautiful and educative as you claimed.
Its rational for the girl to go for highest bidder at least to secure marriage and financial securities and as its stands now, you are not near highest bidder.


After service, its job hunt that is supposed to be your priority and not marriage, not even lady that doesn't love u in return.

Thank you for following up bro and i assure you this is not a made up story.... let me start by saying I'm not ready for marriage now, I'm about to b through with my nysc program i still have a long way ahead of me, i really want to hustle so as to create a great future for both myself and my family. I know most people will want to insult me saying if you know you are not ready for marriage why go into a relationship, remember i said when i all started i just wanted to shag, f*ck and all, i never planned to take in on any long relationship..... I've ready started job hunting and already developing some business ideas which I'll start working on after this pandemic...the truth is i really love this girl and i don't know if I'll still b able to make things right when i get there. Is loving someone and asked to be loved back a crime?

ojuu4u:
If you are dating girl and see future in the relationship, move from back or middle seat and be the driver, ( not co - drivers)

According to ur epistle, you are not in charge of the relationship, but forcing urself on her. It's obvious.

She told u not to visit her frequent.

( every loving gf will be thirsting to see her guy beside her as often and frequent).

She told u not to upload her pics on WhatsApp..... blablabla

She caused quarrellings more often and you were the one offered apologies on many occasions.
*shows you are forcing urself on her*

My observation .....you are not her type of husband, most especially outlook, also in the area of finances. She believed you are not ready for marriage yet.

If you don't take firm decisions on her, I pray you won't die of heart attack........you knw within you that she doesn't love you, but you are not ready to let go of her mainly because of her beauty and outlook

your observations are painfully right, but the truth is I'm not forcing myself on her. The problem is that, this is the first time I'm actually fall for someone else beside myself, I've had tons of relationships but I've neva felt this much emotional attachment with anyone I've dated, i know my position in my relationship is not solidified but will u blame me for trying to make things better? i know i love her and i knw she loves me to but her love for me is just questionable. I'm only scared because I'm not able to predict what I'm going back home to meet after my nysc program..
Your advice is really helpful and i really appreciate it.

here:
The mistake that made her a single mother she hasn’t learnt from it or maybe that was even what happened. Took you months to get her and each of the breakups she is quick to say it’s over,bro soon she will make it permanent she just has a reason for keeping you. You don’t want to wait to find out trust me. Like others said you’re insecure and desperate. If she was that beautiful and great like you see her trust me she would be married. Imagine discouraged you from redeployment as in really? Not even for economic reason. Most people are angry that if you’re that sincere no single mother should relate with you like this and for you to still be there itsnt just about this but you need to also look at your self esteem. I wish you success with whatever you decide

Thank very much, i really appreciate your advice, thank sooo much

mickykhe:
She love u but maybe she sees no future with u as her husband that maybe her reason, my advice, try have a heart to soul talk with her if u really love her that much to be ur wife and mind u she is a babe mama, her past will once in a while after her mood and behavior.

Thank you very much, your reply really means a lot to me

Richardonald:
mother of one
what do you expect us to tell you again, guy you dey for queue maybe na number 34 or 39 you dey who knows.. truth is this days you hardly meet a girl who have one boyfriend, hit like if you think am saying the truth

But bro i don't see anything wrong with dating a single mother, especially when i really love her this much, truth be told i someone had told me i would end up dating a single mother would have rejected it, but bro the feeling came naturally and i really want it to stay....God knows if i attain my goals today i can marry her tomorrow... and moreover she's still in her early 20's...the pregnancy was planned for but it came as a blessing even tho the baby's father deserted her, she picked herself up

fati2001:
sorry take heart

Thank you

Guy go and hustle. When you have money you will not be reasoning like this .


bro no reason am o, I'm really hustling but even hustlers fall in love .....men only try only God can bless

Good evening, please i really need your advice. Kindly over look my English composition, I'm not a professional.
So i met this girl last year, i was awaiting a new call up letter from NYSC because i just revalidated from batch 1 to batch 2. I met her in one of the NYSC group chats, we became intimate friends, and started developing feelings for her, at first i thought it was lust but i didn't care i just wanted to have my way. As time passed i noticed what i was feeling for her was more than sexual desire, she's really different from other Ladies I'm met in my life, like i felt the chemistry with her.
When i asked her asked her out she told me she already had a child but that didn't stop the feelings i have for her, it took me 3 months to be able to convince her i really love her, my waiting and perseverance really paid off. When we started dating i saw a new side of her I've never seen in a lady before, she's became my whole heart, she kept motivating me, she also helped me financially alot like she knows my account number off hand and I've never seeing hers once.
I was later posted to North and she was posted to southwest, i wanted to relocate but she told me not to because if we keep seeing each other everytime we'll get bored of each other easily, we only had sex once before i travelled to the North for my NYSC program.
Everything was fine even tho we've had different ups and downs every broke up about 3 times but we always find our way around our misunderstanding even tho as a mature man i do most of the apologises because i just don't want her to leave and she was the one doing most of the break ups, i understand our differences might be because I'm not around, but i love her soo much and she knows it.
Now our first issue is about the fact that she makes me tell her everything worrying me which i do but she finds it hard to open up to me even though we've been dating for almost a year now.
Secondly, she once told me about this guy she has a crush on, she told me she always tell her self if it wasn't deji it would have been the other guy.
My gf is a beautiful lady and I'm not exaggerating trust me she is that makes her get more attention from guys, instead of just letting them go she keeps them in the friend zone which I'm not cool wit but i have to keep quite so as not to look like the over jealous type or over protective.
Now I'll b through my program this month ending and my guts keep telling me she's cheating due to some of her attitudes, sometimes she's this lovely, romantic type and sometimes times she acts like a pain in the ass, she's not just my gf she's my best friend. But i know there is more going on then i know, she ones told me never to upload her pics on my WhatsApp status because she doesn't want people to count her relationship for her or know about her relationship life, she post my pics once in a while on her own status especially on my bday where she wrote alot of heart Melting words but who knws i might be the only viewer, if i call her she doesn't pick up, she'll either hang up and call me back later or not even call at all.
I love her soo much but i dnt knw what to do, pls mature minds in the house advice me, I not d emotional attachment type but I'm really in love with her, some of my friends who knws what's going on advice me to end it with her but i can't.. I'm just soo in love with her, Please advice me

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So it was a hot afternoon just quited my job, i was preparing for revalidating cos i was posted to cross river, apart from the fact that it was a fucking long distance from home, everyone were telling me horror stories bout how they eat human and dogs! I'm a chubby person I'll make a good meat i said to my self hell no! not gonna b someone's romantic suya with his date..so i decided to wait for the next batch, being home for months and already i was using my beard gang to wash plate.
You knw what they say that one second can change your whole life? don't know who said it but that nigga was fucking right. After doing all the house chores, i decided to rest abit, then i said...its being along time i dated, my last girlfriend left cos she can't date a graduate, she was just a level behind me, she said i won't have her time anymore.while she was talking all i did was stare at her boobs thinking damm ama miss this shit! while she was bout leaving, i asked her if we could Bleep one last time, didn't really enjoy d sex cos my dick almost got broken, dammn i really digged dat shit like a fucking gold mine. Then told myself i gatta stop changing gfs i was already getting old for shit need to learn how to respect women. All this made me take a break from SEX nd women, meeeeehn had lots of temptation on the way but held myself like a real pastor would.That was last year August nd it was already February, there was a time i asked myself if i was going gay, Hell No! i like girls joor. I decided to scout Nysc group chat looking for cute chicks nicknames then i found one, the dp was dope(a local man was ready to get back in business). Sent an hello and waited for a reply, not too long i saw my phone blinking, was praying it should my GTB alert, i could really do with some cash right now, picked my phone up nd saw MTN caller tune's message, i hissed nd said awon wayrey, then scrolled to my Whatsapp lo nd behold nysc babe has replied, a little smile came from my face, we got chatting asked for her name nd she said ope, quickly saved her number as ope nysc so that i can be able to view her status, this babe was into chatting nd i was like ok, seems like we are both 2 jobless people and babe wey de chat like this i give her 2 weeks she go fall for the boy.........

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