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ImaIma1:
Is that how you run your home? What is wrong with a man doing chores? Is he above it? Didn't he wear the clothes that need washing? Doesn't he live in the house? Will it deflate the ego?

It’s very wrong for a man to do house chores and I’ll never do such as a man. Everyone is different.

ImaIma1:
Master and slave Relationship in marriage is not a bad thing? Seriously?

And you are advising the husband not to help with chores? Is this how you run your home?
Marriage is a partnership...a joining of two people to make their lives better. Two are supposed to be better than one.

Marriage is a partnership but not when it comes to chores. Chores are meant for the wife

UjuJoan2:
I'm glad you agree.

But it’s always nice for the wife to please the husband always. That’s why we have maids to take care of chores

UjuJoan2:
Again, easier said than done.

Except of course you marry someone you don't love.

Well that’s true in the case of love. If you really love someone, you would try and please them once in a while

UjuJoan2:
That's what every man says until they actually get married.

Only a Cold hearted man would see his wife juggling chores, child care, work e.t.c without being moved to at least help in some areas.

My husband used to sound like you, until he realized he had no option. Except of course he wants to go hungry or worse without sex. Because I can't labour all day and still be expected to labour at night. Mba nu, I'm not a machine.

Food and sex can be got outside. Olosho Dey instamesssge. Na to order

davenaija:
Chairman.

Lol na so now. Can’t you see weak men everywhere nowadays. Men wey know say gf Dey do olosho and dem go still Dey advise her Dey form she needs me at this moment

UyaiIncomparabl:
But you can cheat with reckless abandon right?

No i have never cheated on my girl friend before. But may cheat in the future no one knows. But all the same, a man can cheat because it’s acceptable. A woman must not cheat because it’s abomination

UyaiIncomparabl:
You never still well. Cos I be your slave abi? Anu mpama!

You’re not my slave but any woman i marry must do all house chores whether we share bills or not and i must pass these mentality to my sons and daughters as well

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's none of your business how people should steer their marital lives!

Whatever works for them, should continue being so. You want to be a master and your wife a slave? Alright. Very good for you. Leave the weak men to enjoy their marriages, as long as everyone is happy, there's/are no cause(s) for alarm.

No too much weak men will cause so many psychological problems. That’s why you keep seeing questions from weak men like can i forgive my cheating wife because she has never cheated on me before

UyaiIncomparabl:
Tah! I jump and pass over and over!

Lol. You better jump because you go do housechores tire.

Esthered:
I hope it isn't with a selfish motive if it's truly great as you claim.

Because it will benefit both of us. It’s actually canada study permit

Esthered:
I hope your name is in Who is Who in the world of...... and if it is googled, there's something that inspires the world about your existence, if not stay humble bro.

Yes I’m humble sis. Thanks

UyaiIncomparabl:
And those are what you can offer?

But no, I'll pass. You still need a truckload of logical reasoning to equate your rubbish list.

You never can tell maybe Na you i go marry last last. No go abuse your future husband oooo. A real man

davenaija:
You've just confirmed it

Lol

UyaiIncomparabl:
You never well. In saner climes, you ought to be in a rehabilitation centre. We don't need men like you in our society.

No we need more men like me. I’m not happy seeing weak husbands and weak men everywhere. Nowadays wife don turn husband, husband turn wife, which makes me sad a lot

Esthered:
You said it had been like that since the days if Adam with no quote to support your claim. I assume you should know the word since you mentioned the Bible. I can't explain to you as you have your mentality already.

I mean women have been doing chores alone since the days of Adam

davenaija:
You're egotistical, but you're getting close to beingnarcissitic, I hope you know.

Maybe people have been saying it but I’m not narssisstic

UyaiIncomparabl:
We would know our rightful places. Foot the bills from the greatest to the minutest, and I'll clean from morning till sundown, and if I can't, I'll hire a maid/maids, but I'll never assist in paying any bills.

Then I’ll never assist in paying any kids school fess

UyaiIncomparabl:
Who the F are you anyway?

Good riddance to egotists like you. I'm done. Do not reply me again.

My name is Emmanuel. A real man who has everything. Sexy, built, rich, handsome, intelligent mechanical engineer. That’s who i am

UyaiIncomparabl:
With your mentality, I'd never share bills with you! Let's agree to terms. Don't do house chores, I wouldn't give out a dime even if it means you going bankrupt, I simply wouldn't care. You perish, you perish.

Then you would take care of the kids yourself right

Esthered:
You lie Bro. Deborah was a judge, how was she able to do that if Lapidoth didn't support her. The Bible is summarised, don't lie if can't quote explicit examples.

Didn’t know about Deborah’s case, maybe you can explain very well

Esthered:
That's the only value a wife can add to you. I'm amazed. Will your type ever nurture your wife to maximise her potential and be like Alakija, Ibukun Awosika, Dora Akunyili of blessed memory, etc?

Yes of course I will. I’m presently doing something great for my girl friend.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. Old things have passed away. I expect you catch up with the advancement of life. Well, to each his own. Some women wouldn't mind. Enjoy.

Old things aren’t passed away. I love doing things in the old ways. A man must not do any house chores

UyaiIncomparabl:
Quite a narcissistic, egotistical and spoilt brat you are!

Not a spoilt brat anyway. That’s my lifestyle. Everyone has different lifestyles and you can’t change that to please a wife who may use it against you if you stop doing what pleases her

UyaiIncomparabl:
Go and marry a dummy!

Lol the wife should be lucky to have someone like me to call husband. E no easy. She must follow my rules. No negotiation

davenaija:
Me too, but doesn't mandate I can't. Or that I won't lend a hand. my babe is a Canadian-Nigerian though. Despite she being oyinbo, I maintain my stance, but would easen the burden of work for her.


Was the chores the only thing you saw?


Any man that abusively control is wife is that not trying to Lord it covertly over her stylishly, psychologically, inducing low self esteem in his wife?

Yes it’s the abusive words i don’t support

UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you both won't still share the bills equally too?

No we won’t. Kind of 80 20

Esthered:
Pardon my curiosity but why is she your wife?

She’s my wife to do household chores and take care of kids. It has to be done and i don’t care how

davenaija:
Ever heard of mental fracture. Or stalemate? You need to relax. Your pent-up energy is deeply rooted in unhealthy fear of losing control not leading the way. We all suffer from this feeling but don't let it consume you

It can’t consume me because there’s nothing to happen that is new under the sun. Worst wife go ask for divorce

UyaiIncomparabl:
No. I implore you to speak only for yourself. Don't drag people into your pettiness!

I’m not dragging anyone. At least you saw an example of op’s husband lol. I just hope he doesn’t change when it comes to chores because of all these emotional blackmail

davenaija:
Power tussle, many marriages don't survive this phase.

My point is there are so many people like the ops husband when it comes to household chores and I’m one of them

UyaiIncomparabl:
From whom did you learn such?

That’s how it has been since the days of adam