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francis2565:
Hummmmmm, you really think so? Some of them could be unfortunate and unlucky to get it right the first time.
The single ladies too that are 30+ might not be as bad as you painted it.

I honestly feel marriage and death are in d hand of God, I have met some very responsible 30 year old ladies that are still waiting on God. Some are even Virgin.
Sometimes some ladies has all the physical beauty and inner character but luck and all the uncles from village have block their blessings.
I don't believe in "my village people syndrome" but my dear there is no smoke with fire oooo.
May God help our responsible single ladies

You are not totally right. There are some virgin Girls in Nigeria who are over 30 but most of them are stubborn, proud, always believe they’re right, always believe in that nonsense virginity. Some of them are introvert which reduces the number of toasters they get compared to extroverts. But most of them aren’t submissive and always believe they’re right no matter what especially the beautiful and sexy ones. All these things are the reason why some of them no even get boyfriend not to talk of husband. But you can’t know all these until you date them

Biglittlelois:
Because of your mindset and thinking, it's too extreme, you need to mellow down, life is not that hard, marriage is suppose to be enjoyed not endured.

It’s not extreme. The problem most people face in life comes from pretending what they’re not and what they can’t do

Esthered:
Your addition @ bolded or prove me wrong. I pray your wife in the long run would always be grateful to God for being her hubby but if otherwise, you've failed as a husband.

In accordance with the Bible. She will be very very happy. I’m helping her

Biglittlelois:
May the Lord help whoever ends up with you, I have seen selfish people, but yours is beyond the actual limit for humans.

Hahaha what made you say such?

Biglittlelois:
NaSo una dey talk till you marry that lady, dey make mouth dia.

You will beat her, smh!!!

I Dey tell you fact, you say i Dey make mouth. No girl fit show me proper. I repeat no girl fit show me pepper

Biglittlelois:
You are not a Christian don't abuse that word, you are a church goer just to answer roll call, God will touch your heart one day.

I’m a Christian and yes a born again at that

Esthered:
Good for your woman. Do you live by the precepts of the Holy book? If yes, state where it said that men should be worshipped for us to learn.

The Bible says wives should be submissive to their husbands and their husband is their small god

Esthered:
A good man does a woman no favour marrying her. The good book says in Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. I hope you aren't a Christian and even if you claim to be one, you may just be a churchgoer. Happy Easter.

Any woman i marry should be very happy that i marry her. Yes men are to be worshipped by their wives. I’m a Christian and Happy Easter

Biglittlelois:
Wow, in marriage you come first? The future generation is doomed if these are the type of intending fathers we have.

Lol stop being emotional. Everyone is different. I repeat in marriage, i come first and I’ll satisfy myself first before anyone else

Biglittlelois:
Worship you? In your mind you are a god right? I know who your type usually end up with, the lady will pretend to be all you want her to be, after marriage you end up licking the floor she walks on after she has shown you series of pepper, continue.

I never see that lady wey go show person like me pepper because i go beat craze comot for her body

Shepherd00:
Poor thing. She doesn't know she's headed for a disfunctional and broken home. All the signs are there, but she'll convince herself she's in love and marry you. Oh boy!!!

I will be doing her a favour to marry her

Shepherd00:
But, mostly importantly, you have low self esteem

You don’t know the meaning of low self esteem. Go and find a dictionary and stop being emotional

Shepherd00:
You will never assist to pay your kid's school fees?

Wait!!!!!, I hope this guy is not bipolar

Lol i only replied the girl based on what she said

tabithaola:
That's the problem sir. With due respect, its our home and chores and not mine.

It’s your chores not ours. The problem with so many of you is that, you will always find ways to compare yourselves with men. Men are different from women and so our roles are different

bukatyne:
Bros abeg, don't marry yet.

I go marry and my wife to be must worship and listen to my instructions always

bukatyne:
Interesting.

You would not pay your kids fees if your wife doesn't contribute financially despite that you would not do house chores?

Hmmmmmm

House chores are for women. I’m a man. A man is different from a woman.

eyinjuege:
Not only will you be a terrible husband, but you will also be a lousy father.
You're already planning not to educate your children. What can be the justification not to educate your children?
Wow, you take 'deadbeat father' to a whole new level. Unbelievable

Call it anything you like. In marriage, i come first okay

TonyeBarcanista:
Your wisdom will never be shaken

Thanks my brother. Don’t mind these women wey 1 turn op’s husband to a sissi

UyaiIncomparabl:
ImaIma1. You have time to yarn words with that overgrown adult baby.

Na master Emmanuel you Dey call overgrown baby?

ImaIma1:
As i said before, you can marry a slave or a maid if you so desire. There are still women that will not mind your arrangement.

Lol there are still so many women that will do such: I’m actually doing anyone I’m gonna marry a Favour and so she should be happy that I’m marrying her

ImaIma1:
But you are a cultural man. Are you not aware that there is a set of people in Nigeria that have stuck to their old ways and culture and even refused to accept the new ways including technology.

So please you can't claim to be cultural because you want a slave as a wife alone. Do everything that a cultural man does

So asking a wife to do all chores means she’s a slave?

ImaIma1:
If you want to stick with the olden days, i wonder what you are doing with a phone. You should be using town criers to deliver messages. You should walk about with only your crotch covered and not wear modern clothes.

But here you are conveniently picking out the one that works for you and saying olden days up and down. Why not go to post office and post your response to this my post?

Isn’t it funny how you are comparing technology with right family settings ?

ImaIma1:
No. I am telling you that you can choose to do whatever you deem fit even if it means marrying a maid. At least you already have divorce at the back of your mind to rectify any situation that may arise.

Doing chores has always been the work of our mothers since 10000BC. We can’t change our culture because of equality or nonsense feminism

ImaIma1:
What i see wrong is the need for Nigerian men to dominate the woman like it is the very air they breathe. There is actually no competition as many people try to create one.

I listened to a message where the person speaking asked the men that if after 5years of marriage and their inlaws come to see their daughter...would they be glad they gave her to you for marriage or would they regret it because she looks worse than she was as a single person.

So you’re telling me house chores would make the wife look anyhow?

ImaIma1:
Your mum's ways was not the standard for every home in those days. We had husbands who cared enough to reduce the burden for their wives.

My mum always had people in the house reducing the burden and she worked from home like the op. She was a seamstress. The fact that your mum would come back home at night tired and still pound akpu while your dad probably sat with a newspaper doesn't mean it happened in all homes.

My husband for instance, grew up in a home where his father cooked for everyone a lot of times and was very involved in the children's lives despite the fact that he went to work daily.

So there is nothing wrong with "new generation wives". Not all of us grew up in a house where our mothers were slaves.

Being a leader/head is a lot of responsibility. It is different from being a boss. Your wife should be better off after years of marriage and not worse off and looking like she is carrying a burden.

The guy is right. So many things are wrong with women of nowadays

armyofone:
Ummmm how you expect a married woman with kids to be working and contributing financially is what i don't know..na two head she get ?

She may decide not to contribute financially but i can’t do any house chores with any woman

ImaIma1:
Ok real man

Yea that’s me master Emmanuel

JoannaSedley:
Kids never forget that.
The much kids do for fathers like this, is to get him a bottle of St Remy or Johnny Walker once in a while to invoke and pour libation to his ancestors very morning.
Fathers like this always dies alone while their wives ends up humping from one child's vacation house to another.

Lol who cares about dying alone or together lol?

omobacyprus:
See this ode sha. Who are you calling dumbo. Fact still remains that Ibadan still have a long way to go with what I saw. And please stay off my mention

Stfu oloriburuku. Na every city in Nigeria have a long way to go. Or you want me to count the number of slums in Lagos? Mumurudeen

Chuks9000:
is laundry not part of house chores?

Laundary for my own personal clothes alone. Nothing more apart from that. Not sweeping, no cleaning will be done by me as husband of the house

ImaIma1:
You should have decoded that the guy has some upbringing issues. It has affected the way he treats women and besides when he gets married, real life will hit him

Real life like what. It’s better you leave that fantasy. I don’t tolerate nonsense from women oooo. So i don’t know where the real life will come from

ImaIma1:
Where did you get this orientation from... that chores are for women?

You are not married yet and are still looking at marriage from the point of view of boyfriend and girlfriend.

I have friends who are married and that’s how it should be. I can’t be providing for the family and still doing chores. A real man doesn’t do any chores apart from washing his own clothes