₦airaland Forum

UyaiIncomparabl:
You seem not to know what teamwork does to marriage. You men should stop being egotistical and put yourselves to good use. Money isn't the only thing you all should stick to offer. We all can make money if we want to. Do chores because it's expected of you and not a one person's chore. I wonder how you were raised.

I can’t do chores because chores is meant for a woman. I’m a man and not a woman. Before marriage, the wife would know the kind of person i am. So I’m not forcing her into what she won’t like. The only chores i can do is my own clothes. Any other thing must be taken care of by her.

davenaija:
This is a combative mental posture. A man can't, a woman should. Flexibility is key just standing around the kitchen while she cooks help them bond. If this alone is done, hope you know she won't complain. Plus both of them can gossip. These days gossips helps in bonding.

Lol well to me that’s my own believe and that’s how I’m made

davenaija:
Once again self. You lose yourself the moment you marry. In a healthy marriage though.

In marriage, i come first and by so, i can’t loose myself

Acidosis:
Your statement is very disturbing. I have made the necessary corrections though.

One maid is enough

Jen92:
Make sure you marry someone with same mentality with you!!! We dont want to see your post after a few years!!! Clearly Op noticed these character in her man yet she chose to marry.

Lol kindly explain. My post like how? The kind of person i a.m. is to give wife money and make she find means to do all chores. Whether by hiring maid or herself, e no concern me

Esthered:
Wow but she's suppose to share bills with you.

If needed in some cases. I’m a man and there are some things i can’t do for a wife

davenaija:
Self preservance, self centered Ness, selfishness. Too much of self. Men should lend their wives a hand, it reduces the psychological weight load of the work. Trust me,

Well i can’t inconvenience myself because of that and i believe so many people are also like that

Esthered:
Why can't he assist where necessary as doing chores together can also be a bonding time as they'll work together as a team, joke and play. It doesn't have to happen all the time but those few times can be memorable and a goal achieved. Some Nigerian men make marriages boring and too serious because of their ego thereby making most singles believe marriage is primarily about ENDURING and not ENJOYMENT. They believe as long as they provide, her needs have been met, what about her emotional needs as well as others. I have an uncle whose wife use to cry all the time he's around because of his derogatory remarks. She now has low self esteem because he abuses her emotionally. What then is the love the OP's hubby professes for her?
On a second thought, the signs may have been there during courtship but the euphoria of being a married woman would have made you ignore the red flags. Thanks for sharing your experience as it's an eye opener for the singles anticipating marriage to read meaning into every words and actions of their spouse even if it's said or done jokingly as that may be who they really are.

Well to me, a man is not supposed to do all those things. If the chores are too much, the wife can get a maid

davenaija:
Not do as in duty, but as an emotional relief. Every married man does this, ask your dad.

No he doesn’t. He washes his clothes only. He doesn’t do any house chores.

UyaiIncomparabl:
So, it's a taboo for men to do chores? I don't actually get your drift. I really hate egotistical men like you.

If he starts doing chores now, anytime he stops, the wife would nag. So it’s better he doesn’t do any chores apart from his clothes alone

How you expect a married man to be doing household chores is what i don’t understand. This is Nigeria and not America or Canada

Chuksteric:
lol the display on the s10 Is the best display on any smartphone

That’s according to you an Android user. Reality is different from believe. In overall qualities, iphone takes the cake and thats why iphone has more value in sales than other phones

Your husband loves master and slave relationship and it’s not a bad thing either way. It’s not a serious issue, try and get another househelp who can stay till 8pm or around such. The only thing your husband needs to do is to reduce the way he talks rudely to you even though i also love such character and i exhibit such lol

This is for the husband...please do not start what you can’t finish, you can wash your clothes only. Don’t help in any house chores no matter how small because the day you stop doing the house chores, there will be arguments and misunderstanding. So don’t do any chores. I repeat don’t do any chores. You can wash your own clothes only but don’t let anyone blackmail you into doing chores because you’re a man. But stop the way you talk to the wife rudely

omobacyprus:
I’m a full lagos boy ogbeni. I went there for a function

Then you must be a dumbo. After Lagos, which city has the highest number of banks if not Ibadan. Even from the trash challenge pic, you can see wema bank. How come and where did you go wey you no quick see bank?

Timileyin1234:
Android users right now

Lol leave those people to keep leaving in denial lol

stanley000:
my brother I am using android not because it's better but coz I have so may responsibilities on me to get the iOS but I'm working towards it and soon as I get an iPhone imI done with android for good. Imagine I am using an android that promise updates only for me to download the updates and I am getting stories that I have to download unlock. Android is trash around. An iOS of 2016 Is worth more than a latest androAn of 2020!!!! Anyone with money who wants value for his money should go for iPhones because they are better

Don’t mind those people. I no fit use android till i die because iPhone is the best.

seunfly:
Are u for real or sarcastic?

If you are for real, then u have not used both as claimed, in all reviewers battery test, only S10+ came close to Huawei mate 20 pro and Huawei P 30 pro at 6h 42m, 7ha:44m and 7ha:55 min while iPhone Xsmax can barely last 5ha+. If your claim is inaccurate in this simple but obvious thing how much more your other claims?


The simple truth is that much anticipated iPhone 11 is finding it difficult to compete both in design, battery and adjoining technology with Samsung galaxy 10 series and Huawei P30 and Mate 30 series { atleast by the leak and little info coming from iPhone leakers}

That’s according to you which is very much far from reality

PhenomenalMorgan:
It's only you that says so...
Ive watched many reviews on YouTube and they contradict that and please don't tell me the battery on XSmax is better cod thets sooo not true!!

What i said is true and it’s only android users who says otherwise lol

PhenomenalMorgan:
In your dreams!!
Did you just say that no Android phone beats XS max
Huawei mate 20 pro, galaxy S10, Huawei P30 pro, beats XS max back, blue and center!!
I posted my comparison, check it out, the thing is that you guys associate android with sluggishness...
That time is over, I watched 5 speed tests between Xsmax and mate 20 pro on YouTube and mate 20 pro won in all 5!!
Even Xiaomi Mi 9 is as fast as your beloved Xs max...
Xs max uses a 7namoeter processor, same with Snapdragon 855 and Kirin 980 that Samsung and Huawei use...
I know that iOS is good at ram management so it doesn't need much Ram, buy not so in battery!! I YouTuber said that Galaxy S10+ battery lasts more than Xs max with the Apple smart power bank!!!
How is the XSmax better
Camera If you see night photos of Xsmax and P30 pro u would feel like throwing away the iPhone...
Battery...
Design...
Futuristic/cool features...
Build quality...
Display....
Storage space...
Fast charging...
Please enlighten me how Xsmax is better

To me iPhone xs max is faster than s10plus because i have used both before and iPhone xs max lasts longer in terms of battery. iPhone Xsmax design is also better and as well as the display

olujosh301:
Bringing up s5 in 2019 ??

It’s just explanation. Same way s10 plus ram is more than iPhone Xs max but Xs max is faster

stanley000:
In these recent times ppl have come to realize how shitty android and their phones really are. Ppl domtd just buy iPhones cos of class but updates and support. Sammy mihmi pack a punch in everything but iOS is a different os entirely that works wrll with their hardware..... If u have the cash go for iOS. Nigerians are hypocrites, they will tell you beer is bitter when they don't have the money for it, they will tell u they don't need a car till they finally get one.

Don’t mind them, dem go talk another thing, do something else. How can s10 plus be better than IPhone Xs Max?. To me no android phone beats xs max. The speed is top notch and the battery lasts long. What most people fail to understand is that you can’t directly compare Android and ios because they’re different entirely. For example, iPhone 6 1gb ram os faster than Samsung s5 2 gb ram and of which if you should follow specs, you would think s5 is better than iPhone 6 but paper is different from reality. The fact is that iOS can’t be compared to android because they’re different

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