lertee:

You are still in your twenties and you are this boring even with words?
**Yawns**,i can imagine what your forties will be like.

Madam, you just qualified yourself! Boring, not so bad but frankly you must be so asinine not to recognise that I used your words back at you! Lol!

Sorry, you can't even begin to imagine my forties but I will definitely predict your forties for you at this rate

lertee:

Oh,you live alone so I understand the boredom,just watch tv or a get a book to read,you will feel better..
**hugs her**

Hahaha, sweetie, there is a whole difference between living alone and being lonely.

Why on earth will I let tv or a book cure my boredom, when I've got puerile you?

Maybe, I should let my emotions get the best of me and invite you over? You know I'm not a robot? What say ya?

lertee:

Girl,I already allowed the first snide remark pass. Trust me you don't want to go down this lane with me.

Lmao

Dear lertee, pray indulge my emotions, I'm in dire need of a comic relief

lertee:

Ooops,hang yourself then,**i feel threatened**

live and let live,you have your opinion which you are free to air while I have mine. If you ain't cool with my opinion then shut your trap and stop sounding like a dunce..you should act your age.

Touché

freecocoa:
This isn't just about being a teenager, I do hope she's one though.

She 'has' got to be one! otherwise needs a helluva load of guidance

freecocoa:
This has got to be the stupidest thing I've read today, I'm sorry, I just couldn't mask my shock.

Hahaha I reason she is a teenager

lertee:

Most ladies claim to be strict and reserved when it comes to dealing with guys but they fall easily for the silliest reasons all in the name of emotions. Unless you are a robot,you will surely have an emotion. Most guys,once they know you live alone,they have some sort relief.
Now do not get me wrong,i am not referring to sex when I wrote "have their way",i only meant you would accommodate more guys and be freer with them with the mind that there is no one to caution you and you have your life to live.

I understand, you do not mean sex. My point if you do not give them that notion, they won't form that opinion. If they do by mistake, you put them in the right place, they ought to be. Heck, I hardly accommodate girls, not to talk of guys.

Anyway, depends on the motive you have for getting an apartment. I regard mine as my sanctuary which should not be desecrated by unwanted guests except at my request.

lertee:
It pays to live with your parents if you are in the same town. No matter how strict or domineering your parents are,they will give you the respect you deserve as a grown up adult. Ofcourse you will still so domestic chores even against your wish but these are things you would still do if youu live alone.
1.When you remain with your parents,you can save more money and channel it towards something more productive.
2. You can always control the number of men that visit you,if you live alone,no matter how strict or stubborn you feel you are,guys will always have their ways around you.(if you like carry fire put for head)
3. No matter how mature a girl is,she can never be more mature than her parents and her parents will always give her guidance.

You don't come across as someone with a mind of her own with this your post

Let me dissect your summation.

- you contradicted yourself when you said a domineering parent will respect you. Quite the contrary. That's why they qualify as domineering.

- if you are being 'asked' or forced to do chores as an adult, then you have a lot of growing up to do.

- saving more money depends on how much you earn, so that's relative

- I have a huge problem with your number 2. You come across as someone with no mind of her own. I can't help but wonder at guys having their way around you with no reservation. Let me tell you how that can happen, you don't give anyone your address when it's not necessary.

- I grew more 'matured' before my years as a result of the guidance I received from my parents. Living away doesn't mean they are not in tune with my activities or have a say in my life

No offence though.

crackhaus:

No answers to my questions?

Perhaps Google will be your best bet

TV01:

You mean there's another (better) way


TV

crackhaus:

@bold text... when you put it like that and make it about man vs. woman, my heart breaks
It's besides the point and not my true stance, but I can't help it when you ladies start taking my comments out of context.

Would you date or take very seriously a young man who lives under the roof of his parents?
Okay yeah, you may date him...but I'm talking long-term.
Alternatively, I'm yet to meet a man who has a problem dating a lady who still resides under the safety and guidance of her parents'.

You say most Nigerian homes are run like military boot-camps? You may be right but I'd rather not dwell on that.
Asides your obvious exaggeration in using most, what exactly is/are the negative consequence(s) in living with parents as a young woman?

TV01:
Crackhaus you liberal !
I have a different view. And note from my openeing post, I was sex-neutral on this, so I differ from Cracky on that point to.




Which would be the same even if she lived with you. The fact that a mother is unable to understand that an adult daughter who resides with her is to be permitted certain leeway is not a bad mark against the principle itself. Or will you claim this friction only manifested when you were able to live by yourself?


This also is about an individual, not about a practice per se. Plus, we have no idea of your motivations for making the decisions you did, so we can't necessarily fault you mother for her objections. So yes, molehills !

Again, looking for a spouse - unless you are avowedly against marriage - is something to be considered in a timely fashion if marriage and kids are a priority. A mother has a duty to higfhlight that - wherever her child lives - I lived 6hrs away from my mum and it felt like the whole tribe was on my case


Again, this has nothing to do with the principle of singles being better served by being with their parents until they nest


Good, then don't fight, acquiesce were possible and patiently explain where it's not. Your choice of solution has nothing to do with the principle


Which of these can a single person not learn to do at home with their parents? Or in other words, what is it one can learn by living alone that they couldn't possibly learn whilst living at home.


Again, no one stated promiscuity as the sole or main benefit of children living with parents until they nest.

Herein lies my response

[quote author=alutacontinua post=27538479]

Sometimes, I feel like engaging you but you too dey attach emotions to your debates.
In other words, you argue like a woman.
That's why I mostly pass by when you utter statements like the above. If someone tries to discuss with you now, small time, you go turn am into competition of who fit throw subtle jabs best.

/quote]

crackhaus:

Really?

Please tell me something I wasn't thinking.

"I find my man-cave quite cozy and warm with an endless supply of gorgeous women and cold alcoholic beverages"

@crackhaus, trust me, most Nigerian homes are run like military boot camp, especially those with females of marriageable age with no immediate prospects. I have friends with stories, you can never tell unless you live within.

So while men deserve more freedom, women dont?

Like I said, I learnt to be independent quite early in life, so would probably have gotten my own place irrespective

bee2bee:


okay. I will check out events place. Please any ideas on the sort of gift to give the grooms family for their visit on the day of introduction.

Basket of fruits will suffice

kandiikane:


This, I agree with. Saving money but I still want to hear crackhaus' reason be cause I don't think he had that in mind.

I'm certain his reason has to do with the archaic thinking that all single girls who live on their own are promiscuous. That's why I asked him again