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I urge every Nigerian with the means to aspire to something like this.
Anyone who told you that Nigeria will get better is a scam artist. Get a western country's kpali today my people.

This thread just confirmed my suspicion that nairaland is a gathering of people who are mostly introverts, socially awkward, and can only fight and curse behind a keyboard.

See as everybody dey claim to be like the OP girl

olabrinks:
I have never lived in a married couples home and I will never feel comfort in such situation. And if I ever do find myself in that situation (God forbid) I will do my best to help around the house, cook, clean and put any money I have into the house expenses. I will never be too comfortable in a married persons house, the minute I get there I will be looking for a way out. That people choose to help you, doesn’t mean you should take advantage, hence why I just avoid the situation all together. I don’t want people taking advantage of me, and family members/friends are fond of doing that. The husbands friend of the OP is being a nuisance in their marital home, and he needs to leave. End of story.

Kai

Olabrinks there are people who actually build their houses in such a way that they take into account the possibility of having long term visitors. Some have a a section of the house built away from the rest of the property for the purpose, some duplexes situate the visitors room on the ground floor along with a sitting room and a mini-kitchen, some bungalows design the visitors room and sitting area facing outwards with direct access. I know house wey be three floors and the topmost floor is the visitors floor with two rooms, sitting area, kitchen, and terrace.
All the houses above no be say person tell me, these are places I don stay and still have access to.

See ehn, pray make God bless you so you can be of help to people. No dey use your own mouth truncate your blessings you hear?

olabrinks:
I just hate the thought of a third party living in my marital home. Esp one that is not family or contributing money to the rent and house expenses. It disgusts me. My hubby already knows this, don’t try to bring one of your friends or family members to live with us, and vice versa. Because honestly, it just starts creating problems. One party will start feeling like a visitor in their own home. Sometimes you have to put your foot down, it’s not about being disrespectful or disobedient. It’s about respecting each other’s space and allowing peace reign in your house. So the first step you need to make is getting rid of your husbands friend, he has overstayed his welcome. Then really pour out your mind to him, no holding back. Sometimes you have to hit men hard before you see changes in them. Playing miss perfect wife is the road to being a push over. Respect is reciprocal, Your opinion and feelings count, you must vocalise this. Good luck.

See this one, as if you never live for another person house before even if for a little while. I pity you.
One day you go travel go somewhere and need to put up with person for a while, and I will be fasting & praying that they tell you this to your face.

And five other people with poverty in their veins liked your post, I'm sure more will too.. Kai
Naija is finished

sassysure:
It isn't so. People that do that started with poor man mentality that they didn't bother to discard as they become somebody in life. Almost all of us grew up with that mentality that the kitchen is sacred and food scarce. We see mummies in charge of the kitchen cos she has to ration else it won't be enough.
We grew up with that mentality of eat it all now u are seeing it especially when it's free.
That's why the person living with you can enter the kitchen and dish out more than his body actually needs.

U can also agree with me that we eat more than we actually need( the same poor man mentality). These habits are hard to stop. So u start learning how to curb them and learn basic kitchen and table etiquette whenever u see yourself dishing out food like helping yourself in a buffet table. It takes discipline and that starts when u can control yourself around free food.

That's the message I'm trying to pass across.

Okay we're kinda converging on the same point anyway. I just needed ya to understand why some visitors may not want to dish food themselves even if they were given the go-'head.

theButterfly:
What I described up there is physician-assisted suicide. Physician-assisted suicide and euthanasia are not the same.

Okay o butterfly

So if someone decides to use his or her money to pay people to do all this, that person is a slave to money?

Kai

sassysure:
It's actually poverty that makes people complain.

U don't see a well to do family complain about who eats what in their house. It also help groom people on self control if u understand me. U learn table etiquette cos u might find yourself in places where nobody dishes out food for u with lots of delicious looking foods. People are watching and I tell you most times,Nigerians always disappoint.
It happened one yr in isreal when Christian pilgrimages went for buffet. Other countries where there but our people instead of taking one egg, one drumstick etc, one person took 3, 4 etc.
And before u know it, there was rush. All Nigerians.i mean no foreigner got close to the table. U see shock written on their faces. A very big national disgrace. They stopped doing that because our crass behaviour. Don't know if they have started again. These were senior officials, politicians, big boys and girls.

Stop oo, rich people sef dey complain if you enter their pot anyhow. Iz it not Nigerians again
Nigerians not only suffer from poverty of the pocket, but also poverty of the mind (especially among those ones that came into money much later in life).
In fact the latter group are even the most guilty ones. People that can afford pilgrimage, will you call those ones poor yet see as Dem dey rush food
its those kind of people sef dat will raise hell and bring down heaven should any stranger enter their pot to serve theirself the two biggest pieces of chicken

They will tell you ahh welcome oo, make yourself at home, anything you want is available, the refrigerator is stocked and you can access the kitchen anytime you want. NA LIE OO TRAP!!
Dem dey observe you, dey monitor your goings & comings, dey crosscheck the stock of things and whether rice still remain for pot or how many turkey still dey. One day you go greet mommy of the house, mommy go do like say she don turn deaf & dumb because visitor eats too much.

Squillaci:
What happened to her.

My brother, Iz a story of nothing to something, zero to hero.
Life na patience.

You go enjoy, no worry

pocohantas:
You can't marry an alfa male and have peace.

All they do is say the things they can never do for their wives. You begin to wonder which one dem fit do

Come Wetin dat alfa for Orimedu do you to make you no like any alfas for island again?

zeb04:
what you allow, is what will continue.

If You dont want to be a foot mat, leave the floor.

Leave the floor, as in divorce?

sassysure:
I don't see why the so called friend wouldn't dish out his food.
I will never dish out food for him. He is living off my benevolence. I have cooked. He should get his ass of the chair and grab a plate, dish out food, eat and wash the plate.
What manner of nonsense is that?
All because she is a woman?
If the husband is living alone and after cooking, he will not tell him to go and help himself out?
Ùmù nwanyì have suffered.

And u, madam is a weakling.
Ur partner disrespect u and u are busy doing good wife.
One day it will turn to beating so continue hoping he will change.
A wonderful advice someone gave me( grandma of 85yrs now). She said, " If u don't like something, nip it by the bud else it grow and you won't be able to uproot it again".
Good luck
U need it.

If he enter your pot dish three people portion for himself and add two people chicken serving, na una go still complain

Squillaci:
I have no guts because I am also scared of the suicide attempt not working, and the effects. I don't want a case were I will be too disabled to even attempt another one.
I want a professional, as I will be sure that there will be no failure.
I know someone who shot himself in the head. The bullet missed the vital areas of the brain, but left him paralyzed for life. Now he is stuck here under the "care" of people who will never want to kill him. So basically, he is fvcked.

Son of God, you are not ready to die. Let us just enjoy this life together, na we we.
E no good today no mean say e no go better tomorrow, I mean take a look at cococandy and what God did in her life.

I can see naptu2, am I about to be persecuted by banning?

jeff1607:
Bring rope oooo

we got another one

Just like Jesus, I am called different names. but the Lord's work must be fulfilled.

Octopusssy:
Thank you for your prayers, although you need to direct them to yourself so you can be delivered from idleness

Okay. I hope you have shown support for breast cancer awareness today.
Do something meaningful for once on behalf of humanity with your boobiees pic

stupidity:
lol. It was never a format. I love to sleep naqed. Right from when I was little.

Oga Na format

theButterfly:
Physician-assisted suicide is legal in Canada [known as MAiD - Medical Assistance in Dying], some states in the US, and in several countries in Europe where requests from both legal adults as well as minors [under strict circumstances] can be granted. E.g. Belgium and the Netherlands.

That is euthanasia, not what your friend is interested in.

This one just wants to wake up and choose to die with the assistance of a doctor, no guts to do it himself.

Octopusssy:
You seem to have a lot of time on your hands

I know you are a very busy woman and hope it translates to billions in dollars for you darling. I'm praying for you

I am SAUCECODE

So they said today is breast cancer awareness day, but there is one thing I no fit understand with women.

Is it wearing bra that causes cancer and how does not wearing bra help with cancer prevention?

So boyz still dey use this 'I like to sleep nakked' format

Damn, the good ol' days

MissRaine69:
This used to be such an interesting place to interact with people who actually had functioning grey matter.
What happened?

That's my best position

AntiBrutus:
No be the same manage this OP dey manage and your elder brother is begging for 2k?

Y'all will beg even a beggar na. That is before proceeding to marry one foreign grave for green card.

Foreign grave that come with kpali and mixed race children still better pass local woman Wey dey add nothing but hypertension Na

Joshmodest:
This boy is a jobless clout chasing youth , must you visit your Friend , so you went through the stress swimming to and fro to greet your friend then ?
I doubt he even stays on the island , he might be one of those dudes who stay on the mainland, and just want to console themselves by making it seem the island is not as good as many think, so they masturbate at any flood news , coming from that axis ....
See one up here already shouting island for show !!

But you sef answer yourself, is the island as good as some think?

Na overhype dey make Nigeria no dey gree develop

AntiBrutus:
Go and die. I no fit give man my money again.


They should go beg their fellow men!!

Which money?
The one Wey u dey manage?

Kai, nothing we no go see for nairaland

Fortissimo502:
Euthanasia is different because it's usually associated with chronic and unbearable illness etc. The OP just wants to be able to go whenever he/she whats to.

Exactly what I thought.
There is no country in the world where assisted suicide is legal, euthanasia maybe, but not assisted suicide. Sorry squillaci, you go live very long and prosper

Iogobenz:
Really?You sure?
Lol you for ask wetin she dey work na and since when she start to work.
You dey make me laff sha.
So little women her age have $30k stashed up somewhere in a savings account,especially the ones that aren't HUSTLERS in this part of the world.
I might be wrong though and would accept correction,though hardly am I.
So better find another chic,ABI make I help you point them?

Leave those two make dem dey play their self for internet, no be only milla. Mucheche Mucheche

AntiBrutus:
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Who doesn't know I am a secretary earning 50k? Mumu!!

Are you sure you're not mistaking euthanasia for assisted suicide?

AntiBrutus:
[s]If you like, fold it and insert into your peehole, doesn't change the fact that guys talk about these things. Way more than women do.

So, y'all should deal with it. Like we have been doing...[/s]

Sharrap!

Ordinary 400k dat you could not dash that guy, yet you go dey claim soft

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