okerekingsley90:


Exactly how I am. I mind my business 200% to avoid rubbish. I deal with people outside not within my place

Offpoint1:

You can't know who is good or bad if you don't get close to them. In reality it's more dangerous not to get close to people than to get close to them.

I get close to people, know who they truly are and know how to deal with them.

okerekingsley90:


Yes now exactly how i put it he is fortunate to have a good neighbor so you don't blame people who mind their business or have i don't care attitude ooo. People experience in life are different

Offpoint1:

Neighbors are your closest family, that's what some of y'all don't know. If there's an emergency, neighbors are the first responders. Nigeria is not US where you get ambulance in 5 minutes.

2 years ago, I blackout in my bathroom because I wasn't feeling fine... Next thing I opened my eyes I found myself in the hospital. Thanks to a neighbor who said heard usual sound of someone falling, he ran to my door to check and no response, he had to break the door... Imagine if I was the type of I don't care neighbor.

JaySmart4422:
Here are some of the reasons why some neighbours show this I don't care attitude

Some had bad experience with neighbours in the past

Some are avoiding unnecessary envy mostly if you are doing well and the neighbour is not doing so well.

Some are running away from gossip
cos most times going close or building a relationship with a neighbor can expose u to a lot of gossip.

Lastly we are in the last days where many seek spiritual help from different religious places

So don't be surprise if you neighbor sees you as a witch that is blocking his progress.

We all can testify that a lot of religious or prayer houses have done a serious damage by making their followers n believers feel that almost everyone around them is evil and should be avoided.

Let me share one of my many experience.
I had this mentality that it is not good to stay in a compound without having at least one person you can call when emergency arise.

So I connect with my neighbor unknown to me that that neighbor is a bitter soul who sees nothing good in anyone n very envious.

I didn't know that she n her husband have fought every tenant in the compound for this reason no tenant wants to get close to anyone in the compound.

To cut story short
I renovated my flat and this people could not hide their envy immediately they stopped greeting and started avoiding me .

Too many reasons dey for one to mind his business

LordIsaac:

You feel bad (no matter how you shrug it off) when they just stare at you and look away without answering. But I’m getting used to ignoring them too.

LordIsaac:

I thought I loved it that way until I see it in its extreme form😊

harsysky:


To bore you not, my neighbors and I are like families. I pray for everyone of them like they are truly the family I have where I live. God bless my neighbors!

Acidosis:


Funny. See the list of the most individualistic countries in the world.
1. Australia
2. Canada
3. Germany
4. The Netherlands
5. The United States

Nigeria is not in any way individualistic. We are a nosy people, never willing to take responsibility for our misbehaviours and carelessness. if they're not blaming co-tenants, they will create threads blaming landlords, etc. Think about it, how many times have you seen Nigerians abroad complaining about their landlords? Many don't even know the owner of the house they live in. That's how individualistic people do. Over here, everyone is trying to get into other people's business, not because they really care, but to be sure you're not doing better than them. Fake people. Waking up every day to fight over borehole contribution or NEPA contribution is what many consider as "having caring neighbours." LOL. Crazy country.

Some said "nobody go sleep for the compound if nobody open the gate." Can these people try such in a saner, individualistic country?

hollas2jnr:


I'm sorry to say this but Christian + extreme church goers = red flag, for me.

Hamachi:
FACT!!!

folake4u:
People living in Abuja estate usually behave that way.

The first time I moved into the estate I was at previously, I was greeting everybody. Eyebrows were raised, and no response to greetings. I got used to it and adjusted well.

Although there's estate group chat and helpline to call for emergency purpose.

Badmashiii:


Omo naija gradually turning to yankee.

Some ignorant people say nigerians are friendly. I can't blame though. Dem neva JAM na why

Mummyfour:
I am lucky o 😄. My neighbours and I coperate o. We even share Christmas and Easter food. We have a WhatsApp group and we dey open gates for ourselves when our aboki security guard takes off from the gate house to pray or run errands. We also charge phones in any neighbour's house that puts generator on and borrow iron from each other if any body's own gets spoilt

greggng:
Thank God for the kind of people thst live in the estate where I.live ...just press your phone more than 5 people are ready to come help. Sometimes I do drive some residence late midnight to the hospital....emergency situation.. love your nebor no be for mouth . I better pass my neboor is the order of the day

StOla:
Air Peace should still be the Airline of choice having pioneered the price slash.

Antoeni:
Angola is Gone Forever

caye:
FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN: I NEVER KNEW THAT NIGERIANS WILL BECOME ACTIVE PARTICIPANTS IN THE ONGOING PLAN TO MASS-MURDER US!.


Ladies and gentlemen, fellow Nigerians, there are your enemies here on nairaland. Their job is misinformation and disinformation; they have sold their souls for temporary money, just like the 18th century cursed black slave traders , who committed genocide, so as to sell the productive generations of their societies to the evil Caucasians and Arabs.

What exactly am I saying?

It's GMO.
Look:

1) The attacks by fulani bandits on farmers is to wipe out farming from Nigeria, making way for no options except to accept GMO , or starvation.

2) Bill Gates ( Bill Hates) , the seed of the evil Caucasians, is actively pushing for depopulation of Africa. Why? The white ppl are alarmed that their population is constantly getting smaller, while Black Americans and Africans are getting bigger. Hence , COVID 19 was the test phase, but it failed in Africa : I hope you all remember. You remember black presidents who refused Corona vacinne in their countries? Magafuli of Tanzania et al? Sudden death, attempted assassination and assassination ( magadasca and Haiti).


3) wait o? Why is EU pushing for no farming in some countries in Europe and Dutch farmers brought all their tractors into the streets and started fighting? GMO

4) GMO is a multi-tool: reduce African population, make ppls slaves to corporation making seeds, reduce human ( male) vigour , so that countries have weak armies.

5) GMO is a tool by the globalists ( failures!) who believe there is no Creator anymore, and now they are God! They believe their intelligence was given to them by ' chance ' and so they have become masters of the universe, and can make and destroy life at will.


These fools have paid influencers on nairaland and probably many science journals, so as to make us willing sheep. They pay them blood money ( no be so?) , so that we become their guinea pigs.
Walai! They will fail and fail miserably.

All that talk that genetic modification of crops have been ongoing for centuries is a BIG FAT LIE! What has been happening is hybridisation, which is a natural process eg cross fertilization to produce crops with better features.

Genetic modification on the other hand is like this: take a gene from carrot, and put it inside maize, or take a gene of baboon and pht it inside tomato; a complete alteration of natural laws of reoroduction...pls are these plant species close relatives? However , if you cross fertilize yellow and white maize, that one is still natural.

But GMO alters the whole genetic structure, and you have a different life form IN FACT!
GMOs have been what the foolish Americans been taking for over 20yrs, what is the result: high cancer, obesity, low reproduction, low testosterone, early death, different strange diseases...look, must we black ppl ALWAYS DIE IN LARGE NUMBERS BECAUSE OF CAUCASIAN AGENDAS?

NO. Why can't we mechanize our agriculture, and grow our crops naturally?

Fun fact:- GMO is BANNED IN RUSSIA.
So you think the Russians are dindinrin ( total dummies)?
Noooo. They know all these agendas. And part of the agenda is to have a weak human population, for easy control.
If na lie, check the 1st sentence on the Georgia guidestones, that has since been destroyed.

Why is it that BlackRock and many globalists companies are buying out the best agricultural lands in war-torn Ukraine?

There is an hidden agenda. They want fertile lands for the elites, so that they can grow natural crops, while feeding their slave population GMOs.

Black man, do you think white man wants you to belle full, be happy and strong?

Keep on being fools. Continue o!

Ologbo147:
I swear it’s beyond the Fulani now. many a times they are heavily armed under the disguise of unsuspecting cattle rearing. Who get them these weapons? The major casualties in Nigeria are usually those persistent farming tribes like the Tivs etc. There is an agenda somehow. They destroy these farmers thereby discouraging others to go into farming and then they pay the op to promote GMO food

deolumike:
This right here is the issue. There are people who do not give a thought to CONSEQUENCES! It is all about making immediate cash for them regardless of whom their venture harms or destroys.

There has been a lot of warning from censored scientists about the dangers of GMO to the human health. It poisons the DNA! The people pushing for GMO acceptability know this. Hence the cleverness of paying greedy people who are more than willing to betray their own people for money. If you have the means, please own a small garden on your plot of land. Make an allowance where you can at least grow some of the food you eat. This has been the practice since the history of mankind. At some point we have allowed corporations with sinister motives to occupy that sphere. I do not see drought as a drastic problem. Irrigation is a thing! If you are willing, you can avoid GMO completely.

cescky:


because the same gmo scientits makes a claim with pictures to deceieve you, you swallow like a fish...

years ago was there cancer, obesity etc?....

soon youd say bread is gmo....

even though , bread was being consumed in bible times

make una de think small

skillzlujan:
WE DON'T NEED GMO FOODS IN AFRICA!!!!
RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THEY ARE NOT HEALTHY FOR CONSUMPTION. THERE'S ALSO AN AGENDA TO CONTROL FOOD SUPPLY CHAIN BY PHASING OUT ORGANIC FARMING OUR FORE FATHERS PRACTICED THEN WE HAVE TO RELY ON CERTAIN ORGANIZATIONS FOR GMO SEEDS. SEEDS THAT COULD BE GENETICALLY ENGINEERED NOT TO REPRODUCE AT ALL AFTER FIRST PLANTATION OR NOT REPRODUCE AFTER A RESTRICTED NUMBER OF TIMES OF PLANTING.

frog12:
nigeria don adopt am. copy copy ofcourse

GreatAchiever1:



This is interesting because I personally planned to do a study on Melchizadek, God willing next weekend. Some claim that Melchizedek was truly a pre-incarnate form of Jesus Christ. But looking at the character having no beginning, ending, father/mother, added up with an endless ministry shows it likely or probably that Melchizedek is a type of Christ, at the very least, foreshadowing the Lord's ministry. This is a plausible explanation, especially in light of the fact that Abraham experienced a similar encounter later on, in Genesis 17–18, when he saw and conversed with the Lord (Yahweh) in human form.

immortalcrown:
I never said the church wedding gives anyone the right to be abusive. The point is that church wedding has its disadvantages and its advantages. Church wedding commands people to endure so many unpleasant situations if those situations occur in the marriage.

immortalcrown:
This is true, depending on the traditional foundation of that very marriage.

immortalcrown:
Every human has the tendency to be a partner beater. Have it in mind when you decide to say, "For better for worse until death do us part".

immortalcrown:
Only incest is biblically acceptable for a divorce. But many people claim that the Bible permits divorce if adultery happens. Some people claim that the Bible supports divorce if any form of unfaithfulness occurs in the marriage.

If incest is not the biblical ground for a divorce, why did the disciples of Jesus Christ say what they said in Mathew 19:10? Read the chapter and pay attention to the verse 10. Then, tell me why the disciples made the statement.

The problem here is hypocrisy. People want to be here and there. People want to eat their cake and have it.

If you want to divorce your spouse when he or she offends you, avoid church wedding. Do your traditional marriage or any other form of marriage. The issue is that people want church wedding but don't want the cross that comes with church wedding. Church wedding vow says, "... until death do us part".

Choose a tradition you can maintain. Don't deceive yourself with church wedding when you are not willing to abide by its principles.

Many people are quoting me. Before you argue with me, read the article below. 👇🏽

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/YsuRQDEXyRcf4Xv9/?mibextid=oFDknk

Is Divorce a Sin?

I think the right question should be, did Jesus Permit divorce? Did God permit divorce? In other words, are you even allowed to divorce before you start talking about whether it is a sin or not?

The straight answer is that Jesus never permitted divorce. Once marriage is validly contracted, even adultery as some of you wrongly allege is not a ground for divorce.

I know this whole misunderstanding is coming from Jesus' statement in Matthew 19:9. I will clarify it. But before then, I am not writing this to give people a license to cheat on their spouses. As a matter of fact, you owe your spouse fidelity and faithfulness. It is their right. You are not doing them a favor by being faithful.

Back to Matthew 19:9 where it seemed Jesus gave an exception for divorce:

"Whoever divorces his wife except for unchastity and marries another commits adultery."

The exceptive clause, "EXCEPT FOR UNCHASTITY" is the major issue here. Simply put, unchastity is a good reason to divorce one's spouse.

You may want to ask, what constitutes 'unchastity?' We shall get to know soon.

We all remember that the New Testament was originally written in Greek bah?

The Greek word for unchastity is "PORNEIA." The Protestants argue that this Greek word "porneia" means adultery. This is why if you read the Protestant New International Version of the Bible, Matthew 19:9 is translated thus:

"I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT FOR MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS, and marries another woman commits adultery."

For most Protestants, though marriage is meant to last a lifetime, but adultery justifies divorce and remarriage. This is because they interpreted the Greek word "porneia" or "unchastity" as adultery.

This is not true. And this is not Catholic teaching.

Catholic biblical scholars believe that it is wrong to translate the Greek word "porneia" as adultery. In the Catholic New American Bible, Matthew 19:9 is translated thus:

"I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery."

Here, the exceptive clause is: "UNLAWFUL MARRIAGE."

If you read the King James Version of the Bible, the translation for PORNEIA is even more interesting. It translates Matthew 19:9 thus:

"And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another committeth adultery."

Here, the exceptive clause is Fornication. And fornication is the sin of two unmarried people having sexual intercourse. If either person is married or both are married to other people, the sin is called adultery. Following this translation, the only way that a couple could commit fornication is if they were never really in a Christian marriage to begin with.

Many recent translations of porneia in Matt 19:9 used "sexual immoralities." That still begs the question of what sexual immoralities could mean.

In all these, what really is the correct translation for the word PORNEIA? Is it the Protestants' "adultery", the King James' "fornication", or the Catholics' "Unlawful marriage"? Even if porneia is to be seen as unchastity or sexual immoralities, what constitutes unchastity?

The answer to the above questions can be better clarified using the bible. I will give you two examples: Matthew 15:19 and Mark 7:21-22.

Matthew 15:19 "For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, ADULTERY, UNCHASTITY, theft, false witness, blasphemy."

Mark 7:21-22, "From within people, from their hearts, come evil thoughts, UNCHASTITY, theft, murder, ADULTERY, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly."

Pay attention to this: Adultery and unchastity are both prohibited in the texts above. If you read the Greek text, it is "porneia" that is translated as unchastity, in some bible it is translated as sexual immorality. While the Greek word "moicheia" is translated as adultery. Therefore, from these passages, we can see that porneia does not mean adultery as that would be an unnecessary repetition.

The word for adultery in Greek is 'moicheia.' If the author of Matthew 19:9 felt that Christ was talking about adultery, he wouldn't have used 'porneia' which means unchastity.

This is Matthew 19:9 in its original Greek

λέγω δὲ ὑμῖν ὅτι ὃς ἂν ἀπολύσῃ τὴν γυναῖκα αὐτοῦ μὴ ἐπὶ ΠΟΡΝΕΊΑΙ καὶ γαμήσῃ ἄλλην, ΜΟΙΧΑ͂ΤΑΙ.

I have put into capital letters two words:
πορνείᾳ (porneia) and μοιχᾶται (moichatai — verb form)

If the Bible intended that adultery is a ground for divorce, the two words would have been moicheia. And it will read thus: "I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for ADULTERY, and marries another woman commits ADULTERY."

But fortunately or unfortunately, that is not how it was written in the Bible.

If you read Act 15:28-29, the Apostles addressed the Gentiles prohibiting four things:

"For it has seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: that you abstain (1) from what has been sacrificed to idols, and (2) from blood and (3) from what is strangled and (4) from unchastity. If you keep yourselves from these, you will do well. Farewell." RSV (inserted numbers, mine)

Take note of the number (4), still talking about Porneia or Unchastity. These four prohibitions above came from a deep-rooted Jewish tradition found in Leviticus 17 and 18.

If you read Leviticus through, you will discover that in chapter 18, what the Jews mean by unchastity or Porneia was explicitly explained. It was simply an incestuous marriage. Having sexual intercourse with a close relative was greatly forbidden, not to talk of marriage. For the Jews, marriage of this nature is unlawful. This was what Christ was referring to in Matthew 19:9. It is a reference to an unlawful and thus invalid marriage. It is not a reference, as Protestants view it, to a specific act committed during a legitimate "life-long marriage.

Jesus' teaching on divorce was revolutionary. Remember that it was to answer the Jews who thought that one could divorce his wife for some reasons that made Jesus to give the answer he gave. If Jesus permitted divorce, what then makes his teaching different from the one Moses taught the Jews in the OT?

If Christ's teaching on divorce was that simple, how can one explain the surprise that surrounded the disciples when they responded in the next verse?

Matthew 19: 10, "(His) disciples said to him, 'If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.'"

©Fr Kelvin Ugwu