Which one is more beneficial for them

1 - To stay together living and not communicating & arguing just for the children ?

2 - Go Seperate ways and still show love and Parent their children ?

As a child I grew up with my parents always arguing and fighting and could not agree. One of the parties now had enough and as a result applied for divorce, although the other party did not want to break marriage. At that time as a young teen I was so happy that finally they were going their separate ways as peace is about to reign. So growing up for me was kind of a bit free as the covering that a family provides was missing as one party is living here and another living there so I could easily lie and say Im here and im not as the parents dont even communicate with each other.
So as I began to un spiral out of control as a youth I could say its because the family covering was not there.

I really think that even when the love is not there again, but the both have love for the children and want to stay together beacuse of them they can work on rebuilding the bridges as once upon a time they met and actually got married WHY Then They need to work hard on mending and result will be a win win for themselves and children.

In my case, both of my parentals now years down the line they both secretly have regret but are to stubborn to admit it, and their lives are so unfullfilling and its the grace of God that children are OK as we children chose a life for Christ.
But as a woman Now looking back I missed out on mother showing me how to cook etc and other things you learn from your mum or dad.

I have also seen parents who stay together for the kids and the parents dont talk to each other at all in the house and young kids see this and growing up like this and parents dont seem to see they are doing their children more harm than good staying together in these conditions.

Been Married for over 6 years now and have 2 children.
Now 8 months pregnant and just discovered that he has been having affairs outside with women here and also in Nigeria and when confronted with evidence after having spoken to one of the women that did not know he was married, he still denies everything but maintains a guilty posture and is apologetic.
When asked why he is apologising then he has nothing to say.
I never expected this from him as he is so hardworking and looks so responsible. He has also been saying finances are hard and rough but has money to pay for hotel bills and accessories for other women, whilst kids have been lacking.
He says he wants to continue in the marriage but does nothing to change his ways as he still locks away his phone and is just not truthful. So concerned about my children and future in this kind of environment
What do I do??

Although great advice I cant concentrate very well as I am sick because of all this in a pregnancy that is very well and I dont know how to maintain a positive attitude. As my mind keeps wondering of so many things like he had the audacity to sleep around and come back and sleep with me during my pregnancy with the possibility allowing me and my baby to catch diseases and fatal sickness,
It is so scary as my previous thought towards him is so positive and good and now im disgusted looking at him.

I'd like to know more about Nairaland members who are married! If you're married, we want to know things like:
- How you met your husband or wife.
- What attracted you to your husband or wife.
- Who proposed marriage, and how.
- Who opposed the marriage, and how you prevailed.
- The wedding, and the honeymoon
- DO you think you made a mistake choosing your partner?
- How often you're tempted to be unfaithful and how often you fall .
- How long you think the marriage will last.

The most important thing, though, is that we'd like to identify those of us who are married so we can avoid 'toasting' them and getting embarrased!

I went on holiday to nigeria and met my husband in the hotel I stayed at as he worked there. When I met him I was so attracted to him instantly as he was the only guy that was not approaching me for any relationship and seemed quite shy.
I didnt want to be too forward but i made it a point that before I leave this country i must get talking with him so purposely tried getting his attention by checking my email very frequently as he worked in the networking department.
Finally he made the first move by giving me his email address and name and number and we talked a bit before I left.
We then maintained a long distance relationship where we got to know each other more and more and talked and planned our future. We also sent each other things like cards and gifts through family and friends that were travelling. Then I made another trip there and we came back with more than I bargained for, our first pregnancy!!
We then that year put our spoken about plans into action and got married in nigeria and then he came over to london a year later.
We then conceived our second child and been living together as a family since. Nobody really opposed the marriage that I know of except the fact that I fell pregnant before marriage. Everybody loved him immediately as he is a lovely man.
I have never been tempted to go outside my marriage but I have recently found out that my husband has been having affairs outside and I am now 8 months pregnant so very hard right now to answer the last question how long will our marriage last. Really thought i found a keeper but unknown to me I was being deceived.

any advice by the way please feel free to share!!!

Been Married for over 6 years now and have 2 children.
Now 8 months pregnant and just discovered that he has been having affairs outside with women here and also in Nigeria and when confronted with evidence after having spoken to one of the women that did not know he was married, he still denies everything but maintains a guilty posture and is apologetic.
When asked why he is apologising then he has nothing to say.
I never expected this from him as he is so hardworking and looks so responsible. He has also been saying finances are hard and rough but has money to pay for hotel bills and accessories for other women, whilst kids have been lacking.
He says he wants to continue in the marriage but does nothing to change his ways as he still locks away his phone and is just not truthful. So concerned about my children and future in this kind of environment
What do I do??

These are all the Nigerian restaurants i have been too over the years!!!

1, Mama Calabar
    Is the best in terms of location and atmosphere and the ambience, it is beautiful and comfortable and
    clean.
    The food is nice I mean every single soup, and the have a buffet so u can try everything on sundays!!!

2, Eko Restaurant
    It's Ok, and it is a bit small inside, but they accommodate parties and are quick to bring the food.
    I had ayamashe and asaro which was abosulutley beautiful. I couldnt even finish so packed for house.

3, Preseidential Suya (old kent road)
    Suya there is nice very nice actually i rememeber fighting in the car for it some years ago.

4, Obalende Suya (peckham)

    Suya there is really nice and fast no long ting


5, 805 (Old kent road)
    Oh my It is an amaxzing place with lovely food ahave to especially highlight the fish there is something specialand the ambience is also very nice very nice.

6, Wazobia (hendon)  where mama calabar used to be
  It is really nice insode location a bitjagger as red lines and no parking but food i have to say is not all that at all, i took my husband there naiga man ohhhh akwaibomite that was very displeased but maybe it was just that day i dont know  or that soup (egusi by the way)!!!

7, Lekki kitchen in burnt oak

It is very naiga in there i mean atmosphere and people,
Domuts are nice and banging though but could not eat there it i smore like take away!!!

thats it