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Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Sheba1: 10:47pm On Nov 25, 2012
Asantewaa1:

as far as im concerned, i dont suppot d idea of children that is less than 10 yrs of age to be in boarding house, any parent that do that is already a failure, because, he/she will not be able to perform his/her parental duties as expected of them, so for a parent to be relevant in d life of their children, they just have to create time for the upbringing, monitoring and educating their children.
We are all product of our parents, when a child turns out well, d praises go to d parent, and if it is otherwise, d blame also go to d parents. So, as parents, it our duty to give sex education to our children as early as possible. Failure to do that, hence, d parents should be blamed.

As regard TV watching, when a child is properly brought up, he/she knows d type of film or video to watch.
u still haven't answered the question of what happens to kids above 10yrs in boarding schs
What happens when u aren't with the kids we all know how inquistive kids can be
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Sheba1: 10:22pm On Nov 25, 2012
Asantewaa1: @sheba1
1. Do u agree that, it is not everybody that will have access to education, so what is d fate of those who do not have d opportunity of going to school, if sex education is solely d duty of d teachers?
2. Yes, morals are falling, everything is upside down, i agree with u, but who do u think should be responsible for this?
3. How many families have access to TV, DSTV, blackberry, smartphone, etc. And for those who have access to them, who made them available for the teenagers?
I neva said it was solely the duty of the teachers,did I?
Like I clearly stated,I said it is the media & educational institutions,in mordern day they spend much more time wit the kids
Virtually every home has a tv,if nt a dstv but at least a cable network,its even much more easier now because u now have people connecting cable as low as 500 naira,most times its the parent who buy these phones,bt not for having access to all that,if the media didn't put it out there how else would they get it on their fones?
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Sheba1: 10:09pm On Nov 25, 2012
Asantewaa1:

as a sane parent, why will i allow a child that is less than 10 yrs of age to go to a boarding house, then, if i allow dt, i have already started to fail as a parent to create time for my child for what we will both reap d reward in d future.
2. Why will i not as a parent monitor what my child will watch for d 7 hrs hrs left for me,i will definately use d time judiciously to ensure dt i educate my child properly on issues dt may affent him/her in d future, like d one we are trashing now. May be u dont even know, children dont go to school for d 7days/week nor for d 365days /year, so dt give me d opportunity of having more time to educate him/her.
3. What will i be doing with a provocative video in my house and even, if i have one, why will i allow my child to watch it, knowing dt it wont have positive effect on his life, or why do u think d film censors always advise on "parental guidance" at d beginning of every film to be watched?

The media, teachers and d religious sector has got nothing to do if parents have performed their parental duties as expected. D best they can do is to remind them of what their parent have done. So, any parent who fail to educate their children on d risks involved in engaging in teen sex is to be blamed.

so what happens to kids who go 2 boarding schs above 10yrs,we aren't restricting it To an an age limit u know
If u read my stats carefully,the 7hrs was shared btw parents & tv,& for a parent that works 10-12hrs a day,the child would b asleep b4 the parent is back
I neva said the parent wld allow the kids watch it,d child cld get it 4 a friend,cld walk pass a video store which is showing it & all that.
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Sheba1: 8:28pm On Nov 25, 2012
Asantewaa1
1.what happens to the child who goes to a boarding sch & doesn't spend up to 1y in 6yrs with his parents?


2.Let me show u this statistics based on hw a child spends his/her day,
The child sleeps for 9hrs(9-6)=38%
Stays in sch 4 8hrs(8-4)=33%
Watches Tv/stay wit parents for 7hrs(4-9)=29%
Imagine what the parents would get sharing 29% with Tv.So with this,where does the child spend most of his/her day?& who do u think influence the child more,media/sch or the parents?

3.Most sexually active kids wld tell u that they became aware of sex after watching a provocative video,imagine a world without these?dont you think the kids would b safer?
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Sheba1: 6:50pm On Nov 25, 2012
All protocols observed
Who is to blame when a child engages in sexual activities without the right knowledge about harms associated with such;
is it the parents, media or teachers(government)?

Again and again I  mused repeatedly over this topic, contemplated if its worth writing about such a “hotly” debated issue: "The Media, religious and educational institutions should be blamed because they are better equipped and more efficient instilling such knowledge to the these kids in face of modern source of  influence like the internet and , pornographic materials and smart phones".  Most of my reservations step from the fact most/all of us share the blame in the raid on our societal and cultural values. Silently, we are raising a generation without Conscience: young people without restraints for instant gratification. Are standards falling? Yes. Are morals on the decline? Yes. Are values lopsided? Yes. . Is there a craze to get rich? Yes. Is there the urge to achieve without diligence? Yes. Is there sexual morality and promiscuity?u b d judge

We trade off exposure to tv as consolation for dearth of family care, most times never able to balance with interactive and educating tv programs. The same cable network (DSTV in Nigeria) provides educating platforms like the Discovery Channel, National Geographic Channels, Animal Planet, Zone reality, Learn Channel, etc,but to an average child it appears "boring".
Yes children are unreservedly drawn to the likes of Africa Magic (my friend calls this Africa Tragic), Trace, E! Channel, MTVBase, Channel ‘O’, Big Brother Africa etc
We expose/indulge them in several channels with viewing ratings above their age levels & because of there inquisitive nature they would always want 2 explore without d right knowledge of what they re actually in for.
I know my colleagues would argue & say those stations should be blocked,yes I agree,but what happens when even kids program's aren't as innocent as it used to be,imagine those days of tale's by moonlight or barney etc,they were entertaining & d same time educating.
Simply put, children of today do not get empowered anymore through informative,enlightening,educational programs instead, it’s the destructive entertainment that they are drawn to. I am not condemning Entertainment, not at all; but where is the Balance?


Another area that is most fundamental in this area of this ugly act is the sacrifice of companionship with parents and their wards all in the name of material and social comfort. The lacuna between this is so wide that the unregulated media comfortably feels in on the total failure of today's folks. 
Mothers have 2 work 2 make ends meet 4 the family.i remember growing up my mum was always home same time as we did just 2 make sure we stay out of trouble,she was a teacher so she had ample time 4 us,now mothers work 10-12hrs daily leaving dis kids at d mercy of the media,what do they do?EXPLORE.

Children grow into teenagers learning and living the lifestyle of western people (which is not a bad thing if the lessons are learnt). Rather than retain and preserve our culture, we have derailed, allowed unethical blends to be inculcated in our system. Check our society: young people are increasingly dressing indecently, disrespectful, unorganized, morally flexible, and more.
Today,virginity has lost it weight & value,"as far my friends re doing it I can also".



The educational institutions,also share d blame,I understand sex education in high school,but I don't understand the same sex education curriculum being taught in primary school,I think even if it should be taught it should be just basics like identifying their body parts,not teaching them about condom & all that,they re ripping this kids of their innocence,they re indirectly giving them the go ahead since there is a more safer way it could b done.
Our young generation is caught up, de-sensitized and highly misguided by the pretentious portray of weak & failed government.

What happens to a child who grew up without parents who has 2 learn everything on there own without guidance,the media should b able 2 put a lid on what it puts out to d general public
For example, look at our music and the values it imparts. It is said today that many a culture is influenced greatly by the music of the society. Check the growing disparity between music of the past years and today’s virtually “empty” content and you would be surprised about the reflection in it has on today's society. Any growing teenage boy today with exposure to media may normally assume to have less value or regard for women. Why?This is the exact portrayal in most of our musical videos,where our ladies are portrayed almost naked and “used” in every de-humanized sense. The days of female pride and modesty are beyond us! You see, men are quite visual; so it becomes easy for them to assume a greedy hungry thirst to sleep with women (or rape them) if they are consistently exposed to degrading images of women which is sad.
Education without morality breeds men without Conscience.
Ultimately The Media has such power and influence in Modern times. Our young people are our future, they deserve ALL our attention.
Children of today lack Good role model,a society where thieves,corrupt leaders & all sorts of evil pple are being celebrated,it doesn't matter how u made your money whether u became a porn star/prostitute non of that matter

The media is indeed parading itself in the most abysmal manner that put the today children in the line of fire . Thank You

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