Sisi_Kill:
I agree that information is necessary, however you laid out a plan that seems somewhat far reaching. . .where the teachers and the government control what the media should broadcast. Considering how long these kinds of tasks take come into being, don't you think it would be easier if the parents just stepped in and took control of what their children are watching right now?

Boudicca: Tamar1

Sisi_Kill:
So what do we call her and who should be responsible for her child's upbringing?

maclatunji: @Boudicca, don't you feel that parents are a product of the society and any failures they have in terms of "sex education" is primarily society's failure?

@Sheba, what is the primary role of parents in the sexual enlightenment of their children?

Gudit: cuddles please could the judges ask their questions now because i am at a cybercafe and i need to leave before 11pm because it is late. thanks

ifyalways: Gudit,teachers getting "trained" does not equal them having "good moral standard"

A teacher can still be a ra.pist , paedophile or a teen mom and if as such, do you think its right for such a person to be in position of teaching a child seex education?

Tamar1: boudicca if i were to agree with you for a nano second tha t parents are to blame, going by your definition of the tem "parent", are you not saying that government, schs and media arr.to blame since they are caregivers, protectors, nurturers and even counsel a and guide ?

Cuddlemii:

Ok, noted. Some debaters also sent me an email about having a busy day tomorrow.
We will collate the scores from the judges while the discussion still continues. Thanks!

Asantewaa1:

as far as im concerned, i dont suppot d idea of children that is less than 10 yrs of age to be in boarding house, any parent that do that is already a failure, because, he/she will not be able to perform his/her parental duties as expected of them, so for a parent to be relevant in d life of their children, they just have to create time for the upbringing, monitoring and educating their children.
We are all product of our parents, when a child turns out well, d praises go to d parent, and if it is otherwise, d blame also go to d parents. So, as parents, it our duty to give sex education to our children as early as possible. Failure to do that, hence, d parents should be blamed.

As regard TV watching, when a child is properly brought up, he/she knows d type of film or video to watch.

Boudicca:

This can only suffice if the biological parents are no more, but if they are, why should the balme be given to another parent?

Mavia1:
In that case, can the debaters continue their discussions. I mean Gudit and Mavia1?

Boudicca:

This can only suffice if the biological parents are no more, but if they are, why should the balme be given to another parent?

Sisi_Kill:
So what do we call her and who should be responsible for her child's upbringing?

Sheba1: u still haven't answered the question of what happens to kids above 10yrs in boarding schs
What happens when u aren't with the kids we all know how inquistive kids can be

Boudicca: From Tamar1,

if i understood you well, u meant that parents have sole and.greater responsibility only because.they have the first responsibility? why do u think so? isn't it just like saying that chairman of a political party has sole responsibility to the membersby virtue of his office and that.state chairman and l,g chairman who can better reach. the grassroots has no responsibility?

Parents have the greater responsibility not only because they are the first responsibilities,
they are meant to be friends with their kids, observe their actions to know when they are on the wrong track, educate their kids on social and sexual vices, I mean they need to be updated from time to time so as to be on the same wavelength as their kids.

and yes the chairman and not the LG will be held responsible if the objectives of the party is not met, why then is he the chairman?




they do not have the prerequisites because they arent qualified, trained educators and also their instinct to protect will prevent them from giving their kids comprehensive sex ed. besides they are bound to teach children wat they.feel is right thereby stripping.the.kids.of the views of diff schs of tot and ability to make informed choices . i am saying that all parents are not esucated and that the onwa that are doesnt qualify as competent sex educators coz they are engineers or accountants
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A parent do not need to get certified before he/she can educate their child,
they have the ability to tell the wrong from the right and to educate their kids likewise, but sadly not all parents can.

Tamar1:
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who do u shift the burden to when a child is an orphan? the dead parents?
do u mean to say that its ok for other favtors like sch to come into play only wen.d parents are no more?
are you saying that different scales should be used for children with and without parents ?

Gudit:

no educational institution or any company at all employs people without referees as to your good behavior and character. with the level and standard of interviews given before employment, i doubt a teen mom can gain employment as a teacher without qualifications.

Boudicca: From Tamar1,

if i understood you well, u meant that parents have sole and.greater responsibility only because.they have the first responsibility? why do u think so? isn't it just like saying that chairman of a political party has sole responsibility to the membersby virtue of his office and that.state chairman and l,g chairman who can better reach. the grassroots has no responsibility?

Parents have the greater responsibility not only because they are the first responsibilities,
they are meant to be friends with their kids, observe their actions to know when they are on the wrong track, educate their kids on social and sexual vices, I mean they need to be updated from time to time so as to be on the same wavelength as their kids.

and yes the chairman and not the LG will be held responsible if the objectives of the party is not met, why then is he the chairman?




they do not have the prerequisites because they arent qualified, trained educators and also their instinct to protect will prevent them from giving their kids comprehensive sex ed. besides they are bound to teach children wat they.feel is right thereby stripping.the.kids.of the views of diff schs of tot and ability to make informed choices . i am saying that all parents are not esucated and that the onwa that are doesnt qualify as competent sex educators coz they are engineers or accountants


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A parent do not need to get certified before he/she can educate their child,
they have the ability to tell the wrong from the right and to educate their kids likewise, but sadly not all parents can.

ifyalways: Asentawa, we are Africans and we know what seex education means to an average African parent. Its basically "don't play with boys, you'll get pregnant" etc. is that good enough? The teachers are better equipped to take the bulls by the horns, Imo.

In a world whereby the only password to a p.orn site is "I agree, I'm above 18" don't you think the teacher is in a better position to help kids make the right choice ?how many parents know how to use a computer?

Anyone can be a parent(drug addicts, physcos, teens) but same can be said of teachers.

Tamar1:
u mean that a parent by virtue of the parentship knowa all about std's birthcontrol and its side effects?

Boudicca:

and why shouldn't they? these are household terms that are used everyday and slangs even created for it and even when they don't all they need do is to get themselves updated every now and then either from someone more experienced than them or the internet so as to be able to educate their kids.
or is this too great a price to pay?

Tamar1:
u mean that a parent by virtue of the parentship knowa all about std's birthcontrol and its side effects? u wuld rather deny kids comprehensive sex ed and have parents teach dem d lil they know that have competent educators teach them?

tell me, why do you feel schools and media aren't competent? do u deny that kids are influences by outside factors and modern tech which their parents are skilled on?

don't get me wrong, these parents were once taught by teachers so why should I see them as incompetent?
teachers and government has a role to play in this also, there is no doubting that.
are you aware that there exist educated parents who not even have time for their kids? thereby leaving their kids uninfomed? what does that tell you of them?
teachers and the government can be excused from this but definitely not the parents.


back to first responsibility, do u deny the war between parents and teens and.the need for kids to do d exact.opposite of wat their parents tell them? do u deny the straines relationship dat exist bw them den? and that parents embarrassment dat der kid is growing up will not prevent them from teaching facts!

the question here is, how is their relationship?
do these parent respect their kids and allow them to participate in decisions about them or they just go ahead and threaten/impose on them?


abt d party officials, the one with the higher responsibility is d one dat has access to the masses, the grassroots so also do d media and teachers have.more access and attention of teens, children .

then the chairman needs to be impeached because he's definitely not doing his job.
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Boudicca:

from the definition of the word parent, you have first the one who births and nurture the child first before other definitions, that is to tell you how important biological parents are and in a case where they are no more, the other parent takes it's place.

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Tamar1:

ok. let me ask you, wat are the ways std's can be transmitted? wat is a contraceptive and its functions ? [b]the fact.remains that issues concerning sexuality goes beyond sex and pregnancy. parents do not know it all [/b]and they aren't everyday slangs

very true,

it's good that you agree with me that parents can source for info elsewhere. invariably, you, we are saying that.its the responsibility of the govt and media to educate the parent who ll in turn educate the child . inother words, govt and media and schools are to blame when a child engages in early sex

of course I've never implied that they can't get this information from another means, how else can they be knowledgeable to educate their kids? from their farms?

the responsibility lies on them whether they decide to educate these kids themselves or send them to schools.