@MoOdYLaDy, you said it all.

in a relationship, i'll really like to know d cause of break-up so i don't go the same direction(that is if i really like him).but if a girl is going all the way disclosing her past,i think it must be a mutual decision.

really sorry to hear about leaders in the house of God who indulge in such things.i mean for christ sakes in church!!
haba where have we placed respect and fear of God?my dear be careful when and if u eventually call him ur friend cos as FactorChic has earlier said,he may have cooked-up a better plan on how to get u.so, please borrow leg run.

all well said.4 me marriage is a mind thing.if being married at 18 favours one person,don't mean it'll work 4 me or anyone else.and any1 who decides to follow my footsteps by getting married in the morning(that is if i decide to), then he/she may be heading to destruction's highway.
@topic,the guy may be gay,may have been disappointed too many times (not natural) or has very high standards wiffy can not attain.

lucky u.i'ld prefer the US.and as others have said,i guess the US will be ur best bet.anyways,in whatever u do,all the best.

firstly i must commend everyone who has contributed to this tread.its been very educative.please i'ld like to know how soon one can reapply 4 a visa if he/she has been refused one before.is it 3months or more.i'll appreciate accurate answers.thank u

i'm really surprised at some of the views as per this post.what has obasanjo got to do with the traffic crash?was he the driver,road contractor/engineer or maintainer?lets all be reasonable,responsible and love our country.cos if obj was president 4 8years,did he personally award all th road contracts(i'm sure its someone's father/mother who did),or was he the contractor or road user.abeg lets leave obj and let him be.the guy tried.the incident was just unfortunate.if we have to apportion blames we'll not start with obj(i agree he'll share in it but not all of it).
the solution to our problems will start with us loving naija our father land.
my sympathy to the families involved

nothing wrong with a guy pounding.whatever(yam,fufu,kernel) it is,i think its something an individual should be proud of.expecially when u are an omo naija(ajebo or kpako).
brothers keep it up we are proud of u!!!

my addy is:shescute4@yahoo.com.
thank you

correction.
informations=information(no plural for information)

until now,i have thot marriage to be an institution.and true to most institutions,u normally will have assignments,tests,examinations,promotions and, u can name the rest.personally,i'm scared of marriage and i try as much as i can to stay far away from it.why?its the only institution where u'll never graduate from and u get a certificate at registration.
@topic, i still wonder why we have to marry

are the human heads real?

5,6,7,10.hoping to meet with a 12 soon.

the truth is, gals always say they dumped the guy.well the truth is 98% of guys plan the break-up thing but the gals do the execution. d gals do the breakup thing exactly when they think and feel the relationship is going to/may crash.i think its  a lot easier for the gals to bear the pain when they(gals) end a relationship.however i feel very sorry 4 guys who have suffered emotionally from gals/ladies they've trully loved.
so, my msg:guys & gals, look b4 u leep.and if u love someone say it cos u trully mean it and mean it when u say it.
i broke up my last relationship cos i saw it was going to end anyway. i loved him, i said i loved him but i never had the oppurtunity to show him.
i'm still searching (and i'm enjoying the search)

CONGRATS!
i'm certain that God who did yours, is faithful and will do mine and other NAIRALANDERS.
enjoy and don't 4get d days of little beginnings.
cheers

@THE ONE, i agree with u but not completely.the lady is almost always the looser,not when she's smart.
@topic sorry gal, 1 word 4 u: assumption is dangerous! have a face 2 face,heart 2 heart talk with ur bro, it should settle things.if it doesn't 4 u then u can pull ur self 2gether & move on.
remember,life is beautiful .
enjoy

i can authentically say that taking a break will be a very big mistake,mind u i'm speaking from experience.u see i had dated this guy 4 about 3years, then he had to move to another state cause of his job and i was in school. the relationship experienced what normal long distance relationships suffer.so, on one of my visits he suggested we take a break (u know still be friends but test the waters).i agreed and have since paid dearly cause he was my love  . .anyway,while testing the waters,he got some girl pregnant  and married her cause he was pressured to
its 2years,it still hurts and hard for me love someone else. so i'ld lend u some advice,if u love him/her,stick with him and say no to test transmission 

RELEASING A DOVE!!!

Echidime, i think u r funny.
i'm not married,i hope to soon anyways so i might as well add that understanding and compromise is required to keep the luv and romance in marriage.
good luck 2 u(married ones) all.