Its amazing how myopic some minds can be. Asides the fact that Bev was devastated, she was the only housemate remaining in that particular room. As @ 2weeks ago, Feza, Bimp and Angelo were in same room as Bev but they are all gone now.

Considering there are just 5 of them left, its only natural that she joins the others in their room especially in her state of mind. There was no atom of underlying meaning in Melvin's offer. He has always looked out for her as a brother would, e.g. the Saturday party Bev was drunk, he carried her on his back to join Angelo in bed and so many other instances.

Let's try and be objective, please. Let's try not to tarnish people unnecessarily. Nobody holy pass

Good day my people, please has anyone processed UK transit visa from USA before? My hubby sent in application for transit visa on his trip to naija this December. The application was received by UKBA New York on 21st Dec. and he received email on the 3rd Dec. about package been processed etc with their processing time frame stating 12days or so. Considering the limited time before the trip, he sent a request for withdrawal on the 6th. Dec and they responded that they will get in touch within 2days. They sent a response on 7th Dec. with an option of Priority Service which is not guaranteed the 48 hrs stipulated. He was told to reply the mail if he wanted to go ahead with the withdraw which he replied immediately.

The issue now is we've not heard or got any response from them as regards the request. We cant say if the withdrawal is in process or not as they are not responding to his subsequent mails. He tried contacting them but its an automated response he gets. Presently, we are in a dilemma. The trip is on the 20th, we just dont know what to do anymore at this point.

I would like to hear peoples' experiences and opinion on this matter, please urgent responses needed. Thank you

zeefa: I don't kw y ppu can not ask Questions abt did terrible killing. I have watched the video and d Question I askd mysf was Y r the guyz not makin an attempt to run or speak loud for ppu in d community to kw they do not commit d crime leveled against them. I mean, they are not kids. Its painful to see them just speechless witot sayn a word that will make ppu have a change of mind to either save them or reduce d satanic act being takn on them. My heart still bleeds cos so many questions still run tru my mind about the killing! D whole story seems difficult to read and understand cos there r so many signals picked from the video bn circulated on the internet.
Someone shld tell me Y those guyz are not shouting for HELP!
If they are not in anyway involved in2 anytin discriminating, there shld be a way to sa somtin loud to allow ppu that came arround see reason they shld be freed. Their cloths were removed, molested and killed, still non of them cld atleast insist on comments that might likely get in2 d minds of those arrnd to help them.
Well, only God kws the real story! May d souls rest in peace.

You were not there when it all started so cannot say how it transpired. From the accounts/pictures given on the incident, they were paraded first before it got to that point.I want to believe they must have tried to prove their "innoncence" before being sudbued by the irate crowd.

Considering the level of beating and planking they received, I want to believe theirs was a case of spirit being willing to shout for help and escape the situation but the flesh was too weak and helpless to do anything.

samguru: the nairaland women don abuse me die for expressing my mind,anyway the woman came to my house and knelt down before me for her action on that day,and her husband(my friend) begged me on phone.

when i told my wife,she was very angry about it,because she has not done that to my friend

I don't buy the part of kneeling down to beg you. Like seriously, was there really an offence in the first instance. But if it makes you feel cool...then why not.

It is best you get busy with your time than look for petty trivial things to thrive on.

When the car stopped to pick wifey, the poster should have wilfully stepped to the back seat without any prodding. Especially knowing that he would be dropping soonest. What was the point waiting till you drop off before she comes to the front when the swap can be done on the first stop.

Same way you dont see it as a big deal for wifey to sit in the back seat is same way you shouldn't have made a deal of going to the back without been told.

All that glitters is not always gold. I have a relative that was once married to a man with similar attributes. Near perfect, no drink, no womanising etc, domesticated, spick and span kind of guy, too detailed to a fault. It turned out the guy was gay @the end of the day

@all those saying pray to God while fornicating, like that's the only sin. If we are to apply that mentality, then no one should stand before God in prayers 'cos we are all sinners no matter how insignificant it might appear.

That is why God is said to be merciful.

Cindy, I understand all what you said. As a statement of fact, I can never place anything above my family. Before now, we both agreed and know my time in the sector is limited. So its just a case of holding on pending...

I didnt get home late 'cos I was working. On a very good day if I stay in my branch axis for calls, I get home 6.30pm tops. And if we go for town calls, we get home between 7.30-8.00pm. Unfortunately on this particular day, the traffic was something else hence 11pm lateness.

Thanks for the response so far. The distance is as Odunnu painted which makes it difficult for me to visit for now. I've modified that part in my post

Hello all, I want to get peoples opinion on this. This is a lengthy write up to give background picture of the whole situation, so pardon me on the epistle.

I am a married lady working in a bank as a marketer. My branch is in a remote part of Lagos which makes going into town and back to base cumbersome; traffic and all.

Two weeks ago, we went on marketing call to Akute and got home a bit late(8pm). Along the way, we had a robbery scare which I told my hubby about (we dont live in the same town, he's out of the country for now). He got worried naturally and expressed dissatisfaction for being out late.

Thankfully, it was a rare occurance which happens only when we get into town for calls. He went as far as saying that next time we go for such calls and time ticks by, I should leave whoever I went with and take a cab back home.

Last week Wednesday, we had a similar call which unfortunately was worse than the previous. The traffic jam at Ogba was like never experienced before. I got home 11pm. All the while I was in touch with hubby and he was angry this time around which I partly understood. No man wants his wife out so late, but hey, it was never intended.

He said he wanted to speak with my friend by that time of the night. She stays in the same compound. I told him it was late and the girl was sleeping obviously, cos I called her immediately I got home to help with the gate but there was no response. Also, I couldnt make out what my friend has got to do with anything but he wouldn't tell me.

The high point of the situation was when he said he must speak with my friend that night or I should not make the mistake to call him ever again for the rest of his life and he won't make the mistake of picking as well. He actually swore by his parents and said so many other bitter things which was very perplexing for me cos I didnt see that coming. I mean being out all day, traffic, exhaustion and all, it was almost 12am. The only thing I needed was to shower and sleep. He said it was my choice to take either of the option.

For peace to reign, I went out, knocked and woke my friend who was surprised to hear that he wanted to speak with her that late. When I gave her the phone, the convo was centered on trivial subject after which I was given back the phone. The line disconnected and I said goodnite to my friend and went back in.

Hubby called back and said I should go and give the girl the phone again. It was @ that point I snapped and said I wasn't going to go out there again. I told him the only thing I was going to do was take a shower and sleep. Meanwhile, all these while, it was raining and it was 12am.

Since that day to date, we've not spoken. I've called him severally, sent him chats yet no response. I really dont know what to make of this.

Thanks everyone. Shushu is the closest to the true picture. I already settled with my hubby but couldnt help wondering if his reaction was peculiar. Hence I posted with focus on male's perspective.

I am not quarrelsome. I.just couldnt understand why someone who doesn't know me from anywhere will go on insinuating things. One can air ones view, no matter how unpleasant, without necessarily being judgemental.

@David, be ready to loose ur left foot

Thanks everyone.

@Mutter u are just amazing in your myopic world. You have a way of reading what you assume in you head without necessary reading the post. It beats me where you read of 'stop a car' etc. If your husband has a problem keeping his 'rod' from dangling, be rest assured some men don't.

Why do I get the impression you are only reliving ur past history in ur response, prolly why u are reading invisible lines. You assume everyone has a dirty past like you, SMH. Am done responding to your myopic mind.

@Mutter, you are just pathetic. I assume you are a mature woman so I expect you to act and reason like one. But of course, maturity is not about age or size The best solution for your type is to totally ignore.

@Mirob,  Thanks. At last, there's someone who understands the need for good interpersonal relationship with people. @ Chaircover, thanks too. My husband does not even know the man neither was there any ugly incidence between us. The man in question is a middle aged respectable family man.

To set the record straight, am not here for advice on how to save or remedy the situation. I only want to hear peoples view.

@Mutter, you are obviously reading but not fully comprehending. I am not proving my innocence to you or anybody cos there is nothing to prove. I wonder how stopping by on sighting someone translates to planned visit. (Like I got up from my office with the intent to see him, SMH). If I get you right, I should have called my husband immesiately I sighted him before going in there. Like seriously, am I a kid, Phew

If u must know, I highlighted the'"ex-staff/branch manager" to make it clear why I felt the need to stop by. What is there to read in between. Do you go about suspecting your husband because he has female colleagues, come on. Anyway, why am I not surprised at your utterance. I've seen some of your response on peoples thread before and I know your reasoning can be warped @times.

I wonder where the comma is in the story. I wrote that it wasn't a planned visit. As a matter of fact, all the 8 banks are next door neighbour to one another, its just only banks on the street. I went to Firstbank for a transaction, on going back to my bank, I stopped by to empathise. (Oceanic is almost adjacent to my office)

On a very good day, cant I just go into another bank. If you must know, I am in marketing unit and its very important u get as much info as possible that will help to keep abreast of competition. Or are u ladies saying that even before I enter any customers office, I must also report to my husband. These are things that come with the job and yes, we do discuss all these. I told him exactly where I was when he asked cos there was nothing fishy.

And for peace sake, I did apologise cos that has never been a problem for me. He held on to the issue and it dragged on. This is why I am here wanting to know if it was such a grievous situation.

Hello people, I would like to sample opinion on an issue. I am a married young lady working with a bank. I am experiencing strain in my marriage now which is beyond my understanding.

The recent lay off in Eco/Oceanic Bank affected someone who happened to be an ex-staff of my bank. He was actually the Branch Manager where I reported to as a new entrant. He later joined Ecobank until the termination of his job recently. On my way from Firstbank last week, I saw that he came around to his bank (Eco/Oceanic) and stopped by to empathise with him. My husband called while I was there, we got talking and he asked where I was which I told him. That was the beginning of the problem.

He feels that as a married lady, I didnt have any business going into their bank to empathise with him. On my own part, I didnt see anything wrong, it was just a courtesy visit. (I didn't plan on it, only stopped by on seeing him around)This caused serious tension between us. He saw it as disrespectful.

So my people, I didn't know what to make out of the issue. I want 3rd party neutral view, especially from guys, on this situation.Thanks

Mmmh, SMH at this thread. Respect is an individual thing & it goes beyond what culture expects from pple. Culturally Yorubas are expected to prostrate & all what not to their elders & some do so even when they are not inclined to do so naturally. Respect flows from deep within irrespective of whether ur culture demands you to prostrate or not to elders.

Like someone said, I have come to realise that most outward gesture of respect from Yorubas doesn't go skin deep cos they have very strong tendencies of being double edged or 2faced, smile with u this meeting only to turn back & give multiple stabs.

That being said, I cant really credit any tribe for being most respectful. It is an indIvidual thing which comes from the heart & not just for doing sake.

@ Supereagles, that ur junior calls you by your name doesn't mean there won't be respect from him/her. Some tribe/people can't be bothered by whether you call them sister or brother provided u know the bounds. It has to do with family upbringing cos I have seen Igbo families who are into sister/brother name calling just like Yoruba Egbon. Respect goes deeper than paying lip service, you know,

Some people here seem to be missing my point which is not centred on the price but design. I have never been concerned about how expensive or whether it is diamond. As a matter of fact, the sample I sent to him was a white gold set with CZ stones.

I don't wear an engagement ring now though we've done the preliminary part of the marriage rites. So the wedding ring set comes with the engament ring.

@Kunlaxo hope u understand now that its not about being insensitive or materialistic. I will gladly accept the choice I made or something close to that even if it costs just N20,000

Ladies and gentlemen, what is your take on a lady indicating her preference for a particular style/pattern of a wedding band, not necessarily the price.

I am engaged about to be married and I do not stay in the same locality with my fiance. He is to buy the wedding ring and I indicated interest in a particular style which is meant to serve as a guide. I actually stressed that it must not be exactly the picture of the ring I sent to him but at least he will have an idea of what I will love to wear, I am not particular about the price either, just something beautiful.

Unfortunately, this did not go well with my guy as he said that I should be able to love whatever choice of ring he makes since it is coming from him (his heart). That it is proper for a man to pick the wedding rings without necessarily getting an input on the ladies preference and if there is need, it could be upgraded to her choice later on in the marriage. He stressed that I should not be very concerned about the style rather what the ring signifies to which I very much agree. But I still feel that at least, I should be able to have something I'll love since I am to wear it for the rest of my life (am really not so cut out with the idea of changing wedding rings). But he will still not hear any of it, even hinting that I seem to be getting materialistic which is very far from the truth. One having a style preference doesn't necessarily equate materialism.

So my people, I want to hear opinion from both genders' perspective.