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kenkels:
This for val and nothing else. [size=18pt]Dogggy[/size] Ll sha end the whole the thing

You mean horseback?

^
Nah

I get it. You're a bloke signing on as a "queen", and you're not based in US.

You're doing a crap job of sounding American or female, too.

^
Who is this supposed "African American"? It isn't even afternoon in the US?

Easy!

Formal and courteous.

Don't hate.

QueenValerie:
Best way I knew ta get you ta understand,I wanted you to see yerself in my place.
I don't know why you told me that story,it's irrelevant an pardon me,but I really don't care.

Um.. your not the only one reading this.

Anyway...BYE!

QueenValerie:
You take a interest in every woman? Or you CHOSE for whatever reason,certain ones?
That's what I did.

You sound very Nigerian, answering a question with a question.

I live in the UK, where (unlike Naija) a woman can come up to you in a club and pinch your azz. The woman may be a stunner, but on one occasion this happened with a minger. I turned round (she had a face that could have stopped Big Ben "DONG!" and reset it to midnight). Of course, I didn't actually say that. I was not abrupt and I made it easy for both of us to laugh it off.

QueenValerie:
I'm Afro American,born an rasied my ancestral line goes far back.
An I like the clash of color/culture when approached.
What say you now?

OK. Reopen dialogue.

Go say hello to Lovelynature, again, and start "enjoying the clash".

He was chirpsing you, and you cut him off. Why?

QueenValerie:
I can read,yes.But I don't know why you did what you did.

Why?

That is a different question.

I did it because I found it interesting.

Men from one culture approaching women from another culture doesn't always work. I find it quite amusing.

That is why I asked you how long you'd been in the states. I wanted to find out how big the cultural difference is.

permanentgrace:
My conclusion is in affirmation cos i'm an eye-witness who right there saw as events unfolded while your assumptions hold no water.

I haven't made any assumptions. You have.

QueenValerie:
What are you doin'

You can read.

Were you born in USA, or did you move recently from Nigeria?

QueenValerie:
No African American.

Lovelynature:
Wow! Black Americans are quite lovely especially their women. We are all Africans
No wonder you go with the name Queen. Queens are mostly pretty.
Would mind you having me as your friend?

QueenValerie:
Uh here,fine. Outside of here,no.
I've to many friends already,more than I can manage at the moment .

Lovelynature:
Hey dear, here is just air. True friendship (what I want) can't be defined on the air, so we all here are friends already you know. So forget about what you read here, people gat to type whatever that want.
Forget about having so many friends, there's always a friend amidst friends. I would gladly be the one if you don't mind

QueenValerie:
Uhhh,we ain't all friends here.
You outta see some of the hate on here,even got threads on it.

Lovelynature:
I view life differently from the way most haters do. To me, all those hate comments mean nothing to me. I see everyone as friend, though I have true friends.
Attitude matters. Attitude is what makes major difference in people

QueenValerie:
[size=18pt]OK,good.Bye[/size]

[size=18pt]LOL!

NIGERIAN VS AA

CHIRPS FAIL![/size]

permanentgrace:
I guess u wouldnt think u had a better knowledge of the scenario than myself? I'm being realistic and you are dealing on assumption.

What are you talking about?

I am the one saying that you can't make assumptions.

You are the one coming to a firm conclusion, detective permanentgrace.

permanentgrace:
Madam/Sir, stop complicating issues. There were no issues of physical challenges of any sort.

oh, so suddenly you know their life history?

And when since has going to an eatery become a "romantic play".

Sorry, but you have to be more careful before sticking your nose into other folk's business, and gossiping. I was simply giving you an example of something you wouldn't know.

LastMumu:
What sort of bozzo granddaughter sends her grandfather about like a kid brother. She dey craze? Abeegi na punnani wey the old man wan chop no make am get sense again biko.

We don't know the details from what is in the OP. What if she had some physical disability, and it made sense for her granddad to help?

Sell. Take second honeymoon. Forward him pix (with thanks for his generosity).

Penisinpenisout:
Don't jump into conclusion ffs
It could be his granddaughter.

Yup, that is what I thought. You don't know the full story.

permanentgrace:
How this thread manage come dey here for investment section? Abi when person click to open 'romance' section, the thing go now carry person go 'investment' section?

Lalasticlala, seun, mynd44, abeg make una carry my thread go romance section i beg all of una.

The old man's errands were "investment".

Cheating in a relationship is altering the boundaries of the relationship in a way you have said you would not do, or which it is "understood" that you would not do.

It varies from relationship to relationship.

Some are more open or liberal than others.

Laveda:

You French kiss with crooked mouth?

"Shoving your tongue down each other's throat"

A couple of generations ago, this would have been unthinkable. It was foreign to African cultures.

Do you French kiss?

Or do you think, "yuk!"

EnlightenedSoul:
B is the better option.

Anyone who's ever had to deal with over-the-top jealousy would tell you the exact same thing.

So, what are you saying?

B is not good, but it is better than a total disaster?

postmann:
Quite some liberal point of view. Everyone's opinion is welcome.
So are you saying in your relationship with your significant other, anything goes?

Not anything.

Anything more than flirting is off limits.

All I am saying is that, unlike for most men, flirting can act as a release valve for women. They don't actually take it any further. It just helps them with confidence in themselves.

But, if you shut off the valve, it can suddenly explode, and she will cheat.

So, it is counterproductive to be a control freak.

I can see why some Nigerian relationships become dysfunctional when the couple moves abroad to the US or UK. All this control freakery becomes much harder, and folk end up doing things that wind them up in jail.

You are with a woman. A woman is attracted to men. That is her biology and psychology. No amount of control freakery is going to change it. So you'd better learn how to live with it.

It is better to allow your woman to flirt and dress the way she wants!

The reactions and compliments will make her more self-assured.

If she is the multiple partners type, you will know early and she will soon be gone, because you have given her plenty of rope to express herself. Let her go.

If she is the loyal type, her confidence will strengthen her loyalty, because the loyal types only cheat when they need validation or have become bored.

So, going with the flow of what a woman does naturally, is a win-win situation. She will be happy, she will be loyal, and you will be happy. Or..

she will be gone EARLY, and you will be happy and grateful.

Lovelynature:
I was in a bank today and one of the female bankers couldn't get her eyes off me. Whenever we made eye contact, she looked away, then she's at it again. She stared to the point that I became somehow uncomfortable, and started pressing my phone, pretending to keep myself busy.

Maybe you looked suspicious, like bank robber.

Anyhow, far more sexy is when women look you up and down in that sort of way. That is so damned sexy, when you feel a woman's eyes roving up and down your body.

When we look women up and down, our head moves up and down as we look, and it is obvious.

When women look us up and down, their head doesn't move. You just see their eyes move and it is twice as obvious, even though they are trying to be a bit discreet. When they do it subconsciously, it is just too sexy.

xyoung:
You announce your stupidity at any little attempt. You didn't catch my drift with that my post? My best bet is you are preparing for jamb! What nonsense, a slap to my personality

It took me several hours to "catch your drift". Throw properly next time.

(I blame the internet, and the fact I was bought up in the UK and there are many Naija expressions I am not familiar with . It was only when I saw somebody else use the phrase "I will beat you", that I started to figure it out.)

Anyway, I know you no be illiterate. Apologies for my ignorance. It's all good.

ProfOrlando:
So, with Time she became my girlfriend and I noticed that she loved me for who I was not what I said I was..

Nice opera prof.

But you lost me, here.

If she loved you for who you are, and not what you said you were, why did you say it?

With your cheque book.

Mayorjr:
Hello Fellow Nairalanders, I am going through a rough patch and am posting to seek advice.
Insult me if you must... Buh please give me an advice!!!!
She doesn't take my calls, doesn't return them.
She doesn't reply texts on any platform... When she does it is to send thunder and brimstone.
She only managed to tell me, she is going through something and doesn't wish to share with me.....Trying to show concern... She yelled at me to give her space....
Giving her space is proving difficult..... What do i do?
If i choose to give her space... How do i go about it?

You haven't told us who "she" is. Your sister? Mum? Bank Manager? Who?

Adaezeagu:
Sex has destroyed some many relationship.

So has money.

Don't spend any money on her before marriage.