BlindAngel: Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.
Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.
So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.
To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.
So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.
I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.
Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.
Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.
I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.
I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.
Bro, man to man you sound like you are partly irresponsible. Why do you keep mentioning the money you spent in marrying her? Where did you expect the money to come from?
Girls are to be treated like Queens that they are and when they over stretch you can treat their Bleep ups like you did. But you should not have pushed all the faults on your wife. People hustle to marry bro, it was her right to hustle you and if the thing no pay you, court is not far from you.
Well done on standing your ground. Don't let them use responsibility kill you.
Abeg go plead to your wife, you have disgraced her before her family and that could have been done differently.
Israel is not the only country in the world, it is a rascal, lawless and anarchical behaviour for Israel to bomb a consulate. They have virtually broken all laws known to have kept the modern world far away from anarchy and strife.
it's time for the U.S to hands off and allow Israel be taught a lesson.
The only reason why the U.S have no choice than to assist Israel is to prevent Israel from using nukes. Conventionally Israel would be levelled in less than a month fighting Iran, rather than them loosing they would take the nuclear route, hence the reason for the constant U.S interference.
Modified: One thing very common with Nigerians especially some so called commenters here on Naira land is hypocrisy and ignorance. Some people still believe that Russia is fighting Ukraine, or cannot defeat Ukraine. They don't understand international politics, war strategies and the actions and motives of certain international actors and situations.
To the Israeli issue, no country in the world has broken international Law uncountable number of times deliberately and overtly like Israel not even North Korea.
You speak against the lawless behaviour of Nigerian politicians but support the ultra lawless behaviour of Israel in the international system due to sentiments such as religion, God forbid!! I would be that type of person. The same people shout and complain about how Nigerians are gullible to religious ideas but support a government virtually promoting anarchy in the world due to same religiosity they complain about.
After watching a video where a former CIA personnel stated that Israel is neither Americas friend nor ally and how most wars America has been fighting especially in the middle east was orchestrated by the Israeli regime and it's allies and lobby groups in Washington. I was happy that Americans are waking up.
In 2006 Israel could not defeat Hezbollah backed by a sanctioned Iran in Lebanon, but some experts believe that Israel would defeat Iran conventionally without the interference of America.
And if all these wishes of support happen to your family one day, what do you think your neighbours would say?
Righteousness2: ISRAEL, IDF, Shinbet, Mosaad, Netanyahu, you Have my Full Support!
It is a Moral duty. Pursue, Overtake, pull down, throw down, Crush, Crumble, Tumble Diminish, Deceiminate, Disfigure , Decapitate and Destroy these Despicable terrorist devils in human form.
"Those clowns will soon arrive." The is the most appropriate way to say it. May we be bold enough to overpower those clowns someday...
Richtaiwo: They will tell you it is propaganda. Ask them to explain how this is propaganda, what sense it makes, and the expected logical end of the propaganda. Instead of explaining this simple question, they will start murmuring like baby monkeys and be asking if you have eaten. Those clowns will soon arrive.
So owning fleet of jets is now a form of blessing. This is what we say about the so called men of God glorifying riches just to justify their greed. These people have forgotten the purpose of Mankind, and also being deluded by the things of the world. I wonder what this man would preach to a man riding on a bicycle.
You can fly your jet to see God. No wonder it is easier for them to take sides with the politicians and curse the bench the masses sit on.
How do I even laugh to this? You are making investment for a country and only a few are benefiting from that investment. Anyways, this is why we are here. We still applaud people stealing from us.
Impecca: Mumu analysis. That explanation is null. The CBN is not withholding the stamp duty charges, they are in 'pool' of stock of private investors to cbn. The money is reinvested, and given to FG as bailouts
Is this history of our dear country, Emefiele is the only CBN Gov. vying for presidency. Is that a joke?
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And you just woke up to see it? We are not as stupid as you want us to be. If you like you can do anything to Emefiele, but you must wait until after the elections! Emefiele isn't half as corrupt as your politicians, especially the ones vying for presidency.
This time Nigeria must get it right!
Everything Emefiele did he did with the president's permission. Don't come trying to bamboozle us. It won't work![/quote]
It is like you guys are unaware of what is happening.
CBN has been fingered in the mismanagement of funds generated from charges placed on N5000 and above. Banks take 60% and CBN takes 40%. However, from 2013 till date that cash has not found its way into FGN account created for that suppose.
The news is out there if you want it.
Massiveglory: Emiefele is holding the likes of emilokan on the balls. Urchins have been unleashed online and offline to create unnecessary noise all in a bid to take emiefele out. Kolework! Any issues you have with emiefele should be on hold till after elections. After elections you can see yourselves in court.
fergie001: Former Imo State Governor, Owelle Rochas Anayo Okorocha has reacted to the arrest of his son in-law, Ugwumba Uche Nwosu by men of the Nigerian Police Force.
He keeps mentioning the Church and Mourning his mother. We all know this sort of statement is to seek sympathy from the people.
When it comes to serious matter, it is always done behind closed doors but now you rush to the cameras and start mentioning Church to seek people's sympathy. Try and state one of the thousand crimes he must have committed. Our Police force is not that bad, they turn a blind eye most times because of who we really are as a people. They always know wassup, the same way we do.
You all talk as if it is impossible for a journalist to be hit by a car in Nigeria. It was just a bad day for him. May God rest his soul.
Have small faith in the Police Force, las las na dem we dey still run to. Follow the story well with unbiased mind, you will notice it correlate. Our Police do work when they want to, it is just that most times, dem no dey like work...and that is unfortunate.
But the story, nothing seems like a cover up here...
Staged. His hand's movement did not go in line with the movement and aggression of the body. Staged. With the obvious chances, there should be a cut on the neck of the President. At least a cut. The hand had all the chances.
You will learn some of their dealings by the time you become a parent too. You might do better but they are not stingy, they just think you do not need some of these thing. You said it yourself, they provide everything, what else? Phone? And your dad said you do not need one. Calm down, when you start earning money you can buy yourself as many as possible.
Boy, your parents are amazing. They are not stingy.
TOTOnigga: Hello guys.... I don't just know.. Is it just me or is there anything I don't understand......my parents are rich people especially my dad, I know that for sure... someone paying #950,000 naira per year as school fees for me aside other expenses, plus multiple houses and lands I can't even keep count of....
How come they are this stingy? There is no time I would ask them for money for my own personal well being or any of my personal needs that they would like to assist me. I once ask mum for #12,000 naira just to buy a fairly used android phone (when I know they can even afford me an iPhone x) but she told me I should wait till months end before she gives me saying there is no money on ground... it's five months now and still nothing (not waiting for it though)...
Then I ask my dad, he told me I don't need an android phone... telling me that phone makes people unserious and other types of bulls*it( a 19 year old student for that matter)
Any expenses that is not book or academic related is not important...my parents would rather buy clothes for me than give me money to buy clothes... sometimes I end up not wearing some of them..
The funniest part is that, anytime I take any urgent lie(Asin scam) about any payment in school...they wouldn't Waits a second to send it to me... This has got me telling all sorts of lies just to get what I know can be gotten honestly.. It has even gotten to the point that any money that enters my hand now, I use it to play sports betting to see if I can get enough money for what I need, but I end up loosing the money...I am just frustrated.. someone time I wish I didn't even have rich parents cos what's the point...
tartar9: What side ? For saying something should be done about the spread of anarchy inducing messages on social media ? That's the reason for all these mob attacks on Desmond Elliot this past few days,huh Ain't you guys acting like tyrants already. Who won't entertain any opposing voices whatsoever. It's obvious the so-called youths if granted power will be worse than the ones they're replacing.
He is already an example. He was larmenting on curses which were borne out of disrespect, and when did that become anarchy inducing messages?
Blackmoran: why is there so much hate in people, how does posting is house address solve Nigeria issues?. we leave issues and focus on irrelevant things.... moreover he just air is opinion which he is entitled to,
Keeping quite does not solve the problem either. He has been in the house for a while and no one was hating on him but now he has chosen a side and it is obvious it is not of the people.
If it was in Africa, I'd have claimed it was dug by my paternal greatest great great grand father for his mistress. Because that man really did very foolish things for women.
But it seems everyday brings a clearer realization that the age of Jesus and the creation of the earth as detailed by the bible is just like another APC propaganda.
Is religion just a myth. How old is the earth? It will be a shame if we die and realize there is no afterlife and that we lived our lives in vain because of religion.
What if all we've ever thought we knew about a god is a lie. What if there are no virgins waiting for us at the other side for killing infidels? What if there is no city of Gold? What if there is no judgement day? What if we were lied to, to instil fear in us and make us conform?
What if? What if? We may never know, but just like the cowards say, it is better to err on the side of caution.
GoTV: That journalist should be arrested and jailed by the DSS. A sitting governor with immunity can never be wrong until his immunity expires. He is the governor of Kano state and has the lawful right to Kano treasury. He can only be probed after his tenure. How are we sure the supposed dollars are bribes? It could be a currency exchange at the bureau de change who knows. Atiku with no immunity was sharing $5000 in rivers state yet no one questioned his dirty wealth, all they do is shout Atikulate on social media. The igbos are at the fore front of this media blackmail against the governor because of their fear of massive Kano votes awaiting president Buhari. Governor Ganduje should sue that guy to teach other journalists lessons. I don't support corruption but we shouldn't persecute innocent people because they are seen with foreign currency
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