₦airaland Forum

I used to live in an environment where young girls would willingly become the mother to the child of the biggest known drug dealer just to be able to say "I have his baby." They didn't care that he had children by other women they just wanted to be a part of th ghetto stardom. I know what i am talking about. Bottom line, a lot of the young girls who come from homes where education is not important but the fast dollar is more important, they are not thinking about the future, they are thinking about right now, they want to have a child for the richest drug dealer or the next one who is in line to become the next greatest rapper. To them, if they could just get that nigga to love them they will always be taken care. Of course, that is a immature fantasy. If a man does not want to be kept, he will not be kept.

The girl needs to be the one to look out for her self, of course the fact that she is pregnant is both of the young man and womans fault but will that matter after the baby is born and the man is gone? What I just talked about is in the case of teenagers, not young adults the ages 21 and up. The young adults who feel they do not want to be together but have children together, they are going to court to gain equal parental rights.

A lot of the women believe they will keep the man if they have a baby for him, or that he will shape up after he sees the baby. Sometimes, if the man already has a baby and the baby he has and happens to love dearly is a boy, yet he is not with the mother, the new woman he has stupidly thinks that is she produces him a girl, he will love the baby girl more so than the boy and forever be proud of her for giving him that precious little girl.


I can't tell you how many foolish women I know who cry after their man leaves them because they had a baby. Having a baby should be carefully thought out. If two people agree that they will have the baby, then so be it but if the woman thinks a baby will keep a man, she is sadly mistaking. In some cases like the Nigerian men who have baby's abroad, and a wife back home who also has children for him, they will abandon their baby's as well but the woman abroad who has the Nigerian mans baby any time he is in town, if the woman is still foolish, she will let him come around to sleep with her. Some women are just very lonely and they come up with ridiculous ways to con a man into staying around. Needless to say, those tricks rarely work.


A topic Started in Nairaland where a woman said she was pregnant by a Married Nigerian man. She wanted sympathy because he in directly told her he was not leaving his family and if she could get an abortion. She said she didn't want to get an abortion and she later said she only knew him for three months before she got pregnant. Why she would want to be having a baby by a man she has only known for three months is beyond me. She claimed she came to Nairaland to find out if it is true that if the Nigerian mans family finds out about her baby, is it true that his wife will leave him. She seemed to be more concerned about his family leaving him if they found about the baby she would be having for him.

I don't feel bad for the women at all who foolishly have babies that was not planned by both the mother and father but I sure do feel sorry for those children that are a product of 50% wanted and un wanted pregnancy.

Where I live, more and more cases are coming about where the men are getting full custody of their children or they are getting joint custody of their children. The cases of the child being abandoned in are becoming less because the men see that they now have options. Those options being that the father can be with the baby with out the mother around to use the baby against him. The fathers now are realizing that in America, they have just as much of a parental right as the mothers, it didn't use to be that way. Now they just have to go to court to show the courts that they want to take those rights for granted other wise the mother will be the only primary parent that can make the rules for when the father can see the child. If she is not mad with him, he may see the child, if she is mad that he has another girlfriend, he may never see the child again until that girlfriend is no longer in the picture. Fathers don't want their child being used against them because if feels like their life is being ran by the baby mama from hell. That is coming to an end now due to the fathers fighting for parental rights.

@Babiosisi


Welcome back, haven't seen you in a long time.


Perhaps you were in Nigeria.