@OP,

I did that once and it drove me crazy trying to monitor his email accounts and catch him cheating. I caught him cheating but after that I vowed to never do it again.

Truth is the truth always comes to light. And when it does it does I deal with it then. maybe that is because I am not afraid to walk away if the person cheats.

I think that if you have fear of walking away you drive yourself crazy looking for signs that they are faithful.

Kingsleyinfo:

come to think of it if she trusts me she should let me
have her passswords just like i would give her mine.

That all depends on how long we have been dating and where our r/s is going.

a woman just cant go around handing out her password.

*Hauwa*:

SW, so you don know nigeria more than us now o 


wow! really interesting over abused womb in nigeria? where you hear that one from

Maybe I was generalizing a little bit.

But really if health-care records were readily available and Nigerians were honest with themselves they would have to admit that alot of women have abortions to avoid the stigma of being a single mom.

From the close nit group of 16 that I know of I have heard from them countless times how they would have tons of gfs and each time one would get prego they would take them to get rid of it.

There are no statics that I can point to back this up.

But I do know that you cant compare apples to oranges and come to a far assessment.

subscribing. . .

can you help me understand what in my post lead it to be tagged as spam so that I can avoid those issues in the future?

debosky:

It was likely tagged by the spam bot and not deleted, I will check on this.

has there been any resolution to this?

Just one more thought:

She may just be emulating what she sees her mom do to her dad.

I have seen many a Nigerian woman disrespect their husbands on US soil in ways I would never dream of doing all because they know here their husbands cant just smack them and get away with it.

But stand your ground and let her know now that you will not stick around for such treatment.

If you let her get away with disrespecting you now it will only get worse.

sims 2

no

Yes he will change:

he will change the way he cheats
He will not get caught doing it the same way again
He will change what he says to you when he gets caught again


All you will do is encourage his behavior again in the future.

Since you have parted ways and did not try to work on the r/s at the time that he cheated it is best that you keep on walking.

Walking away from a cheater is the hardest part now that you have please dont put yourself back in the position to be hurt all over again and miss out on the opp. to find that one that wont have a need to cheat on you.

You deserve better than second place or first place with someone in second. You desearve be someones be all end all and should not settle for less.

sjeezy8:

ose ohhh brodah/sista

i enjoyed reading the book you posted, lol

my point is that i feel as though most black americans are not my style of chick

and its not about who having more or less sex , the opendness of americans is to much for my liking

having children out of wedlock in africa, is looked down upon more than america which explains why the term "baby daddy or baby momma" is so widely used
and yes men deny children in africa but i bet that mother will not make that same mistake 3-4 times like many americans do,

i had a convo with an american about blacks being so ghetto and lazy etc and she was offended, and she said "so isn't there disease and poverty in africa", i said yes, but i dont have any diseases and im not in poverty
so it doesn't matter

if you kno you aren't like anything we posted, then congrats you beat the odds, your not the average black american we encountered, which maybe y your husband married you, if he was already a citizen lol

You continue to fail to take into account that our countries are very different.

In Nigeria there is no way to track a 'baby daddy" or force him to pay for his child.
In Nigeria it is accepted that the guys will sleep with whomever they want to and that they will do whatever they please.
In Nigeria women pretend not to discuss the very things that we openly discuss; they do it in secret.
In Nigeria women are not given the opp. to succeed as well as women here and provide for their families on their own.
In Nigeria there are heavy sigmas associated with being a single mom that are not prevalent here (they do exist, but not as bad)

There is no way you can start to compare our high single parent homes to your over abused wombs, due to abortion.
All I read is how unexperienced and boring wives are in the bedroom.  If you allowed them to discuss sex among themselves this would open a whole new world to your enjoyment and then maybe you would be forced to find another reason for stepping outside.

emynem05:

i meant ur operation not ur paper

I did.