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kpankpangolo:
Welcome to Nairaland: anything makes front page. We got rid of trolls only to realize their presence stimulated engagement.

Seun caused this. Very weak content on FP. Who are the mods

Judaism

If a husband denies his wife marital intimacy for a long time, she has grounds to demand a Get (divorce).
If he refuses, a rabbinical court can pressure him.
➡ Marriage can be ended because of HIS neglect.

Christianity

Sexual abandonment violates marital duty (1 Cor. 7:3–5).
Depending on denomination, it may be grounds for separation or divorce.
➡ Marriage may be considered broken because of HIS neglect.


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Islam

If a husband withholds sex for an extended period, the wife may request khulʿ or judicial divorce. Scholars consider long-term sexual abandonment a valid reason.
➡ Marriage can be dissolved because of HIS neglect.


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Summary

In Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, a husband’s long-term sexual abandonment is recognized as a serious marital violation that can justify ending the marriage.


Traditional African Religions

Across most African traditional systems:

✅ Sexual neglect by a husband is a serious violation of marital duty.

A woman is expected to be cared for emotionally, sexually, and materially.

✅ If the husband fails to fulfil conjugal obligations, elders or family councils intervene.

If he does not change:

➡ The marriage can be dissolved, and the woman is free to leave or remarry.

Some traditions even require the husband to pay compensation for neglect.

Summary:

In traditional African religions, long-term sexual neglect is legitimate grounds to end the marriage.

Source: AI check

A man that stops sleeping his wife has lost her. You should start from there. Sex is food in marriage. It's the man at fault here.

1 Corinthians 7:5 CEV

So don't refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

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Qur’an 2:187: Spouses are a source of comfort and intimacy

"They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them.”

Are they showing x rated items

If not for Wike, Tinubu would not remove you.

It's unfortunate that the mods pushed a poor topic to the front page. You see how naptu gives us background to the story and what's cooking. You just dumped a picture from a tweet here and expect us to do what with it

I also forgot to add, WOMEN ARE MANIPULATIVE. It only comes in different flavors. Your sisters, your wives, your mom, all of them. If you are married, women are watching you and your wife. Whether it's your sister or mother, they want to see that you are not being manipulated because they are masters of manipulation. You as the man may not see it, they as women see it. That's why they do not like themselves. This is why as a a man you should not tell women about themselves. Don't tell your mom everything about your house, don't tell your sister about your wife and vice versa. E get why. They will leave the message and filter the woman's part in it. They will use that info against the other women. Know how to draw boundaries. This is why MIL and wife relationship no de end. If you think your mom is the best, find out how she has treated her daughter in law. Even you sef go surprise. They are possessive and can smell the rat. Men use logic, women react with emotions.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6o5cUsIhIo

Men and women are not equal but men need women as much as women need men.

Make sure a woman loves you more than you love her.

I used to think that was nonsense but I now understand why. Good or bad, just make sure she desires you more than you desire her. This is why I encourage men to leave women when they get rejected. Yes, women love being chased but be careful about a woman who was forced to love you. She will blame you for her own choice. And don't expect too much from women, just do your own and find a way to make yourself happy. When a woman has your child, you see how she changes from loving you to loving her children. It's not her fault, it's biology. You were used to get what she wanted and she brought her friends (your kids) into this world to take care of 😀

Why not call Mercy Etteh back or Dimeji Bankole

Perfect timing to announce your exit. Go and play at the Nations cup and increase your value before you go back. You are also going to the World Cup next year. Whoever is his Adviser did well. There couldn't be a better time. A Footballer's career is very short so they have to take strategic risks and hope it pays off. Good luck Salah.

If policemen could disregard their own IG, why does the Police expect Army, Navy and others to respect them? People treat you the way you treat yourself. The Police has not carried out itself in a commendable way so the spirit they want in esprit de corps will never come out. Treat yourself with respect Nigeria Police.

Chucks13:
You can't appoint me I only open the box for you to see and think better to understand Nigeria is at cross road. Ok

All your assumptions are wrong. Thank you. You don't know what's in my box but no thanks for trying and failing.

Chucks13:
And that same apc that used the insecurity to campaigned are the same demons you are refering to today as your new saviour and messiah in ADC.

Atiku
El rufai
Mallami
These 3 personally imported Fulani millitia to Nigeria to fight Gej just to take power but today you are hailing them simply you hate Tinubu.

Obi on the other side supporting ipob ravaging SE yet he is your messiah so what are you talking?

When did I appoint you as my spokesman

It has to be said out loud. That's because it is an industry for corruption. A war that brings in raw cash. We all know this. APC used it to campaign and they are still using it to campaign after 11 years in government, what does that tell you

mastermaestro:
Since he had a guest (the first lady) who ceremonially in the Nigerian political context is more powerful than him, he should have exercised some decorum. He should have been wiser. On the part of the first lady, she should have tolerated him there and kept the caution for later.

Both of them acted badly, my conclusion.

There's no office of the First Lady.

The First Lady is not elected, she's selected by her husband.

There is no ceremonial recognition to the first lady other than eye service to the president. She is also not representing the Presidency.

At best, they were both Senators. At worst, she is not more powerful than him, ceremonially, culturally or constitutionally.

anonimi:
It’s an irony that this is where Yorubas are today vs. Awolowo’s vision for education, which was sustained by the five UPN progressive governors in the early 1980s.




https://www.nairaland.com/post/8475809



https://www.nairaland.com/post/37753170

You can quote this for all regions. From East to West, and the North. The Premiers then competed to make their regions the best but the governors we have today are a sorry report for progress.

Berankis:
@kobojunkie is coming for you! She will finish you today today.

Don't mind her, I've seen her on other threads before. I said what I said.

They even gave you a certificate without you being there. This war is one you cannot WIN Mr Nyesom Wike.

Wike is not wanted in both APC and PDP. Use and dump. The way Atiku was used and dumped to let APC win while he destroyed PDP, Wike is repeating the same thing.

Only in Africa and parts of Asia that people still give birth. They have tried to throw in contraception but it doesn't work. Look at what she said, she wants to buy a house, property, things. She doesn't want to be a mother. They have succeeded in giving them 'rights' to say my body, my choice. I didn't come to earth to be a mother. Now they have fertility crisis and the cost of giving birth is not just expensive, the cost of living is so expensive that OF is the best alternative. She didn't mention children or anything like that because of she had any maternal instinct in her, she would know which has more honour and why prostitution is not the best option. What child will be happy to see his mom a pro? This is why you need to monitor women. I used to think it was absurd, but the older I get, I understand why there was always a reign on women, or else, they will destroy society completely. They give birth to the world, that's why men had to put some reign in our society was working.

Women are joining the work force to be like men and that is more effective than contraception. Deceive her with the career, tell her she can store her eggs, tell her there is IVF, waste her best years of fertility and when there is a crisis, sell medical solutions to them.

Once you are able to convince women that they don't need to carry a baby, the deal is done. Now they want us to be using science to have babies, sleeping with dolls and selling us all kind of solutions when God gave us free.
Don't take everything from the West, you're just a commodity to them.

It's an irony that this is where we are today vs Sardauna's vision on education

plaetton:
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Correction:
The Sarduana labored for a Northern Nigeria that is exactly what it is today.

The Sarduana never believed in a truly united Nigeria where every part of the country had equal access. The Sarduana dreamed of a Nigeria of Northern Supremacy, not a united, equally yoked nation sharing the same dreams.

Subsequent leaders of Northern Nigeria have viewed a truly united and equal Nigeria with the same contempt and delusions of a God-given dominion over resources of the nation.

Of course, the Sarduana could not have had the foresight to have seen the dangerous seeds he was sowing.

And so, "The Chickens have come to roost".
The North is characterized by people and leaders who are too afraid to play and compete fairly in any area of economic and political life.

The leaders, often bereft of modern innovative ideas, choose the easy way of using religion as a very convenient camouflage to continue to perpetuate their feudalistic worldview.
Today, Sarduana's Northern Nigeria is the poorest and most dangerous place on Earth.

Great Job Sarduana!

Your short-sighted legacy lives on.

Have you read this book about him?

Remember he was protecting his region and Nigeria is a forced union of the North and South. Nigeria started as the Northern region, Southern region and Lagos.

He was a champion for education. Don't forget that the North did not want Nigeria to be independent at '56. This led to a lot of competition among the regions - North, East and West in the 60s. What is the out of school stats of Nigeria today? Most of it is in the North! Shame on the north for this disgrace.

Nyascobar1414:
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Pls elucidate on that statement.. a man women know is trying to avoid them..

Like I wanna know,how that man is dangerous

While women h8 men that make advances at them, they don't like men who are also too tough and don't accept their advances.

Women reject the man who approaches too readily, yet they are equally displeased with the man who remains too self-contained to acknowledge their own advances.

In this paradox, a man should be careful after mrejecting a woman's advance because her rejection can lead to your ejection. She will frame you up without you knowing it's because of your tough stance. That one is more dangerous because you never see it coming but it's her payback for not being able to control you.

From time immemorial, women have always been used to get the strongest men. As a man, you should have principles. It will save you from trouble.

crixlight2:
So because you dislike Tinubu now , if dey give you am appointment into a position that your good heart will surely elevate many people from problems, you will rather turn the job down and allow bad person to take up the job and destroy more lives ?. Sometimes we don't know the difference between serving your country or serving a politician. If you are appointed as PA to Tinubu then you are serving him but if you are appointed as a minister you are simply serving your country because your handwork we affect so many lives. Reno Omokri nomination is not serving tinubu but working for his country. So please if you are giving a position as a good man please take it and help people in that environment because if you say you won't take it because you hate tinibu and a terrible person pick up that post you don't have right to criticize that person because you have the opportunity to make a different

Some things are not as clear as the surface. And this is not about Tinubu or whoever the President is. It happens every time around the world.

Mr Olaleye, Big Brother is watching you. Welcome to UK, the capital of CCTVs, only close to China.

Sorry you had to learn the hard way. You know what is more dangerous? A man women know is trying to avoid them. We are not the only hunters, women too de hunt. Once they know you have an open door policy, they will try to shut that door. It annoys some women to know they don't have bottom power over you. Women are funny creatures. Deal with them like the devil and the long spoon.

honour8:
that any position you are given, do good by that position, rather than not accepting it, because you think you are too good or too righteous.

Na so Tai Solarin and Wole Soyinka collect appointment from IBB. We need to know what we stand for and everyone has their roles to play. It's a test on character, similar to what's happening to Reno now.

“Do not endorse what you believe is wrong.”

If you have consistently criticized someone’s values or actions, accepting a role under that person can be a tacit endorsement of what you believe to be harmful.

Integrity means your actions must align with your stated beliefs.

If the position requires supporting policies you find unethical, taking it violates personal moral coherence. Saying no protects your integrity from being weaponized by someone else’s agenda.

Your experience is not proof that marriage is bad or having a second wife is bad or marrying a single mom is bad.

Why do good marriages make no news? Because pilot wey de land plane safely no de enter news. Na when plane crash we go know cabin crew.

What's the word of the year? Rage bait

A terrorist renamed by APC as bandit will probably have an IED which will take them both or a bullet proof. The audacity of the terrorist to stand in front of the APC politiciansl says a lot.

Kelklein:
Even the pipeline Security that is their main Constituency and the reason fir their establishment had since been taken over by private outfits and military, as the threats worsened.

NSCDC was established during the civil war in 1967.

Pious101:
u better not make d guy regret his actions. Trust is difficult to come by this days especially without someone u have not seen before

I am also watching. I will follow this thread because what that guy has done is a test. A big test.

Atiku led the way for PDP to be decimated in 2014-15 because he didn't get the party's ticket. He was useful to Tinubu and APC the same way Wike was useful to them in 2023. Those who destroy from inside are stronger than those who try to destroy from outside.