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MisterKennedy:
I know you said no guy should send you any unsolicited messages, but I honestly love your honesty. You really took out time to explain all the features you want and admire in a man... That's cool... My curiosity drove me to check out your profile and I can tell that, not only are you a very beautiful woman, you are also a very intelligent woman. And I see it in the way you chat too. Your flow of chat and sentence structure and grammar is so on point and off the charts. If wishes were horses right now, I'd love to ask you for your number so that we could be communicating off Nairaland. You are the kind of lady I honestly want to make my friend. Would you please give me your number? Or can I give you mine instead please?

You checked her profile and didn't see her number there?

Diamond098454:
Hahaha🤣🤣🤣
You are right
Is just that while growing up my parents especially my dad was very tough and still tough on me till date
I don't have that can of freedom

Good for you. You made me remember this comment in the past about the girl child and why they were hard on her compared to the boys👇

SixSeven:
I posted a video in my last comment. One of the reasons I don't bother arguing with women and don't give a damn about whether they think my comment is pandering or not is because with time, women eventually find out the truth. Time is a beautiful patient bride for men but an ugly tortuous truth for women. I need to copyright that. Women also don't like being told the truth, so keep telling them beautiful lies if you want to make them happy.

What happens to these women is that they have to settle. It was never a competition but the system does not favor men initially, it beats them but once you clock 30, things start to change. Men who learned from the beatings will start to look good while women who didn't know time changes yesterday will wake up to the reality of a new dawn. This is why the world always tried to raise the girl child more than the boy child because men can make many mistakes and still recover. A woman's recovery is usually hard if she makes mistakes, so man overtime knew this and wanted to raise her because they knew the future isn't nice, it can be harsh.

It's often too late before women realize in their 40s that the select few men they want are either married or not interested in them because of their age. They are then susceptible to fork boys/men and younger men who are still discovering themselves and not emotionally/financially mature for them. Women know themselves, that's why it's usually difficult for mothers to accept their sons marrying an old woman say 25 yo man vs 40 yo woman. The women know themselves. Women wake up one day later in life to see they are not as beautiful as they thought and newer editions have come out. Attention has gone to the beautyful ones who are born and trending.

A man is never ugly... Buchi Emecheta

Now, do you regret your dad's cover or you think it was overbearing and how will you raise yours differently?

fattprince:
You don't get it do you?. She's not asking them to do it, she's only telling those in it to stay focused and quickly come out of it. It's like telling your son, I don't support you having sex as a teenager but if you going to disobey and have sex anyways, please use a condom. Even if the teenage boy go on and have sex with condoms but you found out, that doesn't still stop you from punishing him for disobeying you. It's just a case of trying to protect him as far as you can.

Did you watch the video? Watch it from 0:30 mark

Aprocco:
What is the correlation of Ashawo, drinking, smoking that you decide to do with your body and CRIMES punishable under law huh?

Behaviors such as prostitution, excessive drinking, and smoking are often associated with environments where crime rates may be higher, but they are not automatically crimes in themselves in every society.

Criminology studies show that heavy alcohol use is linked to violence, impaired judgment, and disorderly conduct, while prostitution in many regions can become connected to trafficking, drug activity, exploitation, or organized crime because of the surrounding networks involved.

Smoking and drinking may also correlate with risky lifestyles or poor decision-making in some cases. However, the law primarily punishes direct criminal acts such as assault, theft, trafficking, fraud, or violence, not simply personal lifestyle choices. Therefore, the connection is usually indirect and environmental rather than proof that everyone engaging in those behaviors is inherently criminal.

You know there are platforms like OF where they may not need to be in physical touch with the customer if they choose to but it still sells their dignity and humanity. A job that exposes the women to more danger even on the internet is not safe for them.

Diamond098454:
We are not learning anything from them. That's why I choose to stay here reading news and opinions than following those ladies.

But you and I know that a lot of ladies are impressionable. You know especially since you have female friends. I don't know who you are or your background but news is not even what female gender are generally interested in and that is not a stereotype. The hosts of various news programs are always happy when a woman calls in. Even sometimes to topics that are about women, na men go de call in de discuss but when it comes to gist, don't waste your time, they will contribute before you invite them.



https://www.tiktok.com/video/7583196115223334151
Back to your comment, only a handful of women take interest in what's not entertainment and celebrity things. It's the impressionable character of women that makes men take advantage of them and every time you read the news, you ask yourself aren't these ones aware of what's happening in the world? Do they want to waste their lives? Aren't they thinking of the risks of what they just did? Before thinking it's about Nigerian women, no. The fashion industry and beauty industry knew about this for women and unlocked the code so I won't take it lightly because many girls look up to her. Their frontal lobes are yet to develop and they will make a costly decision of their lives due to bad advice. Mistakes women make are like tattoos, hard to remove. Na men be dia customers so I also know my gender, I won't advice my enemy's daughter to even try it, it will never end well, even just 1x

Some social psychology research suggests that women, on average, may be more responsive to social influence and peer approval than men in certain interpersonal settings. Studies on conformity and group dynamics, including work influenced by Solomon Asch’s experiments, found that women were sometimes more likely to adjust their expressed opinions to align with a group consensus, particularly in public or relationship-oriented situations. Researchers have linked this to social conditioning that encourages agreeableness, emotional sensitivity, and social cohesion in women from an early age.

Evidence from marketing and social media studies also shows that female consumers are often more influenced by peer recommendations, community trends, and social validation when making decisions.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7579184324231187724

TPain but Bayo said no

Shikena:
They know nothing, it's just typical stereotyping by hypocrites.

Okay thank you. That I disagree with her comments does not mean I will say what I don't know about her.

boxypane:
What morality were we expecting from someone in the same line.

You are the second person saying something like this on this topic. I don't know her to well, I know her as a movie maker but except the interviews she has given and I've watched, I don't know about her personal life or follow gossip. Are you insinuating what I'm thinking?

AlabiKILLER2023:
Morality ain't for a hungry man

Even in extreme conditions, people still make moral choices, sometimes at real cost to themselves.

Plenty of people in extreme hardship still stick to moral limits rather than crossing certain lines. Morality becomes harder to prioritize when survival is on the line and that is a tactic of this government, although that's a subject of another day. I won't revel in poverty competition but some people are poorer than Nigerians and still did not sell their morals.

Starz825:
Ya'all be stupidddd...if you take her statement out of context...

She is not advising anyone to be ashawo..

She is talking to those who are already in the hookup business not to stay there.

I understand you are an ashawo / a runs girl...but dont remain like that.


Ya'all struggles with comprehension.

Quite obvious you didn't watch the video

I talk am. Gaslighting at its peak.

They will deny what has happened and distract you. They will never take responsibility

gaslighting
/ˈɡaslʌɪtɪŋ/
noun
the practice of psychologically manipulating someone into questioning their own sanity, memory, or powers of reasoning.

This is their propaganda army, they will alter your reality

They are skilled in denials and deviation from the main topic.

THE SIGNS OF GASLIGHTING

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and abuse concentrated on making someone doubt reality.

Blatant lying or constant coverups.

Actions contradict words. Broken promises.

Feeling like you have to defend reality.

Your self- esteem slowly erodes away & you begin to question what is real. You start to think you are bad or crazy.

Denying conversations or events ever happened.

Manipulating others to see you differently.

Diamond098454:
Is not a good advice at all but you don't need to take it personal.
Calm down

Not taking it personal but yesterday was international children's day. She has a sphere of influence that has to be guarded by what she says in public. If she was on cruise mode or non serious platform, I will ignore it. Imagine a man said the same thing

Diamond098454:
I don't think she is serious

I am disgusted because she has daughters too and I can bet my two bum bum that she can never give them this kind of advice. Also, she was trying to justify why they do it eg some of them have to feed their family, they have to do this and that. Call me old school, illicit money can never ever ever give you satisfaction. There is always a price to pay.

So long as an evil deed has not ripened, the fool thinks it as sweet as honey. But when the evil deed ripens, the fool comes to grief.

She is a Nollywood director or producer or whatever, let her keep directing the script

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7352258406142496005

Sakobi: The Snake Girl (1998)
Frank (Saint Obi) is a desperate man who joins a snake cult for quick wealth. He is ordered to sacrifice his young daughter, but the snake goddess rejects the innocent child. Instead of riches, Frank is cursed with a short lifespan. He tries to break the curse, but the cult catches him, and the movie ends with Sakobi turning into a giant snake and swallowing him whole.


Blood Money: The Vulture Men (1997)
Mike (Zack Orji) loses his job and joins a deadly secret cult called the Vultures to get rich. He accidentally sacrifices his friend's son for his initial wealth. When the cult demands a fresh sacrifice years later to keep the money flowing, Mike spirals into madness and sacrifices his own wife and mother. He spends the rest of the movie haunted by their vengeful ghosts.
If you want, I can give you a one-sentence summary of either film, or list the main actors involved.

Wealthoptulent:
hmm, well our PLIGHTS are DIFFERENT

Again, economic hardship may explain why people make certain choices, but it does not automatically make every choice wise, honorable, or worthy of encouragement.

Our values matter most when life becomes difficult, because hardship tests character, patience, and self-restraint. While we must be sensitive to the present economic conditions, our society must be careful not to normalize what harms dignity, peace of mind, or long-term well-being.

A wise person does not trade the greater good for a lesser gain.

eepeepook:
Whatever you pick for a profession, do it well. Good advice.

Thieves should do it well, they can rape and maim as they wish

Terrorists should do it well, they can have government contract

Thugs should do it well, they can become doctors

Electoral riggers should do it well, they can count 136 as 9000 votes

Bandits should do it well, they can always repent

A fraudster should scam people only long enough to escape poverty

A corrupt politician should embezzle strategically, then retire gracefully

A drug dealer should sell carefully and invest in a better future

A father would never let his daughter do something like that or even encourage her to do it. There is nothing like I don't judge.

What she is saying is wrong and it is more disappointing to see that there are young girls there in the studio. Anyway, Morayo and her husband de talk for the same show, let her ask her husband the same question. No sane man worth his salt will give such advice. Women and their dangerous advice. It should be condemned.

Circumstances can make someone be on the wrong path but she made no sense in saying stay there, do ashewo well but don't stay there. Shaffy, do not teach people to become comfortable with what harms them. There is nothing to understand there. You don't need to be liked to say the truth and be firm with it, you don't need to be politically correct. I am not going to preach because of the economy but economic factors have never been an excuse for us to lose our morality and dignity because we know the end as a people.

1. Hasten to do good; restrain your mind from evil.
2. He who is slow in doing good, his mind delights in evil.
3. Should a person commit evil, let him not do it again and again.
4. Let him not find pleasure therein, for painful is the accumulation of evil.

As a Yoruba woman, she should know better and promote the values of her culture than this misguided talk.

There are 36 State governors. Name withheld and a representative speaking on his behalf is nonsense.

lionshare:
. What sort of irrational comparison is this? Every other time you guys keep making a ridicule of what opposition should be. Terribly bereft of logic—comparing a president to an electoral umpire. Cmon

Both Jega and Yakubu, our electoral umpires in the last 3 elections have been given posts by the government that benefitted from it. Ask your AI to write a better response.

They will manipulate your reality

gaslighting
/ˈɡaslʌɪtɪŋ/
noun
the practice of psychologically manipulating someone into questioning their own sanity, memory, or powers of reasoning.

zinaunreal:
Nigerians, soon on radio or TV shows, the presenter will ask you when you call in : where are you suffering from

Nairaland no go kee me

She only wants a share of the pie. That's all. She already did this when her father became president and this is her best time to make demands, they will listen to her.

Mariangeles:
They know the truth.

Men would rather be unconscious around women than men.

No lies in what you quoted but a kind person is a kind person. Some women will be scared of being in this state beside a man and the man will take care of her without violating her body while some men will be in this state and other men will protect him. The same way a woman is afraid of being vulnerable in front of men is the same way men are also vulnerable in front of women because that is their time of weakness and they can be poisoned or killed in this weak state. A kind person is a kind person but overall I agree with the nurturing spirit of women but there are also wicked women who will see your end in that state. I don't want to make it a gender competition...

fergie001:
Whilst I am uncomfortable with the renaming of that terminal after a public official who did her job, if any Party should criticise it should never be this Party.

The same Party that rewarded Jega, then Yakubu... Imagine!
This country and its anyhowness sef

How was Jega rewarded? He successfully completed his official five-year term and bowed out of office on June 30, 2015.

By law, Jega was fully eligible for a second 5-year term extension under the incoming administration. However, Jega publicly stated that he actively chose not to seek or accept a reappointment. He explained that he wanted to build an institution that did not rely on just one man and believed it was time for fresh leadership to step in.

DomPerignon:
And I responded to your post castigating Atiku that obi is even a more treacherous and unreliable selfish politician than Atiku.

Your Obi will never ever be President.

Okay

DomPerignon:
Your obi has done worse .

Obi is not mine but I expected nothing more from you. The person I quoted was about Atiku.

franchasng:
Atiku ought to have realized by now that he cannot win because he has no influential Southern politician again like in the past to help him get votes in the whole Southern Nigeria and no Governor is backing him again like in 2023.


Yes Atiku will win the highest number of votes in Northeast and Northwest but that is where his vote will end.


If Atiku is realistic and strategic enough, he ought to shock Tinubu by collapsing his structure to back NDC under a strict written agreement.


If Atiku decides to contest as it is currently, he will only end up dividing Northern votes and that will be to Tinubu's disadvantage.


If this election goes free and fair as expected, Peter Obi will emerge winner because his voting bloc regions will not be affected by Atiku Abubakar this time.

Southeast, SouthSouth and Northcentral that are Peter Obi's voting blocs are still in tact with Atiku in the race. Peter Obi's youthful voters are in tact because they despise Atiku for being stubborn and not letting equity reign. They don't even want to hear the name Tinubu to talk of voting for him.


Now you go to the North which was Tinubu's main voting bloc in 2023, with Tinubu's tribalism and sidelining of Northerners that helped him win in 2023, Tinubu have automatically lost Northern bloc vote. Atiku will inherit majority of Buhari's Northern support. Now with Peter Obi aligning with a formidable Northern politician with a phenomenal Kwankwasiya movement, Obi will gain more votes in the North than he got in 2023 even though he won't win North but he will perform far better than he did in 2023.


So if you sincerely analyze the 2027 Presidential election with:


Tinubu in APC
Atiku in ADC
Peter Obi in NDC


You can clearly see that Peter Obi has won the election already.


The only thing that would have affected Peter Obi's voting blocs is if Goodluck Jonathan contested, and now that it is clear that Goodluck Jonathan won't be contesting, it has become more clearer than Peter Obi is the next Nigeria's President

Atiku's selfishness is why we are here today and I don't need him to collapse any structure. He has been played right, left and center. He destroyed his own PDP for his own selfish ambition (Obi, Atiku and Kwankwaso were originally in PDP) and joined forces with ACN to bring in Buhari. When they played him, he went back to PDP and now to ADC. He called for a coalition of opposition for his own selfish ambition once again, until it collapsed. That's why I don't see much difference between him and his friend, Tinubu. They believe money can be spent to solve the problem and get whatever they want and Nigerians are tired of the money politics. Atiku is an old man, he won't listen. They say you don't teach an old dog new tricks. Let him enjoy his ambition.

SixSeven:
Atiku should know that time does not favor him anymore just as time does not favor Jonathan who can actually come back one more time now that we have seen the best APC can offer. But make no mistakes, leave when the ovation is loudest. I can't blame him, seeing Tinubu grab it, snatch it and run away with it really motivated him, that's why he has hope and you can't take a man's hope from him, he only renewed it

Buhari also deceived him with the hope that you can try just one more time, when you have given up hope and you will win but he needs to read the room. No one is motivated by Atiku so his campaign will be for those deceiving him. He doesn't realize that Buhari of 8 years and Tinubu of 4 years and his association with both of them has cost him the chance to have his turn. Take away that money he has from him, he will bury that hope.

Repost👇
Atiku performance has been poor.
Atiku does not appeal to the youth and going by stats, they are the major voting bloc and will be the only ones to want to come out because whether you like it or not, Tinubu is planning on swimming through voter apathy in 2027. Many of these candidates need to retire, including Obi himself. A child born in 1999 is now 27 and would have gone through his adult life hearing about Tinubu and Atiku. A child born in 1993 when Atiku first contested is now telling his own child that Atiku is the future. How? Let me remind you again

Now that Buhari is dead, he thinks the North will vote for him and all he needs is someone who will help him get Southern votes.

In the three times he appeared on the general ballot for the presidency, Atiku Abubakar received

- 2,637,848 votes (7.47%) in 2007 to finish third,

- 11,262,978 votes (41.22%) in 2019 to finish second, and

- 6,984,520 votes (29.07%) in 2023 to finish second once again.

In the first time the candidate he contested with in 2019 (that gave Atiku his highest vote ever) went to test his popularity in 2023, tell me what was the numbers that candidate got. Obi gave him his best result in 2019 and Obidients today will not be behind Obi himself as Vice. Atiku is repeating the same mistake of the last election, it's not the time of the North. If he forces his way, the likes of Momodu and Okonkwo will happily help him spend his money on a fool's paradise.

The way Yakubu got an appointment is how some people....

Two wrongs don't make a right but damn, APC, where were you when👇

1. Where were you when the Abuja International Conference Centre (AICC) was renamed to the Bola Ahmed Tinubu International Conference Centre at ₦39 billion naira in 2025?

2. Where were you when the National Assembly Library and Resource Centre was built to the Senator Bola Ahmed Tinubu Building at an undisclosed naira amount in 2024? (Note: Built entirely from scratch and inaugurated in 2024, the precise final construction cost was kept internal to the National Assembly budget rather than publicised at ₦3 billion).

3. Where were you when the Southern Parkway was renamed by Wike to the Bola Ahmed Tinubu Way at ₦35.76 billion naira in 2024? (Note: Originally awarded in 2010 for ₦16.23 billion, the final project cost was officially revised and completed at ₦35.76 billion).

4. Where were you when the Nigeria Immigration Service Command and Control Centre was built/upgraded to the Bola Ahmed Tinubu Technology Innovation Complex (BATTIC) at an undisclosed naira amount in 2024?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UzLlwl0fAuo

5. Where were you when the New Army Barracks Asokoro was built to the Bola Ahmed Tinubu Barracks at an unclassified naira amount in 2025? (Note: Phase 1 finished in January 2025, and Phase 2 launched in December 2025).


6. Where were you when the Federal Polytechnic Gwarinpa was announced to be built as the Bola Ahmed Tinubu Polytechnic at a pending budget naira amount in 2025?



The cable has a publication titled
Seven places named after Tinubu since he became president

President Bola Ahmed Tinubu officially accepted his victory and received the All Progressives Congress (APC) 2026 winning flag and Certificate of Return at the Bola Ahmed Tinubu International Conference Centre (formerly the International Conference Centre) in Abuja.

Usually Presidents have the decency to let someone else name things after them but we know how it's going

piriton:
I was thinking they were happy removing saraki and co. I knew they will still regret it but just time.

But they needed to remove Saraki, the problem with our people is that they don't keep the fire on. They turn the heat low instead of holding whoever gets there accountable from start to finish.

Mccullum:
After watching the video, it's obvious that few people within larger numbers of people singing against APC, others were looking at them in dismay.

It's staged manage by the planners of this acts to disgrace their governor and his party. I sensed opposition politicians behind it.

You could be right but don't forget that something like this happened in the same state under the otoge movement and APC was happy to milk it then. Maybe karma is working now.

Maybe just call on an experienced technician to fix it, at least for safety. Safety is most important. This practice is common in India.

A statement by the Chief Press Secretary to Governor Monday Okpebholo, Dr. Patrick Ebojele said some students out of excitement became unruly and in the process, one of the security agencies trying to restore order released the tear gas that affected the students.

😐

Just a few days after EFCC did their own at a hospital. At this level, I won't be surprised if our security agencies go to a graveyard just to see if all of them are really dead dead