₦airaland Forum

grandstar:
The only thing worse than being a single mum is a culture that promotes it.

A single mom to me has only 2 primary routes if she wants to settle down: drop the child with her parents, or be chaste until she ties the knot so that men won't take advantage of her "desperation."

We have accepted the culture and we are now seeing the effect of the culture in our lives. I started ringing the bell from Davido or Wizkid because of their influence. I don't rate men who don't do the right thing. I don't even have a problem with them but promoting it and making it look normal and not shaming it the way we used to do is what has happened to us now. Where there are no consequences, people are bold. That's why Idris Okuneye can be an inspiration to men behaving like women today.

I believe in tradition. It may not be compulsory to marry but that institution must be protected. These women, some of them don't have proper guidance and these fork boys are here telling us single mama this, single mama that. No shame. What happened to the men?

We need to save our society from dysfunction.

1. Protect the sanctity of marriage
2. Shut down these fornicators
3. Help men and women raise a family

Fornicators are proud to show-off their work but the effect is disastrous. People think it's okay to have sex with no limits. We are animals, we need to release sexual tension but it has to be done the right way. Let people who have sense and want the good of society have the louder voices than these fork boys who love life as fantasy but hate the reality of responsibility.

Kharol1234:
See the face na we understand why 🤣🤣🤣

It's actually proven that you can see people through their eyes or face.

SixSeven:
The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

Women need real men that will straighten them out. Where are the men

You people copied the thing the government used against the Blacks in US and left your culture. Now you are telling us about single moms 🤡 Nonsense

In some cultures, the brother married off his late bro's wife because women were never treated like Street Vendors and abandoned. I blame women too because western influence has deceived them with one yeye independence and fake patriarchy that we are having more kids without dads because of some strong head women.

Where is the honor our women once had?

Who are the men getting them pregnant and leaving them?

Who are the families allowing their daughters wore about?

You can't just blame the women. Men are the biggest culprits because let's assume women are moomoo as many of you claim, who are the moomoo men planting their seeds in her 🤡 Weak men. Clowns.

The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

grandstar:
Don't forget that he has about 30 governors ready to praise singers come 2027. I don't see how he won't win.

Wait for the primaries before you say uhuru. That's when the saboteurs will start to show face.

Obi has the brightest chance going by the last election result followed by Kwankwanso. I choose these two because they left PDP and did not have the structure of the regular party, which Atiku benefitted from using the PDP platform. You also have to look at the time they had to test themselves between the election primaries and election.

If you want to know what that means, Ribadu ran the Presidential election in 2011 under AC and failed with that party structure. Obi and Kwankwanso have been able to test their popularity as candidates outside the regular establishments and done well. Both had no Governors in their party before contesting and pulled a good number in the last election.


Obi and Saraki/Kwankwanso

A Saraki will be a difficult campaign for APC that has defaulted to using tribes against themselves. Saraki ticks two boxes of Yoruba/North Central who have been looking for relevance since Gowon.

Latakia:
Pray, emulate Peter Obi and get yourself a wife but don't stress yourself if your wife cheat on you.

Please grow up. This is so distasteful. You people should learn where to draw the line between politics and fanaticism.

What a prolific rate of using your private orifice for sexual sacrifice and public promiscuity subscriptions. Because of your post, I know today's date. I had to check. 20/17 =?

Life's lesson will keep repeating itself until you learn the lesson. You don't need any advice sir. You will advise yourself in due time. Enjoy your winning sinning streak.

boxypane:
Who introduced Door Die politics? The PDP where most of these politicians came from started this unfortunate action. If most Nigerians are forgetful, then it's quite unfortunate.
They all of a sudden find their senses when they are out of power.

You have to give it to PDP because it was under the that Yar Adua accepted that we couldn't continue that way, admitting he was a beneficiary of the rogue election. At least they corrected themselves. If it wasn't for their corrections with the electoral law, no opposition would have won and PDP will be in power for 65 years.

Racoon:
These are two terrible precedence set by the APC that will continue to hunt this nation.No wonder this nation totters from one dangerous precipice to another. Gang of die hard criminals.

Democracy is a scam if one country can decide how crazy another's democracy is crazy. Demonstration of craze...

This is why it will not work in Africa because it's crazy how the demo works here. The rulers have figured out how to manipulate the system to benefit them without direct responsibility.

In 1999 - 2003, the Executive did not like the Legislature and orchestrated the removal of the Senate and Reps different times. However you must be aware that the leaders of those houses were not 100% clean. Do you remember Salisu and Toronto Certificate? Within four years, the Senate alone had three presidents. Salisu Buhari’s removal over the Toronto certificate scandal was justified on ethical grounds, but the speed and coordination of the process revealed something deeper, the executive influence was never far away. Evan Enwerem and later Chuba Okadigbo fell amid allegations of misconduct, yet the pattern suggested that leadership crises were being managed politically, not institutionally. Accountability was selective, reactive, and often convenient for the power brokers. Nigeria began its democratic process on a faulty foundation. The Governors will learn after the 2003 tsunami by the PDP how to grab it in the next paragraph.


In 2003–07, the major issue of this tenure was the attempt tamper with constitutional limits through political pressure. Even though Obasanjo denies it today, there is enough documentation on how the third-term agenda was not just about tenure elongation but it was a stress test of whether constitutional rules could withstand executive might. The Legislature was flooded with inducements and intimidation. That the amendment failed remains significant, but equally significant is how close it came to succeeding. Democracy survived this phase by a narrow margin, not by institutional strength but thank God it survived. Credit to Sen Ken Nnamani.


In 2007–11, this tenure combined electoral legitimacy collapse, legislative scandal, and executive weakness. The 2007 elections severely damaged democratic credibility, yet governance proceeded without correction. Yar Adua's attempt to correct the anomaly of an election succeeded a bit when he set up an electoral panel to review our electoral system. Inside the Legislature, the Patricia Etteh crisis and later the Dimeji Bankole era exposed how leadership of the House became entangled with patronage and post-tenure criminalisation. The defining rupture, however, was Yar’Adua’s illness and death. The secrecy surrounding presidential incapacity paralysed governance and exposed a constitutional vacuum. The “Doctrine of Necessity” that elevated the Vice President was a timely fix but it also confirmed that Nigeria’s democracy often survives by improvisation rather than adherence to clear rules. Thank you Dora Akunyili and we can't forget the role of Mr Aondoaka and those who claimed that the President could rule from anywhere in the world. A pattern that will be repeated later under Buhari and now, Tinubu. This period was where the Governors started learning to cut their teeth. They became more influential in Nigerian politics. The Governors' Forum was influencing national politics. This was the period of one party state by PDP that made Ogbulafor boast that PDP will rule for 60 years. Obasanjo had taught the Governors lessons but Yar Adua and Jonathan's scholarly approach to democracy may have cost us a lesson on tight fisted executive.

DORA AKUNYILI'S EXPLOSIVE MESSAGE TO YAR'ADUA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=47UulCINeuo

In 2011–15, the main issue of this period was oversight without enforcement. The National Assembly appeared assertive, especially during the fuel subsidy probe, which revealed massive corruption. Yet the failure to secure decisive prosecutions weakened public trust. You must remember that Farouk Lawan was recently forgiven in the Tinubu's presidential pardon list but what he did at that time was a symbol of the corruption at the top. At the same time, electoral reforms under Attahiru Jega restored some credibility to elections, creating a contrast between improving electoral process and stagnant governance accountability. Democracy looked better at the ballot box than in outcomes. Change became possible but the Governors played a major role in redesigning how party politics was. The party was no longer the class captain, each Governor was now taking hold of the party structure at each state.

AUDIO: The $3 million conversation between Farouk Lawan and Femi Otedola - Part 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUnWDgEMDa8

$3million bribery: Farouk Lawan request removal of Otedola's company from fuel subsidy report

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v7gzT5vd0vE


In 2015–19, this tenure was dominated by open institutional confrontation. Bukola Saraki’s emergence as Senate President against party and executive preference triggered years of conflict. His trial at the Code of Conduct Tribunal placed the Judiciary squarely within political struggle. Simultaneously, the Executive openly disobeyed court orders in security-related cases, signalling impatience with judicial restraint. This was not just an executive–legislative problem, it was a systemic breakdown of respect among arms of government because APC was in power, so yih can't blame the opposition. Power was increasingly exercised as moral authority rather than constitutional obligation.
The first attack on the judicial system began here with the Onnoghen trial by the Buhari government. The death of the media also started during this time. APC, which had oiled the machinery of the media to their advantage could not let the same machine take them out. They came out hard on critical thinking and through the Minister of Information, the Press review started here.


In 2019–23, the tenure was defined by the open surrender of legislative independence. Unlike earlier Assemblies that at least struggled with the Executive, this one publicly embraced alignment as a governing principle. Legislative leaders openly described the National Assembly as a “partner” rather than a check. Oversight weakened noticeably. Budgets were passed with little resistance, confirmations sailed through, and major policy questions rarely produced institutional pushback. The loss of teeth was not accidental. Senate President Ahmed Lawan repeatedly framed the National Assembly as a “partner” of the Executive rather than a check on it. In public statements, he emphasized working “in harmony” with the presidency to pass legislation and implement national policies, warning against “unnecessary grandstanding” that could delay governance. Oversight weakened - bills, budgets, and ministerial confirmations proceeded with minimal scrutiny. A prominent example was Godswill Akpabio’s smooth confirmation as Minister of Niger Delta Affairs, which drew little interrogation despite prior controversies. Please off your mic. Committees that would normally probe ministers or government contracts rarely escalated findings, signaling a tacit decision that cooperation, not confrontation, was the guiding principle. The loss of teeth was not accidental, it was openly acknowledged, marking a clear departure from Assemblies that had previously struggled even contentiously to assert themselves.
Democracy during this period functioned procedurally but hollowly, with elections and legislative processes intact but scrutiny and accountability diminished.

From 2023–present, the current 10th National Assembly has intensified this pattern. It had easily won the worst National Assembly even before concluding its tenure. Senate and House leaders, including Akpabio, have publicly reinforced the idea that lawmakers are not elected “to fight the Executive” but to collaborate on national priorities. Akpabio stressed that legislators should support executive-led bills that serve the nation, even if critics label this a “rubber-stamp” legislature. Committees continue to exist, but oversight has become largely symbolic. Critical national issues, security challenges, rising inflation, and controversial economic policies see limited legislative pushback. What stands out is not conflict but its absence, making it clear that the Legislature now prioritizes alignment and on a mandate they wish to stand on with the executive over independent scrutiny. In practical terms, the National Assembly functions, but as a facilitator of executive priorities rather than a co-equal branch ensuring accountability. This Assembly has trashed any respect whatsoever you may have for the Legislature. Publicly singing on your mandate they shall stand, trying to praise the President's work and laughing over serious issues that affect Nigerians or completely ignoring them have made them weaker than the whisker of a cat.

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Looking at Nigeria’s National Assembly from 1999 to today, a clear pattern stands out. Each four-year tenure faced big challenges, but the Legislature often let itself be shaped by politicians and party leaders instead of standing up to protect the people’s interests. The 10th Assembly shows this clearly. Leaders openly put the President’s wishes above their constitutional duty. They approve bills and budgets without asking tough questions. Committees that should investigate government programs barely do their work. By choosing to cooperate instead of check power, the Legislature has weakened democracy from within. At the same time, the Judiciary has often compromised, bending under pressure or choosing caution, which has limited its ability to fully check government power. Go to court!!!


This problem is not unique to Nigeria. In countries like Venezuela, democracy exists on paper but is erased by politicians who manipulate institutions for their own gain. We can see the same pattern here. But pointing out these failures does not give outsiders the right to lecture Venuezela. Even strong democracies like the United States struggle with their own political crises and institutional problems. True democracy only works when the people and their own institutions hold power accountable. No one else can do it for us.

©️ SixSeven


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Stephen0mozzy:
When you get so wealthy that you can give your kids privilege, also instill in them DISCIPLINE AND SELF-CORRECTING MORAL COMPASS.

Omo I felt so sorry seeing the father typing that out on social media? To start writing that story for your child in an Africa where a child never uses his left hand to point to his father's house? Millennials lost the art of parenting.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7592651197383822647

You people didn't learn from Yar'Adua and Buhari. Aloota Continúa...

Someone told you he would continue from where Buhari stopped. Did he lie
If you guys were comfortable with it for 100 days+ of Yar Adua and more from Buhari in 8 years, why are you wailing now? Those who refuse to learn from history will repeat the same mistake. Good luck to Nigeria and its retirement home for Presidents.

yetunsbay:
what stops you from leading the way ?

What stops me? Why do you want to wait for my lead? I am responsible for myself and do my thing. If we all did this individually and not wait for another man's son/daughter to lead the way, we will better for it. Did anyone of those fans wait for Super Eagles Supporters Club President to lead the way before they went attacking others? NO.

That brain they had to lead themselves is what they should use for their lives. Football is just 90 mins, their own lives is more than a tournament where they will not share the match bonuses or prize with them. The people can use their head.

The Iran we see today is a by-product of US intervention in the country. The only problem is that it didn't go as they planned. Now they want to correct the 'mistake'.
Watch this to educate yourself:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m23pywBTNQY

I asked AI to list some countries US lied to us about

Here’s a high-level, clean list suitable for a post, written in short paragraph form and without bullets.

1. Iraq (2003): The U.S. claimed Iraq possessed weapons of mass destruction and posed an imminent threat. Those claims were false. The invasion destroyed the Iraqi state, killed hundreds of thousands, destabilized the region, and directly contributed to the rise of ISIS.

2. Libya (2011): The U.S. and NATO said intervention was necessary to prevent an imminent genocide by Gaddafi. That justification was never substantiated. The regime was removed without a plan for what followed, leaving Libya a failed state plagued by civil war, militias, and human trafficking.

3. Vietnam (1964–1975): The Gulf of Tonkin incident was used to justify full-scale war. The key incident cited never occurred. The war devastated Vietnam, Laos, and Cambodia, killing millions and ending in U.S. withdrawal.

4. Afghanistan (2001–2021): The war began as retaliation for 9/11, but the public was told for years that democracy and stability were being built. Internal documents later showed U.S. officials knew the effort was failing. After twenty years, the Taliban returned to power.

5. Syria (2011–present): The U.S. claimed to support moderate opposition forces against Assad. In practice, weapons and funding fueled extremist groups and prolonged the war, contributing to massive displacement and the fragmentation of the country.

6. Yemen (2015–present): The U.S. portrayed its role as limited and defensive while backing the Saudi-led campaign. U.S. weapons and support enabled a war that created the world’s worst humanitarian crisis.

7. Iran (1953): The U.S. claimed it was protecting democracy while covertly overthrowing Iran’s elected prime minister. The coup installed an authoritarian regime and set the stage for decades of instability and hostility.

8. Guatemala (1954): The U.S. said it was stopping communism but intervened to protect corporate and strategic interests. The result was a coup followed by decades of civil war and mass killings of indigenous people.

9. Chile (1973): The U.S. framed its actions as preventing a communist takeover. It destabilized an elected government, leading to a military dictatorship marked by torture, disappearances, and repression.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbs3wcGQcvk

Ever8090:
Make all of them go sit-down for gutter , na how I want take explain to my grandchildren that as giant of Africa, Nigeria can't boast of one hour light I dey think

You are thinking of light when your country is next in line. If your country had played its role in Africa, Libya won't have happened. In the past, before they ca do anything in Africa, they checked with Nigeria first but today, one man in US can call us disgraced country and our President, the so-called powerful man will cowardly keep quiet. If Libya wasn't invaded due to our carelessness, we won't have ISIS in North. Our collective failure as a country has led us where we are today.



What is the centrepiece of Nigeria's foreign policy today? La France! Africa has come of age. Sorry Murtala

Nigerian fans can be nasty. No courtesy. If only they gave their politicians this much hard time. I call them cowards. They prey on the week then pray for their oppressors. What a shame!

Melagros:
COMRADES, these guys want our children to serve their children after we have served their parents. El'Rufai, has succeeded, wike is planning to push his son to the House of Reps. Obasa etc
Nigerians which way?

#TAKEITBACK


I am happy that they are showing you their plans in 3D

I feel sorry for the men today. Not only has the economy given them a middle finger, it has messed with the minds of the girls of today so marriage as an institution is now affected. Men no longer want responsibility and do not want to be taken advantage of. What's the reward?

SixSeven:
I posted a video in my last comment. One of the reasons I don't bother arguing with women and don't give a damn about whether they think my comment is pandering or not is because with time, women eventually find out the truth. Time is a beautiful patient bride for men but an ugly tortuous truth for women. I need to copyright that. Women also don't like being told the truth, so keep telling them beautiful lies if you want to make them happy.

What happens to these women is that they have to settle. It was never a competition but the system does not favor men initially, it beats them but once you clock 30, things start to change. Men who learned from the beatings will start to look good while women who didn't know time changes yesterday will wake up to the reality of a new dawn. This is why the world always tried to raise the girl child more than the boy child because men can make many mistakes and still recover. A woman's recovery is usually hard if she makes mistakes, so man overtime knew this and wanted to raise her because they knew the future isn't nice, it can be harsh.

It's often too late before women realize in their 40s that the select few men they want are either married or not interested in them because of their age. They are then susceptible to fork boys/men and younger men who are still discovering themselves and not emotionally/financially mature for them. Women know themselves, that's why it's usually difficult for mothers to accept their sons marrying an old woman say 25 yo man vs 40 yo woman. The women know themselves. Women wake up one day later in life to see they are not as beautiful as they thought and newer editions have come out. Attention has gone to the beautyful ones who are born and trending.

A man is never ugly... Buchi Emecheta

kushme:
Are you serious? Do you hate truth or pretend a lot for your belle? How would a learned man type this. If this na the educated(deceptive) people to defend thieves we believe in, then its not new.

If you are here to attack, then bye bye sir. I hope you get the help you're looking for.

Obiedun:
If your own son doesn't believe in you, I think I can't believe in you. He sees you more than I do. He knows you more than I do.

What if the son is a plant for Atiku

Don't trust any of these guys, they play the same game in different leagues.

That man who threw stones at big hippo did not let him enjoy his meal, so he spat the boy out. What will the world be without men?

Thank you strong men

kushme:
Don't assume, i am not educated as you, cos i only teach less logical mathematics.
Now, after reaching out to Baba for evidence, he provided the following

From your pictures, maybe the Baba made a mistake of sending it 4x instead of 3x. What I saw there was that he was charged 62 naira for every transaction. Do the math and you see. It looks like 4 transactions, not 3.

1.800
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1.719

Will give you approx 81k.

What is the solution? He can ask the recipient to send the 20k back.

SmartPolician:
I will never forget - that was the first time I started watching CNN! Before that time, I only had access to foreign news on my shortwave radio.

That time, CNN journalists would be covering the war and bombs would go off, they'd shut down the camera and run for their lives

We know the country US is fighting these proxy wars on their behalf. And we know who funds these terrorists but claim to want to rescue the people. Meanwhile, the guy who threw a shoe at Bush is a hero to Iraqis. It's no wonder their soldiers suffer from PTSD because the lies are too much. They have killed innocent souls on behalf of country. They thought they were doing something good only to find out on the field that they were co-opted into lies.

Momodu is not a big fish. He once contested and did badly. Even Sowore has a better record than him. He's a big fish in media but not politics. Let him stick to what he's good at.

I can call Kwankwanso a big fish because he has been able to prove himself. I can call Obi one because he too proved himself but Momodu, NO.

anonimi:
Is this the additional dividends of lawlessness galore in Oshiomhole’s Assembly of Past Criminals, APC

I guess that lawlessness comes naturally to crooks who are trying to destroy our country into their own banana republic, primitive clansmen model of tribalistic chochocho balablu noisemakers.

We are all witnessing Edo State, Oshiomole and Okpenbolo right in front of our eyes. You can't tell me there are no better representation for Edo people who no de carry last. However, like play like play, we can see the thuggish behaviour of his supporters. If we let this slide, Edo go de lead Lagos in Agbero Progressive Governance.

Originality007:
The largest floating slum

It is a shame on the leaders and elites who like to travel abroad to the same floating sums abroad but can't learn the L for their homes.

Just for context, I hope Nigerians and Lagosians are aware that the people of Benin Republic have something like this too.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNKRai82kTY

omoredia:
Life will always be unfair to the poor cos the poor has made it a habit to hate himself

The poor man is he who never has enough.

Chucks13:
Same you said about Pej and she went back to school and today mama is speaking more better.

Same you said about Gov Adeleke and he went back to school and came back in better English.

My credit always goes to people who are not educated but put pride aside and trying to upgrade themselve to be better than a liar who lies over everything.

I'm not mc fan but he tried a bit at least read some letters.

When you write "same you", it's clear it's not me you are writing about.

Proper planning, not adhoc can HELP Lagos State. Was it a coincidence that they chose December period to do this? No problem, but if they want to attract tourists, work with a calendar. You don't come up in September to announce a celebration in December. We like rush rush events, and it results in poor planning. We can do better. Once upon a time, the Calabar Festival was something we looked forward to. I hope we people of Nigeria, in various parts don't let politicians just change our cultural events because they are in charge. A Governor is in office for max 8 years, soldier come, soldier go, mammy market remain.

MasterTeeUSA:
Well US elected a President with 37 felonies...and thats your gold standard. So what is wrong with being a Union Boss. In the history of USA, Union Bosses have never been academic scholars...and yet they control the fabric of all western societies. All politicians seek their support. This is a man whose children are well read and had the opportunities he never had. Show me children of your so-called Professors and Elites...some are nothing to be proud of.

When it comes to comparing bad apples, USA is never far away, when it comes to quality governance and action, USA is the enemy and hypocrites 🤡🧻

The people get what they deserve, if una like, elect primary 4 student to govern you, WYSIWYG. Okpebolo is an example. It's better your bourgeoisie give you those they can easily control than the best of you and you keep defending their 💩