₦airaland Forum

UnknownQueen:
What do you think is the biggest mistake women make before getting married?

Tenrack:
Title please

Tenrack:
women fantasize about romance but only as the receptor of the gestures. Very wicked, selfish and ruthless gender. I wish I knew more bout their conniving nature earlier. When I see a woman, first thing that comes to my mind is, how diabolical is this one?

thatigboman:
There's already a leak of the judgement. That supreme court say the matter should be referred back to high court

Hezzyluv:
This man no dey seriously serious. Just imagine what's coming out from the mouth of the man wey no allow Jonathan drink water keep cup.

The same insecurity caused by Tinubu, Buhari and sundry just to rubbish PDP couldn't be stopped by APC now.

SixSeven:
You have a good observation but don't forget that India has the largest population on earth. It's like someone saying don't take financial advice from Nigerians because....

Now, to the point in the passage. You know our marriages in the past were not based on love? Marriage was based on sustenance and it needed a man and woman to help us manage it and they give birth to go on and on like that. I believe there should be affection but the love nwatiti thing is not entirely ours. We believe that selecting a good family for you itself is love and you grow into it. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that system is perfect but look at what we have today. It's why they are now saying love is blind, marriage is the eye opener.

Maybe the couple should be blind first and then open their eyes to love later

SixSeven:
Marriage Is Not an Achievement But Responsibility Is
Many young people now reject marriage as a measure of success, and they are not wrong. Marriage by itself is not an achievement but it is a social structure. Now let me educate them a bit, what deserves closer attention is not your rejection of the idea of marriage, but the growing discomfort with responsibility that often accompanies it.

In African philosophy, a human being is measured largely by character. Achievement lies in the ability to act with restraint, care, and accountability. Marriage without these qualities is empty and freedom without them is destructive.

Sex has never been treated as morally neutral in any serious society. This is not because desire is evil and we are not biological people but because sex carries consequences. It creates emotional bonds, social expectations, and the possibility of children. A culture that treats sex as casual while demanding stable outcomes is not enlightened. It is inconsistent with social order and you can see the results today. One guy is always writing on his posts here on NL that the only advice he has for men is to conduct DNA.

For women, sexual fidelity was historically preserved to protect clear lines of responsibility but the ones who think they have opened eyes said it was for control. In a world without DNA testing, fidelity ensured that motherhood, paternity, and inheritance were socially legible. It allowed men to be held accountable and children to know where they belonged. Sexual norms were less about purity and more about responsibility. This did not mean women alone bore moral burden. Female sexual discipline made sense only in societies that demanded male duty in return. When restraint was expected of women but responsibility was optional for men, the moral logic broke.

Motherhood, like fatherhood, is more than biology. To bring life into the world is to accept obligation. The woman who nurtures, guides, and forms character performs one of the most demanding social roles that exists. A society that dismisses this labor while celebrating autonomy misunderstands freedom.
The family unit matters not just because it is traditional, but because it works. It is the foundation to society. It is the first place where limits are learned, where care becomes habitual, and where responsibility becomes personal. When family structures weaken, the cost of this weakness does not go away as people think it will fizzle out. It reappears in institutions asked to do what homes once did. There was a reason we said a community raises a child and why our proverbs talk about family and lineage. For so many years, the West tried to break our hegemony, they wanted us to leave our values and ethics and be like them while secretly admiring our foundation and structure. Thank God many people have japa now, they can now see the difference between oyinbo life and our society where each child is everyone's child but unfortunately when they go back home, alas even the people back home want to be like the oyinbo man without knowing it's a sad life disconnected from our roots as a people.

Young people are not wrong to question marriage. They are right to question hollow traditions. What must be reconsidered is not marriage as a trophy, but responsibility as a value.


Sexual freedom without accountability is not progress. Fidelity without mutual obligation is not justice.

I am happy this generation is sleeping anyhow and anywhere with anyone they like. When the chicken comes home to roost, you will then appreciate the wisdom of your forefathers and mothers in preserving the institution called marriage and why society needs order, accountability and responsibility. It is what we call you go see for yourself. When you are young you question many things but with age you start to understand many things too. Your parents got married because it was a sign of responsibility. Some people asked why the opinion of a married person was more important than that of an unmarried person. Those who maintained this tradition knew that it takes a special person to live with another wo/man as husband/wife and still be normal. That's why in the past, for politicians, they used to yab themselves if anyone of them had family issues that "you that cannot take care of your home wants to take care of our country".



Marriage is a school.
Freedom is a mirage.
Marriage is not an achievement.
Becoming a responsible adult is.

dydx2020:
Watch nonsense video... fake News just for click. Rubbish

youneedjesus:
The man is very sincere. I admire his sincerity. Are there sincere politicians in Nigeria today.

MartinCorridon:
Seems this really suits you.

I just held up a mirror for you to see yourself better.

MartinCorridon:
Okay. So the summary of your Balabalu is that....

Someone who's been a SW leader for let's say a decade or two.

Definitely been in charge in Lagos, the country's Commercial Capital for close to 3 decades...


And dethroned one President, installed one. And then crowned himself .....

Is not powerful in your opinion?

With more like you in Africa, not surprised the continent has remained like this.

MartinCorridon:
Tinubu is one of the most sought after people.

But trust me, he didn't put up any fake lists.

That's the prerogative of power

Even if he has a favourite as Lagos Governor... He's so experienced he will make sure his followers don't know till it's time.

He holds many cards. ONLY God holds all the cards

Tinubu knows the Power of Silence. People will fatigue themselves with endless speculation. Then he will speak occasionally and those words will carry a lot of weight.

A1+++ in Politics. F9 in Security & Economics.

CorperKola:
Even just looking at numbers frm the last elwction
The winning combo is atiku/obi not any other wishful fantasy

CorperKola:
So the north will vote for a fresh southerner over tinubu that has 4 years left

What planet are you living on

And not only that but it has never hapoenwd in the history of the whole country for a south easterner to win the majority votes in a presidential election

You have to be objective for once, you wont die

anonimi:
It’s quite sad that Obasanjo decided to ruin Atiku despite his generosity and loyalty towards him, especially in 2003 when Atiku rejected northern pressure to make him a one term president, like Tinubu did to Jonathan in 2015.

2003 was the first time Buhari asked for the job of president and failed.


https://www.facebook.com/omokrireno/videos/see-how-skinny-general-obasanjo-was-after-his-release-from-prison-in-1998/692154006417657/

Beautifulday:
Atiku was a contestant.

How long was he a governor since the governorship election was some months before the presidential election

SixSeven:
You overestimate the North. You are assuming that Buhari's bloc vote will automatically go to Atiku but not Tinubu? Or you forget that the ADC is made up of that bloc, who after 2023 didn't want to work with Tinubu? Let ADC choose Atiku and I will congratulate Tinubu today. You don't ask yourself why APC worries about Obi that was supposedly third than Atiku that was second? They know the game!

I put the map here for your reference. Obi won Lagos, Abuja and Rivers State. Add a share of Kwankwanso votes to his or Atiku's votes and you can tell Tinubu wouldn't have won. When APC won in 2015, the KKK states helped them. When analysing numbers, guage sentiments. Tinubu will not get the same numbers as before because now, he's not a virgin, you are choosing to continue the pain in the renewed hope or choose an alternative. Atiku does not appeal to the youth and going by stats, they are the major voting bloc and will be the only ones to want to come out because whether you like it or not, Tinubu is planning on swimming through voter apathy in 2027. Many of these candidates need to retire, including Obi himself. A child born in 1999 is now 27 and would have gone through his adult life hearing about Tinubu and Atiku. A child born in 1993 when Atiku first contested is now telling his own child that Atiku is the future. How? Let me remind you again

In the lead-up to the 2023 elections, 84% of the 10 million newly registered voters fell into this age category. Those aged 35–49 (Middle-Aged Voters) make up roughly 35.75% of the electorate.

Beautifulday:
Atiku was a contestant.

How long was he a governor since the governorship election was some months before the presidential election

Beautifulday:
Which election has Atiku won before in his life?

Has Atiku govern anyone before in his life except his family?

Which governance experience do Atiku has?

Obi has all the above

Arkmanbuddy:
Are you invariably saying that baba is paving the way for his son?

DJperdurabo:
Please don't justify this. It's all shades of wrong, contextually wrong!

Form someone vying for public office in a secular state, you don't do things like this. Nevermind his intentions, he risks just stirring up unnecessary drama in an environment highly sensitive to religious questions what with all the terrorism, bandits and stuff. Of course, you can see the "uproar" already.

C'mon he should have known better!

He's lost already. With just this singular unthoughtful act, he's put paid to his campaign.

integrity16:
What you are defending does not make sense, Politics is a game of numbers. What is the population of English speaking yorubas and Arabic speaking Yorubas?

You want to govern a yoruba state, you are speaking Arabic? How does this make sense?
He had just scored an own goal.

cyberbro:
Definitely not from a Nigerian restaurant. A lot of "African restaurants" abroad are not owned by Nigerians, but they wanna make as much money as possible so they list Nigerian food on their menu, whereas they don't have chefs who can cook them.

Arkmanbuddy:
It won't be a surprise to me if this happens to be true. Sanwo has proven to be a weak and irredeemably liberal Governor to the detriment of the indigents of Lagos.

Don't forget the President refused to physically commission his projects and sent the Senate President to represent him, while he commissioned projects in Bayelsa State. Security was the excuse given.

I already knew this would happen. By the way, Sanwoolu and Hamzat are not really best of friends, but the deputy has just been matured not to be dramatic.

SixSeven:
Not true. When he wanted to make that yeye move for Fashola second term, he shifted. And we can see it was all for Fashola not to take shine off him as Lagos Governor because there was no sensible reason to give other than someone who loves to be worshipped. You can't please such people. They always want to play God.

It's people who suck up to him that give him power but make no mistake, Tinubu changed his deputy governors at least 3x when they challenged him. Only that woman who knows him inside out, Kofoworola Bucknor has not gone to him. He made his former deputy an Ambassador to Australia. That one was removed because he wanted to be Governor without his consent. Ambode too came back but these politicians, they don't have principles so don't waste time with them.

GloriousGbola:
people posting in english to criticise jandor for a post in arabic

there is freedom of religion. nigeria and the internet and twitter is not for christains only.

these are the ones who will be wailing about religious intolerance tomorrow