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In the past, it is the family that will do this work for you but since we wan abandon tradition, na private investigator go chop our money. You married into families, you didn't marry yourselves alone but since you want to FAFO, let me help her here:


Before modern background checks, Nigerian cultures already had systems for finding out who someone really was before marriage. Families did not rely on romance alone. They asked questions, sent people, and consulted trusted sources.

Among the Yoruba, families carried out what is simply called ìwádìí meaning investigation. A trusted person was sent to ask questions about the prospective spouse and their family. This person could be a respected elder, a family friend, or sometimes a babaláwo. The focus was on family history, character, health issues, mental illness, criminal behavior, and general reputation. The person doing this work is often referred to as Alárinà, meaning someone who gathers information by asking around. If the report was bad, the marriage could stop.

The Igbo have a similar process known as ịjụ ase or ịma afa, depending on the community. Families asked elders and neighbors about the background of the other family. They checked lineage, social status, repeated marriage failures, and serious taboos such as osu lineage. Spiritual consultation was also common. Negative findings were taken seriously, even if the couple already liked each other.

Among the Hausa and Fulani, investigations were done through family networks, community leaders, and religious authorities. Reputation mattered greatly. Families relied on long-standing knowledge within the community. Religious character, discipline, and family conduct were important factors. Because communities were close-knit, information was easy to verify.

In Edo culture, marriage involved family-level investigation. Families looked into ancestral history, moral behavior, and spiritual obligations. If a family had unresolved issues or negative patterns, elders advised against the union.

Efik, Ibibio, and Annang communities also used family and community inquiry. Elders spoke with neighbors and relatives to understand the family’s behavior over time. Issues like abuse, instability, or repeated divorce were red flags.

Across Nigerian cultures, the idea was the same. Marriage was not just between two people. It involved families, reputation, and long-term stability. These investigations were practical, not mystical. They were meant to prevent future problems, not to shame anyone.

What we now call background checks already existed. They were done through people, memory, and community accountability.

Pmoney0123:
U go still dey alive till then? 🙄 😂
Mumu man
See this one like say u be God

Go and tell your parents to teach you manners, then come and quote me.

You can see the education in the way he talks and pays attention to what makes his business stand out. Go school, you no hear, you say school na scam🤡

No knowledge is useless and what this teaches us is to be diligent in what we do, whether is education or sales.

Double post

As it should be. This guy is one of the shining star of this administration. I love people who hold others accountable.

[quote author=Ab0bii post=138208333][/quote]I have another one for you too.

Lol @ I big pass your papa. You de compete with dead man, I pity you.

Give it to Kwam 1, for over 40 years, the guy is still relevant. I want to see Wizkid in 2035, let's check something.

Ab0bii:
I have nothing to say 🤭🤭🤭




Forty character for what?


BTW

Let me correct you on your picture.

Hahahaha

The joke is on you if Obi was the only one you could use. Shame on Atiku who has been contesting since 1993 and still believes it is him God has chosen, yet he has no mentee to take over.

Shame on Tinubu who had the opportunity to let his so-called boy that he made, Mr Osinbajo to lead but instead he went for the position himself. That's what they call Agbaya.

You know what is a much bigger joke? You cannot see the joke is on you when you cut your nose to spite yourself 😂🤡

Edit: The Senegalese president is 45 years old. How old is your president? I want to check something

Tired of AI slop. I want to read real human thinking please. Thank you.

I can call myself a graduate today because of Tinubu NELFUND ❤️👏

and if this post dey vex you, make you go K1ck the Bucket.


1. Are you sure this person went to school or went through school

2. To be a graduate of a university, you must be found worthy both in learning and character. This person does not show the character of a graduate who was properly schooled.

3. If they think kicking the bucket will rile people up, it won't. It will even do more damage to a president whose education credentials is in doubt. It sounds like the charging of grab it, snatch it and run away with it. These kind of rhetoric does not normally come from people who are found worthy both in learning and character. You make it worse for the president if this was supposed to be a political post.

4. Because this person's education is in doubt, may I educate them that it's not Tinubu's NELFUND. It's FGN's NELFUND. The money is not Tinubu's, it belongs to the Federal government of Nigeria. If you want to be politically correct, you can say the Tinubu Government's NELFUND since he is the president. The moment he leaves, it reminds you that it's not his own, it's for the government.

The President's aides should spend time talking about what the government has achieved or wants to achieve, it should not be a position for attack dawgs. I miss that young man they said resigned over personal issues before Onanuga came to the position. That was the last decent spokesperson we had for the government. You could see he was distinct and unique, compared to anyone including Garba Shehu and the Sun man who called his people wailers. They don't care about the fact that the president is for everyone and the opportunity they have to bring people to his side, instead they keep attacking.

helinues:
If it reach your turn, share dirty slap at rally

You go explain to us whether he borrowed the money from you

This is indeed a shallow comment and myopic way of analyzing an issue.

1. A government that feeds citizens without empowering them is not caring for them, it is controlling them.

2. If handouts were development, we’d be thriving by now. Empowerment lifts people, stipends and handouts put a leash on them.

3. Defending handouts over empowerment is the language of a lackey, not a thinker.

Disclaimer: I don’t have right to all the pictures on this topic. If you found your photo(s) and not okay with it being here, reply to thread and I’ll delete it. Thanks.

Start from here. Will you be okay with someone using your picture on Nairaland and telling you to do this

The problem is that we are first expressive when we want to get into a relationship then we start to play games when we enter then we leave and become 'normal' again till our eyes clear.

Cossy Orjiakor

Ojiakor Ifeoma

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Ifeoma
Ifeoma
Ifeoma
Ifeoma
I want to marry you
Give me your love (not All Access )
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Ifeoma no hear word, she Don go give her love to the whole wild world, she come de protest. For God so loved the world, E no wan make you do ashawo work

Yesterday you posted a topic on Rufai where your headline did not match the content but you wanted us to click on the video to generate views for your page.

Today is part two and I know it will reach front page Spits

US reputation has taken the biggest hit that an Obama 2.0 can't repair easily after Trump leaves. Is it too late to bell the car or is this sign of old age where when you get to a certain age you don't want anyone else to talk to you. Maybe only Bernie Sanders can talk to him but they are not on the same side. I posted this last weej

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I wouldn't say that. The difference between him and the past is that he tells the world his plans before he goes ahead. Right now the world doesn't want to tell him Oga you need to stop this. His fan boys, like the sycophants we have here and brooding him. Someone fighting his own CBN Governor over interest rate. He's the prime example of being drunk with power and a drunk man can do whatever he likes in his state of inebriation.

Edit: Trump shared a note Rubio passed to him with the press. He wasn't supposed to read it loud but because he acts like a king, he does not take his time, he does first before he repairs any damage.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2Lryh8Wfa8[/quote]

Maj196:
He will definitely be aware but that's their normal way of life over there

It's not. It's more of Industry things.

Sibbb:
Inside one 6 by 6 parlour is now the whole Saudi Arabia

Bloggers una to stup!d

Lovelink1991:
Are they not Saudi Arabians or must it be the entire Saudi nation before they can be addressed as Saudi Arabians

I liked both of your comments because you're both right from your perspectives. I'm just here to enjoy the exchange and learn 🍿🍿

Medicine after death

Ebibedike1:
Uganda has a monarchy system for your information.

The Mueseveni Royal house dethroned Idi Amin Royal family in the 8os and they have been on the throne since then. Would probably be for the foreseeable future or until another powerful family is able to dethrone them

Monarchy wey de contest for election, I hail o

Emeskhalifa:
Why is he acting all feminine

Pls he needs a father figure in his life

It's too early to throw him out to the wolves. But what do I know? You could see how Kanye was with his daughter but the mom did otherwise.

Burob:
Quite obvious that u did not watch the video?

The video is not what I must click to watch. Naptu2 posts here regularly. You don't need to watch the video content to know what's in there. All I see here is clickbait. You want us to watch more, for views, not me. I read.

tophumble:
The sight is good but we cannot tell what the taste will be

You are so correct. You speak the words of the elders.

One man's meat is another man's poison.

Peakdesign23:
This is my question, why do men marry again and procreate even after their first wife gave them both genders?

Men need a purpose and I am not speaking on behalf of your father but your question is like asking Davido or Wizkid, even though I don't support their baby mama nonsense, that they should not have kids again. Or 2Baba should not have kids with his new wife. Women usually want it, it is used to cement the relationship between the man and the woman. She wants to have his baby. Is there any part of your dad's marriage that bothers you? You sound like it was a bad thing he did considering your mother was his wife so you imagine that he should not remarry. He's a man, he needs to have sex, that's the truth.

Your headline and content don't match. Except you want attention through cheap conflicts.