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confusion247: IBB and MIRIAM both made it alive, so uncle JONA and PATIENCE will make it alive too.

amen

Donalð Genes: I no be celebrity shey?
I no dey impregnate 9ja ladies like tuface shey
Cos I no dey like tonto decay
Cos I no be politician shey

Nairaland its not fair oooooo
Make I no pray make internet network disappear from your phones oo

Make una wish me HBd na bikonu,ejorrrrrrrrrrrr
Lols

happy birthday

Amen the same to u brother

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chinaza chukwu azawo gi ekpere dika ahia gi si we di,happy birthday

Guitarlife: To all of you that contributded to the demise of op"s home una welldone. some of you are enduring worse tinz in your marriages 5 pages and just one objective post.
@op being spit on is quite disgusting i agree but its not worth loosing your home over. am surprised he even finds you appealling enough to put his mouth in your kitty which I personally consider a far more disgusting behaviour.
half the ladies here dont enjoy that "priviledge" and a quarter of them would kill for it.
its obvious he doesnt physically abuse you so the only danger you are up against is emotional. since your life is not at risk why dont you work harder at helping him overcome his weakness?
You are his wife and that is your job. you are quitting this marriage prematurely trust me married peeps on here are putting up with worse.

well said,
i'm against spitting on whoever,but since her husband is too weak to control his temper,why can't she stop those silly and nasty things she use to do

tarababy: I have a job,so I can sustain myself and my two children financially.I have always been an independent women and so don't reliable on him for anything.

He spat on me again yesterday and i did mine back this time around.I have decided to move on in the new year,the environment is definately not good for my boy and girl.

we are here judging on spit,i think spitting ain't the problem,u know it,i wonder how ur husband wake up spit on u just like that,i don't want to comment more because human don't like to hear the truth,if separating the kids is only thing that can make u happy move on,but search urself first if u are in wrong side

u try nice

SAFO: My wife tried that once and once only early on in our relationship during a heated argument. See me see stars, Kai. My mind went blank and I d@mn near hit her with a closed fist, although I did pepper her face with the hottest slap you can ever imagine.

Needless to say she never tried that shyte again. Matter of fact anytime we argue now, she knows not to really set my temper off.

can ur wife beat u if u are the one spit on her face

breathless: @ OP. Uve got a real BAD situation @ hand. Na play, na play LABA-LABA take dey enter bush o. I pray God 2 give u wisdom and understanding 2 handle dis well. 4 now, simply avoid confrontations, arguements, quarrels etc wt him. Answer him sir wenever he calls u, even wen he provokes u, take 3 long breathe, smile and simply tell him "u`re a fine man wt a good heart" (whether na true or not).
He`ll one day realize he`s so immature and childish and probably apologise. U`ll succeed.

WELL SAID,

bin gbagbo: ok boss, i will be expecting u. merry xmas.

WISH U THE BEST, AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE

BUNMIOGUNS
congratulate HAPPY FOR U

adabeke12: Hello, nne I wu onye owerri? Im half. From inishi,ikeduru

dad from ogwa mum mbieri,which part of ikeduru u come from i know alot of people there

i haven't figure anything out here,still folling

BIN pls i will call on 31.12.12, by 11pm in nairal time i'm busy these days

Princess1982: I don't know about the UK but here in the US we have a Nigeria embassy.

embassy that work against his people

berem: Eyaaa! Poor dude! Its very unfortunate it happened in another man's land.and what the hell is the nigerian embassy doing? They can't just fold their arms and watch this dude suffer for what he didn't do.this is really unfair.

did Nigeria have embassy abroad(i don't think we have)

Kobojunkie: This is exactly why I asked if you are human. The woman is here complaining to you that she is being spat on by the supposed love of her life and instead of worrying about the spitting you automagically assume she does SILLY THINGS to warrant being spat on. Do you realize how morose that is in itself -- that assumption that a human being can do something to warrant that sort of response ? If your own wife/husband spat on you whenever he/she got peeved, is this the same advice you would implement in your case? Would you be willing to change yourself so the offender continues in his ways only you the victim refuse yourself even more to ACCOMMODATE the offense?

Even worse, you are here suggesting there is a side for the man. The man is the one who spits on a fellow human being and you are here suggesting there could be an explaination for why he spits on his wife? Are you for real?

@Kobojunkie
bro\sis i will love to see ur post in polite way,we are here to share ideas ok
seriously if there's tips i can use to change an adult pls i'm interest to know
waitin to hear from u about the tips tanx merry xmas

Kobojunkie: This is exactly why I asked if you are human. The woman is here complaining to you that she is being spat on by the supposed love of her life and instead of worrying about the spitting you automagically assume she does SILLY THINGS to warrant being spat on. Do you realize how morose that is in itself -- that assumption that a human being can do something to warrant that sort of response ? If your own wife/husband spat on you whenever he/she got peeved, is this the same advice you would implement in your case? Would you be willing to change yourself so the offender continues in his ways only you the victim refuse yourself even more to ACCOMMODATE the offense?

Even worse, you are here suggesting there is a side for the man. The man is the one who spits on a fellow human being and you are here suggesting there could be an explaination for why he spits on his wife? Are you for real?

i do agree with u,but did u think that divorce is the solution,seperating the kids,i think in issue like this our focus first should be how the family we move on in peace,i ask u tips how such a person can change,u keep insultin me,if the wife in question is ur sister u just tell her to divorce,
if there's peace in that family did u think the man we spit on her,he abuse the woman yes everybody is against it,but can it change the man,no
before i will advise person in this kind of issue to sake for divorce,
i will try to know cause of the problem,there most be big problem in that family
disagreement,hatred,meybe cheatin,
am against spit on who ever,but this's husband and wife if i tell her to divorce am i goin to marry her,she tell us her husband use to spit on her
yes we all against that,i think next should be the tips how to change the man in question to make the family move on,or woman why ur husband use to spit on u,maybe the man have Psychological problem

lalaosky: Wish your friends in this section a MXAAPY(merry xmas and a prosperous new year).

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wishing all nairaland MERRY XMAS and prosperous new year(love U all)

Kobojunkie: I still do not know what the basis of the claims you continue to make, is. You now say that it is difficult, from 18 up to change? Where do you get that from?

How can you make a family move on when the main member of the family is hot tempered and spits, and emotionally abuses his support partner? How do you expect magic to occur in such a case?

The wife is here telling you the man spits on her and calls her poo . . . . whether he has done that only once or does that only when he has hell fire burning on his head, it is unacceptable behaviour, unbecoming of a man, let alone a husband and a father(I supposed he has kids too). There is absolutely no good enough reason for any human being to spit on another human being. That is degrading behaviour, something that slave masters did to further humiliate and dehumanize their slaves, and you are here trying to make an excuse for it? Even in the Bible, spitting on another human being is considered the lowest of all things one can do to a fellow being and you are here fishing for excuses for this, why?

How can a wife avoid things that cause her husband to spit on her? Have you ever lived with someone before? Have you ever slept in the same bed with someone before and avoid arguments with that person for even a month? Have you ever been able, as a human being to go for days without getting irritated by the person who sleeps skin-to-skin with you? Why do you propose this woman now do the IMPOSSIBLE? Why? Why do you suggest the IMPOSSIBLE for her to do? Because you are not the one in the situation, so you feel you can sit and say anything and be ok with it? What marriage on this planet do you know of that is without some quarrel or disagreement? Even people in long distance relationships rub each other wrong from time to time, but here you are suggesting that a woman who lives in the same house with her husband AVOID quarrels and disagreements? Are you even human yourself?

u ask if i am human yes, my concern is for the family to move on in peace that is my reason to advise the wife to avoid some silly thing she do
spit on human is totally condemned,but we haven't heard the man side story, i dont no what u want me to say,
but if u have any tips to change such person pls pls pls i'm interest to know waithin to hear,but i dont think divorce is the solution

bunmioguns: *pours water on his body* u r drunk, go home

just wonderly how can PERSON be drunk by now this bar start from 4.42, bunmi i heard u said drunk 7.05(are we save in this bar?)where is BIN

Kobojunkie: Don't you think it is silly on your part to try to blame the failures of a 40-year old man on his father and mother? Let's assume his parents made that mistake when he was a child, didn't he learn enough as an adult to correct that behaviour so he does not then pass it on to his wife and the next generation? I mean come on. . . you are grasping at straws here trying to make excuses for why his wife should ENDURE this sort of humiliation for the rest of her life. What did she do wrong to deserve this kind of treatment from a man who is supposed to be an grown arse individual at this time of his life? And where do you get this lame arse reasoning that because he is 40, he should not be expected to change? Does the human brain stop functioning at the age of 40 or what?

u could be right, but remember that we are talking about family here,it difficult to change from 18 up
the wife state her husband behaviour hot temper and can do nasty thing that momment
i think our focus should be how to make the family move on,
remember the man in question cannot just spit on his wife and nobody have heard from the man we only judging from what she writ
i think the wife should try to avoid thing that cause her husband to spit on her,
family that pray together also stay together move together,
my advise to the wife she should try to bring love and understanding to her family if there's love there wouldn't be spit on her

bunmioguns: i nvr taste am before oo, shey e go sweet

can i get prepared one here

ileobatojo: Are you the 'friend' in question that taught the OP's husband how to spit on his wife after 3 yrs of marriage? Do you spit on your own wife? Is that how you show her love? Because I'm still trying to get to the bottom of how one conceives it in their mind to regularly spit on their wives in an argument. I'm just baffled as to how a grown ass man can devise such a plan.

ILEOBATOJO on no reason husband should spit on his wife, i want u to understand, it could be how the husband in question was brought up maybe the father use to spit on his mother face, that could be how he learn it,at age of 40 he can't change,it the best way is the wife try to avoid some nasty things he use to do

bunmioguns: ha, red oil kẹ, *speaks quietly in his ear* u wan do sacrifice?

nooooooooooo i wanna fry garri with red old,i hope u we join me

tarababy: I have been married to my hubby for 5 years now.For the past two years anytime we have disagreement or quarrel,he would spit on my face.I have had a heart to heart discussion with him to stop this disgraceful habit and he promised to stop but still did it four days ago.

Even my mum came all the way from Nigeria to plead with him here in England to stop spitting on me. Anytime I call my mum about this matter,she would start crying saying my husband is laying a curse on me and nothing good will come out of me if he continues.

I am losing interest in this marriage because there is no hope that he would ever change.I do not think any normal man would spit on his dog,let alone his wife.
He says he sees me as a poo at that moment and that his why he does it.HE is the type that loses his temper easily and would do nasty thing,which he later regrets .He is a forty year old man,who has refused to grow up.

married and matured minds in the house, do you think am wasting my time with this man?

sis u cannot expect 40 year old man to just change a habit, he is use to that,maybe he dont mean it the way u and ur mother understand it, try to avoid some silly things that cause him to spit on u,since u know his easy to loses his temper and would do nasty thing that moment,avoid anything that we cause it

ik121: @princess1982-2012= 30year old woman. Am nt hia 2 exchange words wit u. U nid an english tutor.
U dun old finish sef, c as u dey. Alwayz prowling d romance section looking for a man. Old agbaya lyk u. 30yr old woman wey no dey tire. I pray u get d ring uv bn lukn 4 on nairaland, old agbaya.

bro why are exchanging words with women, try to over look women words

Princess1982: @ik121 I'm not even going to entertain your ignorance with anymore response. I mean look at you dude to me your just second rate. I drive a car thats probably worth more money that you would expect to see in a life time. you have no class to say somebody deserves to be spat on because they are ugly it is attitudes like yours that hinder your people.

sis pls dont take things serious here, here ain't worth to take serious

u try nice joke