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To all Ladies:
Go to where you will be celebrated.
Wait for God's time.
Wait for your own.
Delay is never denier.
God never fails.

That is the woman he really loves. Do not force anyman to love you.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God.
A man is suppose to find you and be happy, you do him a favor by saying yes, its not the other way round.
Prepare yourself spiritually, intellectually and physically for the right man to find you. Be bold to say no if he is not the one for you. They re finding, you are the one choosing because you carry a lot of Grace. Divine Favour.

May God direct our path. Amen.

deuzgreat:
shut up. witches and wizards

You re obviously a minor.

henryobinna:
there's a funny thing about traditions.

It doesn't matter if you like give her out the Congolese way, long as she's Esan she has to be given out their way because she belongs there. It's the same everywhere, unless bad people no remember you. Some don't even need bad people, the traditional issues would kick off almost immediately.

Don't advise people to take a route you know you won't take, don't use someone as a human Guinea pig just because he's seeking for advice.

He should go to an Esan/Uromi person he knows who is older and properly table his issues before them, they're in a better position to address this not some dumb Nairalanders that think everybody's tradition is a topic they must have a say in.

good luck to him, his in-law and his sister.

You have a very good point

I get you. I know my tradition. Esan people do not play with tradition. My point is "dont give her out the Uromi's way if he is not willing to involve her uncles". You can do church or another way, whenever they re ready they can go home and do Esan traditional with the right people. The guy is youruba so u cant give her out the Esan way.

amp01:
What kind of madness is this?
Since when do church or court collect bride price? Esan lady, been given out, via Yoruba way,what madness. Op, don't play oooo

Which kind person be this?

Church is not tradition na, i said they should do the marriage whatever way they choose to but do not do it the Essan way if you re not ready or willing to involve her family members.

Seeking family members approval and forgiveness is the very good.
Nor let Esan people fight you, leave their tradition alone if you want peace or better still look for them amd allow them give out their daughter..

midehi2:
Can't you read, the sister is from Uromi, giving her out must be involved with her family, if not she might have problems in the future, let him forgive and meet any of them, it must not be crowd, just a family member to stand in for her, the guy himself might even have problems sef by eating her dowry when he is not even from esanland

You are the blind one here. I said he shouldn't give her out according to Essan traditional rites if her family membrrs are not involved. If you must give her out do it the church way or court way or even yoruba way. But not Essan way.

InvertedHammer:
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Who says you must do it the Uromi way?

You will be inviting unnecessary trouble to yourselves. Do exactly what you did for yourself.
Who is left to judge you?

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Reasonable advice.

AssistntBoyfrnd:
I appreciate ur contribution but meeting the family that never got our back isn't an option. They are not going to reap where they didn't sow.

First, we were very young when our parents died. My dad first, then her dad and then our mum.
Second, we don't know much about family cuz from what we learnt, family were against our mum that she didn't allow their son send them financial assistance.
Third, so called family shaved our mums hair and forced her to drink the the water used to bath her husband corpse in front of us, we were just children and the sight isn't good.

Meeting family isn't an option here, we moved on a very long time ago. I just want someone from around to share how things are done, that's all.

Whatever I will be collecting from the groom, I intend sharing your everyone that has one way or the other contributed to our life.

PS: No family know about about whereabouts for over 15 years now. Likewise we don't know where they stay.

Give her out according to Yoruba tradition, you are not qualified to give her out according to Uromi's tradition.

My Opinion

legba1:
Whats wrong with us sef.....he need simple info and we are here dragging the matter....whoever can help him should provide all the info he needs....

Simple solution: Look for her uncle or Aunt. and let them giver her out according to Uromi tradition.

AssistntBoyfrnd:
Dear Uromite/Esan people,

I will be giving out my half sister in marriage. She's uromi while I am yoruba. Same mother but different dad. We both orphans left to fend for ourselves since we were little. No family and we want to stay far away from them cuz they didn't care to take care of us.

I would appreciate if uromi/esan people can give advice on how to go about marriage rites in esan land. Traditional wedding list and the likes.

Thank you all.

No uncle or Auntie?, you re not even from Esan but you want to give out your sister according to Uromi's tradion.

Hhhmmmmm.... What is this world turning into?

Why Children?

MissJoy29:
It's one thing to give out number, it's another thing to answer the person that calls...




na there the koko dey.

You re right...

RiyaGoddess:
Two nights ago, I saw a headline on gay sex. It was a gory narration of a person first gay sex. What I read that night really messed my mind till date. I really weep for everyone still in that web. I still think what I read was a stylish way of promoting gayism though that might not be the writer intent but some persons might read and be curious as the narrator in that thread said some persons are Bicurious Lols.

What I am going to say below will offend some persons I'm sorry but the truth must be told.

Anal Sex, Homosexuality, Lesbianism, what is God take on it? Is it a sin? Is it wrong? Is it an abomination?

Now go with me to the book of Romans Chapter 1 verse 26 and 27. I will read it in different translation so we can all understand what it says.

Romans 1:26-27 The Message Translation.
Worse followed. Refusing to know God, they soon didn’t know how to be human either—women didn’t know how to be women, men didn’t know how to be men. Sexually confused, they abused and defiled one another, women with women, men with men—all lust, no love. And then they paid for it, oh, how they paid for it—emptied of God and love, godless and loveless wretches.

Romans 1:26-27 New Living translation
that is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.

Romans 1:26-27 New King James Version
For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. Now what is this penalty? Read it again, they all received PENALTY, DUE PUNISHMENT, THEY PAID FOR IT... What is that Penalty?The penalty is all the diseases, malfunction, infections derived from this shameful act etc.

Ok the key thing that I want you all to see here is that, GOD GAVE THEM OVER ! So anybody into homosexuality and lesbianism,God has given them over to degrading and vile passions to a reprobate mind. My dear, it is not a natural mind that thinks of sex with same gender. Please open your dictionary and check the meaning of vile. God gave them over to their vile affection. So I want us to look at what the word vile actually means. Sincerely if you all know what it means,then you will understand the gravity of what Paul was saying there.

Let's see the meaning of vile; Extremely Unpleasant, Morally Bad, Wicked, Little Worth of Value, Foul, Nasty, Nauseating, Abominable, Dreadful, Offensive, Disgusting, Distasteful, Sickling, Mean, Stinky, Wretched, Disgraceful, Hateful, Shocking etc.
What I want you all to know about anal sex is that, there is a muscle in the anus called phalas or something. I don't know the right spelling but doctors in the house understands what I mean or anyone can help me with the right spelling. Now the primary purpose of that muscle is to keep the anus closed after going to the rest room to excrete waste. That is the purpose of it and once that thing is destroyed, you leave your anus opened to Hepatitis, opened to HIV, opened to all kinds of infections and diseases. That place was designed by God to be an outpost location. It is actually an outpost location. It is an outpost for things to go out. It is not a place for things to go in through. Shey una dey get am so? Poo comes out through the anus and not go in abi una think say God wey create you even put anus there no get sense ni? THE ANUS IS NOT MEANT FOR THRUSTING!

Now to all husbands demanding anal sex from their wives please for God sake Stop it ! It is 100% wrong. You are not in anyway different from the men having sex with men. God didn't design the woman anus for sex but instead, God designed the woman by giving her the vaginal and clitoris. The clitoris is not in the anus neither is the vaginal in the anus. That is why a man forcing/ pressurizing his wife for anal sex is a wicked man knowingly or unknowingly. You are hurting that woman and you are not pleasuring the woman. As a fact, you are only pleasuring yourself and that's why you always need a Vaseline to enter into the anus simply because the anus wasn't designed to receive thrusting. So please desist from this act. Stop/Stay away from anal sex you are only hurting yourself by doing that and you are hurting the woman, or the man or boy you are having anal sex with.

Now everything God created, the devil will always bring a falsification and adulteration to that thing. For example, those who say they were born that way hahahahahaha I laugh in heavenly tongues, Nobody as in NO HUMAN WAS BORN A GAY! Take it to the bank. The truth is that everything God created the devil adulterate and anal sex, same gender sex is one of the adulteration of the original. Please guys stay away from it. As in run away from it. Homosexuality, Lesbianism, Flee from it! Sex is meant for a man and a woman, husband and wife Not man and man, woman and woman. So please let's stop it. It is part of what is called abomination. Anal sex/Same gender sex is not just a sin, it is an abomination! Sexual pervasion is an abomination. 2 some, 3 some, 4some, 5 some and what have you are all abomination! All these things are all abomination!

The truth is, when you begin to accept something unpleasant, it means something has first of all happen to your nature. I mean when you begin to take as pleasant something that is originally unpleasant, what it means is that something has happened to your nature that now makes you to accept what is against the law/norm as normal. So as I have said, please run away from it biko. You really do not have any reason to be gay, no reason to be homosexual, no reason to be a lesbian or Bicurious as I learnt in the other thread I made mention of. You have no reason to have anal sex with your spouse not for any reason under the sun! Wives if your husband is pressuring you for anal sex, please threaten to report him! I am certain he wont want anybody to hear of such disgusting act...There is no pleasure in it. That pleasure you think you are getting, let me just tell you, it is a demon that is getting that pleasure through you. It is a demon that is just using your body to satisfy its own demonic intent. Take note of that! Anywhere something like that is, if there is already a demonic activity, it is no longer natural. That is why it's said to be unnatural, it is against the normal cause. A person engaging in anal sex, homosexuality, lesbianism, all other sexual pervasion, it is an evil spirit that is working through you/persons to satisfy its own personal cravings so please run away from it. Stop it!

And if you are already involved in it, be it before or at present/Now, Please Repent from it. Go for deliverance at any of the living church around you or you can write to me please take note that everything discussed will be treated confidential and with empathy. Please get or seek help/delivered because you are on another level. I am not even talking about the normal sexual offences, yours is tertiary. You are not in primary or secondary, you are in tertiary. IT IS WORST! If there is anything above tertiary, I would have used it.

I pray this message ministers to everyone trapped in this bondage in Jesus name.
God Bless you.

Shilekunola.

Thank you for this Writeup. Homosexuality is a SPIRITUAL problem, most people wont accept this but that's the truth. Some babes & guys are already possessed with marine spirit so they seduce others physically and spiritually. The only way to stop it is by being born again and also to be prayerful. Watch your friends, choose your friends and if your spirit says NO run away from them.
I am not against any sexual position as long as its ok with both partners but i feel sorry for those homosexual people.

Homosexuality is not only a sin but an abomination to God, His eyes cant behold sins. Take it or leave thats the truth.

A friend once told me how her colleague seduced her, during the day she is all over her then at night she sees her in her dreams trying to kiss her. At some point it almost manifested in the physical, thank God she was spritually sensitive. She prayed and kept her distance from that babe. The babe was busy seducing both males and females including the CEO of that organization.

Life is deep and nothing is ordinary

emerged01:
If God wan punish am make e be girl.

;DFunnyyy