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Vick4rill:
This all started right from my primary school days when l was barely 10yrs Old. Am now through with my university and l am still battling with this addiction.

The minimum time l masturbate in a day is four times. A times six or seven. l look so lean and weak, am always tired due to this habit, l find it hard to relate with girls despite being an extrovert.

I Am a porn addict. Most times l try to stop this habit by deleting all the porn in my phone but l keep going back, the force is just too strong. l can barely keep an erection when having sex with a woman, barely 25yrs old.

l most a times take Viagra when meeting a girl. l need help Nairalnders, this thing is killing me.

Buy the book "Conquering Controlling Power By Bishop David Oyedepo" its nolonger a habit, there is a force behind it.

EternalBeing:
Let's get real! I thanks GOD for my current spiritual state. I was able to give up my addition to ganja(indian hemp) 3 years ago when I newly accepted Christ.

But sometimes the urge to smoke still comes back so strongly even more than the urge to have sex/fornicate.

My saving Grace has being that I realized throughout my years of ganja addition then, whenever I don't smoke for some days, I'll remember my dreams vividly and the things I saw would always happen.

Ever since I totally quit, this phenomena has been constant. So, I discovered that everyone is his/her best Pastor/Prophet/Alfa/Herbalist if only we can do away with vices such as sexual immorality, smoking, etc.

For brethren here on NL that have totally broken free from these familiars shackles and common captivities, help us by telling us how you permanently freed your mind from entertaining or dwelling on the evil thoughts that leads to sins.

Read the book "Conquering Controlling Power By Bishop David Oyedepo". Thats the solution.

OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP

From this moment, stop looking for true love

I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.

Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.

See, in most cases, love is transient.

Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.

sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.

sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.

"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.

So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.

So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.

That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.

this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.

But for someone who fulfils that criteria;

- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;

- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);

- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)

- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;

- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.

- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;

So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.

So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.

If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.

My piece!

Nice Nice Nice...

anslem04:
Need i remind you of a saying which as becum an actual fact; " you can't give what you don't av''.
In r/ships, is not until you start giving her aptitude test b4 yu knw she is intelligent/smart or industrious ... from mere gist you can detect if she is intelligent. another fact about intellect beings is dey can't resist sharing n learning , so even if d guy refuse to bring up topic that as do with his dreams & aspiration d babe will ask
most naija babe have nothing upstair aside been materialistic, its so easy to knw dem, cos they will never ask d guy abt is dreams & goal ,all they knw hw 2 ask is, hello av u sent it !
Bottomline an intellectual babe won't even wait 4 her man to run an aptitude test on her b4 she start showcasin her potentials

Ha ha ha ha ha

A nurse, not a male nurse.

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djon78:
your father is strictly the avenue through which you came into this world. Irrespective of whatever he did, give him that honour. You won't understand, these things are laws in the spirit.
Don't listen to wrong advice

I remember American preacher Joyce Meyer was molested sexually by her Dad for years as a young woman.
When she became successful in later years God instructed her to buy a very good house for her Dad. It was tough, but she obeyed and it brought wholeness, freedom and more success for her.
Our parents that brought us into this world may have done badly to us but we still owe them honour.

One of the ten commandments goes like this honour your father and mother, that it may be well with you, that your days may be long on the earth. Long life is associated with honouring our father and mother.

We stil have sane people on Nairaland, thank you for making reference to Joyce. We are instructed by God to hunor our parents. You dont have a choice and there is reward attached to it.

Gurumaharaji:
Regina Daniels father doesn't even know she get married.... so ur responsible Uncle dat train u can conveniently act as ur father during d occasion

That doesn't make it the right thing. Our tradition is our fathers or father's family collects bride price.

Born2Breed:
You mentioned two important things here.

Walking down the aisle and bride price collection.

Your maternal uncle can walk you down the aisle.

The bride price is for your father cum paternal family.(bride price and list is not much in Edo state,i guess you are owan or etsako or igarra?)

Also,marriage can take place anywhere,bring your father and few relatives(1or 2) to your location to perform the necessary rites then go back home.

In all these, you must plead with your maternal uncle to please allow your biological father collect his bride price and go. I always advice my fellow ladies not to offend any side of the family when getting married.

So true, you said it all.

Spar7tan:
She for go covenant now

Hahahaha

Most people hate other people's success stories. I cant remember the last time or year i viewed your blog but i know you re a success. People say negative things thats life, you need them to shine Linda.

More Grace.

tendingNews:
Watch the video HERE

They said they are not lazy youth

Tellemall:
But your story would be an additional contribution to something that appears to be real. Especially your emphasis on men. People seem to think witches exist. Nobody thinks about wizards.

You re right and you will hear the story at the right time from the right person. Not Me. Just know that things are happening and we all need the one and only true God.

[quote author=Enemyofpeace post=83881371]I'm happy we were beated. To God be the glory [/q*

Tellemall:
So tell me about some of the guys you are talking about.

Story for the gods, na my mouth you wan hear am. I already made my point oo

CanadaOrBust:
I can tell u r in your teens, latest early 20’s when u r all about girls. Grown men don’t go around making juju to get women. Money, maybe

I already made my point

CanadaOrBust:
Money - mostly men try to use juju
Love - mostly WOMEN try to use juju

Like I said unless u r talking only boys/young men

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You obviously know the truth , you and your boys/young men.

I have made my point.

CanadaOrBust:
If u said boys I’d agree. Otherwise it’s women trying to keep a man from cheating or to get their man back, etc

Boys ke Lol.
Accept it or not its happening. Its OK if you dont know. I dont want to say much.

CanadaOrBust:
Not true. It is almost entirely women’s domain

Dont defend what you dont know or haven't experienced.

GrabHisBalls:
Why go all the way to hook down a man when nothing last forever? I even heard the leg chains some ladies wear were specially made to trap their desired men.

[quote author=Aidejay post=83877647]This stuff is quite unbelievable
But one must admit that people are capable of anything
And will go to any extent to get way they desire
#fearwomen[/quote



Guyz re worse trust me.

Guys re worse when it comes to using juju to get babes.

Why is this a topic?, just asking

Hmmmmmm

Investigation for formality.

Social Media Relationship

crimmish:
Actress Tonto Dikeh shows off her fashion sense as she dazzles in stylish corporate outfit. She poses in style in the chic outfit looking so adorable.

https://www.instagram.com/p/B39v17LHSax/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Borrow money buy outfit n display dem for social media...Naija Celeb
cant believe i typed this. Enjoying my leave jare

Sabaugo:
Am Dying In Silent! What Do I Do?

I got a work in missionary school. The Reverend sister in charge said I will be on probation for 12 months with #45k take home monthly.

As someone who has been at home for months I just accepted the job. After one week in the office, I found out that the work was heavy on me to the extent that I will go home with lots of them to do at home. I went back to her and pleaded if she can add small money to my salary, so she got angry and told me that they will pay me for the one week I worked for, that they don't need my type of person to work with them, that It seems that I like money too much. I cried that day to the extent that I can't open my eyes very well. She later said that she will give me second chance but she will reduce my salary to 42k.

I wrote an apology letter to her and I specifically told her to forgive for the sake of my mother and my son because am a single mother and am the one taking care of them. When I received the alert, I saw truly that she removed the money.

She doesn't respond to my greetings, other privileges she gave to workers," I no dey smell am",she acknowledged other new workers, she did not call my name.. Please I need advice because am just there because I don't have option. Am dying in silence!

Thanks in anticipation

Salary increase after one wwek??... What were you expecting? You re on probation don't forget, it means you cant do the job.
If you cant work for six months to prove your value to the organization why would they increase your pay.

Show them what you have to offer first. Ask for salary increase after your probation period.
Read your organization HR policy first before demanding for anything.

Do your Job and ignore your boss.

Get a job and build your intellect You are idle thats your problem.

Hmmmmm

We re always winning. Thanks to the God of Winners.