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merieam16:
u dont need to like sum1 b4 bleeping. bleepin is just bleeping dez nofin attached to it

Yeah, u understand, no feelings attached, just bleep and u go ur way

OdefaGirl:
Ok.... I'm back to talk now....
Sincere answer; why do you hate your baby mama?
I don't want to hear that crap of "we aren't compatible".

Beb the story plenty, let's just summarize it with the statement we are not compatible, sincerely speaking we are not, she gave birth to my first son when I was 18, the hell I passed through, because of the bitch no be small couple with the fact I wasn't financially capable then.

spartan117:
@smadav
You need Jesus Christ in your life.
From what you wrote it's obvious that you have never really known him despite being raised in a Christian home.

It's time for you to know him for yourself. I'll recommend 2 books for you:
1) The holy spirit my senior partner by David yonggi Cho.
2) Good morning holy spirit by Pst Benny Hinn.

These two books will certainly change your life and they are available at any Christian book shop nation wide.

Shalom.

Wow thanks mam, my salvation is at hand lol.

Helicobacter:
U prolly thinking marriage will be an extra issue holding u back from "bleeping around". Could that be the reason u are scared. Search itself sha.

I don't think it's about bleeping around, I'm not a sex addict, as a matter since the lock down I never lash any beb. I don't just wanna get married, u know because I'm the only son, they probably want me to settle, but I already have two boys, so why do I rush into marriage, but they see it differently.

Les:
your mum's emotional blackmail is the wrongest reason to ever get married! Marry because you wanna marry not because anyone is blackmailing you too. Unless you'll spend the greater part of your life in regrets. If you marry at 27 and die at 97, 70 years to be in marriage, thread with caution!

Bro thanks for your advice, I really appreciate. What made you say this to me, do u have personal experience relating to what I'm going through?

[quote author=Shootingstar93 post=88675816]I beg u in the name of God, don't get married without undergoing serious deliverance. If u don't right urself upstairs, don't subject someone's daughter to years of misery in the name of pleasing ur mom.

If u love ur sons as much as u described, is it too much of a sacrifice to change for them and become someone worth emulating.?

Ask urself this, had it been u had daughters, would you bear to see them in the hands of someone like u, when they grow up?

If after all these advices u decide to continue living as u do now, please allow those women to train ur boys for u. If they grow up under u, this virus u have will spread to them and become a generational curse.

Las Las, everything is in ur head. Seek counselling and deliverance if possible.

I have witnessed ur kind firsthand, and I know what I was subjected to.

I don't mean any insult please. Seek help, and genuinely change.... If not, don't get married or ur wife will suffer enormous emotional damage.




Sorry mam for what you pass through, I sincerely wanna change that's why I'm seeking help. Are you married, what does it take to keep and stay in marriage, the only promise I made to myself is if I ever get married, I will never devorce, we never had any incident of devorce in my linage so I won't be the first, so help me God.

Dfynboi:
bt u guys re fuckatible??lol

She is into me, but I don't give a Bleep about her, and it makes her feel bad, after two kids for me I still don't value her.

[quote author=Kingsteve post=88671175][/quote]God's willing I will, it's a gradual process, I will definitely put the advice I get here into use.

Usorohtheman:
Drugs or anything else that is contrary to the law of the land

Not at all, I run a legit business, I'm into borehole drilling.

lewis512:
Eleyi gidi gan Ooo, you are bad and you know it
Shows you can change it if you really want to but if it’s will affect your income better don’t ! Your mom will be happy anyway anyhow if you can spoil her with gifts .... you no fit bad reach Wizkid to me the problem here is you didn’t tell us the work you are doing

I said I'm into borehole drilling, I get drilling company, we dey drill borehole.

Kingsteve:
Guy, this one too strong oo!

However, in my humble opinion, you're psychologically not balanced.

Spiritually: I think you're possessed by a strong en




















What do I know?

I can't be possesed God foebide

Usorohtheman:
My guy apologize to your momma. Tell her you are changed person and try to change too.

But if the thing no gree you change, my brother do your thing on low key so that mumsy no go know.

Stop straffing your baby mama.

I hope what you are into are not against the laws of the country?

What I'm into how?

Rozz:
There's alot you are getting wrong,your problems isn't monetary or how you are taking care of your children. Permit me to say "find your lost soul" that's the beginning of finding solutions to your problems

Thanks I really wish for that, God bless u mam

Rozz:
The essence of getting married is not just for procreation,i believe it involves many other things(im not married).I think having a mentor who has a successful marriage would go a long way for you.You also owe your kids an act of responsibility,they must not grow up to believe it's normal to tow your path,right your wrongs now so you can give them proper direction in life.Go to church and you will learn alot ,you will also feel the beautiful part of life which you have been missing.

Thanks dear, but what beautiful life have I been missing? Yeah I take care of my kids, I pay child support to my baby mama for the second one, while my first son is with my mom, she is raising him her self though I visit them always and support financially also, though I have not gone for a month now due to the lock down but I do send cash, money is not their problem my parents are capable shaa.

Preshieben:
Go and marry
Before you will send that women to her early grave
Oshey badddest

I won't by God's grace, that's why I really wanna change for the sake of my mom.

Rozz:
Why do you hate marriage,didnt your parents married before bringing you forth into this world?You have a contrary spirit possessing you,see a counselor, visit a living church for total deliverance,change your circle of friends,start practising celibacy and practice the art of obedience.Its a good thing you are feeling bad about yourself,thats a step forward to finding your lost self.Above all start going to church with your mum and when you start experiencing peace within yourself and have become a calm person,then you can start thinking of marriage but for now just don't bring another person into your life to torture, you are not in the right frame for marriage now. All your mother wants is to see you change not necessarily the marriage and she thinks marriage will do the great job.Nobody can force you to change and not even the marriage,the zeal for change should come from you, take a step now and continue,its a gradual process and when you fall,dust yourself up and continue from where you fell.May God see you through it all.

For ur question, I see marriage as an institution for procreation and nothing more, and since I already have two handsome boys 8yrs and 2yrs respectvely I see no essence of getting married.

Rozz:
Why do you hate marriage,didnt your parents married before bringing you forth into this world?You have a contrary spirit possessing you,see a counselor, visit a living church for total deliverance,change your circle of friends,start practising celibacy and practice the art of obedience.Its a good thing you are feeling bad about yourself,thats a step forward to finding your lost self.Above all start going to church with your mum and when you start experiencing peace within yourself and have become a calm person,then you can start thinking of marriage but for now just don't bring another person into your life to torture, you are not in the right frame for marriage now. All your mother wants is to see you change not necessarily the marriage and she thinks marriage will do the great job.Nobody can force you to change and not even the marriage,the zeal for change should come from you, take a step now and continue,its a gradual process and when you fall,dust yourself up and continue from where you fell.May God see you through it all.

God bless you ma, are u a counselor ?

Stacyomolola:
U hate ladies but love ur mom and sisters.
U dont even see women as human (someone a woman laboured to birth, spits).
Sir u're not just weird but also psychologically confused.

I know ma, that's why I am asking for help, I can't do it on my own I need serious advice to help me overcome this problem, I know it's a problem I was not given birth to this way.

The worst part, I was not raised in an abusive home, my parents are married for over 29 years now, and I never saw my dad having a very serious querel with my mom talk more, raising his hands on her.

SweetCunt97:
How do you bleep something you hate? Do u even know what "hate" means?

I don't feel anything for anylady at all including my baby mama, but I love my boys, I just have sex with them nothing, even my current girlfriend, treat her like trash and she don't derserve it, after love making I can decide to just chase her out without reason, and she there not argue me or I slap the shit out of her, I tell you it's that bad.

CallMeGrace:
As for me,what I will tell you, since your mom is forcing you to marry and deep down you are not ready ,I will advise you to find someone your mom listens to, marriage is not something you can just rush in nooo...And as for you, search your heart, search yourself, why do I hate ladies, if possible, pray and fast about it.. discover yourself.

Thank you ma, I do pray but not always, I will certainly pray about and my mom is sincerely praying for me I love her, but are u married, what does it take to keep a marriage.

Never really dated any of my neighbors, but I onced bleeped two of my neighbors the same period, they found out later one japa, maybe she thought I was her boyfriend, but one stick to the bleeping. Also when I was serving I finish one coper, modupe chai everyday lashing. The girl hear am for my hand.

MaestroJosh:
Before i begin, what makes you to hate ladies so much?
Have you crossed part with a dishonest lady who dump you? There are a lot of questions to be answered.

I began hating ladies, after me and my baby mama saga, that nearly consumed my family and hers, I was 18 then, but we continued bleeping until she took in again, also another bitch accused me of rape, she got me locked up for two days those incidents and many more made me hate women, but I Bleep around.

DEIFIED:
may wah ooh. nah force to advise person.

Nobe force brother.

cassidy1996:
hmmmm...... very simple, just marry your baby mama.

We ain't compactible .

Getsaved:
Point of correction please. You are not rooted in Christ, but in catholism. Meet one of your priest you trust for advise. I am sure you will get a good one from there. On this matter, I doubt if nairalnders can help you with advise ( if your story is true).

Thanks.

Please don't read and just go, Eno make sense now, abeg try drop a little advice how I for better my life, seun do the needful thanks.

dawnomike:
Admittance is the first solution to every problem... You do nite have to marry if you are not ready biko. But really, you've got to change your ways.
Speak to your mum about how you really want to make her happy n xplain your life the way you just did to us. Then, get some counselling

Thank you sir I will definitely do that, what of my hatred for ladies, is there a way I can see them as humans

Achor1111:
Efulefu
Egungun don enter express.

Make una advice me now, it's getting out of hand, I sincerely need help, for the sake of my mom.

Pls my fellow nairalanders I need serious help, I do not understand my life I really wanna change for good.please guys sorry for the long epistle, just calm down and read my write up and advice properly.

Fact checks about me.
I was born in a family of six, the only son among my siblings, my family is a strong christain family a stunch Catholics for that matter, my father even built a personal church in my area for every one to worship on Sundays and for weekdays morning masses that's to show u how deep rooted I'm rooted in Christ. My parents really gave me the best of life, decipline wise, educational wise, morally wise or any good upbringing u can think about, and they really loved me. Immediately after service (NYSC). I enrolled with a drilling company and currently have a drilling company of my own, my own apartment and doing well to an extent while also doing my masters. So u see I had a wonderful life growing up.

Personally I'm storbon, I like doing things that is contrary to the dictate of my family and up bringing. Im 26 years old this year April 7. When I was 18 I had my first son with my baby mama, it broke my mom heart though we found a way to go through it, then When I turned 24, I had another son with the same girl, she knows I can't marry her but always wanna make baby with me, I hate girls as a whole, the only women I love are my mom and sisters, I love being percieved as a bad boy which always make my mom cry every night cos she caint understand it, I remember the first day she saw I tatoo on my body she cried and prayed for me for a whole day still I kept on adding till it covered my whole chest and stomach. She want me to be a change child, but I always do things that make her cry due to the fact I'm drawn to bad things easily I can't control it. Now my family wants me to get married this year so as to see if I will calm down, but I'm not ready for that now, becous of my hate for ladies, I treat women like trash, Bleep them and move on with my life, I have never had any feeling for any girl including my baby mama but always Bleep the shit out of them.

My problem is my mom told me if I get married this year, that will be the only thing that will make her happy with me and she will forgive and forget all I have made her go through all this years. Nairalanders I really wanna make my mama happy and proud of me, I wanna be a changed guy without getting married since I already have two sons. Please advice me if u have one thanks.

I remember when I had sex with my oga girlfriend, he will give me car key to carry her to the house for him to attend to customers, once I get home I go lash the girl, then go back shop. Fucking her was one of the sweetest sex I have ever had, u know that feeling say u de chop oga food, it felt out of this world, I still the Yash the bitch till date, my oga never thought of it, talk more to suspect me, though I'm my own boss now.

Congrats man you made it, every human pass through this phase in live and not all make it out but u did, thanks to God. U just went through ur purification stage and trust me ur success is already near. Think inward and use ur life story and lesson for the betterment of yourself and ur environment. God bless you.