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Chaulay1: @Kobojunkie

Since you strongly feel there is no need for maid services at all, I am just wondering if there is a way out of this situation I am going to describe.

Husband and wife leave home around 7:00am to be back usually 8:00pm. Before the arrival of a baby there was no need for any maid but then wife got pregnant and and will be due for delivery soon. In her place of work, she is only entitled to 6weeks maternity leave. The couple live very far from other family members and now the question is how will they cope without a maid. The wife is considering additional 6weeks off work without pay so that d baby will be 3months before her resumption. The option of resigning to look after the baby is no go area as the wife is the major financier of the home.

Now, what are the other options she has apart from a maid(nanny) considering the fact that Daycare centres close hours before her closing time. Infact, leaving the office for daycare runs is not feasible?
(Note: wife's mum is late and mother in-law will only be available few weeks after delivery)

Will appreciate other peoples' responses as well.

Blazed: We didnt brk up, she left with a wealthier man

greatgod2012: it takes 2 to tangle, aren't we suppose to ba partners, and why food money in d 1st place, when d 2 of u are working, and there are so many bills to clear? what are we women using our own money 4 when we can not assist financially?money 4 food or not, food is always available, because when i collect my salary, d 1st thing i do is to stock food stuffs, including meat, fish etc, so there is no reason 4 me to still be waiting 4 food money.

To all married women in d house, lets please command/earn respect 4 ourselves by not expecting our hubby to foot all d bills everytime,its rewarding; what if we're created as men, wont we be responsible as men in d house?

For men who can afford it, but refuse, lets just ignore him and do d right thing, there's a blessing attached to every good work done, so whoever refuse to play his part misses d blessings.
My opinion anyway.

9lifes: people seek the face of god to find wife and husband,chai..even what to eat..lol.

You guys should learn from Adam.Adam did not pray to god,infact there is no where in the bible u were asked to pray for a spouse.Just like eve,god brings people our way,it is left for you to identify the right people and welcome them into ur life.

What happened to god honoring our heart desires,establishing our expectations...this how my uncle ended up with his grand mother as a wife,and sacrificed his education abroad..god spoke to me,person no go hear something.

We should learn to take responsibility for what we want in life,and that is what god expects of us.
Proverb 18:22 He that finds a wife....get this into ur religious skulls,not he that asks god for one...have an expectation and go look for it.

Mathew 18:18:I tell you the truth, whatever you forbid on earth will be forbidden in heaven, and whatever you permit on earth will be permitted in heaven..god honors our decisions and desires,that is why he gave us a sound mind.

I have given u all that pertains to life and godliness..[/b]all..all,babies keep asking for everything.Religion has killed the glory of god in us..just look at this generation.Should we ignore god in our decision making?NO!

[b]Proverb 16:3 ...Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans..get a plan even for love..shine ur eyes

Wisdom is free,and it is everywhere,shine your eyes.All this god speaks to me is spoiling many things,the worst thing is,even morons hear the voice of god.

When you find someone you love,what else can be more wonderful than that,take responsibility for ur life for once,god is not father Christmas as ur pastors would want u to believe,but he is our caring father,and he has given us all it takes..even when we make mistakes,he is their to catch us.

Take responsibility for your life.

olumidazz: I witness the wedding of a 36 year old lady who was shedding crocodile tears on her wedding day having met her hubby 2 months earlier, well only a few guys sitting on the same row with two of her ex's knew the tears was cos she is wombless after having lost her womb on one of her numerous abortions and the yeye husband broke into tears also feeling it was the most romantic entanglement he had gotten himself in. She was obviously sorry 4 the poor boy but she wouldn't divulge.

sesanrota: Typical nigerian way, we know d truth but we prefer doing something else, Bakara raised a point, its left for us to agree or disagree with some, if u call him a fool, why angry if GEJ is called a fool too. lets look at issues based on there objectivity
Thank you very much. The guy simply said the obvious truth.


“Where did they get the money from? Did the money come from government? These are oil vultures. What is the foundation of his riches; is it not corruption? Has Nigeria not been celebrating corrupt fellows? Corruption in Nigeria is now endemic.

andyanders: I wonder why people say, 90% of them are touts.I will tell you that 99.5% of the so called agents are just confirmed robbers.The difference is that they don't carry live gun but carry all forms of charms along.
I had one in 2003 that collected 300k from me and showed me a place and I paid.He told me that the house will be ready in 3 day's time and that was it and story started. Because I needed to move my family from where I was, I was forced to secure another apartment to secure my family first after spending over 1.5million on the new apartment.

I had to wait and after about some weeks snowballed to months, I found out that I have been duped. I now decided to play along with him, take him out for a drink and coolly told him to look for money same way to pay me cos I was not going to involve the police to get my money. I convinced him to give me a receipt and an agreement that he was owing me and he accepted.I drafted the agreement and gave him to sign.He did and I kept the agreement and kept visiting him as if nothing happened.
One day, I laid an ambush near his office armed with a dagger concealed and I saw someone came out from his office with a receipt of payment and I suspected that the person must have been paid.I quickly went inside and saw his secretary counting money and I grabbed the money and he looked at me and never made any move. I took the money and it was 200k and I pocketed the money and walked out of his office.
The second time I saw him after some months was around Ikeja and I was driving.I quickly asked the person I was with to take over the steering and I came down and rushed behind him and he had this big wallet he use to put in his armpit.I quick from behind grabbed the big wallet and he turned I zipped open and saw a bundle of 100k, I took it and I told him straight that if he makes any move that I will shout at him and get him arrested. He told me to take the money.

Having gotten my money, after about a week, I saw his picture on the front page of Sun Newspapers as an Estate Agent that duped people over 3 million naira in 2003 at LSDPC building at Agege. I went to his office and saw OPC also waiting for him.I took the agreement he gave me and now started a case with him and I now declared that he has not paid me based on the receipt and the agreement which he never remembered that he issued. I ended up collecting an extra 300k for the pain he made me go through. After the whole problem I gave him, one day he saw me and said that among the people he ate their money, that they never came back because he has charms that will make them run away but in my own case, after taking my money, that he ended up having multiple problem.
So now, I decided to have my own property and ran away from their problem as all of them are one. I even built for rent and I give my house out direct to tenants as I dont have any so called agent for my property and I do not collect any agency fees.I also collect only 6 months rent.

So I encourage everyone to get his own property.If you can pay house rent of over 100k, you can build your own house.

shine-eye:
I sincerely do not know where you got the notion that marriage makes men unhappy. I sincerely see you as one of those modern day promoters of ungodliness . How could you even suggest that! I have been married for over a decade and there is no greater bliss than my wife in my life. It is all so simple. If we are simple honest people who dont derive pleasure in deceiving people for our pleasure, we would enjoy this life. But we have become so devious and are reaping from are folly. Life is simple. Marriage is so simple. We have abandoned the sincerity of our fore fathers and complicated our lives. Rather than return to the better old way, some dark agents are busy propelling rotten doctrines of living happy lives by jumping from woman to woman.Also note that enemies of marriage are direct enemies of God. We need to change ourselves, not God or marriage. The unhappiness of today is a reflection of our waywardness. More waywardness can never be the solution!

Idowuogbo: Are u kidding me? D babe sabi formulate lie o! How could he pick up a whole washing machine and throw it? How could sum1 bleed for 8hrs and not pass out? Na menses?

See drama kwanu!

Odenigbo Aroli: Abeegi,am not too impressed; All the best to them.

xanadu333: GEJ is my challenge

mekaboy: THESE TOP COMMANDERS NO DEY FINISH OO, THEY KEEP ARRESTING THE TOP COMMANDERS EVERYDAY, I AM WAITING FOR THE DAY THEY WILL TELL US THAT A BOKOHARAM TOP COMMANDER FACTORY WAS DISCOVERED IN KANO, WHERE THEY MANUFACTURE TOP COMMANDERS

Boyloaf: for all of u givin 5 qualitiy bulls.hit; dnt worry, Mary d mother of Jesus is coming to Marry ur as.ses.