₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
What naivety? What do you mean by that?

This is real life... there are no manuals for these things.

Despite the various and enormous pressure on him then,he should have stood his ground and not let the wife go.

2Radii:
I dont know anything but the moment ur brother take the useless risk just because of a woman who doesn't want to listen to her man, but want her man to listen to her either peacefully or with force, the moment his life crumbles., I am sure 86.3% that he wil regret it


Woman wey u never pack go meet for uk wey don dey threaten u, move na, even portable go fine pass him wen the ife finally remove the shock from under the tire.
I pity ur brother

That’s my brother fears too, though I don’t think the woman is a bad person but women are unpredictable

MrBrownJay1:
then he should blame that exact same "pressure" for whats happening to him now... most people who relocate to the west dont want to come back to Africa so early (if at all).

I also blame him for his naivety

Blakjewelry:
Since he is doing well for himself, the choice to move should solely be his, but some people get mind o. How I go marry come send my wife abroad, if she is going there temporary that is fine, but permanent stay? Mba

Like I said he disagreed then too and did not want to let her to go because he was fearing it may cause issue in the future but the pressure on him was too much that he eventually had to let go.

fman:
Where exactly is she based?
UK or US?

Uk currently

Good day my fellow Nairalanders,I’m bringing this here because I know there are so many reasonable and matured people here and I will like you to advice my brother and his wife whose home is currently breaking apart.
Now these are the issues.
My elder brother is 34 years old,got married about four years ago.He is a lawyer (doing quite really well) and also lectures at one of the SW state universities.

His wife is a nurse, currently in the UK,before she left for the UK shortly after the birth of their only child till date(though she is currently pregnant).Before she left my brother was not in total support but eventually had to bow down to pressure from various parties.
Now the current is issue is that the wife want the husband to come and stay in the UK permanently, that husband and wife has to be together..and she complained of a host lot of other things.
My elder brother is having none of it, he argued that it does not make sense for him having struggled to build his legal career to this stage(Nine years at the bar now) and with the huge potential to even achieved more in his career that he can not close his law firm, lose his client and career and moreover if he is relocating to the UK then which job is available for him or what will he even be doing that will worth risking his career back home in Nigeria....The wife said she has factor this in her plan and that’s why she is willing to write professional exams and move to the USA where there are better job opportunities and he may even still practice his law there.
The wife has been threatening fire and brimstone that she will abort her current pregnancy and fill for divorce..my brother has told her to do her worst.
My brother believes his wife is trying to manipulate him,and he is being wary of sacrificing his career for a woman....he believes if he make this move he may regret it in the future having come this far in his legal profession.
Though majority of my brother’s friends abroad are encouraging him to take the risk that he will not regret it,My brother said when pressed none of these people have also been able to give him any cogent answer whenever he talk about what job will replace his fairly successful career back home in Nigeria.
Your advice and criticism are well welcome,thank you.

Update house:
My brother said he has made his decision, and nothing is going to change it, he is never going to close down a thriving law firm and delve in to the uncertainty.
Wife says she feels lonely, and depressed and needs her family with her.says her colleagues at work often poke fun of her because she is the only one whose husband is still in Nigeria.
He said he can only be going to visit and come back to his legal career, a solution the wife refused totally.
Both family members has tried to solve the issue but no headway at all.
My brother believes his wife is being altruistically selfish, trying to take advantage of his kindness and gentleness ,says it has always been about what she wants which he has obliged and never been about what he wants.
The wife said if that’s the case then she will fill for divorce and abort her pregnancy,my brother told her to do whatever suits her, but if she abort the pregnancy she should forget about ever having access to their only child(who is presently living with my brother in Nigeria) but for the divorce he will gladly and willingly grant her wish.
Mother in law did not also help matters, heaping abuse and laying blames on the husband, calling him insensitive and wicked.
Personally I think there’s no going back, this marriage is good as done.

Cousin9999:
Op, the beauty of trying to prepare for this is that you can probably get all the study material free. And there are tons of web communities you can join to study and get info to prepare for the exam.

Here's more info on qualifying while outside the UK.
https://www.lawsociety.org.uk/career-advice/becoming-a-solicitor/qualifying-from-abroad-to-work-in-england-and-wales#:~:text=From%20September%202021%2C%20lawyers%20from,same%20exam%20as%20domestic%20candidates.

Thank you very much for this..I'm so grateful!

ednut1:
is law in their job shortage list No. So how you wan get job offer to process work permit Go find job in a big4 accounting firm. 2 to 3 years later you should be able to move to a uk big 4 accounting firm

Thank u sir

Learner247:
My dad wrote the qualifying exam and is now doing well on his own there in the UK. However, he had more than 20 years experience practicing commercial law in Nigeria before relocating. The years of experience may have contributed to his success there in the UK.

Wow!
Thank you so much

Good day my people.
Please i need more enlightenment on this topic.
Can a Nigerian lawyer practice successfully in the UK if he migrate there?
What's the prospect of a Nigerian lawyer who is attempting to migrate to the UK for the purpose of writing the necessary qualifying bar exams with the aim of practising Law in the UK?
I will be grateful and appreciative for people who are enlightened on this topic to contribute.
There are probably others like me who will gain from such contributions and enlightenment.
God bless you all.

Oladeji245:
Hello my people.. Pls can my uncle who is resident in the USA be a sponsor for my L.L.M?

I need to know this too.though not LLM.I wish can be kind enough to please answer it..

Aaaaarghmed:
oya na...Send numbers to this email Aaaaarghmed@yahoo.com.so we can share ideas and motivate each other.i must comot by fire by force.i just dey wait to collect 190k for work wey I do make I dey add am join my money.those wey dey say start biz in Naija are just wasting their time advising me.i regret not going long ago

Add me to the group boss
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my type of thread!

hmm..important thread

runtime:
Player ratings Mendy -2 James - 0.5 Rudiger -0 Thiago - 4 Chilwell -0.5 Kovacic -0 Havertz -0 Mount - 10 Hudson-odoi -10 Pussylic -0 Abraham -4 Werner -10 Ziyech -5

eeyaa o moo see oo

Danhumprey:
Uber-uselessness personified! Stupid club!

Common Leicester city FFS?!

salty tears...take it easy mhen

TalabiAudu:
Sitting relaxed and waiting for the news

you say whaaat?

Segedinho:
Nah bro
The whole team no fit just loose form once.
I think the problem is from d manager tactic

eyin shekpites bawo ni oo

seankafor:
you make me remember one of my Yoruba female neighbor from Edo state

lol
peleeee

pharod:
Good morning my neighbor
How are you doing?
Are you feeling OK??

nah,he needs panadol extra o

seankafor:
so you all thought I was speaking Swahili when I was ringing this to y'all deaf ears

really??
peleeee

Thecassanova:
Since I stopped watching us play for like 3 games a roll, my mental health has improved drastically from December.

Beat decision I’ve made 2021 thus far!

shalaye fc

why is airmark hiding pls?

airmark:
Rudiger is always afraid to deal with aerial balls properly

Why Lampard started him ahead of Zouma is what i don't know.

stop weeping Alaye..

redcafe.net a Manchester united forum...though only the current events sub forum

jagorinho:
Now, it seems your brain is getting little fresh air, Yorubas believe that quick succession of deaths in a family is unnatural, ( you can't blame them, they discipline themselves spiritually in the olden days a lot and up till now), the form of their deaths might not be the same but the quick succession of the deaths is the subject matter

Now let me paint an example for you, 4 siblings
living in different parts of the country, then 3
died within a week ( very unnatural) which means they have to transport their dead bodies to their hometown, that is an example of Akufa, it is about quick succession of deaths of a close knitted family not about the type of death. Their death can come in different forms.

In this day of autopsy you still believe in Akufa?
How can Your Akufa be proven pls.

BusinessCity:
It's a reflection of his character to some extent. It could be a onetime thing, it could also be his regular attitude. If he had shown remorse then the mum could be said to be wrong. Not showing remorse and claiming right and keeping malice aren't trait a man who wants to marry should have. If a couple or intended couple fight, they shouldn't be doing first to apologise is weak which is what he's doing.


If I were him and made the mistake and loved her truly. I'll call the mum directly and apologise saying it's an error. That's to show the relationship is worth fighting for. He's the man, he ought to do this. The remorse will then cover up all the flaws of all parties. He's expecting the mum to come beg him or the girl to kneel when there aren't particularly at fault


When we were kids, my dad worked as a manager at a bank and had his private company and we were wealthy. We had no lack but in laws brought things we didn't need but give out. They never for once came empty handed. It's wrong.

you are saying nonsense.. the guy brought gifts on previous visits,now he didn't bring this time,hell let loose?
what about the previous times he was bringing the gifts, they don't count anymore?
pure thorough nonsense

HewlettPackard:
You can't give what you don't have!

Lampard does not have what it takes to deliver the EPL or UCL to us, not today, not in 7years time. He needs to back and learn basics of his trade, and we can't afford him the luxury of doing that with this club.

I recommend the board reaches an agreement with him to leave on mutual understanding at season's end, irrespective of where he finishes on the table.

really?
are you sure?

airmark:
You are a newbie, read well. Did Ziyech look like someone who has returned fully?

''By the time Pulisic and Ziyech return fully, those impatient Chelsea fans will go Airplane mode''.

please wipe your tears and make you stay away from snipper.