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False accuser gets arrested, suddenly remembers the truth. Classic

Kemical23:
that is if you like her, not bad the one month...
Because the ones you don't love much should be two to five days...

Wrong. Time isn't based on how much you like her—it's based on how much she likes YOU.

Mariangeles:
Walk away to who, kwanu? Only to still end up with women?
Abi, is there something that we're missing?

I believe the appropriate title for this topic should be why men are tired of chasing women that play hard to get/uninterested , don't you agree?

Walk away to peace of mind. And no, your title is wrong—we're tired of chasing period, not just hard to get

You did NOTHING wrong. Your friend saved you from a disaster

30 days maximum. No exceptions

Afrah04:
The replies tells you the low graded men we have roaming this country....they only think of sex, and nothing else

Keffe D talked himself into a life sentence. Wrote a whole book confessing, then tried to say he lied. Jury took 3 hours. 30 years later, Pac finally got justice. RIP to a legend. Now lock him up and throw away the key

eepeepook:
Men also don’t care to pay for sex. That removes a lot of hassle involved with dating.

Men are not choosing sex over love. They are choosing peace over drama

dollytino4real:
Dating site don carry their mind from chasing, but still folo shikina

You are right. Some men say they are done chasing but still entertain nonsense. But the ones who have truly learned walk away early

tanigororo:
Women are like Shadow
When you go after them they run,
When you turn your back on them they come after you.

You are right. The more you chase, the more she runs. The moment you walk away, she starts wondering

nnamdi640:
The more you chase the more she looses interest, just leave her let her fly as height she can go, when she gets tired, she will fly low to the point that she can't even meet up to your standard

You are right. Chasing lowers your value. Let her fly. When she comes back, you will have already outgrown her

LordLicifer:
As i said, my head has been messed up. I have had a woman in my hotel room while she arranging a date with another man, that woman who lied to a man that she was at her sister's house while in my bed also had that man's shirt with her and she kept sniffing his shirt to smell his body scent. Even though she was trying to convince me she loves me.


I am glad you recognised that i ain't crazy.

No way! I could ever ever believe a word any woman tells me about love, it's affecting my recent relationships.

You are not crazy. You are traumatized. And trauma does not disappear just because someone new says 'I love you.' It takes time — and it takes a woman who is patient enough to earn your trust

I have noticed something over the years. Men are no longer chasing women like they used to. Not because they are shy. Not because they are scared. But because they are tired.

Tired of being used. Tired of being ignored. Tired of being an option while she keeps her options open. Tired of investing time, money, and energy into someone who does not even know what she wants.

Women are now asking: 'Why are men not approaching anymore?' 'Where have all the real men gone?'

The answer is simple: Men have learned. They have learned that chasing does not lead to love — it leads to being used.

Let me break it down


A man who has been through the fire knows that peace is more valuable than any woman who brings chaos

A man who is truly an option will eventually walk away. A man who is chosen will stay


A man with a purpose does not have time to chase a woman who does not know what she wants


Rejection is quick. Wasting time is slow death.

Women are not used to men walking away. And they do not know how to handle it.



This is not a hate thread. This is not a 'women are bad' thread. This is an observation. Men have changed. And women are noticing. The question is: what happens next?

Drop your thoughts below

ChristianMuslim:
What if you have children together before the disrespect start surfacing.. will you start a broken home because you are not weak like some unmarried and GenZ adviser above me.. don't you think it will affect the kids.. You can correct your wife in a calm way, that what makes you a matured man and not just a man..

You are right that children matter. But staying in a toxic home also affects them. They learn what love looks like — and if they see disrespect, they will repeat it

meobizy:
That is all, only two tips? Useless forum.

There is more

LordLicifer:
Men are so simple, uncomplicated and confused unlike women.

A woman tells me she loves me i become afraid,paranoid, apprehensive and curious, My thoughts would be what is she trying to hide? What is she about to do? What has she already done?

Reason is, She tells me she loves me, but tells about 3 other men she loves them too. I have had woman in my bed while she tells another man she loves him.

I have also had a married woman in my bed while she tells her husband she is at her sister's house

I have also visited a woman i was dating newly and she told me she has a man in her bed i didn't believe it until she put the
man on phone to proof it, the guys threatned to stab me i did anything, i just said No! I ain't gat no beef with you i am gonna leave


i have also had another wife in my bed while her husbands asked her if she loved him she answered yes! Dear, i felt confused with all that meself. All that messed my head up. Ever since that i have never believed any woman who tell me she loves me. I don't think i would ever ever believe it.

I also do not think i would love any.

You have seen too much. Your distrust is not crazy — it is learned. I hope you find a reason to believe again, but I understand why you do not

MrSly:
I don't know how I would say that woman was violent to keep and I am helpless. The woman will explain given to her dad not even me.

I hear you. Men are often not believed when they are abused. That is not your fault — it is the system

binary123:
most of these woman tormenting and disrespecting their husband, and the man remains in the toxic maraige is not ordinary.
Most of these women are diabolic.they have planted the man strength in a calabash.the men are been weaking spiritually.fear women.

You are right that some men are spiritually drained. But not every woman is diabolic. Many men stay because of children, shame, or financial traps — not just spiritual attacks.

Mariangeles:
Respect is earned, not demanded.

For people to respect you (as a person), you have to be worth respecting.

You are right. Respect is earned, not demanded. But men and women often earn it differently — men through provision, women through loyalty.

oglalasioux:
I don’t agree with you. Men who stay in a toxic marriage are simply cowards with scarcity mindset. The mere thought of another man sleeping with their wife is the reason some men will endure nonsense trying to mend what is broken.

You are not wrong about the fear. But you are wrong about the ease. Leaving is not always simple — especially when children and money are involved

Kingpele:
Love and respect goes together, u can't love someone u disrespect...simple...as for u op I don't think you have been in marriage for atleast a decade...human beings naturally desire respect and love..both men and women ...but if a man don't have money is difficult to find a woman who will love and respect you...except you are God fearing ....in such case God leds u to a humble person that will love and respect you irrespective of your social status.....

You are right that money helps. But respect is not bought — it is earned. A man with money and no frame will still be used

lexxwiz:
Brighton has won last 3 H2H. This is a very good game for Chelsea believe. Make Una calm down with the criticism. Brighton Dey worry big teams normally . People wey knack Aston villa 4nil last week. It’s a great game if you ask me for Chelsea.

Exactly
This Brighton team are good on a normal day

Goo0dHardDick:
Lol. I understand your point but holding a woman accountable is a sure way for a man to become miserable in life. Such a man will be single in life because women can never take accountability for their lives let alone actions. A woman must look for someone to blame for her own wrong instead of admitting it.

This is why when she has misunderstanding with someone on the road or anywhere at all, she expects a Simp man to come and save her and in reality he does show up! She feels relief while passing all the blames on the SIMPLETON.

A woman who has understood women's psychology doesn't bother himself. He leaves her to do whatever she likes without any atom of Controlling her. Of course he observes her actions and respond accordingly.

You are not wrong. Many women will not take accountability. Many men enable them. And confrontation without frame is exhausting.You are right to observe. But observing without acting is not wisdom — it is surrender
A man who never holds a woman accountable is not at peace — he is avoiding war. But a man who knows how to hold her accountable with frame will earn respect without misery

ManknowThyself:
A true dad can never neglect is true blood and flesh, nothing on earth can ever make him imagine that for a second of his life time.

Their needs and care is always SPECIAL and prioritize over anything else.

He can only do that always when he has peace, good health and good mental state of mind for productivity and provision for his family.

When he hesitate and lose himself, he can never be able to be there for his children.
Any man can be a father but not all men can be dad to their kids.

Real men take time to make a choice of wife cos they know deep in their heart walking away is a must when there's toxicity in their marriage.

To your last paragraph, when he dies from toxicity due to staying put that's worst.
Walking away is the only true reason to stay alive and be there for his children.

Life is beautiful and everyone is replaceable but only energy of persons can never be replicated.

Life is all about choice and your choice and understanding must not determine mine choice.

Good night

You are not wrong. A man who stays in toxicity and dies is no good to his children. Leaving is sometimes the only way to stay alive for them but you are wrong to make it sound easy. For many men, leaving means losing everything — including their children
For many men, leaving is a war — not a walk

He is not a man looking for love. He is a man looking for money.You did not send money once. You sent it twice. That is not love — that is being a target.
A man who asks for money before meeting you is not a man — he is a business. And the product he is selling is your trust. You bought it twice.