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The lady rejected him because the transaction was complete. He paid for the degree; she received the degree. The contract was fulfilled. Her refusal to extend the contract (marriage) was simply her exercising her option to seek a better buyer in a market where she now has more value. The only mistake was his assumption that charity purchases loyalty.

OredoPikin2:
Wolves dey champions league

no mind am
Champions League wey never sure for anybody

Samantha125:
It was his hard work that paid off, not necessarily a woman.

Sure, she might've been his pillar of strength and offered a good support system, but with dedication, proper resources, and self discipline, you can achieve any purpose in life.

Good girl

The idea that Nigerian men are "the most sought after" is a nationalistic cope. It is a story men tell themselves to feel competitive in a market where they are actually competing on a global leaderboard of looks and wealth. A Nigerian man at the top of the SMV hierarchy is sought after. A Nigerian man at the bottom is not. The "Nigerian" part is irrelevant to the transaction.

You are treating marriage like a contract negotiation before establishing the emotional and physical attraction required to make her want to sign the contract. You cannot logic a woman into wanting you.You can only trigger her emotions. By teaching her, you are signaling that you believe you are not enough on your own—that you need arguments and evidence to win her over. That signal is often the very thing that turns her off.

Unclebayo:
What is your take on this, I’ve been shaking my head since morning…

I loose trust in this gender every single day ngl

I hold no moral judgment against the woman.It simply observes that she acted according to her biological and environmental incentives. The Nigerian boyfriend is a cautionary tale for men: Do not invest in a woman's "potential" or "education" unless you have a prenuptial agreement that makes you a secured creditor rather than an unsecured one. In the global Sexual Market, the man who sacrifices for a woman is often just the man who pays for her to leave him for someone better.

Yes, it is entirely fair to conclude they are all "business women."

The Runs girl is a travel/experiential freelancer.
The Prostitute/Hooker is a cash based retailer.
The Ahawo is a discount vendor or high-volume trader.

A customer is a customer. The attempt to moralize or differentiate the type of vendor is just a way for men to feel better about paying for something they ultimately cannot get for free: female commitment based on genuine, unconditional desire.

Early marriage is objectively "better" than fornication for the purposes of reproduction and male happiness, but it is unsustainable in a society with female independence and birth control

budaatum:
No, I'm not. Why?

Lie full your mouth
You lie for a living

jimmyolasun:
So I was scrolling through one of the dating apps today looking out for a spec that is understanding when I came across this profile. So I'm curious,
as a single young man can you date this Lady?

Number 1.She is a single mom

Number 2.She still have this "Deserve me"mentality which means she has a high level of entitlement.She beliefs she is the price despite her circumstances.

If you hate yourself, you can go for her as a young man
Ire oo

budaatum:
Yes. Unfortunately, I'm not single, nor young nor a guy.

You'd be dating only because something about her must have attracted you to approach her in the first place, and the fact she's laying it out up front is kind of desirably honest and sincere which many of you single young dating guys tell me is so rare in the girls you meet that you must dna.

You haven't asked about marrying her but let me.
Hopefully she is as desirable as presenting and her two young boys are as wonderful too, and she is still young enough to have more kids since it must be expected a single young guy would want kids. A boy first I'd hope, then a daughter so she'll have 4 while you have 2. So yes. I might marry her, if I were single, young and a guy.

You'd need to meet up to what are likely to be her very high standards of course, since you'd be being monitored by those two wonderful boys of hers, which makes me wonder that a better title for your thread would have been Single young guys, do you think you are sufficiently qualified to date this lady?

Are you from Lai Mohammed family 🤔

shegoon:
Amen! Still don't understand why men are so unfortunate despite all the sacrifices and labour.It is well

Men who called themselves leaders of the world have designed the world in a way to favour women more.
Men are the architect of their own problems

Wickedfact:
And him papa dey languish in penury.

Forgetting that he will be a father too one day

This one is looking for attention
Women that do these things don't spit it out like that

Pootle:
this one wey dey rub ororo for him hand before game start

He no want make opponents catch am na why

Congrats but that one no mean say make the girl no divorce am if things go south.
20 years of dating is enough for the man to know the true behavior of that girl

Uptheante:
Why didn't you ask him if he marries a virgin with good character? Or are all virgins having bad character?

I think it's either you are too dull to understand his points or you are just deliberately misinterpreting his points to suit your argument.

He clearly pointed out that:

1. Between a virgin with bad character & a non virgin with bad character, if a sensible man is asked to make a Hobson's choice between these 2 options, the virgin with bad character will be the wise choice.

2. Between a virgin with good character & a non virgin with good character, if a man is asked to make a choice between the 2 options, the wise choice here will be the virgin with good character.

You are deliberately or mischievously asserting that virgins have bad character while non virgins have good character because you want it to suit your narrative.

The truth is that a balanced & fair comparison should be between either:

Virgins with good character & non virgins with good character

Or between

Virgins with bad character & non virgins with bad character

Move your frustration elsewhere and stop disturbing my mentions with baseless arguments

Sometimes I just look at you guys and shake my head.From the replies you are giving, you still have a father.Is it only your mother that deserves money?
What about your dad?
And am sure he is sole provider of the family when you were growing up.
Why do you men find it hard to take care of your Fathers.You have forgotten that you will be in his position one day abi.It might not necessarily be about money but, you will be in his position where you will need love and care from your children too.
If I say that women are smarter than men now,una go say na lie.
Men are the architect of their own problems.They give women so much power

Chelsea is no match for Arsenal in recent years.I am not surprised Arsenal is winning

Keepamsafe:
Read the post you quoted to digest before replying. I dislike people that read to respond instead of to understand.


I even made it easier for you, yet understanding is oblivious of you.

I will come briefly again,

A VIRGIN WITH BAD ATTITUDE IS STILL A BETTER CHOICE THAN A NON VIRGIN WITH BAD ATTITUDE.

same way,

A VIRGIN WITH GOOD ATTITUDE IS A BETTER CHOICE THAN A NON VIRGIN WITH GOOD ATTITUDE.

I hope this is easier to understand now?

There is no need asking silly questions and don't expect me to answer that question because I have made my points clear to you
If you like marry a virgin with bad character.That one concern you

Keepamsafe:
Virginity amongst other criteria makes a good wife. For a lady to keep herself as a virgin, that shows faithfulness and chastity.


I don’t know why you guys always make virginity synonymous to bad character.

Same way a virgin can be rude, toxic, its same way a non virgin can be.

Bringing a virgin with bad character and a non virgin with bad character, THE VIRGIN IS STILL THE BETTER CHOICE.

So, don’t compare a virgin with bad character to a non virgin with “good” character according to you.

The right comparison is a virgin with good character and a non virgin with good character who would you rather pick??


Another better comparison.

A virgin with bad character and a non virgin with bad character who would you pick?

The mic is urs

You guys are funny actually 😅
The fact that a lady is a virgin does not mean she is faithful and chasty by default.You can only be faithful and chasty on condition but that is another topic on it's own.A virgin lady might not be exposed to life early.Which might increase the chances of her virginity but,it doesn't mean she is chasty and faithful by default.
By the way, the lady who is not a virgin now was once a virgin too.If you marry and disvirgined a lady with bad character, her bad character remains but her virginity is gone.So tell me,if you can't withstand her character anymore and you left each other, will she have sex with another man or not 😏
She may even cheat in the marriage with you sef.
See,I support marrying a virgin 💯 but not a lady with a bad character

shortgun:
It happens all the time and it's called farewell sex.
Women are very emotional and attached to any man they have had it with before.
Almost impossible to say no to him.
Solution... immediately you start getting serious with her, cut all her ties with all exes.
This includes some extreme measures. If she complains about you being insecure, possessive or controlling leave her and run as far as your legs can carry you.

Never marry a lady without an ex.Infact its almost the same as marrying a virgin

First of,if you are coming to see me as a lady and you don't have tfare, you have no business visiting.
Secondly,as a man, you should make your intentions know to a lady in the first instance.You don't have to spend money buying drinks or food just to please her or you

I only pity guys who spends money to impress these women 😭

EmmyMaestro:
Don't just look for virgin for a wife. Get a woman with good character, manners and respect for a wife. Because virginity ends in one night but good character, manners and respect is needed forever.

Exactly.Some people think virginity automatically describe good manners.

Keepamsafe:
Thank you for schooling him.

He is wrong.Virginity does not make a good woman.Those ladies who are rude, jealous has anger issues or aggressive her even hard to deceive before disvirgining them

gammarays:
It takes character, manners to remain a virgin in our generation

You are wrong.Virginity does not automatically describe a good woman.A lady can be a virgin and still be rude, jealous,has anger issues.
I am talking from experience

tosyne2much:
It's going to be a very tough game for Liverpool

Possibly a draw

Liverpool go win
E go shock you
YNWA....

Karlifate:
What's your own Sun sign?

Am Taurus
The 🐂

Paige001:
she genuinely loves you that's why she's jealous when she sees you with another lady, and it's like you have wandering eyes since you already have two replacements let her go you don't love and deserve her.

I don't take the other two girls serious though and even my own sister have confirmed it that she actually loves me
I will sort things out with her