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YungMillionaire:
This is why I don't believe in the Christian God. Even prayers to this God is like 9ja bet. Its all luck no God involved.

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

UPDATE !!!!! :

OP is making progress !!, I can't wait to chop naming ceremony rice
God bless you sir. I have bn educated. May the Lord bless and increase you in Jesus name.

lilbest4:
It doesn't matter whether she performed whether she performed well or not, an average male referee would have also performed well. A man cannot referee women's match so there's no reason why a woman should referee men's match.

Childishbanjino:
Well, maybe it was a soft one, you cant say that there was NO contact and in my opinion VAR should have advised her to review it. Mistakes happen. Hell, Madrid/Barca have been benefiting from officiating errors and no one has called out the referees' gender. She can be criticized without dragging gender into it.

spartoo:
Don't get me wrong. I don't look down on women. I just don't support anything that has to do with women having authority over men. There's a place for a female referee and that's in female competitions.

Childishbanjino:
male referees have been officiating women's game for quite some time now.

lilbest4:
women should referee their women match while men referee theirs. If it were a man that was brought to referee that match and it was a final in women's competition feminists would've shut down the internet shouting misogyny and their other rubbish. Why should women be allowed to referee men's match when men cannot referee women's match?

spartoo:
I don't really buy the idea of women handling such situations when there are capable men. It's just like when a man's wife is ordering him around

spartoo:
I don't really buy the idea of women handling such situations when there are capable men. It's just like when a man's wife is ordering him around

MrsNwaAmaikpe:



This old cargo should quit wasting money she can bequeath to her progeny when she dies. Village people are behind her case

Ralo:
Too much bleaching cream has damaged her nerves. Yoruba people love bleaching like their existence depends on it.

sesay:
No, I was told is in batches, which I doubted. of cause they would give excuses.

chimezie6891:
@ somebody1,I am in my mom's deep feeezer cooling my temperature, cos the heat emanating from this tread can even melt diamond

chimezie6891:
@somebody1, how far na

bluetrails7:
Amen o. Thanks. Good wife fall on me

Generalyemi:
mighty sister ,,assuming she hold her ground prayerfully, and on d wedding night she found out that the brother is impotent or have a one inch dick..what will she do..divorce him? or keep holding her ground....is both ways ,good for the man and the woman

goingape1:
STAND YOUR GROUND PRAYER FULLY WHILE FVCKING OTHERS AT NIGHT....

hypocritical kind of people

collinsebuka:
If marriage isn't for sex then what is it for to hold hands and sing kubaya

hold your ground prayerfully aunty while girls are getting married every other Saturday.

collinsebuka:
whether or not she's a virgin I must have sex before I engage you.


Marriage is forever and you don't want me to know our sexual compatibility That Won't work with me

if you refuse I will go for someone who wouldn't