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Thonia
Thats nice, I tried to reply the rubbish but I did not see the point.

What is the chance about? Did they break up?

Who does the cousin or the girl stay with?

This makes no sense.

whoops . . . forgot to mention that he thinks it's ok to be violent.

Here . . . bigbaby may not like this but I don't care

Here

Aisha
No file was attached in the mail, you may want to resend it.

Thanks

Here

uche1:
ME AND ME UCHe lol

Lets look at it this way, Once you have identified your potential Career Mentor, Begin by doing background research When you make contact, either in person or in writing, begin with positive feedback. Explain that you admire the way they have managed a project, or presented on a topic, for example, here on nairaland, The term ëmentorí can mean different things to different people, so donít ask ìcan you be my mentor?î Instead, make a specific request based on the goal you established earlier. Keep it simple, such as advice on a presentation, or help in making a career decision.

If there is something you can offer in exchange, let your potential mentor know. Perhaps it could involve some volunteer work (which will of course assist you, too), locating resources ñor offer to take them out to lunch in exchange for a chat. Mentoring works best when it's a reciprocal relationship.

Me and Aisha2 can work something out if she don't mind, i be boy shaaa

ALWAYS PROVIDE LINK TO WHAT YOU POST IF YOU ARE NOT THE SOURCE
Thank you
The real source is from Alumni: The University of Melbourne

Once you have identified your potential Career Mentor, you will need to prepare carefully before approaching them. Begin by doing background research, as you would for an important job interview, so that you know their areas of interest and expertise. If possible, have a mutual friend or acquaintance introduce you, or use their name when introducing yourself. Alternatively, get involved with your potential mentor through your professional association.

When you make contact, either in person or in writing, begin with positive feedback. Explain that you admire the way they have managed a project, or presented on a topic, for example, and that you would like to learn from them. The term ëmentorí can mean different things to different people, so donít ask ìcan you be my mentor?î Instead, make a specific request based on the goal you established earlier. Keep it simple, such as advice on a presentation, or help in making a career decision.

If there is something you can offer in exchange, let your potential mentor know. Perhaps it could involve some volunteer work (which will of course assist you, too), locating resources ñor offer to take them out to lunch in exchange for a chat. Mentoring works best when it's a reciprocal relationship.

http://www.unimelb.edu.au/alumni/Careers/Careers30Aug.htm

I'm here

Aisha
I meant that in a good way, seeing I do not possess much experience in the mentoring line
k_ somze4 @ yahoo . com

Still here

Aisha
I'm interested na, send me too . . . unless you want to handpick who you send to

uche1:
Do not expect your Career Mentor to do all your hard work or solve your problems. Their role is to suggest different options, provide the broader perspective and facilitate your own workplace learning. Clarify your goals, and plan your mentoring with these in mind. Ensure your mentor understands what you hope to achieve together, but be flexible and open-minded

I had not thought of this earlier but some folks may have this mentality . . . Ola called it favoritism, you may want to check that post.
I think the two are interrelated. Thanks, this is noted.

almondjoy
you've been saying goat thead all the while, what are you talkin about?

i know of no such thread neither have i referred to anyone as that.

please clarify

I'm back

I have to say read the line where you got that from and put it into context. That's how to get the true meaning of statements

I have to go for a meeting.

still here ladies, still here  

No i've not had a mentor . . .
I'm heading for a meeting will reply when back

Here

I have to laugh out loud

Bolaoni
I dont fight no more o, stopped for a while now, I'm even taking adequate measures to curb a lot of practises that may lead to negative publicity.
I'm tired of Nairaland Drama.

Aisha, Ola
Nice Idea, count me in as a protege
I'm greatly interested.

Here

Bolaoni
You rarely come to sports anymore, but again most old members don't . . . too much has changed 
It took a number of things to make me look at things from a different angle, even at this point some times I go back and forward,

I will explain a little below when I reply to Ola

Olanijim
I do not know where you get your wisdom from,

olanajim:
Somze,
No country is brought up to have mentors. It is a choice and products of their determination to be counted among the great. If Nigerian Leaders are content to glorify mediocrity, then, nature can't be blamed. We must be prepare to make a difference if we are not satisfy with the system. . .

We need to open our eyes and be prepare to make a difference.

Mentoring is one way of achieving that. You will have access to knowledge you are not born with.

The meaning of being "great" or "successful" is another issue. Here we are brought up to view the wealthy as great and successful hence observations you made. I get confused sometimes and am at odd with myself. When all your friends go for the bank jobs and yet you reject offers because it does not fit with your career goal or path, friends think you are insane.

Under a lot of pressure, you break sometimes . . . especially without a mentor. We have a certain privilege in the Family and I asked my Dad to do something about it, in his reply I was reminded of things that truly mattered. The reply contained something like this - I am not in search for that much fame, power or wealth.

That was so un-Nigerian, I felt he was an alien because of the sum of Money involved and seeing others go the same privileges. But the truth is that greatness or success is not measured by those things even if sometimes those things are a product of greatness. Very few Nigerian wealthy men have their sources of wealth clean. Its sad.

Another point you made was favoritism, this is indeed very true.

This is another paragraph that caught my attention

olanajim:
It is this kind of intellectual corruption that had transformed Nigeria into a crawling giant. A Nation where wealth flow like water, yet poverty ravages the land. Corruption in Nigeria is not limited to finance. We have spiritual corruption. (you can see how many modern day "jesus and muhamed" are sprouting from every local govt daily yet, our streets and hospitals show how successful these miraclemen are), we also have mental corruption as manifested in our reasonings and lack of national ideology.  Intellectual corruption had been mentioned already. And today, our universities ranked among the best in the world and[b] our professors are winning Nobel prizes in Science[/b].

There are some Christians (actually most) I'd say that to and they'll ask for my head  Why don't they leave the comfort of their buildings (churches) and go do the miracles where it is needed - on the streets, in homes. With all the TV coverage, you'd believe we are free from diseases.

Our Professors are in universities abroad and they're doing so well. We are blessed with a lot of Knowlegde yet like you say we are crawling.

Who dey flog who?

morning toyin

Its either you need glasses or hearing aid
I heard your parents clearly when they said 3pm

I'm thinking of retiring jare, maybe watch TV then sleep off on couch
Nite night

toyin
come on na, state clearly that yours is 3pm

Amigoz
Have a peaceful nite dear

You hit the nail on the head concerning our education system, I can tell you that even as an IT grad I did not see the value the nice looking cgpa added to my life or career. It was just a meaningless paper.

The intelligent ones pay lots of money to do certification courses and learn new languages, while Ibkaye in the UK gets Oracle courses in pre-college (6th class or foundation school or so).

almondjoy:
The mentoring process is an educational process and since the educational system in Nigeria leaves much to be desired--mentoring has no bearing professionally in most occupation in Nigeria.

Another intelligent quote . . . bullseye
Now one can begin to understand why issues such as this seem foreign in these parts.

It's me that would have my head off for trespassing not you

Jayvin
I'm cool dude, whats been happening

Toyin
Abeg I can live without it o ^{before some one breaks my head for trespassing}

Amigoz
Ok o, I rest my case

Dont get me wrong . . . by goals I meant time-constrained goals like completing certain tasks, projects, career developments, learning a new software language et al. Due to bad time management, I always seem to have had other things to do, some of them were overlooked (or have been overlooked).

Looking at your first period in school and what the counseling helped you to achieve, i wondered what I'd have completed with such a program. So its mentorship not sponsorship I meant

Back to who can be a mentor -
How do we find them here? For folks like me or other people out there in need of such. Like I said its only in Church I've experienced such. What of in Career? I go to libraries to read books by Bill Gates, Obasanjo wrote his book and I did not even care because I know . . . (at last sef it was a political thing, his faithfuls came buying 50k copies but who go read am?)

Bill Clinton writes a book and it sells a million copies. My point is that these folks have something close to a proven record, a life that others think they can learn from.

How do we find such people or even the ordinary ones that can mentor and take proteges here. That can be like your Orthopedic friend, that will check up on the proteges and all that?

Our intelligence has just received report that Iraq (Toyin) receives funding from the Taliban (Jayvin01). Together these countries constitute and axis of evil and must be stopped at all cost.

We must destroy all communication lines from Jay to Toyin while I take Toyin hostage . . . er . . er for the sake of nairaland peace of course, not personal interests.

toyinrayo:
i knew you wanted a taste of this. . .but no!!!! i won't give in to seduction

Who says you have a say in this matter?
Let me get the support I need and I'd come for the kill

UN Secetary General - Amigoz
Iraq (Toyin) possesses weapons of mass flirtation. These weapons are a danger to other girls on this forum and as the police of the world (nairaland), I move a motion for a resolution to attack and neutralize such weapons.

If I can not get the support from you, I'd start my coalition of the willing.

Another example of the ever increasing amount of difference in attitude.

Like you said, here we look for who to sleep with or who to sort (bribe). Lecturers don't care, the school system does not either. In my 4 years of school I dont even know if i ever heard of a counselor or financial adviser.