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luminouz:
*Sighs*

Why

Good evening bosses..
There is this lady I'm working with and I like her.

She's always giving me the green light but I can't initiate the conversation. We are actually living in the same compound and also working at the same place but I just love her ways of reasoning cos she isn't materialistic and she is also resourceful.

I've tried very hard to kill the feelings but it isn't going, the more we communicate the more I love her.

Now I'm thinking if i should take her on a date or probably tell her cos we are friends.

Good evening bosses..
There is this lady I'm working with and I like her.

She's always giving me the green light but I can't initiate the conversation. We are actually living in the same compound and also working at the same place but I just love her ways of reasoning cos she isn't materialistic and she is also resourceful.

I've tried very hard to kill the feelings but it isn't going, the more we communicate the more I love her.

Now I'm thinking if i should take her on a date or probably tell her cos we are friends.

CaveAdullam:
1. Another good reason many Nigerians suffer much today is because of the weak family bond holding them together. When we were young, we could go extra mile for blood brothers and blood sisters. We suffer together to get things done and enjoy our transient pleasantness in peace.

2. The whole situation changes when we become adults and start positioning ourselves in new terrains, meeting new people, and learning new things.

This new beginning taints our bloodline relationship. Strangers become our brothers and sisters. Our best friends are people who value us for the incentives we provide them instead of genuine bonds created from loving each other.

3. I'm saying this because family is met to grow together. If that childhood and teenage bond is allowed to continue, many young and old Nigerians won't have been suffering uselessly today.

Because in every family, there's at least one person who has climbed farther on the ladder of life. You only see a unanimous collaboration in burial or wedding ceremonies. In times of suffering and hopelessness, you are a noisy pest to their ears that disturbs that comfort.

4. Nobody owes us anything. People struggle to get there by sheer will and luck. But what's the essence of the family? A dynasty? An empire? Isn't it for a lineage to remain firm and stay long on earth? If we abandon our father, mother, brother, and sisters, how can we build a dynasty?

5. Many people don't see the essence of helping or working with their siblings, hence, suffering is harsher. You see people begging in every corner as if they fell from the sky and dissociated from any family in real life. This is unfair.

6. I know of the exceptions: Family can abandon you; siblings can betray you; some friends have proved themselves better than family members.

But in the grand scheme of our human lives, the family is the first and only place a man can find real protection and genuine love when he is being treated harshly outside. Ask the prodigal son.

It is so bad your sisters are acting this way. And it is worrisome.

You'll be fine. It is just a matter of time.

Take care.

Thanks alot big bro...
I wish I could know you personally cos I'm at a point where I need lot of mentors...
People like you and pansophist are people I admire a lot..
Thanks once more👏👏👏
PS: even WhatsApp no. Will be accepted.

CaveAdullam:
Most difficult best solution: Leave that house.

If you aren't the eldest, you don't have any say. You will remain subservient to their wills and demands.

There's hardly any strategy you can use to maneuver this current environment. Even if you decide to play the nice brother role, it will end in consistent failure. Proximity will make your manipulative cards fail. You can't please them.

They are nonchalant and comprise weak characters. They are deviants. The more you stay close to them, the more polluted your soul will become. They are energy parasites - they will drain you mentally, emotionally and physically.

What you need to do is to look for a better job that'll take you far from them. You can get another accommodation in that new location.

Stay on your heels as you think of the fastest way to fly high away from them. Don't think of how you can survive with them any longer. Your escape from their snare should be paramount right now. You need peace and rest to plan effectively as a young man.

And whether you later become successful in future or not, they are people you must relate with from afar and with a long stick.

Don't fret. This too shall pass away.

Thanks.

Sorry bro.. I wanted to mention you too.
I think dats the best idea. Cos today I didn't give them the 2k for food.
They were just showing themselves attitude.

Qatar2022:
That money you bring from your salary from the first month is the problem they thought you have more than enough, they shouldn't have known the day you received salary

I even told them what I was gonna use the money for.
Anytime I bring the money, they are always happy dt day, then after dat we become something else.

Qatar2022:
That's Nigeria girls mentality for you, find friend or some space In your place work to stay for now

Thanks bro.

Blupen969:
You are telling him to look for a new place to stay, you give am any new place to stay abi you think say na nigerian film be this?

What if I save 10k per month while staying with them and still look for another job that pays at least 40,won't dat be a better option?

pansophist:
Find another place and live. It will solve all your problems. If you stop giving them money, it won't end the mental and emotional blackmail and torture youll pass through. And you should also not be living with people like that.

I've written it here a lot of times that you don't cast pearls to swines, meaning you don't give valuables to pigs. They lack the ability to appreciate it, they just can't. And you must accept that the pigs you hate outside can be your family.

They said blood is thicker than water, that true, but do you know what's thicker than blood? It's love. Love is thicker. They don't treat you like someone they love. You should not tolerate it.

Also, you must be comfortable being in people's bad book. You should always act right, but if anyone gets angry when you please yourself and treat yourself like you matter, it's their problem. Putting yourself first and refusing to be their beech is acting right. Leave them, and move on.

You are a bag of wisdom🙏🙏
Cos the last time I collected my pay without giving them for a week, they told the neighbors shit about me.
The neighbors were angry when they heard the truth.

MrBrownJay1:
stop paying for food at home and eat outside...dont touch their food and your life will be easier from that point on. let them fend for themselves. stop being a fool, NO MORE CHOP/COSMETICS MONEY FOR THEM!

Thanks big bro🙏🙏

luminouz:


That's crazy! Unless you assert or put your foot down, nothing go happen o. You are already dropping 14k for food. What else do they want? I am sure something is wrong somewhere because they have been feeding you since you came till you got a job na?

What now happened?

N.B: You really mean your steps-siblings do hookup? Takes a brave man to admit that

Yeah... Cos I ain't happy about it..
They were doing it so with a condition. If I hadn't gotten a job, I'd be on the street now.

luminouz:
Isn't it easier to just tell them your salary?

I mean, what's the big deal?

They even go around asking my colleagues if they've paid us even before the month is over.

luminouz:
Isn't it easier to just tell them your salary?

I mean, what's the big deal?

They knew from the onset but they are still doing it.
I always show them the alert.

Eazzii:
Sonofhercules, eat outside then gather money and rent a room. Are they all your sisters?

Step sis dat are envious..
Thanks big bro🙏🙏

Blupen969:
Do you really have a choice??

Hmm... Im just in my early 20s.
Don't you feel dis could lead to my downfall in future.

Cutehector:
Wait, the three girls are your sisters and they are all into hookup?

As in to work just tire them...
They just love extravagant life.

ThinkSmarter:
If they are truly your siblings, then i can say they don't care about you.
Make arrangement to start living alone and focus on your work.
Only dash them money once in a while and ignore their drama.
They are already wild, u can't tame them now

Thanks a lot big bro🙏🙏🙏
They are actually my step sisters and I've been thinking about what you just said..
Thanks once again

Pls I need advice, just help a junior bro
Pls everyone, I have a problem.
I started living with my siblings since October and I got a job by December that pays 30k per month and ever since then, they want me to foot the whole bills.
Mind you, the three gals I'm living with don't wanna work. They are into hookup and want me to pay for everything thinking I'm hiding cash.
The first month, I got 15k for half month and I gave them 8k for food, they went and bought cosmetics for themselves. I pretended as if I was dumb. Then after dat day they didn't give me food anymore. I hard to feed myself that month with the 7k.

The next month I got 30k and I gave them 14k for food, they went and bought cosmetics and food for themselves. After that week, there was no more food for the month.


It seemed as if they were using my head.. Then the third month, I got the 30k again and I bought foodstuffs worth 8k for the house and some clothes cos they didn't want me touching their stuffs and they got angry and went to tell my neighbors that I don't wanna give them money. After they have fed themselves and their cousins with the foodstuffs they still want me to be bringing 2k every time before they cook at home and house rent is expiring next month which we will pay same quota

PS: I'm a housekeeper for one hospital.
Pls I need advice cos this stuff is driving me crazy

squash47:
Women are very emotional beings, sit dem down, tell dem a touching story of how life is hard for you.

Arouse their emotional part. If u don't know how to do it, go online and search for now to manipulate people.

They will fall if u play your tricks very well. 😁

No be my sis.. Those ladies are bloody greedy.
They will pretend at that moment then go and spread shit about you.
You can't believe that all those while they were telling people that I haven't drop any money since I started working 😣😣😣

SPAMBOX7:
Keep helping the poor. Your reward is in heaven

Mind you, they are nt poor...
They have money but don't want me to share since I'm working. I think it is envy

Blupen969:
Become homeless for a month and prove them wrong

So should I give them all my money and still pay rent to make them happy

Cc.
ThinkSmarter
Pansophist

Pls someone should help me cos I'm about to lose my savings

Pls everyone, I have a problem.
I started living with my siblings since October and I got a job by December that pays 30k per month and ever since then, they want me to foot the whole bills.
Mind you, the three gals I'm living with don't wanna work. They are into hookup and want me to pay for everything thinking I'm hiding cash.
The first month, I got 15k for half month and I gave them 8k for food, they went and bought cosmetics for themselves. I pretended as if I was dumb. Then after dat day they didn't give me food anymore. I hard to feed myself that month with the 7k.

The next month I got 30k and I gave them 14k for food, they went and bought cosmetics and food for themselves. After that week, there was no more food for the month.


It seemed as if they were using my head.. Then the third month, I got the 30k again and I bought foodstuffs worth 8k for the house and some clothes cos they didn't want me touching their stuffs and they got angry and went to tell my neighbors that I don't wanna give them money. After they have fed themselves and their cousins with the foodstuffs they still want me to be bringing 2k every time before they cook at home and house rent is expiring next month which we will pay same quota

PS: I'm a housekeeper for one hospital.
Pls I need advice cos this stuff is driving me crazy

Pls pansophist, I have a problem.
I started living with my siblings since October and I got a job by December that pays 30k per month and ever since then, they want me to foot the whole bills.
Mind you, the three gals I'm living with don't wanna work. They are into hookup and want me to pay for everything thinking I'm hiding cash.
The first month, I got 15k for half month and I gave them 8k for food, they went and bought cosmetics for themselves. I pretended as if I was dumb. Then after dat day they didn't give me food anymore. I hard to feed myself that month with the 7k.

The next month I got 30k and I gave them 14k for food, they went and bought cosmetics and food for themselves. After that week, there was no more food for the month.


It seemed as if they were using my head.. Then the third month, I got the 30k again and I bought foodstuffs worth 8k for the house and some clothes cos they didn't want me touching their stuffs and they got angry and went to tell my neighbors that I don't wanna give them money. After they have fed themselves and their cousins with the foodstuffs they still want me to be bringing 2k every time before they cook at home and house rent is expiring next month which we will pay same quota

PS: I'm a housekeeper for one hospital.
Pls I need advice cos this stuff is driving me crazy

pansophist:
1. Lions are called the king of the jungle because Tigers (and other stronger formidable predators) do not live in the jungle. In other words, the people who look down on you do so because you haven't assumed your throne and shine in your glory. Go be a king in your domain.

2. Resurrect your inner b!tch. The world is a jungle, and being Mr nice guy will not take you far. The unrelenting you are to exhume your inner b!itch, the farther you go.

3. Formal education will make you a living, but self-education will make you a fortune. True life's education is experienced outside the classroom. know the difference between to be schooled and to be educated.

4. Being harmless and incapable of inflicting harm is not a virtue. It is a weakness. The ability to inflict an untold amount of harm, but chooses not to, is virtous.

5. If they stand behind you protect them. If they stand beside you, respect them. But if they stand against you, destroy them.

6. Be aware of your vices, and do not let it destroy your life. A typical vice for men is philandering, negative aggression, greed, alcoholism, etc. For women, it is prostitution, chaos, vindictiveness, narcissism, and dissatisfaction.

7. The antidote to suffering in life is responsibility. pursue what is worth dying for, and every other suffering you pass through shall be insignificant.

8. Never be afraid to walk alone, instead be afraid to walk mindlessly with the crowd. Your mind can be your greatest asset, and your greatest liability, depending on if you nourish it well. Be a solitary Tiger if needed, not a mindless sheep.

9. As a man, your superpower lies in being masculine, and for women, being feminine. Understand what this means and accentuate it to the best of your ability.

10. The ability to express yourself eloquently is power. The power of speech can move mountains, bring down standing armies, and give meaning to life. Be eloquent. The content of your speech speaks more about the speaker, as opposed to the subject. The sophisticatedness of your mind is expressed through the content of your words.

11. The weaker you are, the more fight you will get into. The stronger you are, the less fight you will get into either. To thrive is to be tough.

12. Anyone that loves you in the truest meaning of love is your family. Love unites people not blood, though love coming from blood relation is thicker. To understand the true meaning of love, substitute the word ''love'' with sacrifice. Love without sacrifice is not love, it is infatuation.

13. the natural mandate is that anything valuable comes from the inside. If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If it is broken by an inner force, life begins. Do not let external forces suppress your inner voice.

14. Approach every human relationship and connections with a sense of mutualism, conversely, do not entangle with someone who does not understand this timeless rules. Mutualism is growth, parasitism is death. The tree provides shelter for the bird to nest, and the birds help the tree by spreading its seeds to fertile ground, to germinate.

15. The gentle walk of a tiger is not foolishness, but strategic. In life, know when to give up, preserver, and what deserves your energy and resources, to avoid falling deep into the "sunk cost effect".

16. Have boundaries. A hen is harmless, but as soon as it hatches, its mouth used for eating becomes a weapon to defend and protects it chick, regardless of the aggressor's size.

17. At the very basic, humans are animals. Our behaviors are merely a reflection of our social conditioning (religion, culture, tradition, etc). Know how to alternate between your animalistic nature and your social conditioning to advance in life. For example, understand what attracts the opposite sex from an animalistic perspective to be successful in the mating game, and know how to employ the proceeds of your social conditioning (honesty, civility, professionalism, etc) to get ahead.

18. Do not go through life, but 'grow' through life. Your daily activities should compound into something bigger. Just as a seed becomes a tree, and forest in time, your life should follow the same path. Time is the only precious thing you have. Sadly, most people learn this too late.

19. In this capitalistic world, money is your best friend. Try to make enough of it. You only live once, so live it well.

20. Your health is paramount. You are what you eat, so eat healthily. The surest way to go ahead in life is to look good. Humans are wired to treat good looking people well, and it is a sure way to pass down your gene, as the opposite sex will find you attractive. Attraction is a powerful force, and eating healthy with proper exercise can give you that, regardless of your financial status.

Thus my boss is wise

The thing shock all of us ooo

Rayban25:
Make them extend the election by 2 more weeks I wan check something

Oboy😅😅😅😅😅
Na true ooo

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