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[/b] @ YME,

U R SPOT ON, [b]

[/b]@OP,

HAVING A CHILD IS NOT A DETRIMENT TO A RELATIONSHIP, IF SHE'S A GOOD GIRL AND SINCERE WHY NOT GIVE HER A CHANCE. SINGLE MOMS MAKES BEST LOVER AND SHOW U SUM LOVING CARE
hOWEVER; PERSONALLY, I CAN'T MARRY A SINGLE MOM, BUT NEVER SAY NEVER[b]

[/b] @ Ebonyvibe,

Y R U ALWAYS HATING ON DUDES THAT GET A LIL SOMETHING FROM THEIR GIRLS?, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG IN HEPING YOUR BF IS THERE?, SEEMS U R INTO GIRLS OR SOMETHING, ALWAYS TRIPING ON MEN, [b]

@ OP,

[/b] IF YOU LOVE YOUR MAN, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG IN GIVING HIM A LIL SOMETHING HERE AND THERE, JUST MAKE SURE YOU R WRITING DOWN EVERY DOLLAR AMOUNT U GAVE OR LEND HIM, SO WHEN HE PROPOSE MARRIAGE, JUST TAKE THE RING AND SELL IT ON EBAY, DEDUCT WHAT YOU'VE LOANED HIM, THEN GIVE HIM THE CHANGE IF THERE IS A LIL LEFT, OR JUST TREAT HIM TO A NICE RESTAURANT AND REVEAL LATER ON THAT HIS RING HAS FINALLY PAID OFF, GOODLUCK[b]

[b][/b] @ Ebony,

U gat it all twisted, I was giving tips to the felas outhere willing to leach on women, afterall women do it too. My kinda playa don't depend on women to survive. slow ur roll and let that keyboard exhale, I have mad respect for women and won't diss you regardless of any derogatory words u use in demeaning me. smile, u might just be on candid camera,

@EBONYVIBE

AIN'T DOING NONE OF THAT, THAT'S WHY U GAT TO GO FOR THE ONES WITHOUT KIDS AND DRAMAS, THEY GO TO WRK AND U CALL UR HOMIES OVER AND HAVE FUN TILL SHE COMES BACK, ONCE U START GETTING TIRED OF HER, THEN U GET ANOTHER FLO-RIDER AS BACK UP AND PRESS THE -RESET BUTTON, JUST KEEP ON KEEPING ON,

@ Mr COCK
9JA GIRLZ R DRAMA, I'M TALKING OF AKATA, CARIBEAN AND OTHER AFRICANS, U FEEL ME,

YA'LL SHLD NOT JUDGE, DON'T BLAME THE PLAYA, BLAME THE GAME AND QUIT HATING HATING ON PERFORMER-DUDES,

AS LONG AS THE LADY IS NOT COMPLAINING, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. IT TAKES ALOT OF ENERGY TO KEEP WOMEN HAPPY, SO IF THE DUDE IS BEING RENUMERATED FOR HIS NIGHTLY HARD LABOR , AIN'T NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.[b][/b]

@ Ib

one of my buddy just saw ur pic, he fancied u die, but he's in yakee o. let me know if u r game, and i will hook u up with him.

@ Op

Most naija gurls in UK will rather choose Jamo for papers over whitemen or Yahoo Boyz, On the other hand, just be patience and don't rush into having any woman just for the sake of "good Girl"

@PokerFace

[/b] I don't often post on this forum, but I deffinitely will interject if something catches my attention. You've said it all girl, real men tends to go for a independent, confidence and strong women. Talking from experience, a man's view of a woman's intrinsic intellectual ability is a strong indication of how the subject lady can handle herself and thus family during many of life's roller-coaster.

@ poster

[b] A lazy man always finds faults in others in order to boost his own myopic ego. So dear poster, coming from a "Reformed Playa" Drop those zeros and get yourself a HERO. You are better than the best if you believe, and don't let lazy behind men take you for a ride, so focus your attention on something fruitfull and eliminate any negativity in your life, just my 2 cents[b][/b]

ok, will shoot u sum in a jiffy.

, (in reverse order if u get my drift)

@ Poater,

[b]It depend on what you consider quality. Men have similar traits irrespective of race or creed, it's all about about mutual respect and compromise. Personally, I think half of the Nigerian ladies on the east coast are more egotistic, conceided and too conservative for my liking. Then again, that's my personal opinion. That being said, i do admire their intellectual astuteness.
Another factor is the diversity of women of whom Nigerian men can to choose from. Nigerian men can easily date and marry ladies from other African countries , Caribean, Latinas, African American, even Oyinbo of which most Naija Ladies would probably not venture into. This scenerio minimizes the potential available candidates that Naija ladies can choose from.
Back to your question. I do have quite a few Naija men of quality mostly in the east coast that you might fancy, but u might need to have an open mind in order to see the potential embeded in them. That said, don't prejudge a man from his exterior qualities alone, but be docile and comprehend his internal qualities. Like they say, "Reformed Playas" makes the best husbands, so You have to open your heart for LUV to enter, [/b]

@ Justwise

I"M NOT EVEN FROM THAT REGION, I'M ONLY CITING THE FACTUALLY OBVIOUS WHICH NEGATE ME BEING BIAS. I DID INTERNSHIP AT THE U.N AND IMF IN WASHINGTON D.C. AFTER DURING AND COLLEGE AND MY RESEARCH FIELD DEALT WITH WESTERN AFRICAN AND EASTHERN AFRICAN SOCIO-ECONOMICAL CHARACTERISTICS IN THE PRE AND POST COLONIAL ERA AS RELATES TO GLOBAL ENVIRONMENT WHICH HAPPEN TO INVOLVE MARRIAGE AND CULTURE , SO I THINK YOU CAN APPRECIATE MY NEUTRALITY HERE, DON'T KILL THE MESSENGER!!

@ NAYA,
I WASN'T AWARE OF THE FACT THAT YOUR DUDE IS AN IBO MAN . ONE THING I WILL TELL YOU IS: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME GURL, IBO FOLKS DON'T DO THE INTER-RACIAL-TRIBAL MARRIAGE THINGY WELL, YOU ARE BETTER-OFF WITH A YORUBA MAN INSTEAD, THEY ARE MORE OPEN MINDED CONCERNING INTER-RACIAL OR INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE OF WHICH STATISTICS SUBSTANTIALLY SUPPORTS. THE TENDENCIES FOR THE YORUBAS TO MARRY OUT OF THEIR CULTURE EMINATES FROM THE COLONIAL ERA WHEN THEY EMIGRATED EN-MASS TO ENGLAND AND RETURNING WITH FOREIGN SPOUSES. AT FIRST, IT WAS A LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE BUT AS TIME WENT BY, THEY GOT USED TO THE IDEA HENCE CONTINUE TILL TODAY.
EVEN WITHIN NIGERIAN CULTURE, YORUBA AND HAUSA/FULANI FOLKS INTER-MARRY EACH OTHER A WHOLE LOT COMPARE TO IBO'S WITH OTHER NIGERIAN CULTURE. SO MY LIL 50 CENT OF ADVICE TO YOU IS: IF YOU R BENT ON MARRYING A NIGERIAN, YOU ARE BETTER OFF WITH YORUBA OR NIGER-DELTA MEN.

@ Dogzymallo

You might be right with the IBO folks, they seems too tribalistic. However Yoruba and N-Delta folks tends to be open minded and won't mind. The fact that Nigerians in the diaspora especially the U.S. have lots of options from black, other Africans, Caribeans, Latinos, the list goes on; this variables create an avenue to explore our options. additionally, i've observed that other African women are more calm compare to the aggressive nature of the west-African ladies, ya'll should not crucify me for that statement, I'm not the only one that have made the same observation.
Well what ever works 4 ya'll, just go with ur guts, ciao folks!!

@ TOPIC

There are lots of Nigerian folks dating and getting married to Non-Nigerians here in the U.S. Personaly, I'm Nigerian by blood but never dated a Nigerian in my life. I've dated girls from Eastern Africa, Southern Africa and the caribeans, and I can attest that it's all about the individual not Nationality, Tribe or creed. I'm currently dating an Ethiopian lady and planing on proposing soon (wish me luck ya'll). , she's my Labelle La Dame,
The younger generation of Nigerians are open minded and highly educated which contributes to their level of multicultural socialization. I do have Nigerian friends dating Non-Nigerian-Africans. My folks have no problem with myself and my siblings marrying non-Nigerians, although they preffer any African spounce as long the spouse is not white, lol. However; they've always encourage us to follow our hearts, pray for God's guidance and it shall be well.

@Poster
Congrats on ur proposal, don't keep him on suspense for too long, else he might start looking for other LABELLE out there.
Peace Ya'll.

I guess it's a matter of comprehension, It's not peculiar to africans gals only, I've heard asian folks in the States twick theirs as well; but it's sound horrible. Try going into a "7-Eleven store" and listen to the indians speak   , you'll laff ur tail off.
The gals prolly think twicking their accent might make them stand out amongst other chicks or keep the dudes glued. Their profession might be another reason why the fake it, i guess it's whatever floats their boats

@ Genuine

I commend you brother, stick with the NNN"Namibian Nubian Queen", and you won't go wrong. Based on the following attributes:

1) She's physically Fit, Emotionally Sound & Mentally Alert
2) Educated and Financially stable
3) Elequent Personality
4) BMW = Black Woman Working " with substance

To the hyenas that said Namibians are refugees?, It takes a refugee to know another, they obviously overstayed their VISA in EUROPE or where ever the heck they are hiding ( Now who is the refugee?).

Like I said, She knows what She wanted, and went for it.
Kindly, extend the invitation and I will be glad to grace your wedding,

Genuine, I wish you the best of luck in your journey, do not go astray and PLZZZZZZZZZZ
DON'T LISTEN TO THE WIMP , I MEAN THE HOUSE GIRL HOLDING A JEFFERSON CHAIR IN HER MASTER'S ABSENCE.

ORE VOIR,

@ TOYIN RAZOR MOUTH

Well, FOR YOUR INFORMATION, I'VE NEVER DATED A NGR GIRL, BEING DISSED IS OUT OF THE QUESTION.
SKIRT SNIFFING?, NO I DON'T NEED TO, I'VE GOT ENOUGH IN MY REPETOUR,
YOU ARE NOT WORTH TRADING WORDS WITH, ON MY BAD DAYS, YOU ARE STILL NOT WORTH IT.
BUT I WON'T DEGRADE YOUR SELF ESTEEM FURTHER. I THINK YOUR 419-CAUCUS WILL DO THAT. SO TAKE A HIKE,

@ OZIOMA RADIO

  WELL, YOU JUST PROVE MY POINT: 419 R INTELIGENT? , STEALING FROM THE INNOCENT HAS NO IOTA OF SAVYNESS IN ANY WAY.  
 TRY AND GO TO HAVARD, GET A LAW DEGREE, THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE GUTS TO TALK.
BUT COME TO THINK OF IT, YOU A 419 PERPETRATOR AND I'M A DEFENSE ATTORNEY, YOU JUST MIGHT NEED MY SERVICES ONCE YOU R LOCKED UP,
 BUT UNFORTUNATELY I DON'T DEFEND MISCREATS YOU STEAL FROM THE INNOCENT,
SO PISS-OFF AND GET A LIFE IN JAIL,

@ TOYIN RAZOR

POT BELLY?, You wish,
YOU MIGHT LEAVE YOUR BF ONCE YOU SET YOUR EYES ON ME
HOWEVER, YOU'LL HAVE TO WAIT YOUR TURN,
ON A SERIOUS NOTE: I USHERED MY OPINION BASED ON WHAT I OBSERVED, NOT EARSAY. I'M A VERY CALCULATING INDIVIDUAL, SO I DON'T JUST EXPRESS MY OPINION JUST TO STIR THINGS UP. I STILL STAND BY WHAT I SAID CONCERNING THE NGR GIRLZ I'VE OBSERVED, MY PERCEPTION IS YET TO BE TRANSFORMED GIVEN MY OBSERVATIONS.
I WILL LET YOU BE WITH YOUR POT-BELLY-PURSE-CARRYING-419-HUSLING CAUCUS.
BON APETITE LABELLE COUPE, ORE VOIR

@ TOYIN RAZOR

It seems you are the Official Dr. Phil on Nairaland. For a starter: The last time I checked, You are Toyin not Jayon.
Secondly: If you fit the category I earlier mentioned, be my guest.
In summary: Although I respect your opinion, but they are incomprehensible. clarify your instinct prior to making judgment concerning my blog. Kapishhh

@ OZIOMA Radio

Well, how can a Human like me trade words with a " DAFT"?, Thanks to INTERPOL nabbing your fellow 419/ Yahoozee gangs, I don't have to worry about you, Its a non-starter.

@ NAJA BAGEL

Your Home Work: Google " POTOMAC, MD " and you'll know I don't need to answer your questions concerning ur "UK" classism. get real, most people in NGR have better standard of living than you do. Don't worry, Gordon Brown will expell you prety soon, ITS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME.

@ OZIOMATV

Can READ AT ALL? YOU SHOULD ASK FOR YOUR TUITION RE-EMBURSEMENT.

LACK OF MANHOOD?, THEY CAN'T WITHSTAND MY POUNDING, EVEN YOUR SIS. HAVE YOU EVER SEE A WOMAN'S NUDITY IN LIFE? I DOUBT IT, ( RYAN SEACREST WANTS YOU) .
YOU R THE REASON WHY MEN SHOULD USE CONDOM BEFORE SEX, SO NUTCAKE LIKE U DON'T ROAM THE STREET.
THEY R TOO UGLY AND BORING FOR ME, AND WHY WOULD I WASTE MY TIME ON THAT. ( COMPARE TO ETHIOPIAN BEAUTY)
I DON'T NEED A CAYENNE TO GET A GIRL, THE BEAUTIFUL ONES I MEAN,
GET CIVILIZED, I MIGHT HOOK U UP WITH 1 OR 2,

@ adeboo

I will be waiting on the transformation, and I know its going to be fantastic . Where R U?, I might just send you some coupons to speed things up.

Well, I'm not defaming your physique, I'm just a concerned citizen given the fact that you love to toast, roast and coast. Prevention is better than cure. Again, I've decided not to be mean to you due to your vivacious smile. Keep that smile going, it overide any deficiency you might perceive you have. I hope you are not going on weight loss program just for me; I do appreciate it though.
REMEMBER:
It should be about your intrinsic value, and THERE IS NO FEAR, BUT FEAR ITSELF.

@ TOYINRAYO

 AND WHO ARE YOU? DOCTOR PHIL OF NAIRALAND?   PLZ LEAVE BRITANY ALONE.

TUTORIAL:

  A LION SLEEPs FOR  20 Hrs A DAY, WHILE THE LIONESS GO OUT AND HUNT FOR GAZELLE, JUST IN TIME FOR THE LION TO CONSUME IT ( LION KING) .
 FROM MY EXPERIENCE WITH WOMEN, ATTENTION IS WHAT THEY SEEK, ITS THE MAN'S JOB TO MAKE IT GLARING THAT " WOMEN OUTNUMBER MEN BY 3:1." GIVEN THE STATED RATIO, WHY WOULD A MAN BUGG HIMSELF OVER ONE WHILE THERE ARE PLENTY OF DAMSELS WAITING ON LINE TO GET A PIECE OF THE ACTION.
  HOWEVER; MEN SHOULD TREAT WOMEN WITH THE UTMOST RESPECT, BUT DON'T BE A WOOZIE, WOMEN DON'T LIKE SOFT MEN. IT REMIND THEM OF THEIR GIRL-FRIEND,
  IF YOU GUYS OR NUBIANS NEED MORE HINTS OR INSIGHT. FEEL FREE TO LET ME KNOW

@ Adeboo

I CAN SEE YOU"VE BEEN TOASTIN, ROASTING AND COASTING!! WELL JENNY CRAIG IS HAVING A SPECIAL, YOU MIGHT WANT TO CHECK IT OUT.
BUT, YOU'VE GOT A NICE SMILE, SO I WON'T BE MEAN 2 YOU, AT LEAST NOT TODAY.

SUBJECT ANSWER:

PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING, YOU HAVE TO APPLY A DIFFERENT CONCEPT IN ORDER TO AVOID THE AWKWARD SITIUATION YOU'VE GOT YOURSELF.
TRY THIS:
WOMEN LOVE ATTENTION, TAKE IT AWAY FROM HER- AND SHE WILL HUNT YOU LIKE A HUNGRY BATALION. IGNORE HER FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS, AND SHE WILL MISS YOUR COMPANY SO BAD , THE ONLY PERSON SHE WILL VISUALIZE WILL BE, GUESS,

!!!!YOU!!! ;DTHE LION KING

@ NAJA HAJE

Closed Minded? You are a lost cause, I was simply expressing my opinion based on multiple experiences. I'm not generalizing any one based on nationality. I'm pretty sure you know what I'm saying is true,
Come to think of it, U R IN THE UK, THE NGR CHICKS IN UK R WORSE, THEY GO OUT WITH 419 MISCREANTS AND COMPLAIN WHEN THE DUDE GET LOCKED-UP IN JAIL. HOW DO I KNOW?, I come to LonDon at least 5 times annually. THEY GIVE UP 4 A PAIR OF TIMBERLAND, all you've got to do is take them to OXFORD STREET FOR SHOPPING and THE REST IS HISTORY , ALL in ALL, THERE R SOME GOOD ONES, BUT THE REST?
PLS FILL IN THE GAP -NAJ

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY GUYS STILL WASTE THEIR TIME OVER NIGERIAN CHICKS,

 I WAS AT A GAS STATION DELY FEW WEEKS AGO TO GET A DRINK ACROSS THE STREET FROM A DEALERSHIP WHERE I WENT FOR A SERVICE INSPECTION ON MY CAYENNE;  I SAW THIS NIGERIA GIRL PUMPING GAS, AND I GAVE HER A COMPLIMENT FOR HER OUTFIT,  SHE SAID IM CUTE THOUGH, BUT I'M NOT GIVING U MY NUMBER CAUSE I DON'T DATE MEN WHO TAKE ONLY METRO, I JUST SMILE .
  3 DAYS LATER, I SAW THE SAME GIRL AT A CARWASH, SHE IMMEDIATELY APPROACHED ME WITH A HUG, AND SAID: SHE'S BEEN DREAMING ABOUT ME EVER SINCE.

                  THEY R UGLY, RUDE, FAT AND STUCK-UP. I NEVER DATED ONE BEFORE CAUSE I SEE WHAT MY BUDDIES THAT DATE NIGERIAN GIRLZ GO THROUGH. ON 2 OCCASIONS, I HELP MY BUDDIES DUMP THEIR NIGERIA CHICK AND HOOK THEM UP WITH AN ETHIOPIAN AND UGANDAN GIRLS RESPECTIVELY.
                DUDE, DUMP HER IN A HEART BEAT. GO WITH THE NAMIBIAN CHICK AND SHE WILL TAKE U TO THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN. AS FOR YOUR FAMILY?, TRUST ME, THEY WILL JOIN THE BAND WAGON ONCE THEY SEE  HOW HAPPY U ARE.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY GUYS STILL WASTE THEIR TIME OVER NIGERIAN CHICKS,

I WAS AT A GAS STATION DELY FEW WEEKS AGO TO GET A DRINK ACROSS THE STREET FROM A DEALERSHIP WHERE I WENT FOR A SERVICE INSPECTION ON MY CAYENNE; I SAW THIS NIGERIA GIRL PUMPING GAS, AND I GAVE HER A COMPLIMENT FOR HER OUTFIT, SHE SAID IM CUTE THOUGH, BUT I'M NOT GIVING U MY NUMBER CAUSE I DON'T DATE MEN WHO TAKE ONLY METRO, I JUST SMILE .
3 DAYS LATER, I SAW THE SAME GIRL AT A CARWASH, SHE IMMEDIATELY APPROACHED ME WITH A HUG, AND SAID: SHE'S BEEN DREAMING ABOUT ME EVER SINCE.

THEY R UGLY, RUDE, FAT AND STUCK-UP. I NEVER DATED ONE BEFORE CAUSE I SEE WHAT MY BUDDIES THAT DATE NIGERIAN GIRLZ GO THROUGH. ON 2 OCCASIONS, I HELP MY BUDDIES DUMP THEIR NIGERIA CHICK AND HOOK THEM UP WITH AN ETHIOPIAN AND UGANDAN GIRLS RESPECTIVELY.
DUDE, DUMP HER IN A HEART BEAT. GO WITH THE NAMIBIAN CHICK AND SHE WILL TAKE U TO THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN. AS FOR YOUR FAMILY?, TRUST ME, THEY WILL JOIN THE BAND WAGON ONCE THEY SEE HOW HAPPY U ARE.

WHAT IS TOASTING? TOASTING A BREAD OR FRENCH TOACH?

A BETTER WORD IS " CHAT HER UP " WAKE UP PEOPLE, ITS 2008

Hey, BriticoChick, I'm not in any way repudiating your physical attribute nor defaming your character, I was only responding to someone's outlook on your physique,

Don't take it personal cause I meant no harm,,

HOWEVER, IF YOU WANNA GO THERE, GO RIGHT AHEAD CAUSE I WILL TAKE YOU TO THE CLEANERS; SO DON'T MESS WTIH THIS BROTHA,
ALL IN ALL, I THINK YOU ARE A NICE GURL, EVEN THOUGH I DONT KNOW YOU, MAY BE THAT MIGHT RESOLVE THE ISSUE, U NEVER KNOW,
ORE VOIR, LABELLE LA DAMME,

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