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IamLEGEND1:
so she's turned you to a zombie!

Or better yet, she's mind-controlling you, coz datz the only explanation as to why a nígga will be agitating over something she hasn't even asked for yet.

I didn't know honesty now involves showing a girl my NL account. I must be seriously out of touch.

She asked for it oh after i had mentioned it in a convo;

I really hate the social media monitoring thing...i even have a thread for it. But for someone you are trying to convince first and she is asking and its like am hiding it...its kinda hard you know...I dont care for hers and never asked but she go gree let am pass?

halfrica:



suite ur self bt u smart enof to kno d kind of gf u av if she is d type dat takes things crios den dont if she is d type dat just let things go den try ur luck

Girls dey forget things? Esp when una feel we are hiding something!

kilokeys:
Did she ask u for it?

She actually did since i mentioned it during discussions, but i covered it up changed topics but i know her she will ask again...

IamLEGEND1:
yes,give it to her. along with your penìs & ur brain....or at least what's left of it.

IamLEGEND1....i get it bro...but sometimes e be like say no be me dey think am...

cirmuell:
Don't try that shìt dawg. You stay out of each other's online business if you want to live long.

MA NIGGA!---i dey find the fist bump icon---

obiorathesubtle:
Do whatever the fÚck you want man! Don't involve us in this!

See this Igbo man, you no dey chop dog meat but you dey use teeth share for people way dey chop? Gerearahere mehn!!

kilokeys:
nairaland is a place u spew all ur heart's content..
ideologies, wrong or right
lust, normal or fetish
opinion, myopic or well-thought out


its not something u should be ashamed of.


for me... its an alter ego. a more brutally honest and opinionated self.

But must i share it? since its not the way i appear everyday? which one is the real me?

faith551:
If you delete your threads because of her then you're being fake.
Btw if you want the relationship to last, stay of her online life and she stays of yours,

Bro me no wan fake anything for this chic...

Hello guys, I have two Nairaland monikers and i recently met a very nice chic...we been going out for a while now and you know when you like someone so much you want to let her know everything about you without much reservations? Well i thing am hopelessly in LOVE.(#Neverhappenedbefore)

Thing is, even if i decide to delete all the wrong posts i have on NL it would take me a long long time.

She knows am on NL and i already told here i've been here for 2 years plus, so i can't give here this my Moniker which is relatively clean;

Should i go ahead and give her the bad one? Would you give your girl your NL moniker? Please Lemme know what y'all think.

2sex:
Thank God you admitted it... then you have no reason to say what you wrote because only those who indulge in your act support your stance. You have something you are hiding period. The DReaper doesn't have anything to hide, hence her level of transparency. You guys should learn to appreciate good manners when you see one. UNTIL when you want to settle down and the lady you end up with start forking around you would cry blu murder. pathetic.

Admited what exactly? I said I doubt you could ever be further from the truth! don't you understand English? Well it means you are miles away from the truth which means you are wrong in you assertion. I was responding to your comment bolded OP, you are forking other babes... period.

SMH!!

DReaper:
I kinda of did that but he made it into a huge deal and said I was snooping when he was not looking. and it got me thinking I should ask him for the phone when we are together, maybe once in a while but I haven't tried it yet.

You are still going round this matter! He cheats with chats, or with phone calls and probably/possibly is sleeping around...the problem is not you checking his chats or he actually doing the things you suspect, the problem is that you don't trust him and baby trust me you can never trust him ever; because he will not change.

Make a call now...quit or accept it all and go ahead. People are more likely to remain the same than change!

LaraiBoluwaji:
Divae111, you want to abort after the last one which you say 'was bloody'? What will you tell God if you lose your life in the process of aborting?

The same boyfriend you have been sleeping with without protection will get someone else pregnant if in future you cannot conceive because you have damaged your womb. Not to mention the blood of those innocent babies that are crying against you.

You have blood on your hands and it will cry against you before God. Repent, ask God for mercy, keep the baby (it will be hard but it is the right thing to do) and tell your boyfriend to man up to his responsibilities. He is a selfish coward who doesn't care what happens to your body, as long as he has his way.

Am sorry but at 6 weeks its just a blood clot what are you yapping about innocent babies? Do you mean to say once fertilization occurs that there is a human "being" in there? Am sure you also support IVF so go read about how many "human beings" are killed in that process!

See am not for/against abortion, but i will like you to make that call when you are in the situation yourself not talking from the outside. But i know its a corrective measure for wrong decision howbeit dangerous.

I do not want to give OP any advice, i would rather give information on the matter and let her make an informed decision based on that.

2sex:
OP, you are forking other babes... period. Do you realise that the person that you are referring to @DReaper is in what she termed a SERIOUS relationship wherein she plans to get married to the boyfriend? if the guy can be so secretive now, what will befall their marriage?

I doubt you could ever be further from the truth! These are tested principles whether you are married or just dating...everybody needs space sometimes a relationship where you loose your identities can only hurt the relationship in the future!

@2sex, please read the other comments i have made, i can't repeat then here!

I sense a blanket condemnation on the Church, that one thing is not right doesn't mean all is wrong! The whole body of Christ is still being perfected and you don't expect things to be perfect until (Ephesians 4:13 KJV)
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:


That said I would also repeat that I hope your summation on the Church is not based on one gathering you attend, because as of last Sunday I witnessed the speaking of tongues with interpretation, so please be careful how you make such asertions.

I also think you are more of a philosopher who is interested in historical research and logos. I would rather you share spiritual revelations than opinions on bible commentaries. Your whole "gibberish" theory is based on some arguments of some commentators, which I have not necessarily agreed to. Read again you used logic to twist unknown tongue as expressly written in the scriptures to mean known tongue to you.

You keep saying "you must"...no I mustn't!

I will restate my views on the foregoing topic again ;

1. Tongues are used to communicate with God when we cannot express our prayers to him as we should...it is mystery to the "barberian" or "gibberish" as you would call it.

2. Tongues interpreted can be used to minister spirit inspired edifications.

3. Paul places higher importance on prophecy than tongues with relation to the gathering of saints. What he said doesn't mean in personal prayer that you can't "edify" yourself in tongues.

4. When the spirit is "groaning" within you because you can't find words of your own to pray and you open your mouth am sure what others with hear is "gibberish". You might even seem like hannah whose mouth was moving and nothing came out.

5. God Jesus and The Holy Spirit are same; different dimensions of the manifestation of the God Head. So please don't try to separate them, I know Jesus is our high Priest who also announced the coming of the "comforter" who will teach us all things. Even things the apostles didn't know or experience.

God bless you and I hope this is a quest to know him better, not to justify a belief system because God is a spirit and those who worship Him must do so in spirit and in truth. God's ways are not logical...they are far removed from what we can understand.

And these would be my last comments!

Ol Boy if you know whats good for you lock up till you get married, this sh*t gets complicated real quick...!

What ever you were doing to keep being a virgin till you are 21 keep at it till you are 30 and married!

divae111:
I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I never even thought I can be pregnant again cuz my bf n I had never used protection for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort!

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

You need to consider how you would feel about all this say 20 years from now! Having a child out of wedlock and when no job can be really a daunting experience and life changing. Do you have means to take care of another person alone? What ever you choose to do try to use a reputable doctor, better spend much and live right.


BTW what would have happened if you guys have a copper IUD Its way cheaper than having all these abortions and when you need to give birth simply remove it and your fertility returns to normal*** wrote this part for people that don't want to land in your predicament*** Abstinence is the best but hard to achieve.

First of all I would like you to understand the premise of Paul's discuss; This was a note to a fellowship of Christians who meet together to worship God and uphold each others faith through the various ministries that God has given to each of them, for as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. This doesn't represent personal prayers or personal devotion, this was as regards ministering to the Church. How many of us have a chance to minister in the current structure of our churches? Well thats another discuss on the organisation of the "CHURCH".

That being said tongues are a gift of the holy spirit(Act 10 vs 44, Act 19 vs 6) and i dare say it can be used in two forms;
1. One in prays to God as in "groanings" as captured in Rom 8 vs 23 the spirit also helps us pray and makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be understood by man Rom 8 vs 26. It is the spirit that gives you utterance to speak in tongues, if you are not prompted, you do not speak (Acts 2 vs 4).
2. And in ministration to the Church in which case it needs to be interpreted by the speaker or by another person who understands the tongue(1 Cor 12 vs 10-11).

Paul's advice; "...covet to prophesy and forbid not to speak with tongues"

***And note what Paul said about when two prophecy...let the other Judge...is the setting of the present Church allowing for this? The problem you have with tongues is it due to the teaching of a singular Pastor? Think on these things!***

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lekjons:
the 1529MB was the data reller's balance while the 129MB was yours.

i don't buy data from them again.

cos if the data reseller happens to exaust his/her own data, your own automatically expire with it, even if you still have many days left.

#talkingfromexperience!

Oga, if you patronize people without integrity and nothing to loose, don't come here and make blanket statements. When you buy data you are allocated a usage limit which you cannot exceed, as you can see the re-seller in OP's post still has a lot of data on the sim meanwhile OP's limit has reduced. If the reseller has 40gb and allocates 40gb their data cannot be exhausted since all allocated to are restricted within their limits.

If you have dealt with dishonest resellers, try registered ones with alot of reputation and plenty to loose from a bad review; i personally use powerHQ. Search for them on google they have never failed me.

DReaper:
I dont like putting my relationship details in limelight but I need people's serious opinions as I don't want anything to cloud my sense of judgement. what I saw was really not good.

You went looking, you found something! Why don't you quit, because that the only thing you can change, you cant change him and its only going to continue.

Take a decision, quit pussyfooting around!

2sex:
I take an opposing view to you stance.

Trust can not be undermined in atmosphere where two matured persons are planning to get married. Trust meter should be reading right, fully filled, if you really care or love the person.

If I were in the Op's BF shoes, I see no big deal if my supposed future wife wants to read my account or go through them.

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Listen, if a couple cannot agree on a thing, it better left to be. If she holds the view that she has to have a right to my account and i don't share that view then it has to remain the way it is. I do not have any desire whatsoever to snoop through her accounts, why? Because that's her personal space even though we are dating.

I really struggle to wrap my head round your reasoning, no matter what you feel or think the issue here lies with the OP requesting for access to another man's property. Would you give your GF the keys to your 2012 BMW just because you are now together? Would you give up watching football because she likes telemundo? There are things that would never change and girls have to understand this; if he is with you that means he wants to be with you, if you don't like him enough the way he is then quit the relationship, its not do or die!

lampardizik:
see it as a screening before actually getting merged

See this is why many married people are unhappy, from time to time everybody needs their space to recover, you share things do things together, sleep together, eat together, dress alike to church and events, attend functions together and all that...but you do not want your partner glued to your side all the time, soon the excitement leaves and you begin to take each other for granted. If he is always with you when will he get the story to tell you later in the day? If you are always snooping through his chats why would he have anything to tell you about his friends since you know everything, maybe you also want to have one piece of the earphone while he takes his calls, so you can be absolutely sure you are babysitting him/her every time.

Am sorry but some people just need to get a life and not choke their partners with their everlasting nosiness!

achinaboy:
Am talking about married people now, for boyfriends and girlfriends, i have no idea. ok my point is, anything you cannot do in the presence of you partner confortably,it's a problem, whether chatting or things like that, if you want your marrige to be peacefulll,be as open as possible, again don't think because your ex is living in another continent, that gives you right to chat or call him or her in the presence of your partner afterall you are not going to sleep with him or her through the Phone,,in conclusion, if you want to get married, be sure that you are matured enough

Chatting in his or her presence is not an issue, but when your partner actually demands to have your login details, WTF is she/he looking for? If you can't trust then you can't succeed. One doesn't have to validate his right standing every time, you just trust until he/she gives you reason to doubt then, not by logging into their accounts looking for a reason not to trust them.

Please oh am creating this topic because of a thread i just read where the lady is complaining about her boyfriend's secrecy; that the secrecy is eating her up, that she cant log into his accounts bla bla bla! And it got me upset, like where do you draw the line on these things? Do you loose your identity because you are now into a relationship? Must all be shared?

Like can't you do things that only you can identify with anymore? I had a friend who complained of the same thing that she sees chats with other girls, even when the chats were not suggestive, she still had issues with it till the young man changed his password and she cried foul!

So please I want to ask my fellow nairalanders; is it right to share your login details to your social network accounts with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or partner or spouse whichever is most appropriate?

OP you have MAJOR trust issues! Why would you want to log into his accounts?
Is it shared too? Is it not enough you snoop around checking his wall and his profiles?
See, if you can't learn to trust him and mind your business, then quit and wait for a man you can weight his balls before and after he gets home to see if he cheated that day!

I don't support whatever is the dirty stuff you claim to see on his phone but i am totally against the need for you to be logging into his account to view what sef

Hello OP,

I understand what you are going through, I've never been with a virgin, but i know it could be very distressing to find yourselves unable to enjoy sex. And i know it is a very difficult thing to discuss since you both are virgins and you most probably achieved that by avoiding anything sex talk or otherwise.

But here i can give you an advice based on what a close friend who married a virgin experienced. First night they couldn't find a hole at all they fooled around and had to make do with romancing and smooching but no real action. Second day they have to download anatomy pictures and use torchlight to locate the place. after a lot of pre-intimacy, the dude managed to insert a finger which was less painful for the lady but after a while he was able to enter,he couldn't enjoy it because the thing was too painful for her at first. So in day three he actually enjoyed it and she also did. So technically it took three days to dis-virgin the woman.

I takes time, but you must get help on the internet or talk to an experienced elder person or a doctor.

I hope he is even trying to get into the right hole. Good Luck!!

wordcat:
Please, let's hear the "full story"

Ask the OP to do that and stop being sensational! Be objective for once! What did they do that made them to receive the sack? or they were just doing their job and they upped and sacked them?

Sanchez01:
It's quite obvious you didn't read my post. I never said I smiled to them, neither did I STOP. They flocked around me and a reasonable human at the time would halt, which I did. I went elsewhere to get what I desired after discovering the first shop didn't have it. It's unfortunate you didn't read through, let alone comprehend my post. It would have been better if you didn't post as it is obvious you didn't understand the post in any way.

Thanks though. I won't smile next time.

You prefer to speak grammar than to just pick the advice...you have to put on an attitude of not caring or catching their eye...just ignore and move around doing your business...When anybody touches you raise alarm shout and they will disappear...bottom line they saw you are green and saw your fear...and acted on it...they started hailing you when you gave them money which means they made it look like you just settled them as a boss. Learn oga...if its sympathy you want sorry i won't give you any. I look like a nerd with glasses and i go to computer village every time and they try to get me every time too...so just get the gist and move more assuredly.