I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I don't want to go thru that path again! And he had never used protection with me for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort! Or I don't let his family know abt it till he is independent and I went for the latter options buh he stil disturbs me to abort.

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

Seems you wanted to get pregnant so bad because you felt you can't produce anymore thereby setting him up by hitting it RAW, and I believe you told him about pregnancy late so you can't abort. .

I'm not an advocate of abortion though but the OP is wicked.

As long as you don't trouble him for upkeep/maintenance money or marriage, you can do whatsoever pleases you

divae111:
I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I never even thought I can be pregnant again cuz my bf n I had never used protection for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort!

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

You need to consider how you would feel about all this say 20 years from now! Having a child out of wedlock and when no job can be really a daunting experience and life changing. Do you have means to take care of another person alone? What ever you choose to do try to use a reputable doctor, better spend much and live right.


BTW what would have happened if you guys have a copper IUD Its way cheaper than having all these abortions and when you need to give birth simply remove it and your fertility returns to normal*** wrote this part for people that don't want to land in your predicament*** Abstinence is the best but hard to achieve.

Its either u want to trick him over pregnancy or... He's not ready to settle down due to either finances or other factors....

Both of you never heard of protection?You don't know how to use contraceptives?

I will advise you keep the pregnancy.He may turn around to support you or he may not.Whatever it is,prepare yourself to be a single mother.Let your family know about this so you can get their support because you will need it.
Most importantly,try and find a source of income so you can support yourself and the baby when he/she arrives.

Am really getting tired of all these stories of se!x with no protection

Nonsense... You aborted twice for an ex who has now dumped you and that wasn't enough, you still went ahead to sex another guy without protection? Bear your cross, cos you may still involve in such if eventually you escape this present predicament.

Dearie,pls do keep the baby,it might not be easy but pls try,considering the fact that u have aborted two times before....... Pls pls just be strong....

Congrats for completing NYSC, now you can apply for jobs and hopefully, you will get a good one. Keep your baby, you are no longer a child.

I'm sorry @Op, but u sound very foolish. U 're in ur late twenties&u still reason like dis, it is well.

Take it or leave it you are now a single mother. Get on with the flow. Right now start searching for money for Childhood upkeep because motherhood isn't cheap financially

divae111:
I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I don't want to go thru that path again! And he had never used protection with me for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort! Or I don't let his family know abt it till he is independent and I went for the latter options buh he stil disturbs me to abort.

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

There's something called contraception. Google it and stop risking your life unnecessarily.

Work towards independence, cus I don't believe he's changing his mind anytime soon

divae111:
I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I don't want to go thru that path again! And he had never used protection with me for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort! Or I don't let his family know abt it till he is independent and I went for the latter options buh he stil disturbs me to abort.

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

Dirty geh. The reason he doesn't want it is cos he doesn't want to end up with you. Learn to cover your legs.

Juxtified:
As long as you don't trouble him for upkeep/maintenance money or marriage, you can do whatsoever pleases you

If she decides to have her baby, the man MUST also be responsible for the upkeep of the child.

chrisbaba1:


Dirty geh. The reason he doesn't want it is cos he doesn't want to end up with you. Learn to cover your legs.

Dirty boi with dirty mouth. Stop judging here and go and sew your shoe where its wearing out.

feldido:
Seems you wanted to get pregnant so bad because you felt you can't produce anymore thereby setting him up by hitting it RAW, and I believe you told him about pregnancy late so you can't abort. .

I'm not an advocate of abortion though but the OP is wicked.

What's late in 6weeks? #funny responses here though

divae111:



Dirty boi with dirty mouth. Stop judging here and go and sew your shoe where its wearing out.

Close ur legs. oh its already late. Anyway having a child isn't bad, take care of ur child nd be strong. That guy is most likely not gonna be much involved.

chrisbaba1:


Close ur legs. oh its already late. Anyway having a child isn't bad, take care of ur child nd be strong.

Oh....who told yu I can't feed a child, will feed you conveniently alongside a child. I'm not lazy or jobless for the records though. So, close yur dirty mouth *##that aint late* so rotten a mouth.

divae111:


Oh....who told yu I can't feed a child, will feed you conveniently alongside a child. I'm not lazy or jobless for the records though. So, close yur dirty mouth *##that aint late* so rotten a mouth.

Love you too (okay im sorry for judging you)

It's your decision to make.
So stick to what you decide.
It will be hard but if you're determined, you will make it. Just be careful henceforth.

Divae111, you want to abort after the last one which you say 'was bloody'? What will you tell God if you lose your life in the process of aborting?

The same boyfriend you have been sleeping with without protection will get someone else pregnant if in future you cannot conceive because you have damaged your womb. Not to mention the blood of those innocent babies that are crying against you.

You have blood on your hands and it will cry against you before God. Repent, ask God for mercy, keep the baby (it will be hard but it is the right thing to do) and tell your boyfriend to man up to his responsibilities. He is a selfish coward who doesn't care what happens to your body, as long as he has his way.

divae111:



What's late in 6weeks? #funny responses here though

My thoughts though, I believe I've passed my message.

LaraiBoluwaji:
Divae111, you want to abort after the last one which you say 'was bloody'? What will you tell God if you lose your life in the process of aborting?

The same boyfriend you have been sleeping with without protection will get someone else pregnant if in future you cannot conceive because you have damaged your womb. Not to mention the blood of those innocent babies that are crying against you.

You have blood on your hands and it will cry against you before God. Repent, ask God for mercy, keep the baby (it will be hard but it is the right thing to do) and tell your boyfriend to man up to his responsibilities. He is a selfish coward who doesn't care what happens to your body, as long as he has his way.

Am sorry but at 6 weeks its just a blood clot what are you yapping about innocent babies? Do you mean to say once fertilization occurs that there is a human "being" in there? Am sure you also support IVF so go read about how many "human beings" are killed in that process!

See am not for/against abortion, but i will like you to make that call when you are in the situation yourself not talking from the outside. But i know its a corrective measure for wrong decision howbeit dangerous.

I do not want to give OP any advice, i would rather give information on the matter and let her make an informed decision based on that.

I am six weeks pregnant for my bf of 10months, and he has been disturbing me to terminate it but I seriously don't want to. I had aborted twice for my ex and the last one was bloody and almost killed me. I don't want to go thru that path again! And he had never used protection with me for once till now. Now, I'm scared to try abortion again! What if this is my last chance? And he has been pestering me to abort! Or I don't let his family know abt it till he is independent and I went for the latter options buh he stil disturbs me to abort.

#we are both almost in our late twenties and just concluded NYSC.

pls n pls dont let ur strength fail u. Hold on tight. Stand firm on ur choice, it ll turn out to be d best decision u ve taken in life.

I want to ask. Does ur parents knw abt this? If yes, good. But if no, how do u intend to cope since d guy in question wants it to remain a secret. Has he accepted taken responsibility?

Whichever way i want to quickly advice u to talk to mum abt this. She is a woman too n ll understood. It might not be easy at d start but u ll be hapi u did in d long run.

God ll see u through

LaraiBoluwaji:
Not to mention the blood of those innocent babies that are crying against you.

way.

this part of ur comment caught my attention.

Pls dont make someone passing through depression feel more depressed. Of course she knws she did wrong n dats y she isnt yielding to another.
What she needs right now is encouragement. What if she asked God for Mercy, ll those blood still speak against her?

A lot of judges here.... What she seeked for is advice and not to be judged. If we check most of those judging, their secrets are worse. Please lets learn to be silent if we cant help. No one is infallible.

Counselling is a gift.

jamesbridget13:
pls n pls dont let ur strength fail u. Hold on tight. Stand firm on ur choice, it ll turn out to be d best decision u ve taken in life.

I want to ask. Does ur parents knw abt this? If yes, good. But if no, how do u intend to cope since d guy in question wants it to remain a secret. Has he accepted taken responsibility?

Whichever way i want to quickly advice u to talk to mum abt this. She is a woman too n ll understood. It might not be easy at d start but u ll be hapi u did in d long run.

God ll see u through

May God continue to enrich you in wisdom.

dahmie2013:
I'm sorry @Op, but u sound very foolish. U 're in ur late twenties&u still reason like dis, it is well.

Anyone can make mistake in life. Instead of condemning her, you shud have given her your wise advice. You dont have to call her names...advice, not condemn.

jamesbridget13:
this part of ur comment caught my attention.

Pls dont make someone passing through depression feel more depressed. Of course she knws she did wrong n dats y she isnt yielding to another.
What she needs right now is encouragement. What if she asked God for Mercy, ll those blood still speak against her?

I'm just being brutally honest and from my perspective, that's what she needs.

To your question, if she goes to God in genuine repentance then He is will show her mercy because He is merciful God.

He is also a consuming fire.

Choose one.