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Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

The first rule is "Love yourself, so you can love others". Clearly you don't love yourself, if you do, you will place your Mental health, Self-pride above loving this Manipulative Man.

And You need to know, That's all what They(Manipulative people) say. Everything he told you.

I hope you find the courage to Love yourself and do the needful. Peace

Dapcity007:
Weak man

Bloody simp

Are you okay? Are you weak upstair? Seems you are not bright? Can you read and comprehend?
Well, I'm an Elite and I celebrate successful people(male or female).

Moreover, go and read this book, "Chimpanzee Politics" by Frans de Waal. He coined or better still, popularise the term "Alpha Male", so you can learn. Learning is lifetime and reading widens horizon. Well if you don't like reading, you can check his Ted talk "The surprising science of alpha males" Via
https://www.ted.com/talks/frans_de_waal_the_surprising_science_of_alpha_males/up-next?language=en

BaddieFreak:
I have read about the redpill here even before I registered and I can't even comprehend why they are so aggressive towards women.

From my conclusion, redpillers are men who hate women because they can’t find love. They are men who desire a romantic relationship but can’t find a partner, and blame women for this.

They say women like money but who wants to suffer, nobody na. We females seek partners who can provide for our offsprings not some broke boys.

I wish I could help them but it is not an easy task as they are so depressed, weak and insecure to free their mind from aggressiveness.

Redpillers have been single for a long time and are lonely and desperate so they spend the rest of their lives masturbating while watching female porn lol since they can't get a woman.

They hate criticism but are quick to criticize anybody who disregard their beliefs (Watch them attack this thread) and call them names like simps, hoe.

Maybe Barack Obama, Bill Gate, Osibanjo, Goodluck Jonathan and other influencial men are simps since they are taking care of their wives like a queen. Lol .

I'm not into the Red � stuff but haven't you heard of Sheryl Sandberg, Meg whiteman, Sara blakely. They are self-made billionaires, taking care of their hubby/partners like a king. Wake up, this is 21st century, There are thoughtful ladies making fortune for themselves, why can't you do the same and save for your offspring since you desire that.

Meti99:
Let me ask you simple question.
Which will you easily forgive?
Me stealing your money
Or
Me sexing your wife?

The one you easily forgive is easy to control

And let me ask you this..
Which one will you enter first, a room filled with money and another filled with fresh ladies?

Meti99:
Love of money is easier to control
Can you imagine seeing and working with naked girls everyday the way bankers work with money everyday and not stealing it..
Sex get power o

There's not point here, We have photographers that capture Nude/porn everyday And they don't even have erection. This is professionalism.

To the question, Brothers kill themselves for money. Most battles are financially incentive. That says a lot. Love of money is the root of all evil, Sexual lust is just a branch of evil to me. Lol

DanTheGeek:
Spent some time meditating and thought of a lot of interesting things I'd share in this post about "God".

Stop. Take three deep breaths to normalize your heart rate and try to be objective before you even dare criticize. Maybe we could find "God" and ask nicely; "How did you manage to create the universe and live timelessly?". Let's face it. Neither the Big Bang Theory nor Religion has really answered the necessary questions, or perhaps, answered the wrong questions. What if the world is just a perfectly developed A.I simulation engine created by some "immortal" alien genius?

What if "Jesus" and other ambassadors of religion were just atheists that survived death simply by chance or was it his smarts?. Could it be that a certain ignoramus unknown to history, subliminally started a word-of-mouth epidemic that tipped and gave birth to religion?

I was close to a school while drafting this post when I heard a teacher yell, "Stephen was stoned to death!". I raised my head immediately in awe of the reality of probability, looked at the class, smiled and thought; Stephen could also just have been like Jesus. We can conclude that the circumstances surrounding Stephen's death caused by the things he said and stood by throughout his lifetime.

Scientific research is what produces the white papers that "direct the course" of history, why is it that the more we combine the past (history) with the little things we discover everyday from scientific whitepapers, the more we uncover the "truth"?

Could I be unto something with my theories or am I just mentally ill? --- Try to be honest with your self just this once. Take three deep breaths to calm your nerves once more. If you still think I'm suffering from a mental disorder then you should HONESTLY consider a therapist (not any religious "healer", because therapists are at least, consciously open minded during sessions). I'm only giving you this advice out of love. Not fear. You should not take advantage of my "mercifulness" since all man will be for theirselves in "heaven" and even if you died with me, there's no assurance we'd end up on the same location on that "Galaxy" or "Planet" or "Home in the sky" (as history has named in centuries past). Even game developers don't spawn two players in the same spot (location) on any terrain. All beliefs have one particular truth in common --- the clue to immortality. Instead of coming together to research the common truth, the mediocre citizens of Earth prefer to draw conclusions from appeals to ignorance over the obvious.

Is it coincidental that I'm writing this at a time of financial difficulty where the only thing (money) that decides how I socialize with the world is the only real trap or "temptation" of humanity. Mention any problem that does not exploit the financial dependency of humans and I will give you immortality. I'm only privileged to write this today thankfully as a result of the past financial and emotional assistance of friends and family. Our destinies are truly in our hands. Life is a game of numbers and it is high time we started calculating in solidarity for the betterment of humanity. Loose lips, sink ships; a subliminal way of saying humanity will be stuck in a recursive loop of compromise.

Until we are all awed by the possibility of a timeless world without us and derive love from nature, the "devil" will continue to feast on our fears and continue to get the better part of us untill our planet slowly fades away like any other mediocre business of the world (as we know it). Could "mad" simply be an ignorant noun for people that were courageous enough to venture on the journey of overcoming mortality without anyway to connect to the larger superset of mentally unstable citizens of the Earth?

If you're thinking I'm a "confused" Atheist (Existentialist Atheist), then it's because you're used to the popular opinions of this corrupt world and fail to truly think out of the box. What if religion was simply just a byproduct of the fear of certain historians? --- after all, great historians behind all the religions of the world attributed their work and now the world simply won't forget about them. What if fallacy is simply the only way to "time travel" and our subconscious minds are just "kinda" programmed to believe in it?. Could it be that "God" doesn't want to be found and had programmed fallacy into us to the effect; to cause confusion, making it puzzling to find the alien's real identity?. Why is it that the greatest innovations of the last decade can be traced to finance or money, to be specific (FinTech and cryptocurrency), which "God" says is the root of all evil?

Is it coincidental that none of the people closely associated with bitcoin have been credited with it's invention? (even with the increasing desire of the citizens of Earth to unravel the mystery). Hasn't it occurred to anyone that "Satoshi Nakamoto" simply wants to be left alone and forgotten which is why bitcoin was released without attribution?.
Attribution will only seriously question Satoshi's core principles as an "essentialist atheist" and the only way Satoshi will be found is if we're able to discover the solution to immortality on time before the real Satoshi fades away from the surface of the earth and then "time travel" via History. Why will any sane man decide to abandon such great wealth associated with such an invention in a world run by money? This is just history repeating itself and it's simply the reason why religion will stick around because until we share a common belief, the world will remain divided and division is synonymous to multi-tasking (compromise in disguise). Therefore it's safe to conclude that Atheism is a "religion" that is backed by facts, not fallacies. Till we all believe in pixels, the bigger picture of life will remain unclear.

The fact that science attributes the evolution of mankind to Africa would naturally make someone like me investigate her role in the discovery of the "truth" of existence. For all we know, the world is crazy about Africa right now, more than ever. Could it be coincidental that I'm African and share the same "birthday" with Satoshi (April 5th) who I mentioned earlier? -- humans are interconnected on a deeper level and only time will tell us the single unknown variable of existence. You shouldn't criticize my humble contribution to history but rather ask yourself whether you're actively contributing too and not blindly playing other people's mind games by following the way of fallible men.

TL;DR: The single unknown variable of existence is the secret to immortality.

I love the way you Think. �

tsauri1:
For ordinary Councillorship seat one abandoned GOD, if he is to contest for Senator or his State Governor, I wonder where he will go. Na wahhh!

Lmao, one abandoned God. Who's God? And how do you know your own god is the true God?

Righteousness89:
Scientists, Astronauts, Astrologers and all of us are mere creatures..

We were only Privileged to be put on the Earth! We don't know how the Earth came about..[
We don't know what Holds the Earth..
We don't know The Materials used in Making the Earth.
It's a Mystery! We Cannot know!

Peharps it's one of the things The ALMIGHTY GOD will Show to us up there in Heaven..

Show to you what?
Btw Zone of silence is an urban Myth and not a fact. You people should use the internet to verify info at least and now this uncivilized man is waiting for God to show him "urban myth" in heaven. Painful!

kennedyugo:
Do you believe that there are other planets apart from the earth? Planets like Mars, mercury, jupiter and so on exists?
Heaven the abode of God is a planet, howbeit not physically, but spiritual.
The problem is that we as human are limited by our physical nature and senses that we cannot readily comprehend the possibility of having another world or place outside the ones we see.

Where you see some intelligence or kind of complexity, you immediately assume an intelligent being must be involved. Take a look at the phone you are holding and the amazing things you could do with it, you don't need someone to tell you that some intelligent people designed and crafted it. It did not create itself.
How can you then assume that such a complex being as human, or the earth as a planet with all the living things on it came out of nothing? That itself is not logical!

Mr Logical, but supercomplex being called God came from nothing huh.
Think! If God could come from nothing(self-existent), then The Universe as well could come from Nothing. That's logic.
Your argument is fallacy. If I'm to follow your point, Highly Complex being like God must be formed by another Higher being leading to infinite chain.That's Logic. Casuality principle is Logic. For every effect there must be a cause including God.

Jonah 3:7-8
7 This is the proclamation he issued in Nineveh: "By the decree of the king and his nobles: Do not let people or animals, herds or flocks, taste anything; do not let them eat or drink
8 But let people and animals be covered with sackcloth.

Animals were made to fast and worst, were made to wear sackcloth. That book of Jonah is comical. Just a parody. I knew joke on anybody that believes it actually happened.

Jiberi:
Many people on this forum are funny. The penis will be eventually transferred to where it was.

Funny or dumb? They don't read, it's clearly written that it will be transferred, still they're posting rubbish comments. So bad.

Dotherightthing:
21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

I don't like that Righteousness guy but your own is too much. Did he collect something from you? Are you okay?

To the biblical Zealot, You need to understand that it's mathematically impossible to create The Universe and Everything in it in just 6 days. That story is not realistic

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Playthepianos:
Lol. Now tell me, what caused the big bang?

How did the cause come into existence?

Now don't forget the laws of thermodynamics:
matter can neither be created nor destroyed. It's scientists and atheists like you that propounded the law.

My question is, if truly matter can neither be created nor destroyed, as accepted worldwide, how come there was a big bang? What created the elements and compounds that resulted nto the big bang?

GodHead85

I've been seeing your post about matter can't be created nor destroyed but you need to understand that big bang isn't breaking the fundamental law of physics, which is the conservative law. Let me explain how the universe gets around your problem.
You need to know that gravitational energy is negative which is a consequence of the fact, that the energy of a closed universe is zero and it's mathematically proven. The energy of matter is positive, the energy of gravitation is negative, and they always add up to zero. Therefore, creating a closed universe out of nothing does not violate any conservation laws.
Plus you need to know that the universe is still expanding which proves big bang.
Existence of black holes further supports big bang.

If Hitler was a Racist for picking the germans ahead of The jews. What should we say of a Supreme being that picks The Jews ahead of other race throughout the old testament to the extent of destroying a whole civilization(Jericho city) for them and collected other people's land for His chosen people(Jews).
The so called "world" savior came from The jew and extend the so called "chosen" privilige to other race.

Why should we worship and celebrate such a racist called God?
Nb: Intellectuals only.

The summary of Everything is "The kingdom of God is within you". That's it, that's everything. If you know you know.