HBB1:



It could have been abruptio placenta, it could have been placenta previa. No doctor in private practice likes taking cases that will go south! Moreso you weren't booked with him. If anything happens patients will never understand it wasn't the doctors fault. Still smarting remembering a sufferer of polio attribute her paralysis (in both legs) to the antimalarial injection she had- and she said this on national TV (WWTBAM). Let's thank God your wife survived

I'm always so thankful to God she survived.

lomaxx:


I know abruptio.

I'm sure that doctor had a good reason to refer.

8months pregnancy is not term. It's still preterm. Did this hospital have adequate facilities to take care of preterm neonates? If they didn't, do you think he had a good reason to refer?


What if he delivered the baby, resuscitated and then cannot manage the premmie?

Every pregnancy is a risk and anything can happen. It is advised that if you can register your pregnancy in two facilities - the one you want to, and the one closer to you. If the facility you have is closer to you, then no problem.


I'm. sorry for your loss. Doctors are different everywhere. There are some that choose the safe road. There are others that undertake risks in a 50-50 situation. The case with Nigeria is if you take a risk and it doesn't work well, the patient will nail you for it. Sometimes, legally. And when it happens, the question that would be asked would be:

"Dr XYZ, when you realised from your assessment that this was beyond you, did you refer? "

I wouldn't know if the hospital has preterm neonates. He may have a good reason to refer but he must have communicated unprofessionally. Belief me, I know what I saw. Just a minutes explanation or advice would have been ok, than you didn't register here, go back to where you registered and walk out of you.

eyinjuege:


Sorry about your loss, but I doubt the doctor refused you treatment just because he felt like. It might have been a case that he couldn't handle and had to refer you. There are specialties in medicine. I can't expect a cardiology center or renal center to accept a clear case of acute appendicitis

Thank you

The case was placenta abruption, I haven't heard of it until then. Maybe the doctor wasn't capable of handling it but his approach was unprofessional.

lomaxx:




You think doctors are wicked because you are ignorant and emotionally clouded. Doctors have reasons for their actions and you cannot stupefy their decisions because it ended badly. I deeply sympathise with you but you and a lot of Nigerians must desist from this mentality.


Every pregnancy is a risk. Research has shown that there's necessarily no high risk pregnancy per se because pregnancies that have been termed high risk have gone to term without complications and vice versa. So understand that every pregnancy is a risk to the mother and the child.

Secondly, when you confirm a pregnancy you register for antenatal care at a health facility. Antenatal care is a very important continuous process. The woman is assigned a Doctor who has a documentation of every event in a folder.

During labour, before the physician or midwives touches the woman, he or she reviews the antenatal care folder of the patient if indeed she had one. This is important. If during the course of pregnancy an important finding was discovered, instructions are made depending on what the issue is.

So a doctor asked you to take your wife to where she registered for antenatal care.

Another problem is you people don't listen to instructions. You just do what you like and wait to blame someone.

During an antenatal care consultation, the doctor always tells the woman about the danger signs of pregnancy. There is also the identification of someone in the family who will take decisions in case such a need arises. And finally the patient is told to rush to that facility in case. of emergency - not another facility.


Think of this. If you carried your wife to where she registered for antenatal care as was instructed initial, would your baby be alive today?

I never said doctors are wicked. Let me just respond to your last paragraph. Where we were was about 30minutes drive to where she registered without hold up, with hold can be hours. It was already an emergency, on sighting the nearest clinic where the doctor behaved that way, she was already bleeding seriously.

If you are a doctor you should know about placenta abruption or perhaps you google it.

Drfinn:


My brother, sorry about your loss. However, could it be that the said doctor didn't have the required skill to manage your wife on presentation? Could it be that the said was obviously exhausted or had some form of emotional disturbances that could have interfered with the quality of care your wife needed? Doctors are trained. Their eyes, hands, ears and every other senses are trained. Could it be that doctor knew that this is a bad case and it would be better she been seen by her 'main' doctor?

Am not trying to make excuses for a colleague. Am only trying to paint a different scenario. Nurses, and patients relatives maybe sympathetic. Doctors are not. They are empathic. The nurses may have felt sympathy for your but it's against Medical ethics for a doctor to do same. One of the best piece of advice I received earlier on in my career was from a senior colleague. He told me a good doctor isn't d one that knows how to prescribe drugs. Rather, it's the one dat knows when to call for help. Dat advice has saved many a time.

So my brother, kindly forgive whatever wrong you felt this doctor did you. At times we need to be in people's shoes to know how it feels in certain circumstances. God has been gracious to you. Your wife is alive and you have kids now. Why don't you let go of the ill feelings?

Thank you my brother. In my life I have met great, wonderful doctors that just there smile and approach to situations will raise ones faith and increase his chance of survival. This very one was different. However, I have since forgetting everything, I also have so much love and respect for doctors. After we left there that day, the next hospital we found ourself wasn't as big as the later, but the doctor was exceptional, he is my very good friend now, I thank God for him. He gave us all necessary attention and advice. We later moved my wife around 11pm to where she registered, she was induced, it took four days for the baby to come out, I begged she should be operated when the pain was much on her, doctors there gave me professional advice. I listened, it worked.

eyinjuege:


Sorry about your loss, but I doubt the doctor refused you treatment just because he felt like. It might have been a case that he couldn't handle and had to refer you. There are specialties in medicine. I can't expect a cardiology center or renal center to accept a clear case of acute appendicitis

Thanks. The doctor didn't explain he couldn't handle such cases. He only said she didn't do her antenatal there, that I should take her to where she registered. And driving back to where she registered would take about 30minutes without hold up, with hold up could be hours.

nefertitiram:
Dr sofadj please, I use God to beg you, please reconsider your stance. If you go through my profile, you will understand y I am begging u.

I was rushed to R-Jolad in Lagos at 4am on a Sunday morning, with the exact case the woman that died had. Placenta abruption, I nearly bled to death. I had 4 pints transfused.

I was leaving for US to deliver my baby, I had bought ticket, made some expenses such that hubby and I had no more cash at that instance. We didn't have N20k with us at dat time of the morning

They decided to operate immediately, hubby asked how much, d doc told us my life was most important, dey couldn't even wait to screen all d 4 pints of blood. He should sign, save my life before we discuss money.

That was how I survived the ordeal. The babies died but I survived. I was admitted for 10 days b4 they brought any bill. We sold off our dollars to foot d bill of almost 300k.

If RJOLAD did not admit me that day, without a dime, where would I have been? There's no day I don't pray for RJOLAD.

My point is don't cut off the nose to spite the face. God will reward you and replenish your pockets.

It was in that situation a doctor refused admitting my wife. Placenta abruptio was what happened too. The nurses had already brought something to roll her in before the man refused, they all cried when they saw my wife bleeding.

Not an experience to remember at all, it was my first baby after 3years of marriage then.

If I have my way I will close down that clinic.

Ur story reminds me how wicked some of you doctors are, that was how my wife lost her eight months pregnancy in 2014 and if not God's intervention I would have lost my wife too, stop judging everyone with another persons mistake. Money wasn't a problem at all in my case, When the emergency occurred we rushed into the private clinic but the doc asked us to go back to where she registered, we begged and I was ready to deposit any amount but he refused.

I lost my baby because it took us about 30minutes to get to another one.

I hate to remember it, but God will not forgive that doctor.

naughtynaughty:
lmaoooo, sharp bobo. Nah d way nah

The guy bad

You guys actually enjoy some level of respect. I have a lawyer friend I gave small "chopping" by linking him with my business contact. When the money came, he ate it alone and gave me stories.

I was so disappointed.

Kylekent59:
Dey sit in the exam hall with d educated guy, walk on the street with d Mr swag, Bleep d he'll out of d Mr handsome and when done wit d institution, the Mr business guy will marry dem. Simple. So dnt ask who dem go go for

Good analyst

So, where do you belong?

EreluY:


The Ku Klux Klan (KKK) is a racist, anti-Semitic movement with a commitment to extreme violence to achieve its goals of racial segregation and white supremacy.

Thanks for the insight. However, most Republicans like talking tough and you don't expect Trump to be an exception. Meaning his talk has little to do with the KKK.

EreluY:


THAT'S GONNA BE CRAZY...POTENTIAL RETURN OF THE KKK?

The American people see him as the real man for the job while Africans think its crazy to elect him.

However, I don't know what is KKK.

I see Donald Trump becoming the next US President

Next time tell me a rotten fish is better than a fresh life fish.

I simply don't believe your research

OMG! This is a serious matter. He should just confess his sin.

Buhari is the cause of all these things.

Nigeria is bleeding from these looters, either PDP or APC should be brought to book without delay.

But I am afraid some demons have become angels on the other side.

ril19:
So Empty Hen Want To Withdraw Their Money From Nigerian Banks And Then Sneak Out Of Naija Shey?

Thank God We're Smarter Than That.

MTN can not afford to leave Nigeria. They make unspeakable profit here.

The budget was INCONCLUSIVE

Blatant liar

Opinedecandid:
Good man;
golden-hearted man;
righteous man;
peace-loving and peace-seeking man;
respecter of human rights;
respecter of human lives;
lover of our nation; maintener of the sanctity of human lives;
protector of our constitution;
defender of the masses;
preserver of our future against molestation, pilferage, mortgage;
honourer of our blood against spilling, defiling or waisting;
builder of our unity against enemies of disunity, disintegration, tear and scatter;
bold in contest, gentlemanly in defeat.

Ride on.

Keep doing good deeds.

Keep teaching them how to 'call and congratulate'.
If they learn that one first, learning others will not be a problem.
First things first!

You make me feel like crying

Jonathan is a God sent.

What exactly are you saying here?
****walks out of thread*******

How much per liter within Ph?

I am interested in the vessel. I am in Ph and ready for inspection.

This is very pathetic, I refused a business proposal in Omoku because of the insecurity there.

Wait for the Supreme Court judgment before you commence campaign.

Amberon:
can fayose keep quiet??

No

babeabike:
Here is my story ;

I got married early this year and I'm heavily pregnant (38weeks).Since we got married its been only my family and friends visiting that had to spend the night.Aside my MIL who comes like every other week to help and look out for me,none of my husband's fam Av had to spend the night.

Then last week my hubby informed me that his paternal cousin will be spending Xmas season with us.I first got pissed when he said he will be going to pick her from their place.I said maka why a girl of 18.but told him if he insisted, he can go ahead to do d pick up even though I found it unreasonable.

Since the girl arrived on Thurs,she seats like a queen in my living room while I sweat out in my kitchen(note I'm heavily pregnant).And when food is ready,my husband calls out for her to pick her food.Then yesternight, I said I'm not hungry and of cos tired and since the house is full of food,she should go and cook whatever she likes because of that she went to bed without eating.

Since that yesterday she started locking herself in the room.imagine? This morning she woke up forming stomach pain,so my MIL who came around did all the chores including cooking.

To cut the long story short.if this girl was my family,I would Av called her to order. But I've decided to be quite because definitely this is her first and last opportunity to visit.

My mum has been here severely since I took in and when she comes,she helps with all d chores inclusive cooking(note,she is a senior lecturer,no b say she jobless oooh).Even when my elder sister passed a night sometimes ago,she helped out inclusive folding all my husband's cloths(note she is married and also gainfully employed).That's just to mention a few of my ppl,others are my sis in law,cousins and even my friends.They never sit and watch me sweat out,talkless of a small girl.

I'm already thinking making up my mind that aside my Parents in-law,I may not entertain all those young cousins and relatives from my husband's side because I cannot take such shits.because if it wasn't holiday,would she wait for me everyday from work(after driving in Lagos traffic) to come cook for her without giving a helping hand.

Maybe its just my take but for me this is one of those obvious reasons wives bar husband's fam from coming around

The summary of the entire story is


Maka why a girl of 18?

Your husband insisted and you asked him to go pick her, though you found it unreasonable.

Thank God you know she is your husband's niece if not you would have concluded he has brought his girlfriend home.

Do you know that the wife of the President's name is Aisha?

Pweedyfaszy:
6th October

5th Oct.