adebowales:
Hello nairalanders!
I seek your opinion concerning this situation I find myself in.

Learn to separate business from personal life!

Your sales girl is your employee and that is it!!! If she is doing the work well to the best of her ability, that is what you employed her for and that is what you normally should expect of her.

You caused it because you probably have complained about your relationship in her presence and that is the reason why she thinks she can snatch you away from your girl.

She might just be pretending to be good until you fall into her trap.

Cut off all interpersonal relationship with her and be professional in dealing with her henceforth. Nothing concerns you about who she gives attention to and nothing concerns her with your relationship too. If possible, tell her to focus on her work and forget about you.

vdestro:


Thought so but i am an undisputable carbon copy of the 2 of them like God was making a clear statement.



What is wrong with my thinking? I call him poor because he is poor and has nothing. But he looks like he loves me and of course no one plans to be poor.

But, i am trying to decide that between him and continuing in this hell which is better, for if i evem come with a rich guy and that is if overlook the bastardism that rich people have, my peopl would stil reject him and may tear my face as i know that they lock me up because they fear a rich guy would take me.

But i see that they enjoy laughing at me since they are aware the poor guy wants me and so i see something.that looks like an opportunity to get out, but i am not sure, hence this question.

And no one is answering it, though, i think i hear their silent answer.

You are the only one who can make the choice you seek. No one else can tell you which of the two is better because we are not in your shoes!

You who is wearing the shoe knows where the pains lies and how best to remedy it.

If you are still in school and needs them to be paying your school fees and other expenses, you have to wait it out until you are through with schooling before you can then move on with your man.

vdestro:


Is it because i did not say that i know that i am going through this hell because the man who is supposed to be father also wants to have sex with me but i refuse?

Or that in the house, there is nothing like family. From birth, those who are supposed to be brothers and sister see each other as enemies up to the point that the boys could imagine that they could have sex with me?

Not to talk about the fact that my room was a windlowless room used for dumping damaged things and furniture, so figuratively speaking i got the info that i was a reject.

And you did not see i said "slave". Which mother turns her daughter to a slave? And that is i must serve everyone, even the baby of the house.

So, it is not well o, hence this question and from the silence, i see i am on my own. Thanks

Have you asked your mom if her current husband is actually your father?

I think the whole family knows what you don't know and that is the reason they are treating you the way they do.

Ask your mom to tell you what she is hiding from you and that you need to know why she is not treating you like her daughter. I guess you were adopted before they started giving birth to children of their own.

You also need to work on your own mentality. The man you are calling a poor man is probably not poor because if he is, he will not be a student of the same school with you.

You are not ready to get married and to be a father but you did it raw and impregnate someone daughter.

Just imagine a guy doing this to your daughter and then starts giving these excuses!

If truely you love her in return, just carryout your own investigations to make sure you are responsible for the pregnancy. If you are, do the needful and get married. There is no right or wrong age to getting married as long as you are financially stable and mentally prepared.

By the way, which baby bump does she wants to cover up at just 3weeks preg? Mr. just make sure you don't outspent yourself to the extent they will start using the situation to extort you!!!

AbokiWam:
My Salary is a little above #100, 000 naira, My friends know I am working which brings enormous pressure on me, They think it is a high paying job because of the Corporate dressing and all.

I don't Know if it is the hardship from this era, but now 4 out of every phone calls someone receives is usually them asking you to lend them money. Currently self I am skeptical of answering phone calls. Work Colleagues also do not spare you in this regard.

My problem now is I am too soft hearted, Any small story and I am already heading to my bank app to do transfer for,

Beginning of June, money I lent to a total number of 7 different people was running into almost 60,000 naira.
At the start of July, Only two people have paid me back (5000 & 4000)

Because of that I promised myself not to lend anyone money again from my salary, but Just this morning I got a call from someone I know , he was crying to me of his salary being delayed at work.
He pleaded with me to lend him #10,000 which I obliged, Knowing fully well I wont get my money back (He has borrowed 8k from me before without paying back)

I think something is wrong with me, I can even go to loan app to borrow and gift a friend if I don't Have

Same borrowing habit almost ruined my Dad, it destroyed his friendship with a close pal, he borrowed his friend #800,000 back IN 2011 when money still had value, the friend refused paying and that crumbled his business for a while.

My Mom have warned me if I continue, I might experience same.

I really need to change...
If every one should pay me money they have owed me, I would be able to buy honda baby boy
This is a bad habit I need to stop.

Two things I will tell you. One is an immediate solution while the other will help you consolidate the habit of self preservation.

1. Send a message to all those owing you and those not currently owing you but have the tendency of doing so in the nearest future or have owed you before. Tell them you are in a financial crossroad and need them to lend you #10,000.

Most of them will not do but they also will not ever have the mind to ask off you again. For the few who will do it, keep their money and pay it to them back as agreed. This will enable you to put boundary between you and the current set of those bent on bringing you down.

2. This is a long term solution for your inability to say NO without feeling guilty. There are great books by different renowned authors on "how to say NO without feeling guilty". Get one of them, read and apply what you learn to straighten your thought on this issue.

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FaceTanke:

That man is a reformer, he reformed Unilorin and he reformed JAMB

I asked for tangible evidence that will help the relevant agencies to investigate and punish the offenders.

The right thing for him to do is to communicate with the relevant agencies and furnish them with the information at his disposal which will enable them to investigate and get those people.

FaceTanke:
Oloyede for President

Which president, for what and for which country?

Where is the list of the identities of the individuals and of the universities who issued the fake certs?

BeeBeeOoh:


https://punchng.com/lawmakers-monthly-earnings-cant-last-more-than-three-days-dogara/

All these men and their lies. So you spent 25+ million naira allowance on your constituents monthly while you make do with the less than 400,000 naira basic salary and yet you can't state exactly what that money was spent on for the years you were in the house.

Even the constituency allowance meant for developing your constituencies is embezzled by you lots and here you are signaling non-existent virtues.

The greatest harm and disservice you can do to yourself are as follows:

Comparing yourself with others.

Engaging in unhealthy competition.

Bothering about what people say or are saying about you.

All you need do is to be sincere with yourself. Find out what your shortcomings are and then develop strategies to correct them in order to find your direction in life.

Once you find your direction, be sincere in dealing with people, be good and trustworthy. In the long run, you will successfully establish yourself.

frankmoney:
you cool down write this thing and you think you made sense ? Yes it's the responsibility of the government to cut down the trees not the principal . The people pay taxes for Godsake

Are you trying to say that funds are not allocated to the schools and part of the funds are not meant for the maintenance of the schools?

Paraman:
Adeleke is a disaster in Osun state

People just blame government for everything. So the governor will go and cut down trees or cut grasses for schools? What will the heads of the schools be doing? So the headmaster/headmistress or the Principal can't do this?

He will even generate revenue from it by selling the cut to size woods while sharing some to the teachers who need it. Irresponsible leaders everywhere, not just the elected leaders.

madridguy:
Imagine people like Sabitu Adam will come out tomorrow and start cursing Nigeria forgetting he is also part of the rotten system.

Now, if by tomorrow the FG set up a new verification method, his likes and the useless boss will arrange people to stage a paid protest while the verification process should not commence.

As I used to say, majority of we Nigerians are very corrupt, our cries is just that the national cake has not reached us.

We have countless people like this, all they do everyday is to come online to paint Nigeria black whereas what they are doing contributed to the mess the country is suffering from.

You are right. They won't just sponsor paid protests, they will sabotage it from within and it will be a failed policy. This is exactly what is happening to the following:

* Fuel subsidy removal.
* Redundancy and ineffective local government administration.
* Anti corruption agencies and their activities.
* Fight against terrorism and banditry.
Fight against oil bunkry.
* Inflation.
* Failure of most government administrations be it at the federal or state!

ExDepressed:


I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

Block her on all communication media:

Delete her phone numbers.

If you know it offhand, block her on phone book (for calls and messages) and on WhatsApp.

Block her on Facebook

Block her on any other media through which you guys communicate.

Tell yourself being with her was just a phase which is now over and that you need to discover and focus on the next phase of your life.

ahnie:

Nope....i used it to step down the food.

Of course I know that! Was just pulling your legs ooo.

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Was the fanta used as water for the cooking....?

Average not low budget though.

God1000:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LpUYVgZb6g

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https://www.voanews.com/a/kenyan-police-arrive-in-haiti-to-combat-gang-violence/7669668.html

This is the main mission of the recent chaos in Kenya. The people and the judiciary have opposed the deployment of Kenyan police to Haiti.

The president intentionally used the finance bill to cause chaos as a smokescreen and then went ahead to deploy the Kenyan police to Haiti as of June 25, 2024. Haven achievd his objective for which he has been paid by a foreign power, he is now saying he will withdraw the bill totally, just imagine!!

https://www.rt.com/africa/600058-kenya-ruto-finance-bill-withdrawn/

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