Jjhunt:
What about the woman that sleep around?

This one is worse. She can give it freely to gateman, driver, house boy, neighbors, husband friends, ex-lovers, etc

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You guys like each other already just that you are not obsessed with each other.

Know that with respect to opposite sex, you only respect who you like and in the long, mutual respect and regards from one another is the winning code.

So, give it time, you guys will get better in treating yourselves right. Just make sure you guys are ready to be there for one another for the long term.

I see. Na now daybreak abi? Una go explain tire! The fear of #2024 elections is on them.

Process direct entry into a university. Which accreditation, what if it doesn't happens in the next five years? Btw, also get a job to start doing and learn IT skills by the side!

As an independent author, using Facebook book groups to promote your published books by posting their links in them is very effective in generating sales.

As an independent author, using Facebook book groups to promote your published books by posting their links in them is very effective in generating sales.

Jayboi:
Good day everyone. I have been wondering how married men in diaspora with their wives/family in Nigeria cope when they develop sexual urges. I know women can still try and hold body o but men!
For instance, I know up to ten married men staying in the UAE/Qatar with their families here in Nigeria. Infact they visit just once in a year and make sure their families/wives get the best form of comfort. After, they are off again for months. I don't want to believe they just remain celebate throughout. Or are there Oloshos or prostitutes in the middle east?

They mostly cheat over there and their wife cheat over here! Q.E.D

It is a normal phase of life. How he handles it determines his future success!

As for the monotonous issues, this is a fallacy and a sign of lack of motivation for what he is doing. It is mostly fueled by fulfilment plus the Oliver twist syndrome but in most cases, doesn't ends well because it is usually devoid of logic but a mere emotional tantrum.

Imagine Elon Musk deciding he needs to explore again and giving up all he has built in pursuit of uncertainty!!

It is a natural thing that have to be put in check and managed properly. You build the business until you can retire early while the business still remains one of your steady cash cows and then go on to focus on other things like Jack Ma of Alibaba did recently. He is now into what he mostly wanted to do and have passion for, Education!

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

She can't change to using gas because of you as it might not be profitable for her business.

If all the windows in your flat are not on that side, then you can find a solution to it for yourself. What I will suggest is during the day/early morning when she cooks, permanently lock those set of windows and only open them at night.

You can then plan your leaving that house if you can't manage it this way indefinitely.

Joseph099:
I STOPPED PLAYING BET9JA VIRTUAL THIS YEAR. MEHHN WHAT A FEAT. I know why I wrote that in capital letters. Because this is the first time I've used a phone for a full year. And really lived peacefully like a human being.

Congratulations

People have started hoarding it in anticipation of the initial December deadline for the use of the old naira notes.

Dtruthspeaker:


Then it is that time that they would start shouting and wailiing all over the place and running helter skelter looking for everybody to forgive them.

Ya, true

amnesty7:
I always wonder how wicked and mean people honestly see themselves. For example, someone who humiliates their househelp all the time or the neighbour who terrorises the whole neighborhood how do they actually feel or people that will steal from accident scenes? I always wonder.

They are always satisfied, feel being smart and happy until nemesis catch-up with them!

Still on writing: Let your book research ideas remain at that level and it should only act as a guide to you. Hence, never copy and paste any part of it into your book project.

Still on writing: Let your book research ideas remain at that level and it should only act as a guide to you. Hence, never copy and paste any part of it into your book project.

Why reading any extra meaning to a cheerful gesture?

Even if they intends to make a point with the gesture, you just collecting the gift and not giving a fvck would have does it...

Congratulations!!!

More winnings and elevations!!!

So true

jarmy:
I have a little poultry and my wife helps me to sell the eggs within the neighborhood.

She insisted that I must pay her 100 naira for every crate she sells. I said she should accept 50 naira but she refused and said I should sell my eggs myself.

My people is this normal?

Don't see it from your perspective. Rather, see it as a win-win for both of you.

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Country hard; Man tells chicken seller to cut 17pieces out of a mere chicken wing

Take a listen!!!

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This is a stunt for social media

Oluwashina72:
I can't count how many times I do get frustrated which always leads to huge argument and some results into real combat out of anger with me and the 2nd party...
I've observered this for years.. I pray a lot, avoid people sometimes to avoid anything causing anger, but it will always come to me even if I try to avoid it.. Please help me I'm tired of getting frustrated with people attitudes which always lead to anger and this affected my reputation of who I am and how I look with how I want people to see me....
Someone in the house should please advise thank🙏 you

Just be yourself.

Don't bother what people say about you because they will always talk.

But in all you do, seek out your interest because nobody else will do that for you.

Tayorshd87:


Am happy for u to get such a virtual lady because what social media has caused in this era is something that cannot be over emphasize with bunches of olosho and club girls 😢😭😭😢😭

Not that am not meeting my spec but date them that's when u Wil know why many of Dem are single 🤔..


But am still thinking of going for my true spec if I found one since have given birth already 🤔
Hope am not taking the wrong decision

Very wrong decision. Be content with what you got!

Psalme91:
I am tired of my marriage my husband has no consideration for me or our children he cheat like there's no tommorow he insults me like I am a piece of dirt . I am tired of treating infection all the time I am scared he may infect me with hiv soon. I am just tired of the marriage I want to leave I have a business but I am scared because I don't know how will I cope with 8 children all alone my business will not be sufficient for me to take care of 8 children alone. My health is at risk now because of my bp is high and the doctor advised me to stop stressing myself to avoid having a stroke. But I cant even rest because of my husband habit and both families are aware of the situation in our house but my husband isn't ready to listen to anyone.
please how do I go through this ? I need your candid advice.

For people like you, at times I do say you deserve what you have gotten because if investigated, it will be discovered there was another responsible guy who would treat you right but you probably ate his money and dumped him with the excuse that he is not flashy and too good or calm cos you need a what's up guy.

Ok, back to the issue. You allowed yourself to be manipulated and used. Why did you allow your husband and his people make you feel bad because you have only daughters? You are supposed to standup to them and tell them you give glory to God for having those wonderful girls as there are people who have none.

You should have stopped at three, maximum four but you raced it to eight yet the love and peace you seek didn't come.

Peace is never given but created because it comes from within. You must never allow the opinions of people influence your life decisions.

To take care of eight children is not going to be an easy task. So, you have to be strong now and learn to derive your purpose from within and not without!

Keepamsafe:
I will try to be brief as possible.

I met this girl earlier this year, and I asked her out but she declined ( first of the two girls that has declined my advances this year). Well, her reason for declining is cos she has a bf. But she still comes to visit and we make out and i also support her financially whenever she comes around or calls.

About a week or two, I’ve been noticing a slight change in her attitude, whenever she comes around, she tries to be homely. She now sweeps, tidy the restroom and even keep the kitchen in order. Now, these things, she doesn’t do before. Before now, when she visits, we get food outside, watch TV and just have sex and she leaves.
She’s now saying im a Handsome guy and 3 days ago, she asked, IF I NOW HAVE A GF?
But I told her my dating life is complicated….. I didn’t bother asking about her BF.

Now the issue is, she’s trying to limit the sex and replace it with home duties. But, I prefer the sex. She came around yesterday and I made advances and she rejected saying if its everytime she comes we’ll have sex. Can’t she just visit me. I got vexed.

I need advice.
What can i do? Is it wrong to always have sex whenever she comes to visit?
Should I accept her as my GF? Or ask her to stop visiting?

Help for wider opinion please

At first you were just a Pay-As-You-Go partner that is a client.

Now she is probably not in good terms with her best paying client (Main boy) again and now trying to put you into that shoe.

If you are ok with this, you accept it but know that as soon as another guy fits into that shoe in the not too far future, she will demote you again to Pay-As-You-Go.

UncleKoboko:
90% of women that will leave like that usually start doing HOOKUPS.
THAT'S WHY IT'S VERY STUPÌD OF ANY MAN TO TAKE A WOMAN THAT LEFT BACK.
YOU'LL ONLY BE TAKING BACK A MORE BROKEN AND DAMAGED WHÓRE.
SHE'LL NEVER GIVE YOU REST OF MIND.
Don't even consider it for any reason, EVEN BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN.
IF YOU DIE, YOUR CHILDREN WILL LIVE ON AND LIVE THEIR LIFE...

Most of these wayward and careless women leave only to start sleeping with other married men.

When they now realise that no man will want to take them and their baggages (children), they'll start looking for a way to go back to that man they left.

You have a good point...

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As simple as these strategies may appeared to be, they are very effective.