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funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

Don't marry out of pity

Ikennamurphy:
You're talking nonsense..Sharia is for the poor...how many days did yar'adua stay after his death in Saudi Arabia before been bursted

Please help me ask the OP how many days it took babangidas family to bring the wife back to Nigeria after her death in US

Johnsonbet365:
Hello house
please pardon my errors

Am thinking about learning a new skill in other to apply for a skill immigrants maybe through Canada or Australia skill immigrants but I don't know which Skill can I learn under 6 month so here is my question


What is the best SKILL can someone learn under 6 month in other to migrate to Europe via SKILL immigrant

Go for plumbing, if u are serious 3 months is enough and it pays outside this country

Girlwhocares:
Please help me, I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad I will make them feel, also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant, we hardly have any conversation, we do things differently, we share different rooms, no sex for the past 3 years! Even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage I can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday, we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, I hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best, which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times, I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely, bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because I know I might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.

Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind, my heart is heavy, I need someone to talk to, I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

If u are in Lagos go and see pastor Kingsley okonkwo (of David Christian center) if u are in main land its at fagbems amuwo odofin (thats close to festac) if u are on the island its at elegushi (close to meadow hall) u can see him after church service, I understand how u feel but first u have to close the door on ur ex, kill the feeling you have for him first, without that there is nothing you will do on this earth that will make ur marriage work, its a must do cos u are married now that's the reality face it, first block his numbers from reaching you. Two prayer go in ur knees and watch God do his, no time is late, u can love ur husband, start by calling him sweet names, take him out don't talk about ur marriage when u guys are out unless u want to start another fight, do things u love together with him, eat on the same table with him, close that gap between u guys, communicate more be the one to bring up topics, don't pick offense, start controlling ur inner mind thanks

felong:
Please I Need Detailed Advice In Starting A Filling Station

Good evening nairalanders. please I would appreciate it if I'm given a detailed breakdown of what it would cost to open an run a filling station.
also someone a friend advised that franchising would be good I would be operating with a branded name. so which independent oil marker in Nigeria is the best for franchise.

My location is Abakaliki Ebony state. I will also like to know how many tankers I call sell on an average per month in a place like Abakaliki.
thanks.

First of all you need a busy place, then get DPR to approve it, likewise fire service and order government agencies, the office building and canopy is another area you will spend depending on the size, get a good industrial welder for the underground tanks, I think 3 for PMS, 1 for AGO and 1 for DPK will do, most at times its hard to buy directly from private depots because markets buys in bulk from them and resell, the official price of PMS is 133.28 but u won't get it at that price (134 or 134.5) that's what u will get. AGO and DPK doesn't have fixed price, Since this is ur first buy 1 tanker for now that is if u have the money if u don't u can always hire from any of the depot. U can ask me any question as the work is going on (DPR office is in Enugu if u need contact I can be of help) I can also supply product to u, u pay at ur station when u see the product

otipoju:
Where is it located. The 10 story plus car park looks good.

Oniru estate vi

Una never see anything

Trump wanna be

bluefilm:
Eyaaa

Bros Timi dey vex say no be im open am first

Chai.

Bless u,

Berankis:
Did FG not declare Monday as a public holiday? Mad man! Na dis kind Lecturer go dey miss for lecture hall on a full capacity day.

The story said a day after Easter Monday.

tactius:
Landing cost is N205.

Fuel is sold at depot at N136-145.

At station for N142-147 nationwide.j

My brother as of today fuel is 140 at the depot, add transport and other road expenses and u will see that there is problem

Fashola your father

chriskosherbal:
Pogba pls ask snow for me when will season 8 be out now...I can't wait to lay my hands on it .


That film is epic.

Chaiii I love that babe with golden hair who controls dragons I forgot her name ....chaiii that babe fine sha

April 15

Na airport this people dey talk about not even about the game ahead, must we play politics with everything

Almaiga:
This one don buy Market. Trust Nigerian Police, they will drain his pocket and account dry before sending him to Jail, for reckless driving.

my brother its between NUPENG and police, police will pay for that truck and product not negotiable

SIMPLYkush:
Ra's kimono koh raskitoto ni

U be MUMU

Una wan wake sleeping dog abi

foolish fools

MrHistorian:
PMB is a great leader.
This is very swift.

another mumu

mKc9ET:
No i oppose that...(mother is "nne" not ''mma) ''mma'' can be head when saying mama fast, like mma instead mama

''mma" can be knife, beauty, depending on how u stressed (no "nm" in Igbo word) the word but here we are talking about beauty

"chi' means God, ''di'' means is, while "mma" means beauty or good

So my dear is CHIDIMMA not CHIDINMA

Hope u are not from a home were parent don't speak their mother tongue their children, if an Igbo man

chidinma and chidimma means two different thing
chidimma means God is good to me while chidinma means God is good

GossipHeart:

These people sef

Them no get sense

The worst part is that they are killing their own people

If they're serious about terrorism, they would have taken it to other tribe or states to show how serious they are

They're busy killing their own people, ain't that some brainless act and foolishness

How much will you give a Yoruba or Igbo guy that will make him/her strap bombs on themselves and go blow his people up ??

Even if God himself promise him 200 virgins, he will slap the shiit out of that God that tells him to blow up his people

na to start for your village sure pass

Dejiih001:
I intends relocating to Lagos, Ibeju-Lekki area to be precise and after series of consultations I was made to understand that a standard house/apartment in that area will cost me around #40 Millions.

But I wish to know if building a house myself from scratch will still cost as much as that or its just advisable I buy one straight or how possible can I possibly spend less to achieve this purpose?

I will greatly appreciate all your professional advises.

CC: Lalasticlala, Lawyer, Mynd44

make sure the foundation is above the road, that will it hard for water to stay in the compound

If they must, BAT, fash and ameachi must be probe too

If watin dey under no kill them dem go kill am

Chai

If I hear

PresVA:
Just wondering how the lady's life would be if the guy goes on to marry her against his mum's wish...

It would be another MIL-DIL wahala. .

If u are the one marry her, my grandmum did the same to my uncle and he ended up with the wrong person (she didn't allow any of the family member to come close) get ur own house if u don't have one.... My 2kobo

Na so the thing dey start...

Nice one

My friend is finding it difficult to log in, any solution from anybody here, thanks

EternalTruths:
Jobs are lost when a government becomes hostile to companies


I hope those APC small brains won't complain when some of these companies relocate to nearby countries.


Before you know what is going on, those government officials will start demanding bribes using fines as threat.

U sabi, I pity their workers, because the money is going to come from them, they might even end up losing their job