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I really don't know the reason, but its a big turn on for me! I adore fair ladies so much!

5points: Long posts are annoying!
Phew!
Learn simple and short sentences, dnt impress, communicate instead!

that's ur opinion bro, every person must not contribute...if u think you don't have the time to go through the post...just kindly use the door and no person will notice you...I just had to pour out my h@ on a vital matter and not to please or impress any person, so if you think it aint ok...I advice you keep off from here!

oluafolabi: OP, is paragraph your enemy?

sorry...I already modified that, hope u can contribute to the topic now?

Dannylux: The truth remains that most of us fear our ancestors' idols than God.. That's the thing.

as funny as it may sound, I tag it a bitter truth..cos if we should make reference to those that worship idols..they uphold their chi's(god's) to a very high esteem that they dear not play with his rules and regulations cos once one derails..automatically, the person gets struck..and its not as though our God doesn't have such grace of stricking @ a glance...that's what makes him different...he's a merciful God..and also through the scriptures he quotes "shall we continue in sin that grace might abound? God forbid" I think we have underatted and underestimated his freedom so much....the abuse is now a culture in every church xpecially among the youths...but one fact I do knw so well is that inspite of his grace, he is also a consuming fire and he can burn more hard than those of the idols so I still advice us to beware and be careful on how we thread in the house of God!

Sanguine: Point of correction, a church is just a building. Who told you 'church' is the house of God, huh? God lives in the Hearts of Men and never in a 'church'. Some so called churches these days are built by hungry, unemployed riffraffs. And these are the people who'd parade themselves as pastors! . So it is only natural that these atrocities are found in 'church'!

my dear u are entitled to your own opinion and I believe that's your own definition of a church and I won't argue that with you...to ordinary ppl its a wall made with blocks but to those who understand the things of God the more, they know that there is more to it...all the same, whether the pastors are hungry or not what matters for me, is that they should always be bothered about salvation of souls than to preach prosperity all the time.. Even if the youths choose to commit immorality there's always enough room outside than to do that in the church, its total mockery to God and I know the repacautions will definitely come which most of the partakers of this act are ignorant of!

D lion'sheart:
Some of the reasons responsible for this soon-to-be-norm in christiandom are
1. Churchiality without christianity,
2. Over feeding on prosperity messages and less on salvation, repentance, holiness and the danger that await sinners (hell and heaven),
3. Lack of Godly parental up bringing,
4. Moral decay in our society,
5. Bad example and indiscipline of church leaders (from the pastor-pulpit to the puilt- departmental heads and the congregation),
6. Wordly Politics, modern technology/westernization and satanic end time strategy to destroy the church, and
7. Indiscriminate spread of (satanic or occultic) new generation churches. These may be responsible and must be check or else........................

. Lion'sheart, thank you very much...your points are very clear and well noted I believe it will go a long way to @ least call some ppl to other if they can be well headed to....xpecially in the arears of the pastors, even many of them are just after money this days while salvation which should be the major thing is just suffering...I just ask God to keep granting us good grace so we could @ least call our conscience back to other to avoid huge nemesis in the future!

Leyqute: One word op: paragraphing.

Reading through your prose wasnt an easy task(my eyes bled) buh you've got a point there.

This is one of the reasons I prefer to stay indoors on Sundays. The church isn't what it used to be. Social media, the internet and civilization brought bad things along with the good things.
Immorality is now rampant and I don't see an end to it soon.

If we still worshiped Sango et al, it wouldn't have been this bad.

. Thanks bro...correction taken, seems I was carried away...back to the topic: we understand that there is too much immorality in the society @ large presently but what happened to those ethics on the fear of God that where instilled in us by our fathers?...those are the questions I still find very difficult to scale through their answers!

Dear nairalanders, I have this issue that has bothered my heart so much and its now like a norm in our society and I hope to share this with us here... All my life I have always had a very high and feared reference for God, this made me to be very mindful of my acts and deeds expecially when am in the house of God, of lately I have noticed that these days so many romance are going on in the house of God expecially among the youths and the rate is becoming very alarming...I have had some experience personally based on this issue and have also chatted and discussed with friends from different churches that have witnessed this same issue.
I used to be in the choir, in my church and jst like I said earlier when it comes to God..I try my best to dedicate my all to him...in my choir, the ratio of the ladies where more compared to the men so during those times of choir practice and all 9t rehearsals I noticed so many things and this where really happening initially I thought it was not real but later on I had to accept the fact that these my co choir members where actually flirting inside the church, when the temptation came my path cos of my fear for such acts and when I was tired of seeing the things that where happening...I had to quit the choir and focus more on being an ordinary member...u knw why? I had conscience and my conscience could not hold those things anymore.
When I asked my friends on their thoughts abt the issue in their own churches, they all laughed and said that its the main thing now...one of my friends even confessed that he had in many occasion had flings inside the church with her church babe and one who is a youth co-ordinator in one of the new generation churches confessed of the altitudes and seductions he encountered that he even had to resign and stay off the church for some time cos his conscience could not take it as well...he even said that some time in their church their was a time they had an all night youth rehearsal and after the rehearsals in the morning, the cleaner in their church found some collections of used condoms inside the church oo! They just had to plead with her to keep it low in order to avoid bringing bad reputation and creating an ugly impression about their church....another of my friend threw in another blast about how they dugged out tons of condoms from the suck away when they where disposing the sewage from the pit in his own church...he said it got the church officials wondering and they had to ban all night youth activities in their chuch.

now my question is, why do people....expecially the youths that are supposed to be the strong pillars of the church derive from mocking God?? People that practice such acts, do they still have conscience? Or how do they fill after such practice? What are your own experience? Please share with us so we can learn from it...

Money is not everything and xperience remains the best tutor, had it been that sm1 advised you against ur wish earlier, u would have been enemies with the person...its for better for worse so my advice is that u draw closer to God and tell him what you want cos he's the only1 that can do all things...goodluck!

Wow...so touching and inspirational...God bless u OP!

Op its simple, infect urself with hiv then sleep with him and pass it on to him, u can as well locate his father and pass it on to him as well...I believe it will make you and your friend to feel better and @ rest too..good luck!

zeb04: @op. I Understnd u perfectly cz dis jst happnd 2 me,I met dis guy recently nd we became frnds,really gud friend,we did everytin 2geda,we go out,we cook 4 each oda, u knw jst normal stuff. then d guy startd askin me out,I tld him no dat I was bad at keepin r/ship bt he wldnt listen,he wld plea nd plea nd even kneel down. The truth is I really luv dis guy(nt broda nd sista luv) bt I knw me,I knw I dnt kip r/ship more dan 3months,I knew r/ship wil spoil wat we share. anyways leta I acceptd bt right frm day one,inside me I felt bad cz I knew hw it wil end. The guy did evrytin 2 make me happy bt I pick offense at every litl tin,I broke up 4 tyms nd he was alwys begin,bt sincerely I luved him. Nw we ve finally seperatd 4 gud bt I really miss wen we were frnds,wen we neva quarreld ve we jst flowd. Op jst 4get her 4 nw n date smone else,oneday u guys wil bcome really gud frnds again nd mayb then,u guys might jst date nd up married cz u knw urselvs lik no one else. Pls 4giv my long write up,it cz I still feel sad Tnks

@ zeb04, nice lines here...and good lessons from your own story too...buh am a bit concerned about you..I have some questions for you, does it really bother you that you can't last up2 3months in a relationship? Do you think everything is really ok with you? R u married now? If not how do you intend to keep a marriage if you can't keep a relationship? have been pondering on this questions...would be glad if u could do justice to them.

zeb04: @op. I Understnd u perfectly cz dis jst happnd 2 me,I met dis guy recently nd we became frnds,really gud friend,we did everytin 2geda,we go out,we cook 4 each oda, u knw jst normal stuff. then d guy startd askin me out,I tld him no dat I was bad at keepin r/ship bt he wldnt listen,he wld plea nd plea nd even kneel down. The truth is I really luv dis guy(nt broda nd sista luv) bt I knw me,I knw I dnt kip r/ship more dan 3months,I knew r/ship wil spoil wat we share. anyways leta I acceptd bt right frm day one,inside me I felt bad cz I knew hw it wil end. The guy did evrytin 2 make me happy bt I pick offense at every litl tin,I broke up 4 tyms nd he was alwys begin,bt sincerely I luved him. Nw we ve finally seperatd 4 gud bt I really miss wen we were frnds,wen we neva quarreld ve we jst flowd. Op jst 4get her 4 nw n date smone else,oneday u guys wil bcome really gud frnds again nd mayb then,u guys might jst date nd up married cz u knw urselvs lik no one else. Pls 4giv my long write up,it cz I still feel sad Tnks

@ zeb04, nice lines here...and good lessons from your own story too...buh am a bit concerned about you..I have some questions for you, does it really bother you that you can't last up2 3months in a relationship? Do you think everything is really ok with you? R u married now? If not how do you intend to keep a marriage if you can't keep a relationship? have been pondering on this questions...would be glad if u could do justice to them.

Is either u don't love him or you are yet to understand what true love is all about...in as much as I will applaud ur kind gesture towards him and his son you should also be aware that true love has no sentmental basis, my advice should be that u should not be desperate..in as much as u are advanced in age...just allow Gods time to play its role..goodluck!

Bro its quite unfortunate, buh inspite of everything she's still human and sm1 definitely must have to tolerate her weakness...love they say conquers all things..so since u agree that the love is their, my advice is that you consult a psychologist to fix up her temper...leaving her will cause her more harm...if she could get to that xtent of taking her life jst cos u wanted to quit...I believe she feels remorse and h8s her self after her actions...so d best thing you will do for her is to be her strength now and help her fix her weakness...goodluck!

Men r polygamous in nature and tend to xhibit that nature even when they try so hard to avoid it, but in the actual sense 1 lady remains the best for any man that cherish his life and wish to leave long.. Myopinionthough..

My dear...some things are better left unsaid...if u spill that truth the fact of the matter is that even if he claims to have forgiven u, his altitude towards u will change automatically and he will see and also treat u bad...its natural and hard for african men to forgive and forget...na only God get that grace! So my advice will be that u keep the secret..forgive ur self..repent of ur sins and sin no more...all d best!

Stay away from him, what sort of love is that? My dear he's just lusting after ur body and when men are desperate, they can take any measure to actualize their desires...u say u are a christain, if u where really a strong one I don't think u will be asking whether u should give in to a married man...aside from that I know u are being attracted to him cos of his wealth, what if he's a ritualist..have u asked ur sef that? Or is a car worth more than ur life? Its left for u to decide buh my opinion to u is that u stay away from him so u give ur God destined man for u d opportunity to locate you on time..good luck!

Dear u aint cUrsed and don't ever initiate such thoughts towards ya self, @ least you are still alive which is a major factor and @ 25yrs u still have lots of chances, u just need to get close to God, love ur self and definitely the right men will come @ the right time! Goodluck..

Cosmass: He is so ready to settle down. He is very responsible and wants to settle. That's even my fear, he would get someone closer to his age as he said and settle.

dear some times, some things happen not because we deserve em buh because of the fact that God loves us and he sees and knows more about the future than we humans...that's all I have to tell u...I believe he was the one that approached u..and u have been dating all the while right? And he never thought about the age, why should it be now? Or is the age he wants to marry? Providd u are of age and matured enough I don't c any reason why he shouldn't marry you...buh one thing am sure about is that God has a better plan for you...so allow him to take charge of things and let ur man go look for age...goodluck!

I love ur signature...two things comes unannounced..opportunity and trouble...this ur issue na really trouble oo! When women get emotional and have feelings over a particular man..it can really be disastrous oo! Even @ ur speaking to her and she knowing he's married..she still persist? That's bad...my advice: there's nothing God can not do...u might see it as a little issue buh if not properly handled it can generate into something bigger which I don't pray for you...so go into serious prayers and commit into the hands of God..pray with ur man as well remember he is human...and always show him the best of love that u have gat this period...then he should keep on talking to her each time she acts up that way...I believe with time God will console her with a matured Man as a shoulder to lean on so she can totally get off ur man...goodluck!

moyarh.toh.badt:
Lol.Maturity matters most. I m 15 in a rltionship wif som1 of 29 nd we're doin fyn.

my dear in as much as maturity is an essential factor in any relationship...I believe age is also a part element of maturity....from 18 yrs..I think is considerable for a relationship...for the fact you are having fun @ the moment doesn't make it a measure to tagg it maturity or qualify yourself for a relationship...how about when the difficult challenges will st coming up do you think @ such a tender age u can handle such issues? Definitely I know u will tell me yes.. But their is a fact..I also know that a gal of that age should be smwhere in second school...so do u think u can combine emotional issues with ur academics and still concentrate? Definitely no! @op, its not proper...d only relationship she should think of now...should be with God and her books so she could make her parents happy....@ d ryt time those other things will flow along....

lorretta u: lmao. Bro are u having a heart break?
Kpele

Come talk to mama. I'll make u feel better

mama I only experienced that once, and that was when I was still a boy buh since I turned into a man and understood the secrets of the game...i give em treats, based on the formatts their fish brains throw in though! But as for love! It doesn't exist in my world...just felt bad after reading that piece and she still got the guts to post it here...what was she xpecting? Compliments abi? Mama u don hear my story nah...nd 4 your information, I don upgrade my formatt oo...so if u still say make I come....I go still come make u get ur own story to tell too!!

lorretta u: lmao. Bro are u having a heart break?
Kpele

Come talk to mama. I'll make u feel better

mama I only experienced that once, and that was when I was still a boy buh since I turned into a man and understood the secrets of the game...i give em treats, based on the formatts their fish brains throw in though! But as for love! It doesn't exist in my world...just felt bad after reading that piece and she still got the guts to post it here...what was she xpecting? Compliments abi? Mama u don hear my story nah...nd 4 your information, I don upgrade my formatt oo...so if u still say make I come....I go still come make u get ur own story to tell too!!

Its quite a pity here..the gal in ? will be passing through lots of psychological challenges @ the moment and thankgod u where able to meet her and she opened up to you...so the problm I believe is already halv solved...my take here is that too much of everything is bad in as much as he is her father buh he is still human...though am not complimenting his acts...the problem is a critical one of which if not properly handled will cause a hurge problm to the family and d gal if she doesn't voice out to the mum will end up leaving in guilt but most women lack understanding in situations like this...so my advice will be that she should confide in a faithful man of God who is close to their family I believe the man of God will do justice to bringing the family together letting them into the hard truth and also admonishing em more on forgiveness so they can continue leaving in peace and happiness without any form of guilt...goodluck to ya friend!

Finally na Jesus sure pass...the only lover that can never leav you for anything...make peace with him and he will guide you to the right man...good luck!

after reading this piece...my h@ just burns with so much hatred, it just makes me to h8 ladies the more, what exactly do this bitches in wolves clothing even want for crying out loud?? So u mean after he did all this stuffs for you, u still had the guts and courage to treat him that bad? Let me tell u a painfull truth...'U aint worth that guy' I believe u are back now mayb cos u have got financiall needs and you think posting this shit here will bring him bk? Sorry! Bros I believe u have learnt ur lessons, that lady doesn't deserve you..u deserve something better abd u might face more regrets if u go back cos she's a looser...forge ahead as u have already done and God will crown you with ur worthy princess soon...goodluck!