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Very stupid girl. The guy don Fvck am tire

subtlemee:
He's used to Nigerian girls style of coming to watch film or charge phone as a green light

chai

Rip man

seunmohmoh:
Her friends are probably telling her that she is young and she should slay, the kind of friends you mention confirms that.

In her friend's circle, is she the only married person? Probably yes.

Sit her down and ask her if she wants divorce as you are tired of her attitude not her.

10 years isn't a joke o.

im also suspecting her

lilbest4:
log in her Instagram and Facebook on your phone it is very easy, I can teach you if you want and if you have iPhone, login her WhatsApp on your safari browser

can you help with your knowledge

Breaststroke:
OP,

I perfectly understand you and I don't think you're being insecure, my cousin and a childhood friend are the same way as your wife and it bothers me.

My childhood pal has always been a high flying, slay queen long before the term 'slay queen' hit us. Even her mother once said calm down, you want to walk before you crawl.

She's married now but there are rumours of her dating one of her organization's top clients.

Sorry I don't have any real advice other than to say, you're not insecure or crazy for wanting more and better from your spouse.

you are objective to the matter... I believe it is because you had personal experience about it... As a female, the first thing majority of you always say is "insecurity ".. I have argued this out here on several occasions.. That one can as well say God has insecurity issues too since He said have no other god except Him..

To be sincere people have failed in reasoning

mysticgal:
Braaa can you let me be, go to the fridge and get the chilled pill

mediocracy

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

This is the type of woman he wants "quiet and reserved "



Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

baby124:
OP,
You are almost 10yrs older than your wife. At the age she is now, you were just getting married. You married someone that had not gotten all her youthful exuberance out of her system. This is what you now have to deal with.

This is why some women marry in their 30’s because they really need to live that life. It’s not about a certificate, job and car. It’s about life’s experiences, good and bad. It also seems like you are the very reserved type and mostly stuck on how much more mature or older you are.

The thing with men married to women who they are much older than, is that they have to act younger. Dress and look as young as their wives. Go clubbing with them and be able to relate to vain things . To catch a monkey you have to act like a monkey. When a woman is looking for attention all over the place, it means she is not getting attention from the husband. Are you the type that works too much or thinks some of her interests are beneath you? Please adjust.

Though for everyone, we all feel nice when we are wanted. Even unsolicited advances sometimes give an ego boost . As you say, you are older, all of 43. Use wisdom to manage your home. Try to get her to plan some time for you both to spend together. Slowly you would start spending time together and more frequently.

No matter how stupid her requests to spend time with you is, just do it. It may be club, your children’s activities, owambe, or even baby shower. Just go and make those memories. I don’t think she’s cheating or she’s a bad person. Women who wear hijab also cheat on their husbands. So, it’s not by dressing. You can also go shopping for her and pick out dresses you like or think look nice on her.

Take it easy and please do not cheat or divorce your wife. Simple communication and compromise is needed here. You married a woman that is your type. This one is annoying you now, when you divorce her you will subconsciously seek out her type again. You are quiet so you married someone more outgoing than you! With a quiet person like you, Na dead zone and such relationships will not last for you. Don’t threaten anyone with divorce as you may just find out that you are not an angel either.

Compare your statement to the above.



sinaj:
Lwkmd grin

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha grin

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

it is not about insecurity... Some women go beyond the limit forgetting they are married

baby124:
OP,
You are almost 10yrs older than your wife. At the age she is now, you were just getting married. You married someone that had not gotten all her youthful exuberance out of her system. This is what you now have to deal with.

This is why some women marry in their 30’s because they really need to live that life. It’s not about a certificate, job and car. It’s about life’s experiences, good and bad. It also seems like you are the very reserved type and mostly stuck on how much more mature or older you are.

The thing with men married to women who they are much older than, is that they have to act younger. Dress and look as young as their wives. Go clubbing with them and be able to relate to vain things . To catch a monkey you have to act like a monkey. When a woman is looking for attention all over the place, it means she is not getting attention from the husband. Are you the type that works too much or thinks some of her interests are beneath you? Please adjust.

Though for everyone, we all feel nice when we are wanted. Even unsolicited advances sometimes give an ego boost . As you say, you are older, all of 43. Use wisdom to manage your home. Try to get her to plan some time for you both to spend together. Slowly you would start spending time together and more frequently.

No matter how stupid her requests to spend time with you is, just do it. It may be club, your children’s activities, owambe, or even baby shower. Just go and make those memories. I don’t think she’s cheating or she’s a bad person. Women who wear hijab also cheat on their husbands. So, it’s not by dressing. You can also go shopping for her and pick out dresses you like or think look nice on her.

Take it easy and please do not cheat or divorce your wife. Simple communication and compromise is needed here. You married a woman that is your type. This one is annoying you now, when you divorce her you will subconsciously seek out her type again. You are quiet so you married someone more outgoing than you! With a quiet person like you, Na dead zone and such relationships will not last for you. Don’t threaten anyone with divorce as you may just find out that you are not an angel either.

im pleased that nairaland still has mature female folks here... The way some girls reacted to what OP state was so annoying

mysticgal:
yeye Dey worey you

i thought you supported someone who accused OP of insecurity... So why abuse someone who wants to confirm what OP has said

farouk2much:
Nothing like compensating its bribing....

its not bribing

alizma:
Their action prevents a lot of road users from losing their valuables to hoodlums.

yeah...God bless them... This is when a government multivates it's officers... Kudos to Lagos State

unbitchable:
Porn is not entertainment, it's adult contents.
Get sense bro.

so is it not the same body that regulates movies that regulates that too? Or porn has a different body that regulate it? Get sense adult

unbitchable:
Schools are under rules and regulation while Entertainment is an open market.

no entertainment is not an open market here, if not porn would have been openly endorsed by the regulatory body

friendlyadvice:
if u like no open leg and move on with your life, one pastor go just come rape u

na person dey reason like this..

unbitchable:
you don't need to insult them for demanding sex. The only problem i have is rape, otherwise, Adults should be adults.

they don't have right to demand for sex... Supposing every lecturer starts demanding for bribe before you sit for his paper. What will you say? Clap for him?

NwaIgboBoy:
Ur poor boyfriends u are giving it freely to what are they giving to u?

nonsense talk... Supposing a mad woman wants to Fvck you, I hope you won't reject because you shouldnt have choice

nairalanduseles:
Its just sex just give him make sure he uses protection...... no one tells you what they do to get to the top.........if U don't other girls will take your role

nonsense talk

Bimpe29:
Nice one. Mallam this is commendable. Leadership by example.

all for 2023 elections

aminu114:
u nigerians are unimpressible looking at your comments

this is jet age... He can't deceive anybody... He is doing all this stunt because of 2023 elections

MikeTyson:
Nice one... Leadership by example, lead what you preach

nonsense...he is doing it because of 2023 elections... Very useless man

Badboibipo:
Let me clarify this fact, when a guy stares at a girl trust me it's not to get to know her mindset or her degrees or her source of income....a guy stares at a girl because he feels shes very sexually attractive and wishes or Hope's to have sexx with her. If he proceeds to date or marry her after then it was because he saw she had more than sexx to offer but trust me it's always sexx that drives a man to stare lustfully at a girl!!!!!!!!

You see, I have never understood why girls truly stare at guys honestly. I have a very good looking friend that ladies always stare at, I have seen on countless occasions where girls are staring at him and when he tries to talk to them they put up a guard or act uninterested. Like, wtf

Ladies please why do you really stare at guys? I really want to know.....is it for sexx or for what specific reasons?

And how can just staring at a guy be enough for you girls, dont you want more? Why do girls turn down countless guys they find very attractive enough to stare at? I can never really understand this..you girls are making me go crazy with your craziness!!!! A girl can even get naked with a guy and later change her mind and start to sleep. Like how are you people able to resist the very things you obviously were attracted to?

Like a guy will be admiring a girl and then she will now walk up to him and say hello and then he will now turn her down? NOT ON THIS EARTH!!!
but girls do that EVERYTIME...TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE. met countless of girls that would stare at me like I'm the love of their life but will start acting strange once I show interest.....like WTF ?

go to Ubunja miseducation your problem will be solved

chubbygal:
Nonsense SA and their weird security them

meeeennnhhhh...see where person shook hand oooooo

I don't like hearing news from NNPC again concerning refinery... Useless corporation

Emrixx:
Lol nothing wen Musa no go see for gate

kai...the guy looks malnourished.... Na too much akamu wey he dey release cause am

kestolove95:
Pity dem

a woman that said the "man is very active "?.. Greed was her problem

I think this is an old news... It was here before

RIP

generationz:
Well, this public apology means nothing. I have seen men who crawl on their knees in public to beg their wives only for her to return and keep chopping beating.

If your wife's family called you a ritualist then
that is a serious allegation.

Of a truth, you shouldn't be bothered about getting her back first but clearing your name.

Go to God in prayer and ask him to vindicate you, if you are innocent.

When this happens, no one will tell your wife to return.

hmmmmmmm

Stillthebest:



I'm certain the car isnt obj's. He is never a luxurious and an ostentatious man.
He is never known as a flamboyant man. I doubt if he is as rich as Atiku and Tinubu

the car belongs to Igbinedion