Born2Breed:


Get lost! If you can't comprehend simple English then go to blazes, is expulsion the only punishment in schools. Make your point if you have any, don't throw insult at me.

you are wrong to say I insulted you cos I never did, and 2 you are contradicting your statement, is expulsion the only punishment? well to answer the question, that's the most suitable one the school deemed fit to use and they didn't require your opinion about it, so you can wail all you can it won't change anything, or maybe you know better than the entire school management?

Benclever1:
Hello everyone.

So I met this girl through a mutual friend and we started bonding. Initially, I didn't take the friendship seriously because this lady is a little older than me and I do not see any future between us.

Now, things got more intense between us. She visited me one time, one thing leading to another, we were in bed, about to have sex and then I pulled out the condom but she refused, insisting that she doesn't enjoy sex with condom. I was very surprised to hear that, so I tried to make her see reasons why the condom is very necessary. She adamantly refused. We ended up not having the sex that day.

Just last week she visited again and we spent the night together. We tried to have sex again but the same issue came up again. She insisted I must not used condom. Now this got me upset. During the conversation that ensued, she made it very clear to me that she does not have any STD/STI so I should not be afraid. She however admitted that she was ovulating and that the chances of getting her pregnant was high, but that I should not worry that she'd take care of herself and the pregnancy, if it happens. She said that she would not force me to get involved with the baby if I don't want. However, she made very clear that she's not ready to get married. This got me confused.

I don't want to let my guards down by indulging in unprotected sex with someone I don't trust. I also do not want to hurt her feelings. So I plan to take her for medical tests next week and then we can kick it off from there.

What's your advise for me.

Thank you.

Bros fear God ooo, to think that a guy like me is making a post about having sex with a lady is disgusting, is sex your aim in life, get a life my brother and to chip in, if u have raw sex with that demon in human form then have yourself to blame, use your head and don't be a fool, your village people are celebrating your downfall already.

Estellie:



Madam, one thing you need to get straight is that consensual sex between adults is not a crime in this country...

Call it a stupid generalization, but reality will still slap you right on the face 'cause in the society we live in, sex is common. More than average of Nigeria adult population engage in sex. That shouldn't even be a topic of debate...

Now to your question... If this happened to a child of mine, I would not applaud her or get her a trophy. I would not chop her head off either.
What she needs is proper counselling, guidance and love at a time like this. A reasonable parent should know this...

Now what would you do if this happened to your child? Kill her? disown her? allow her to be humiliated?

Another thing you need to understand is that you can't impose your moral standards on everyone. It's our society not yours. Sex may be an abomination to you and it may also be a natural thing to others.

You claim she deserves what she got so she can receive sense. The best way to teach her sense is to have her expelled, humiliated and ridiculed? and you're in total support of that?
Is that what you'll do to your child?

Whatever though. As I said earlier, make sure you write this same story if this girl commits suicide or causes harm to herself due to all the humiliation you're in support of...


and now you're calling her names like you're any better....

you ended up making no sense at all, family setting is different from an organization's setting, that school is an organization and it has values and images it has to protect cos if that image and value is dented, it will cause problems, the sex wasn't the issue but the fact that it was leaked and the topic says Babcock student, what kind of image does it portray about the school, would you be happy if your child gets an admission into such school, people like you forget that actions come with consequences, it happens everyday in every sphere of life so what makes this one different?

Born2Breed:



The way some of you react to certain issues baffles me. Where is your compassion.

That girl is in 300L, just a year to go and think of the amount the parent must have spent in those 3yrs.

Are there no other type of punishment that could be meted out on the culprits?

This is a Christian university where they preach forgiveness.

you are speaking off point, so which other punishment do u prefer, maybe they should have made her the vice chancellor or registrar, there's a time to forgive and a time to punish stop confusing the word punish.

Jewessgratitude:


Did you read the last paragraph of my comment? Even if you must do it, do it with some decency.

And please stop this stupid generalization of "everybody having illicit sex" not everyone indulges in premarital eex and please let preach the right thing for the sake of the up coming generation. Let's stop making this useless illicit sex of a thing a norm in the society.

Now tell me, how would you feel if in future, you send your daughter and son to school and they bring you video tape of their sexcapades? Just tell me the truth? Would you applaud them and say "ride on! You're adults so no biggies".... Would you? If you can't answer this question then you're the real hypocrite.

I will repeat, she deserves what she got. At least let her receive sense.bunch of hoes everywhere.

don't mind the idiots talking trash, it shows that an average Nigerian hardly make use of his or her brain these days, our morality too has gone to the dogs, fools now make excuse of immortality by saying everyone does it, the future is really bleak.

most of you here questioning the action taken by the school reason through your anus, you are asking what her crime was? or if the act happened in the school? that shows how dumb most of you are, that school is an organization and every organization has its values and image which it portrays to the public, if that image gets dented, it can affect that organization cos the image and value of any organization is the organization itself, the sex itself is not the problem here but the leak, now what was the heading of the sex tape? Babcock student has sex with boyfriend, so tell me all of you bashing the school, what does that say about the image of the school, or you think the school can't sue them for that singular act, moreso those of you saying hypocrite won't allow your brothers marry such a girl due to the image she portrays, our moral decadence is vastly increasing and we are all being sympathetic to it, I don't blmae y'all cos it the same people here bashing that subscribed to watch adults have sex on live TV called bb9ja and were even hailing the winner of the immoral show so continue deceiving yourselves.

CsRockefeller:


It's a pity. Even the Whites aren't this naive and stupid. They know when to draw their boundaries.

most of them were even quoting God just to buttress their point, so shameful.

osazsky:
even president Clinton would have been relived as d president of United states if Lewinsky had d sex video but thank God for the FBI that did d needful and quickly deleted all traces,imagine if dat video had gone viral America as a country would have been in mockery not to talk of one teenager in a university,just ignore them they know nothing

true, it's just sad to see the youths these days think through their anus.

GoodGovernance:


Crap.

What has the school's image got to do with off campus mutual sex?Is it a crime? Is it robbery or murder?

that shows you know nothing about how an organization works, there is something called organizational values and image which the public gets to see and that's what brings goodwill to the organization, an organization can lose a lot of things if that image is dented, cos an organization's image is the organization itself

CsRockefeller:
Many people here are brazenly stupid.

Gosh!!

Not just stupid, unintelligent and highly foolish.

That's why we are were we are today because we have stupid leaders but more stupid followers.

What crime did Tiger Woods commit for having sex outside his work and loosing his sponsorship?

Fools!!

are u surprised by the comments people are making here, sex sells now, you needed to see how boys and girls were dropping their phone numbers on Facebook with abeg for the video when one guy commented that he has the video, everyone wanted the video just to satisfy their carnal desires, didn't they also subscribe to watch live sex on bb9ja, don't be surprised at their comments, morality has indeed gone to the dogs.

magnificient7:
It is unbelievable to see post of people bashing the school for expelling the girl. It speaks of the height and depth of moral decadence in the society.

Every institute, every organisation, every company stand for something. They have values, principles and culture which represent or advocates.


Yes,the girl is an adult. She is free to do whatsoever she want to do. But Babcock simply don't want to be identified with such act. Whether you like it or not, sex tape is highly frown upon especially in a society such as naija.

"We are free to make our decisions, but the consequences are beyond us".

Most people here won't want to marry the girl, but you want castigate BU
Most peeps won't even want their sibling to do anything with her, yet u dey yan nonsense
If u get company,u won't want to employ her...
Even as house help, u won't, make she no spoil Ur pikin, but u dey here dey talk with both side of the mouth.

you've said it all my brother, its a pity people's standards have been reduced to nothing, hence their comments, if they can't answer the questions you just asked them, then they are of all people most miserable.

dazzlingd:


That's an institution that's supposed to be enlightened and rational In decision making not dancing to the gallery and being sentimental. It's not a traditional court or religious court...no wonder they are qualified as glorified secondary school yet seeking international recognition.

A good lawyer will beat them hands down

you think so? you think the law is an episode of zee world or telemundo, or you think the girl alone has the right to sue, what about the schools public image that was dented, you think they can't sue for that too, I laugh at u

dazzlingd:


... U no dey fvk abi? Hypocrites everywhere

you sound so deluded, having sex is one thing, making a video of it is another, you think she won't be sacked if she was working in one of the reputable organizations in Nigeria for making a sex video outside the work place, you think that organization would choose to retain you over their public image, grow up man.

Venerable612:


Some things are not excusable in the African society; and public display of sex before marriage is considered one of them.

It doesn’t mean it has to always be that way - but it is what it is.

I want to believe the Schools decision is as a result of the social media outcry - and to serve as deterrent to present/future students not to indulge in a public display of sex.

If you ask me - nothing wrong with this decision. An institution is free to determine the standards they expect of the students they give their degrees to. It’s all about reputation.

don't mind the people questioning the decision of the school authority, everyone is concerned about how the girl will feel, saying it happened outside the school, yet that singular act is denting the image of the school.

GeneralShepherd:


I am the devil? Really? If God expelled you for every sin you've commited you would have long been dead and in hell.

He that is without sin should cast the first stone

stop quoting God in this context if you don't know how to prove a point, you speak about what God would do in this case yet you forget that there are times God has to punish and times to refrain from such, why then did he drive away the market sellers from the temple, yet didn't so so to the woman who committed adultery, please don't ever use Gods expulsion to qualify that of a man cos God's expulsion is more severe than that of a university.

LORDofODDS:
Exactly. The school has no right to interfere in her relationship outside school.

yeah, the school shouldn't interfere with her outside life yet you forget that that same life outside the school has tainted the image of the school, let's all think before we speak at times, with that single act, will u as a parent recommend that school for your child?

cococandy:


Well I’m not saying it’s not an issue.

But forgive me for not being hyped about a sex tape when we all do the same thing behind doors. So they are worse because they recorded themselves doing?

I don’t understand that kind of faux excitement.

Coco speak for yourself, which one is we all do, you and who?

tpraiz:
That stuff he did to you .

It works on some ladies, not all ladies oh

true, I did that last year to a lady I was in a long distance relationship with, though it wasn't as per to get her laid, I just saw my babe for the first time in months so I was just rubbing her waist and touching her wrists while we sat on the bed, omo the girl body begin boil like soup, she was extremely Hot, if not for my decision beforehand not to have sex with her that day, e for happen cos she later told me that although she didn't plan anything sex, she was ready to go down with me that day during the touchy touchy, till today I still wonder how a casual touch like that can turn a woman on.

pocohantas:


You should try booking space for your brothers in Family and Romance section. Since somehow they know it all, but always get it wrong. They will be back to create more lamentation threads, before 2020.

Lol, stubborn girl, las las you go dey alright.

pocohantas:

I am not the OPPOSITE biko. Na like this I be.

in that case I'll book a special seat for you in Shiloh 2020.

Unpussified:


Stop chasing something that has no value bro

I'm not chasing her bro and she knows that too, it's all part of the fun, and btw poco has value, it's just that she always forms stubborn and feminist just to look for trouble and her target audience are usually the guys, she's the opposite of who you think she is in person.

pocohantas:


Lol. Please stick to your gfs. The type that scarred you guys so badly.

Wrong, not every guy has that story, I'm single btw and its my personal decision cos I don't have time for relationship drama, I have my goals and aspirations and until I complete them, it's a no no to dating.

I have been hearing the phrase from Bestie, Bestie, pant go shift, I doubted it at first but now I know it's really true, baba you have gotten what you've always wanted, which other advise do you need? do the shifting make everybody rest.

pocohantas:


Nah, we are reserved for a special breed. Men who see value beyond SEX, BEAUTY and MONEY.

A trial will convince you

pocohantas:


I will always disagree, because I am not your gfs. I would never be and that is enough to be your enemies. It doesn't matter...

About the girlfriend part, we shall see, I don dey reason your mata

wizdomnzube:
She need d Gbola. E sure me die, she never collect in a long time. Trust me

If she reason me, no p, we go run am

pocohantas:


Well, sorry to disappoint you- that day will never come. As long as I have two hands and most importantly, A BRAIN.

Man propose, God disposes, anyway I like your though skin and stubbornness, even though I know that deep down you are the very opposite, I always look out for your comment in any sensitive post cos I know you must always disagree, that's the fun in nairaland though, keep it up, but be sure you will have an army of enemies here by 2021.

franchasng:
Yes I know na lol, its their way, and we still love them like that oh jareh, its all fun u know lol

Sure

pocohantas:


DM you for a try indeed. I rather drink garri than beg a man for money. Make e no come say na him train me for my papa. Godforbid!!

but you will eventually beg one day, poco I pray we marry, you go beg tire.

pocohantas:


Answer the damn question?

Teach who how to make money? Do I look like your beggy beggy gfs? I graduated at 19, been working since 21. What do you want to teach me, that I didn't come to realise at a very young age?

I answered it nah, you asked me how much can I give you and I just replied you, what more do you need?

franchasng:
I hate when people see the truth and not agree to it. Men here sometimes agree with ladies when they say the truth too but ladies will never agree, the same reason they keep wasting their time trying to be equal to men all over the world as if that's even ever going to be possible, jokers

The truth is that deep down in their heart they agree and know the real truth, but their thick feminist skin will always try to resist that truth, but las las they still fall for the same things they try to resist.

pocohantas:


More than money indeed. People wey never figure out their lives. They offer more than money, yet Nigeria is like this and majority of our youths are unemployable and grossly ignorant.

Yea, they actually do offer some stipends. Like I said, it isn't anything to me. Maybe a lot to lazy self-entitled girls who do not have good support from home or a job to help themselves.

How much can you give me if I ask you for money now?

you see the problem you are having, just like franschag said, you think most of the guys here on nairaland are broke savages, in reality its not, dm me for a try, I won't just give you money, but I'll teach u how to make money.