jay bee:

It's a common advise to marry someone that loves you to bit.
I'm not saying you should marry him because you pity him but why don't/can't you love him?
What's the problem? Have you tried tackling that first?

jay bee, i have really tried but its just not working i've psyched myself and all but,

Omolola1:

Poster, dont make a mistake u wuld l8r regret, 8yrs is no joke! why cant u love him? is he that bad?

he's not bad at all and i dont understand it either' i used to believe falling in love was a choice thing but i have found out its not like that at all its really beyond my control

Hi People,

Please I need ur advice.

I want to give u the background jist so u'll understand my dilema, when i was in the University i had this guy who asked me out practically through out school we never dated but he never gave up. for me i just didnt 'feel' him if u know what i mean.

after school we lost touch until he found me again and the hunt continued, all in all he did this for 8yrs! At a point i had to ask myself if i wasnt being to hardhearted and loose someone who obviously liked me, so last year i decided to give the relationship a try to see if it would work out.

i came to realise he is a very good person caring etc but one thing was still missing i dont love him and not only that there just isnt any chemistry i have tried but its just something u cant force , its either there or not right?

so i tried calling it off cause i feel it wont be fair to go ahead and marry him when i know i dont love him as he does me, but he is not ready to let go

here lies the problem and my cry for help, do i go ahead as some feel its better for a guy to love a woman or should i just stand my ground for both our sakes?

hi people, enough of the negative thots that its only in our dreams that this can be accomplished!!!

it seams we are tsarting to get there at least here in lagos!

1)roads are getting better
2)power supply in most parts of lagos has become more constant
3)water supply is better i mean its flowing from the taps(am not vouching for its safety though)

at least if we have started achieving these, then there might still be hope that in our generation we will still see the Nigeria of our dreams becoming a
reality

so please dont give up hope lets just keep praying and being a positive contributor it all starts from you and i

gimme a dark skinned guy anytime anyday hmm yummy

sorry peeps as the newest kid on the block am the last one here

davidylan:

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. - Not always true.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. - 150% true

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your
intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. - Make una hear word now.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not
meant tobe. - Una don hia.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. - Try sharing . . . its better than trying to make the relationship all about you.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." - Correct.

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like
he is stringing you along, then he probably is. - Correct

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year ! later for staying when things are not better. - Not always true. Some women can change a man and sometimes it does truly get better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. - you can control a man if you know how to.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women. - Word.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat
you any differently? - Gbam!

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. - una hia so? tagging along can be annoying.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers
you, speak up. - 110% correct, we may pretend not to listen but we do want to hia your complaints.

Never let a man know everything. - recipe for disaster. The day he finds out God help you.

He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's
behavior. - Only boys do so, real men don't.

Change comes from within. - you can change a man

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even
if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a
quasi-god. - correct

He is a man, nothing more nothing less. - true. sometimes its good to stroke his ego

Never let a man define who you are. - true

Never borrow someone else's man. - shout am, them no dey hia word.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. - what is good for the goose . . .

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. - not always so

All men are NOT dogs. - i talk am sotey i don tire.

You should not be the one doing ! all the bending, compromise is
two way street. - na true

You need time to heal between relationships, there is nothing cute
about baggage, deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship - true

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that
you need. - Haba . . . this is unfair.

this opinion is soo funny but good please can we have more guys in the house respond likewise it'll be good to know thier opinion as davidylan put his.

huxley huxley huxley!!! me thinks thou "protesteth' tooooo much.

its obvious you are searching for something probably (1) a way to justify the existence of God actually and be able to convince yourself that He does exit.

you said the ancient philosophers were against religion and were just afraid to show, i dont think so st Augustine was a philosopher and he postulated some positive religious philosophical views. and also i think a way to answer your questions of the existence of God is to actually give urself time to study the bible with an open mind put all of your belifs aside atheiest or not. then lets have your views then.

This is an aside, some people only hammer on the things some "christians" have done forgetting that in EVERY sphere of life we have the true people and the imitators who dont actually believe whatever concept but are there to destroy it. so the way everyone goes on about someone professing to be a christian and doing something negative is just besides the point.

as for intelligence being a deciding factor against faith, when you have been involved in situations that have defied all possible human reasoning it may help to come to the conclusion that there is a higher Being up there. I know am intelligent, am a graduate of philosophy from a reputable University and am not where i am today by being dumb and yes i am a CHRISTIAN

so huxley please let me know when you have STUDIED the whole of the Bible WITH AN OPEN MIND. cheers

joomiegal:

you have definitely said it haba jydeboy we nairalanders try to be courteous o, express ur views but please refrian from the name calling!!!

seun, i dont think izal will be enough to wash his mouth we need to get something stonger and permanent!

fun4me2:

that is very good,check them out most of them are either ACA's or partly qualified.

that is quite true i heard that in thier third year or earlier students are expected to start taking proffessional exams in line with thier courses and most of them by the they are graduating already are members of proffesional bodies or about to be certified i know of the IT college.

hi people my junior brother is in the school and at least i have been there and i can testify that if those students got first class they deserve it!!! the enviroment is conducve enough and the lecture pattern and the focus of most of the students when you speak with them is amazing, truly. i went to UI and have been skeptical about all these new generation universities but covenant has allayed my fears.

congrats to them students

chychy:

I am a friend and daughter to him, sometimes good sometimes bad,
Sometimes i crucify him ova and ova on the cross of calvary,
Sometimes i make him cry,
sometimes i make him laugh
Sometimes i make him want to give up on me but he never does - he gives me another chance after another chance
Sometimes he is very happy with me
sometimes he is disappointed and hurt
Sometimes i cry because i know i've hurt min without intending to

But in all, he loves me like no one ever will and accepts me for who and what i am, a sinner who tries in her own way to avoid sin
he is ever merciful to me in ways i may never be able to explain
He loves me unconditionally in a way i never will understand.

Thank you Jesus, Have u said it 2day?

you have said really he first loved and now i love Him He is my EVERYTHING even when i dont deserve Him His blood and grace speak for me Halleluyah!!!

CONGRATULATIONS O wishing you joy and happiness that will not have an expiry date.

seun you should be the chairman of the wedding o or at least you should give the toast!! abi landers what do u think

Seriously guys we havent started dating but chai am tempted not because older are not availabe(them full ground) but its just that on the friendship level we are really good friends that are able to hold god intelligent conversation and are able to sustain it (for me that is a must!!)

the age difference is 2yrs and we are both in our late twenties (so it not sugar mummy thing as someone suggested )

so even though i feel like going ahead into a relationship but the various reactions i have read so far is actually what am afraid of from family

opokonwa:

@poster
Are you African or European 'cause in AFRICA, IT MATTERS!

It also depends on where the dating will lead to; just sex romping or marriage.
I do not intend to settle down with an older lady, shikina!

well am African and if you asked me this question like a year ago i would have been of the same opinion but, things seem to chage

angelq:

Haba Relax now any way this one o u sef if u am u go know say all your criteria eg physique intellect etc dey im bodi

hi people,

please i want to know your opinion on this? does age matter in a relationship?

i mean does it matter if a girl dates a younger guy

First let me ask a question, do you say because others are doing something which you know is wrong you should also then compromise your starndard? i dont think so and what you should realise is that the CHURCH is not run by any mans starndard or rules but should be guided by the bible and the bible COMMANDS total abstinence before marriage so why should we compromise?! The duty of the Pastor is not to save souls as you put it he is not God but rather to speak the truth as it is to help people make guided decisions and choices. You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free!!!

so bottom line is: condoms should NOT be distributed in the church!

Hi everyone happy new year to you all!!!

Am Funmilola Taiwo, please am looking for BOLAJI OBAJIMI we attended INRI sch in Ibadan, St Louis Grammar Sch mokola ibadan she later left for iganmode grammar school ota i believe she was head girl 96 set. the last i heard was that she relocated to the states with her family. Please if you know her and her whereabout please let me know

thanks

shadex you dont know how true ur post is!

i actually had a bestfriend who was a guy an after a friendship of almost14yrs he goes and destroys it by asking me out. i felt sooooo bad as i didnt see him in that light at all and the friendship just wasnt the same even though he tried to go back to being how it was before he opened his big mouth.

so i think u should just tell your friend to talk with his girlfriend they should reach a compromise her best friend should be her boyfriend and she should cut down on the excessive closness with best friend.

hi everyone,

wouldnt it be awesome if all christians all over the world came together and shouted HALLELUJAY {THE HIGHEST FORM OF PRAISE} at the same time?! well on the 3rd of november 2007 at 10pm GMT make it a date or what do u think?

it seems u all dont see the part about the missed calls obviously he has stopped picking ur calls and claims he doesnt see the missed calls.

it makes me wonder, when a guy wants you he calls you probably 5 times aday sends you sms like 6 times aday when you say ok for the first 3-5mths he is still constant then it starts to happen 5 calls become 2 then 1call a day then once in a week, 6 sms become 3 then 2 then none!!! then the stories begin he has been busy that's why he didnt call or he travelled and forgot to tell you or he didnt see your missed calls

can someone in the house tell me why this happens it sure beats me!!!

It makes me wonder, when a guy wants you he calls you probably 5 times a day sends you SMS like 6 times aday when you say ok for the first 3-5mths he is still constant then it starts to happen 5 calls become 2 then 1 call a day then once in a week, 6 SMS become 3 then 2 then none!!! Then the stories begin he has been busy that's why he didn't call or he traveled and forgot to tell you or he didnt see your missed calls

Can someone in the house tell me why this happens it sure beats me!!!

oh gosh that sure takes me down memory lane.

his name is mojubade and oh did i have a crush on him he was a friend of my cousins and boy was he cute!

not only did i have major crush on him i knew two other girls that also had crushes on him, you can imagine how that made me feel
did i tell him?NO way i couldnt even let him know how i felt but just wait if he as much talked to me i was high and if he actually sat beside and carried on a conversation i was on cloud nine

funny i dont even know where he is any more!!!

hmm i am going with single but happily so

hi everyone my name is funmi taiwo and am looking for Bolaji Obajimi we went to INRI Nur&Pry school Ibadan and later went on to St Louis Grammar Sch ibadan She changed schools in 1993 so pleeeeeeease if any one can find her for me i'll be glad

hi, well there really is no prob as long as he doesnt have a complex problem!!! if he is able to deal with it and of course it is not due to the fact that he is lasy or just lackadaisical then why not