This is the opposite of the problem I'm having
I am stuffing to find a girl to marry who will eat plenty, let herself be comfortable, and grow fat in the relationship.

Men who don't like seeing their wives add make sure they likewise don't want to before marriage. Girls who want to or don't mind becoming fat should marry men who likewise enjoy it or don't mind.

Make sure your puzzle pieces fit together

Okoroawusa:

Inwelu nsogbu mana imaroo...

Oburo eziokwu

lefulefu:
na tv i watch am dat time not internet.it was around 2016 i watched the show on TLC.I remember the show was called taboo on the episode i watched it was about men who had extreme love for women who were extremely obese and even encouraged their women to add more weight even when they were still in their obese state.

I'll try to find it online and see. This is the first I'm hearing of someone like this.
But the pictures I posted? Are they big like the women on TLC?

LadyTianna:


If you wanna try going out to meet people, I would suggest places like malls, especially the food courts, then ice cream shops like coldstone, could sit in the parking lot for a while and see if your spec comes around, could try regular eateries, even church, parties too.

If you wanna try online, you don't have to go into too many details, could just mention that you're looking to meet a big girl...


If I'm done with kids and I'm a bit big, if my husband loves and adores me that way, I might consider retaining the shape, not to an obese extent tho

Okay makes sense.

Approaching girls at random will be new to me sha. I usually get to know and get comfortable first before I start talking about romance. Maybe that's why things haven't been working in my favor.

I'll start being more open and direct about my desires though. Hopefully I can meet someone who will genuinely be okay with it from start to finish.

LadyTianna:


Lol you've got me wishing I'm a big girl now haha

There's a thread on the dating section to meet BBW women. I think you could also try Tinder, you might get lucky. Are you an outgoing person? Like do you go to different places where you can meet people? I didn't know chubby girls are scarce lol

Personally I don't like the idea of letting myself get fat sha. Might be able to add a few kilos but it wouldn't be anywhere near those women in those pics

If only I had that effect in real life .

For me, my woman's happiness is more important than my own. That's part of the reason why I needed to set this issue straight. I can't have a wife that I love dearly be upset about how she looks because of me.

But if I manage to find a wife who genuinely enjoys being fed and adding, maka chi I won't let her or anyone else forget the queen she is.

I'm not to exposed because of my upbringing. Haven't been out to too many places and things like that but I want to start. Most of the girls I've meet I met in class, work, gym etc. I'm not to familiar with picking up girls outside.

They're not scarce but they're hard to find young, single, and unmarried it seems. Maybe I've not been to the right places.

If I try online should I be upfront? Is it something I should say before an in person meeting or should I save it?

Would you still feel uncomfortable if the size was after years of marriage and kids and your husband still adored you?

LadyTianna:


Dayuum...you really like them BBW

Since its a gradual thing that will happen over a long period of time, you're going to have to keep letting her know that you find her sexy and one way to do that is by going out together, being seen together outside, holding her hand in public. That would make her know you're proud of her size. When she sees how much you love her body, I doubt she'll feel unhappy

I would say you should talk about it after a few dates...when you both know you wanna keep seeing each other

Yes I do, but I figure they're not as big as what maybe some people imagined in their heads. Like I don't mind a girl starting out average size or even slim, but that's where I'd like to see her one day.

But yeah I understand. I have no issue with reaffirmation. I'm not afraid to be in public with a big woman. She's like a badge of honour for me honestly. So long as she doesn't view me as a bad guy or reject my love, I can hype her to heaven and back.

That time frame makes sense. I hope it doesn't end up backfiring on me. Atleast if it happens early on, there won't be so much damage.

If I tried using dating sites or even something like this place, what would be advisable?

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

What about this one?

LadyTianna:


As long as we've established a loving relationship, hearing him say those things wouldn't make me uncomfortable. The Ibo guy I dated talked like that sometimes. He would be like, "when your people see you they won't recognize you again" and he would always smile and compliment me. As long as you make her feel sexy, she might not mind. I hope you aren't thinking of a continuous fattening process tho. Like would you want her to reach a certain size and stop?

When you guys are starting to get comfortable with each other, you could politely ask, "Babe, to be very honest with you, dating me means I'm going to pamper you and you're going to gain some weight...are you comfortable with that?"

These are excellent! Such a hot and confident way to explain my desires. If only I had you around giving me pointers years ago .

What point in the dating process should I say it outright? I still feel like I shouldn't say it too early or too late before it seems somehow.

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

The fattening process is not like a goal, I just generally like seeing them get bigger. It's a passive thing. Maybe the end goal they stagnate but not because we've reached a point where we actively stop.

I would love for my wife to end up around somewhere between these sizes after we've finished having children.

lefulefu:
one black guy i watched on TLC.The guy has fetish for ladies that are very fat.The guy is married to a white woman and according to him his womab adds lots of pounds to her weight every year.when he flaunted his lady she was looking like that character from michelin with blubber of fat rolling around her stomach and waist and her belly sagging and falling .i sure say ur fetish go be like the guy own

This sounds like much o. I still don't think my own dey reach. Do you have a link to the video?

Missy30:
Lol, I don't just get fat, there is nothing I feed on that makes me fat..

I wonder how ladies get fat oooo

I don't even exercise and I eat very late at night...

It can depend on genes, but usually ladies have a tendency to add. Maybe you've just not been fed well enough? Not just the type of food but the amount.

LadyTianna:


Dude when you keep doing things the same way without yielding the desired results, the logical thing to do is to change tactics. The way you're doing it already isn't good. Just follow my advice. Waiting for a girl to gain weight and then telling her you like her that way isn't nice. It feels like you're just saying things to make her feel better in her ears.

In the movie, there was a big woman. She was beautiful but her husband didn't appreciate her and was cheating on her. She started feeling worthless, then she met a handsome fit guy who loved her and made her feel sexy. She became happier, her mood improved and she started loving her body the way it was. Her ex husband later saw her and even wanted her back but she moved on

I honestly didn't think there was another way. It felt like being straight forward about it would be a sure way to end a courtship, so I just tried being a caring and suggestive as possible. That's why I decided to come here and ask because I want to get married and don't want to risk running into the same issue with a woman I want to marry.

I always try my best to make a girl feel loved sha. I know people are hard on girls who are fat or adding weight, so I try to counteract it and outlove the prejudice. But I'll feel guilty she's unhappy about all these things meanwhile if not for me feeding her she probably wouldn't have added in the first place.

I think your advice is the best course of action though. Along with maybe starting with girls who are chubby.

So if you're getting to know a guy and he says the things you mentioned, you won't feel someway?

Angelacruz:
Go to church ,weddig etc u will find one

So anywhere I can just find a normal babe?

lefulefu:
op ur own fetish no be here
u should be featured in TLC
i am having a big guess dat op must be a calabar man

My own no reach that one oooo!

LadyTianna:


You know that no one can read minds. Guys take their babes out all the time, but they don't secretly hope that the girls will gain weight. Your desire is quite uncommon so I'm surprised you expect the girls to know what you're thinking. A way to let her know what you want is to smile and tease her from time to time saying, "babe please eat up, I like it when my woman gains weight and adds flesh". You can say it from time to time, that way, when she starts getting bigger, she'll know you like it. You can now say, "yea just how I like it" lol

Also, I think its better to go for girls that are already chubby. They might not mind adding extra kilos. I think a woman will feel comfortable with her weight no matter her size as long as her man makes her feel sexy. If you've watched "why did I get married", you'll get what I mean

It's not like I expected them to read my mind. I just figured it's an awkward weird thing to say outright. The way I've always hope it works is I take my girl out, spoil her, fatten her up. Then if she starts commenting on it I'll tell her how beautiful and attractive her fuller shape is. How I can't resist her and haven't been so drawn to her in my life. She'll be happy and then I can come out and say I'd like to see her add more. But it's never worked out like that, usually they just get upset that they've added and I like it.

But I like what you mentioned though. It's a good way to say it without it being awkward. It's even flirtatious and sexy sef . I just want her to be happy and comfortable with her size, even if she's bigger.

It seems people are telling me girls that are already plump are the way to go. What happened in the movie?

Ishilove:

Oya drop your CV here let the fat Nairaland women locate you by fire.

Well I'm a young guy but established. I was very serious about school so I graduated early. I work as a .... We'll any girl who wants to know my details should message me .

Sarita01:

I have a friend who loves her size,she's fat and curvy,all our bad mouth dey fall on deaf ears,she's still eating as she likes,so yes there are women who love being fat and have accepted it

Do you know where I can find girls like our friend? Or how to tell if a girl is like your friend before entering relationship?

Erojepromise:
op come to mama. l want someone to spoil me rotten.. but I won't be overweight sha

What's your definition of overweight?

Truvel:
Do So If U Want. Who Is Stopping U?

No one is stopping me. I just want both me and my wife to be happy. Not just me.

Ishilove:

A good number do. They have the mindset of "na fat I fat. I no kee person."

Since you like them with flesh on their bones, it will be better to hook up with a fleshy woman so there won't be any need to fatten them. Their main concern will be looking good, dressing well, glowing skin, being your companion etc. Yes, you like them fat but also be concerned about their health as well. Obesity will lead to untimely death.

I've yet to meet a woman like that but I'd love to. Thing is, even if she's already big I'd still like seeing her add just by default. But it's not like they have to worry about health. It's not anything extreme like that.

hashtagged:


No 1 contender

If only the enthusiasm was real.

LadyTianna:
My point exactly. Be completely upfront. Tell her exactly what you want. Don't tell her you love her size AFTER she's already gained weight. Any girl would be upset by that. Let her know before the weight starts coming. Let her know the kind of guy you are

Okay I understand what you mean.
I just wouldn't think it would be necessary because I think it would be obvious that if you're always being taken out and fed your clothes will get tight on you. It's not like I forced the pizza and ice cream down their throats. I figured that with the fact I find them more attractive bigger would be enough to "connect the dots" so to speak.

But if you think being open about it is better I can try it. But won't a woman run from the hills if a guy she's dating tells her in the beginning "see I want to be feeding you and watching you add"

SILENTandSMART2:
I read dat writeup and I can't find wisdom in it,


I even use torchlight to find wisdom but i can't,


Eleribuu man,


Eleribuu original


Eleribuu OP

Oga, why do my desires make you vex like this?

LadyTianna:
You're not going about the communication the right way. It even seems shady not telling them and just feeding them. Let her know from the Start that you love big girls. Compliment her frequently. Let her see you admiring her. Smile when you look at her.

I'm curious tho...how fat is too fat for you?

No I do that, I am even told I'm overcaring at times. Atleast I try dropping hints about liking flesh before things get serious. When they add in relationships I tell them I love the extra curves and all of that. Maybe it's just my ex's, but it doesn't usually help. Infact it makes them feel someone that I like that they've gotten bigger. Unless that's still not how I should be going about it?

The only thing I haven't told them is that I don't just like them bigger but actually enjoy making them bigger.

As for size though, I've not seen someone in real life I thought was too big. I think it would depend on her shape, but realistically I'm not worried about a woman getting to fat for me. Those people on 600 Pound Life are definitely too big though.

stella55:

yes fat girls are the best for since you like them fat and save yourself unnecessary drama

If fat girls are okay with getting fatter then it could be peaceful and happy for us. But then I run into the issue of finding fat girls that are unmarried and childless.

LadyTianna:


Why not just go for fat girls then? They will eventually get fatter after having babies anyway...

This is what I replied the person who asked me the same question

"I am not against this idea at all. Infact I'd prefer this scenario if I could find it in real life.

The thing is, few eligible women I run into are big. Most of the girls who catch my eye end up being married or even with children already. So it seems like by excluding non-big women I'm lowering my chances of finding true love.

Plus, do girls who are already fat typically accept their size?"

LadyTianna:
did you try communication? Assuring them that you love them that way?

Yes I have. I didn't tell them I was trying to make them fat, but I told them I loved the extra flesh and all of that.

It didn't help. In my experience it usually it just makes them feel worse. One of my ex's even got mad at me for saying it.

stella55:
yes remove your eyes from slim and average girls date fat girls and stick with them.

Are fat girls more okay with a man that likes them that way or even bigger?

LadyTianna:


No I wasn't unhappy. I found it endearing. I think its something common with Ibo men. He always told me that the wealth of men in your tribe is meant to reflect in their loved ones. It gives them a kind of pride

Please ooo where can I find someone who finds such endearing

I didn't realise it was an Igbo thing. But yes that is how I feel about it partly. I really want to take care of my woman well. I cannot feel satisfied as a man if I don't.

In which relationship does a well taken care of woman not add

LadyTianna:
Lol I've dated a guy like that. Felt weird cos sometimes he reminded me of my dad. Op are you Ibo?

We're you unhappy being with him becyse he liked feeding you or because he was like your dad?

Also yes I'm Igbo. How did you know?

stella55:
the only solution for you is to date fat girl don't consider her shape and continue feeding her.

don't come back to write "my girlfriend is becoming too fat and I don't like it"

I could never imagine myself thinking such. If I find a woman the only thing brining my back here to write would be to bring about how big and fine my wife is.

How do I find such a woman?
Should I just remove my eye from slim and average sized girls?

baralatie:

they start a 21 day praying and fasting to find such a woman na!
don't you believe in prayers ni

How do you know I haven't been doing so?

Molahnelson:
You're a Simp

I'm genuinely curious to know what makes me a simp in this situation.

Liposure:
I dislike fat girls. You can be thick oh fine, its ok by me but don't be fat. It disgust me

I feel like that is why God gave us different tastes, so everyone can find love.

Ishilove:

Why not just marry a fat woman from the get go?That way you have a woman who has accepted her size and will not whine if she adds a little extra kilos.

I am not against this idea at all. Infact I'd prefer this scenario if I could find it in real life.

The thing is, few eligible women I run into are big. Most of the girls who catch my eye end up being married or even with children already. So it seems like by excluding non-big women I'm lowering my chances of finding true love.

Plus, do girls who are already fat typically accept their size?

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Do you mean to say "curvy" rather than "fat"?? Cos they are different, a fat woman can never be curvy with the hour Glass shape. Fat women don't look good naked but might be sometimes appealing when on clothes. But curvy women look appealing naked and in clothes.

Well if fat ladies are your choice then you don't have problem. There are many gals willing to take up such position in your life. Just be patient.

Are they mutually exclusive ?
Like Ronke Odusanya is fat but she is also curvy, no?

How do I find a woman willing to take such a space and be happy doing so?

baralatie:

simple you leave her to be happy with herself and not force her into unhappiness because of your own desires

That is what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want to force or pressure anyone to be unhappy.

baralatie:

good then you can watch them get fatter.

That is usually not a problem for me. The issue I have is once they start adding they start becoming unhappy.

I want to know how I can be in a situation where both my future wife and I can be happy.

baralatie:

then go get attracted to fat girls .problem solved

... But I am attracted to fat girls.

Or what exactly do you think what you wrote means?

Jodha:
So yhu want yhur babe to be shapeless?.... Nawa .... That's how a guy I was with insisted I must get fat to prove he's taking care of me....

I change am for am ASAP.... I'm not slim because my parents does not take care of me or I can't take care of myself....but I always watch my weight and mind what I eat because...I cannot be shapeless...

Fat doesn't mean shapeless. Ada Ameh and Anita Joseph are both fat but they have nice shape. There are plenty of shapeless thin women.

baralatie:

not shapeless but for your heart!
well I find the op very strange because it is more like a woman saying I"she feels bad if the man she marries does not grow to become fat"

if only he and some women know how medially incorrect they are

It's not about being incorrect or not, it's how I feel.

Generally I came asking for advice or guidance, not criticism. Like I said, I've tried to change this about myself many times. So telling me it's weird or bad won't do anything practically.

donbachi:
Ur joy and happiness is tied to her fattness...people get problem o.

It's not as if I cannot be happy generally. But I'll feel unhappy in a relationship where this part of me can't be expressed. It like being with a woman you can't hug or pet or kiss.


@Sundrus
I'm not lanky. I'm muscular but not big.
But how did she react to adding?

@Cutehector
I personally find them very beautiful

@SweetCunt97
Does that alone make me a psycho ?

@Dliquidmetal
I'm the exact opposite. While I know the other way is the most common, I personally can't understand it.

I'd even think it would make sense because ladies generally just get fat after marriage and children, but it is still not something comfortable to express.

Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?