swiswiioo:


It's not like I expected them to read my mind. I just figured it's an awkward weird thing to say outright. The way I've always hope it works is I take my girl out, spoil her, fatten her up. Then if she starts commenting on it I'll tell her how beautiful and attractive her fuller shape is. How I can't resist her and haven't been so drawn to her in my life. She'll be happy and then I can come out and say I'd like to see her add more. But it's never worked out like that, usually they just get upset that they've added and I like it.

But I like what you mentioned though. It's a good way to say it without it being awkward. It's even flirtatious and sexy sef . I just want her to be happy and comfortable with her size, even if she's bigger.

It seems people are telling me girls that are already plump are the way to go. What happened in the movie?

swiswiioo:


It's not as if I cannot be happy generally. But I'll feel unhappy in a relationship where this part of me can't be expressed. It like being with a woman you can't hug or pet or kiss.


@Sundrus
I'm not lanky. I'm muscular but not big.
But how did she react to adding? That babe na my opposite ....everything i hate na e she like. We no dey compatible at all.

swiswiioo:


So anywhere I can just find a normal babe?



My own no reach that one oooo!

LadyTianna:


Dude when you keep doing things the same way without yielding the desired results, the logical thing to do is to change tactics. The way you're doing it already isn't good. Just follow my advice. Waiting for a girl to gain weight and then telling her you like her that way isn't nice. It feels like you're just saying things to make her feel better in her ears.

In the movie, there was a big woman. She was beautiful but her husband didn't appreciate her and was cheating on her. She started feeling worthless, then she met a handsome fit guy who loved her and made her feel sexy. She became happier, her mood improved and she started loving her body the way it was. Her ex husband later saw her and even wanted her back but she moved on

swiswiioo:


I honestly didn't think there was another way. It felt like being straight forward about it would be a sure way to end a courtship, so I just tried being a caring and suggestive as possible. That's why I decided to come here and ask because I want to get married and don't want to risk running into the same issue with a woman I want to marry.

I always try my best to make a girl feel loved sha. I know people are hard on girls who are fat or adding weight, so I try to counteract it and outlove the prejudice. But I'll feel guilty she's unhappy about all these things meanwhile if not for me feeding her she probably wouldn't have added in the first place.

I think your advice is the best course of action though. Along with maybe starting with girls who are chubby.

So if you're getting to know a guy and he says the things you mentioned, you won't feel someway?

lefulefu:
one black guy i watched on TLC.The guy has fetish for ladies that are very fat.The guy is married to a white woman and according to him his womab adds lots of pounds to her weight every year.when he flaunted his lady she was looking like that character from michelin with blubber of fat rolling around her stomach and waist and her belly sagging and falling .i sure say ur fetish go be like the guy own

Missy30:
Lol, I don't just get fat, there is nothing I feed on that makes me fat..

I wonder how ladies get fat oooo

I don't even exercise and I eat very late at night...

LadyTianna:


As long as we've established a loving relationship, hearing him say those things wouldn't make me uncomfortable. The Ibo guy I dated talked like that sometimes. He would be like, "when your people see you they won't recognize you again" and he would always smile and compliment me. As long as you make her feel sexy, she might not mind. I hope you aren't thinking of a continuous fattening process tho. Like would you want her to reach a certain size and stop?

When you guys are starting to get comfortable with each other, you could politely ask, "Babe, to be very honest with you, dating me means I'm going to pamper you and you're going to gain some weight...are you comfortable with that?"

swiswiioo:


These are excellent! Such a hot and confident way to explain my desires. If only I had you around giving me pointers years ago .

What point in the dating process should I say it outright? I still feel like I shouldn't say it too early or too late before it seems somehow.

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

The fattening process is not like a goal, I just generally like seeing them get bigger. It's a passive thing. Maybe the end goal they stagnate but not because we've reached a point where we actively stop.

I would love for my wife to end up around somewhere between these sizes after we've finished having children.

LadyTianna:


Dayuum...you really like them BBW

Since its a gradual thing that will happen over a long period of time, you're going to have to keep letting her know that you find her sexy and one way to do that is by going out together, being seen together outside, holding her hand in public. That would make her know you're proud of her size. When she sees how much you love her body, I doubt she'll feel unhappy

I would say you should talk about it after a few dates...when you both know you wanna keep seeing each other

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

swiswiioo:


Yes I do, but I figure they're not as big as what maybe some people imagined in their heads. Like I don't mind a girl starting out average size or even slim, but that's where I'd like to see her one day.

But yeah I understand. I have no issue with reaffirmation. I'm not afraid to be in public with a big woman. She's like a badge of honour for me honestly. So long as she doesn't view me as a bad guy or reject my love, I can hype her to heaven and back.

That time frame makes sense. I hope it doesn't end up backfiring on me. Atleast if it happens early on, there won't be so much damage.

If I tried using dating sites or even something like this place, what would be advisable?



What about this one?

LadyTianna:


Lol you've got me wishing I'm a big girl now haha

There's a thread on the dating section to meet BBW women. I think you could also try Tinder, you might get lucky. Are you an outgoing person? Like do you go to different places where you can meet people? I didn't know chubby girls are scarce lol

Personally I don't like the idea of letting myself get fat sha. Might be able to add a few kilos but it wouldn't be anywhere near those women in those pics

swiswiioo:


If only I had that effect in real life .

For me, my woman's happiness is more important than my own. That's part of the reason why I needed to set this issue straight. I can't have a wife that I love dearly be upset about how she looks because of me.

But if I manage to find a wife who genuinely enjoys being fed and adding, maka chi I won't let her or anyone else forget the queen she is.

I'm not to exposed because of my upbringing. Haven't been out to too many places and things like that but I want to start. Most of the girls I've meet I met in class, work, gym etc. I'm not to familiar with picking up girls outside.

They're not scarce but they're hard to find young, single, and unmarried it seems. Maybe I've not been to the right places.

If I try online should I be upfront? Is it something I should say before an in person meeting or should I save it?

Would you still feel uncomfortable if the size was after years of marriage and kids and your husband still adored you?

LadyTianna:


If you wanna try going out to meet people, I would suggest places like malls, especially the food courts, then ice cream shops like coldstone, could sit in the parking lot for a while and see if your spec comes around, could try regular eateries, even church, parties too.

If you wanna try online, you don't have to go into too many details, could just mention that you're looking to meet a big girl...


If I'm done with kids and I'm a bit big, if my husband loves and adores me that way, I might consider retaining the shape, not to an obese extent tho

SweetCunt97:
Psycho on the beat.


Come and marry me o. I'll grow fat and exercise, fat exercise.

Come and feed me fat Op

swiswiioo:


These are excellent! Such a hot and confident way to explain my desires. If only I had you around giving me pointers years ago .

What point in the dating process should I say it outright? I still feel like I shouldn't say it too early or too late before it seems somehow.

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

The fattening process is not like a goal, I just generally like seeing them get bigger. It's a passive thing. Maybe the end goal they stagnate but not because we've reached a point where we actively stop.

I would love for my wife to end up around somewhere between these sizes after we've finished having children.

swiswiioo:


This sounds like much o. I still don't think my own dey reach. Do you have a link to the video?



It can depend on genes, but usually ladies have a tendency to add. Maybe you've just not been fed well enough? Not just the type of food but the amount.

Okoroawusa:

Inwelu nsogbu mana imaroo...

lefulefu:
na tv i watch am dat time not internet.it was around 2016 i watched the show on TLC.I remember the show was called taboo on the episode i watched it was about men who had extreme love for women who were extremely obese and even encouraged their women to add more weight even when they were still in their obese state.

swiswiioo:


Oburo eziokwu



I'll try to find it online and see. This is the first I'm hearing of someone like this.
But the pictures I posted? Are they big like the women on TLC?

Fvckhypocrite:
Na people like you some girls dey like
Cc zzor
Saaphiere
Reallest
Callirado make una come o awuf don come

swiswiioo:
Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?

reallest:


Me no wan grow fat o, I enjoy my lepa. body

swiswiioo:
Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?

Erojepromise:
op come to mama. l want someone to spoil me rotten.. but I won't be overweight sha

Erojepromise:
op come to mama. l want someone to spoil me rotten.. but I won't be overweight sha

LadyTianna:


Dude when you keep doing things the same way without yielding the desired results, the logical thing to do is to change tactics. The way you're doing it already isn't good. Just follow my advice. Waiting for a girl to gain weight and then telling her you like her that way isn't nice. It feels like you're just saying things to make her feel better in her ears.

I've seen this movie......it's titled "SIZE 12"



In the movie, there was a big woman. She was beautiful but her husband didn't appreciate her and was cheating on her. She started feeling worthless, then she met a handsome fit guy who loved her and made her feel sexy. She became happier, her mood improved and she started loving her body the way it was. Her ex husband later saw her and even wanted her back but she moved on