Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?

I personally find fat ladies unattractive.

Psycho on the beat.


Come and marry me o. I'll grow fat and exercise, fat exercise.

Come and feed me fat Op

Na people like you some girls dey like Cc zzor Saaphiere Reallest Callirado make una come o awuf don come

Na people like you some girls dey like Cc zzor Saaphiere Reallest Callirado make una come o awuf don come

If my wife gets fat after marriage I would find it hard to even get an erection cause chubby/fat women na turn off for me, op I think you the only man I've seen with this kinda ideology [right][/right]

swiswiioo:
Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?

You may change your mind when you see sweetcunt 97 .... Her post is above mine

Ur joy and happiness is tied to her fattness...people get problem o.

Fat na no go area. Funny thing be say na lanky men dey mostly like fat ladies. Na wetin make me dislink from one of my ex. She no even fit take care of her shape & size

@Cutehector
I personally find them very beautiful

@SweetCunt97
Does that alone make me a psycho ?

@Dliquidmetal
I'm the exact opposite. While I know the other way is the most common, I personally can't understand it.

I'd even think it would make sense because ladies generally just get fat after marriage and children, but it is still not something comfortable to express.

donbachi:
Ur joy and happiness is tied to her fattness...people get problem o.

It's not as if I cannot be happy generally. But I'll feel unhappy in a relationship where this part of me can't be expressed. It like being with a woman you can't hug or pet or kiss.


@Sundrus
I'm not lanky. I'm muscular but not big.
But how did she react to adding?

So yhu want yhur babe to be shapeless?.... Nawa .... That's how a guy I was with insisted I must get fat to prove he's taking care of me....

I change am for am ASAP.... I'm not slim because my parents does not take care of me or I can't take care of myself....but I always watch my weight and mind what I eat because...I cannot be shapeless...

Jodha:
So yhu want yhur babe to be shapeless?.... Nawa .... That's how a guy I was with insisted I must get fat to prove he's taking care of me....

I change am for am ASAP.... I'm not slim because my parents does not take care of me or I can't take care of myself....but I always watch my weight and mind what I eat because...I cannot be shapeless...

not shapeless but for your heart!
well I find the op very strange because it is more like a woman saying I"she feels bad if the man she marries does not grow to become fat"

if only he and some women know how medially incorrect they are

Jodha:
So yhu want yhur babe to be shapeless?.... Nawa .... That's how a guy I was with insisted I must get fat to prove he's taking care of me....

I change am for am ASAP.... I'm not slim because my parents does not take care of me or I can't take care of myself....but I always watch my weight and mind what I eat because...I cannot be shapeless...

Fat doesn't mean shapeless. Ada Ameh and Anita Joseph are both fat but they have nice shape. There are plenty of shapeless thin women.

baralatie:

not shapeless but for your heart!
well I find the op very strange because it is more like a woman saying I"she feels bad if the man she marries does not grow to become fat"

if only he and some women know how medially incorrect they are

It's not about being incorrect or not, it's how I feel.

Generally I came asking for advice or guidance, not criticism. Like I said, I've tried to change this about myself many times. So telling me it's weird or bad won't do anything practically.

swiswiioo:


Fat doesn't mean shapeless. Ada Ameh and Anita Joseph are both fat but they have nice shape. There are plenty of shapeless thin women.



It's not about being incorrect or not, it's how I feel.

Generally I came asking for advice or guidance, not criticism. Like I said, I've tried to change this about myself many times. So telling me it's weird or bad won't do anything practically.

then go get attracted to fat girls .problem solved

baralatie:

then go get attracted to fat girls .problem solved

... But I am attracted to fat girls.

Or what exactly do you think what you wrote means?

swiswiioo:

... But I am attracted to fat girls.
Or what exactly do you think what you wrote means?

good then you can watch them get fatter.

Do you mean to say "curvy" rather than "fat"?? Cos they are different, a fat woman can never be curvy with the hour Glass shape. Fat women don't look good naked but might be sometimes appealing when on clothes. But curvy women look appealing naked and in clothes.

Well if fat ladies are your choice then you don't have problem. There are many gals willing to take up such position in your life. Just be patient.

baralatie:

good then you can watch them get fatter.

That is usually not a problem for me. The issue I have is once they start adding they start becoming unhappy.

I want to know how I can be in a situation where both my future wife and I can be happy.

Hian. Wahala be like Bridget Bema; it is everywhere.

swiswiioo:


That is usually not a problem for me. The issue I have is once they start adding they start becoming unhappy.

I want to know how I can be in a situation where both my future wife and I can be happy.

simple you leave her to be happy with herself and not force her into unhappiness because of your own desires

swiswiioo:


That is usually not a problem for me. The issue I have is once they start adding they start becoming unhappy.

I want to know how I can be in a situation where both my future wife and I can be happy.

Why not just marry a fat woman from the get go?That way you have a woman who has accepted her size and will not whine if she adds a little extra kilos.

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Do you mean to say "curvy" rather than "fat"?? Cos they are different, a fat woman can never be curvy with the hour Glass shape. Fat women don't look good naked but might be sometimes appealing when on clothes. But curvy women look appealing naked and in clothes.

Well if fat ladies are your choice then you don't have problem. There are many gals willing to take up such position in your life. Just be patient.

Are they mutually exclusive ?
Like Ronke Odusanya is fat but she is also curvy, no?

How do I find a woman willing to take such a space and be happy doing so?

baralatie:

simple you leave her to be happy with herself and not force her into unhappiness because of your own desires

That is what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want to force or pressure anyone to be unhappy.

You're a Simp

I dislike fat girls. You can be thick oh fine, i'm ok with that but don't be fat. It disgust me

Ishilove:

Why not just marry a fat woman from the get go?That way you have a woman who has accepted her size and will not whine if she adds a little extra kilos.

I am not against this idea at all. Infact I'd prefer this scenario if I could find it in real life.

The thing is, few eligible women I run into are big. Most of the girls who catch my eye end up being married or even with children already. So it seems like by excluding non-big women I'm lowering my chances of finding true love.

Plus, do girls who are already fat typically accept their size?

Hian. Wahala be like Bridget Bema; it is everywhere.

I know u love chubby women

Werey deyy disguise

Lol I've dated a guy like that. Felt weird cos sometimes he reminded me of my dad. Op are you Ibo?

Molahnelson:
You're a Simp

I'm genuinely curious to know what makes me a simp in this situation.

Liposure:
I dislike fat girls. You can be thick oh fine, its ok by me but don't be fat. It disgust me

I feel like that is why God gave us different tastes, so everyone can find love.

swiswiioo:


Are they mutually exclusive ?
Like Ronke Odusanya is fat but she is also curvy, no?

How do I find a woman willing to take such a space and be happy doing so?



That is what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want to force or pressure anyone to be unhappy.

they start a 21 day praying and fasting to find such a woman na!
don't you believe in prayers ni