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Your fear is about her faithfulness, not her safety- just admit it man- and let her know. Airline (crew) business and promiscuity are almost synonymous (apologies to the few decent ones) so its a valid reason to be scared when your loved one takes such jobs.

People always say you should tell your partner everything but does this really help matters all the time?
My girlfriend told me when she was disvirgined and how many people she dated before me and I have never had the same regard for her ever since (now before someone takes a swipe at me - I must admit that some men, like me, are not strong enough to handle certain facts).

So what must you not tell your partner?

People always say you should tell your partner everything but does this really help matters all the time?
My gf told me when she was disvirgined and how many people she dated before me and I have never had the same regard for her ever since (now before some1 takes a swipe at me - I must admit that some men, like me, are not strong enough to handle certain facts).

So what must you not tell your partner?

bawomolo:
can't u stand up to your family and support this girl's case??

Im already doing this. I already called 3 of my family members individually and explained to them that we need to give her time and some advice - my oldest brother agrees to my suggestion

Im grateful to every1 for all the replies I have gotten so far - they seem sincere enough.

Hi Nairalanders, I'm counting on your good advices please

I'm dating a girl who my family strongly disapproves of. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) she doesnt know- everyone receives her with warmth but I'm under intense pressure to call off the relationship

I love this girl and i have reasons to believe she loves me too but my family has been told several things about her past and they also diapprove of some behaviors she currently exhibits. I have told them that she's still very young and could change with advice and time (she's 21) and I'm trying 2 make her a changed person so everyone in my family will have reasons to approve of our relationship - I love her so much but wudnt want to marry amidst very stiff opposition from every member of my family

What do I do ?? - I need her to know these things but without hurting the relationship she already has with my family

oluwdashmi:

In virginity, God put an helmet in women for the purpose of covenant between her and the man that disflowers her, if by one reason or the other a woman misses the first man and keeps to herself (without sex) for a long time, she becomes a virgin again known as SECONDARY VIRGINITY and there could still be a split of blood.

What if she does it over and over again before meeting her husband??

I have flown  them 4 times in the last 2 months, flew with them last weekend from Madrid.

No in flight entertainment for Iberia flights less than 7 hours- Lagos from Madrid is 5 hours so don't expect any entertainment - , you cud be lucky to be on a flight with some really sexy spanish chicks (hostesses) though- that is sure entertaining

They'd serve you food once but don't be 2 comfortable asking for extra - actually they have in flight fast foods so you could buy

The plane would most likely be an Airbus A321 so don't expect lots of room. And because its a small plane with 2 toilets, you might have to queue up to use the lavatory

I do not think they have safety issues anyway so you may fly them if you want to cut costs but don't expect great service

@Sisikill

You'd make a great diplomat-- u succeded in saying so much and yet remaining neutral

@Mactao
How is TuFace becoming a "razz idiot'
I wont be suprised if ur one of the robbers - ur full of beef

I do not think virgins neccesarily make better lovers, what I know for sure though is that being a virgin at the time of marriage demonstrates discipline and restraint (on the part of the woman) and respect for her by the man- these are all very essesntial for a good marriage.

If a guy uses words like 'boring', inexperienced' , etc on a virgin thread, then know he's just talking about a girl he wants to have wild sex with and move on, not a wife- most (if not all) men want to or wish they were the first in their wife's sexual life. As wierd as it may sound, there's an eternal bond between a lady and the  man she gave her virginity to.

If you are a virgin watching this thread, please keep it!

swiftycool:
@ poster,
i really feel 4 these your inlaws, but virgin as they might be if they really want to get married at those ages, it might not be wise to be too choosy, especially on the tribal and religious denomination angle, i mean whats in it 4 a man who fulfils all your criteria, only 2 get married to a wife who will reach menopause in a few years?

Butfor a fact, there might be some who want 2 love them as they are but don't fit the specs. let them take a chance on other tribes and denominations, perhaps these criteria were their stumbling blocks for all these years.
cheers

Nice one man,

I'm amused and amazed at the scorn this post has received especially from the females. When has it become a crime to be a virgin at 34?. if they were not virgins but single at 34 will that have attracted some of these comments?- how many 34++ ladies out there have had countless men go through their legs and are still unmarried? If sexual prowess were a factor most of the people here would be married. We must not laugh at people simply because they are not as fortunate as others, people have choices and we must respect that. In fact they may not even be ready for marriage- I'm sure the poster did not consult them before posting this- its possible they have even decided they do not want to marry( would u kill them if that was the case?)

Most of the  babes who are making mouth here here lost their virginity at ages 2 embarassing to mention- and to very dirty boys in dirty places, some to thier parent's drivers, cooks and cleaners- they are ashamed to even say where they lost it or who they lost it to- so they have seen this as an opportunity to justify their promiscuity at those tender ages- but right inside of them, especially for the married/engaged, they  wish they had waited- because the truth is your husband will NEVER respect you as much he would have done if he was your first man! (the few ladies in this forum who lost it to their husbands will tell u just this)

For the guys, you may say scornful things, but we all know as guys that we value babes like this-especially when it comes to settling down- we like the wild wild girls for sex but we want the virgins ( or at least near virgins) for wives (thats the plain truth).

Who knows- Some of the guys here have already sent emails to the address provided by the poster!

One question for all the ladies who have responded to this post: Have you ever slept with a married man that is not your husband?
If your answer is 'NO' - you have my respect
If your answer is 'YES' - just shut up

The real issue is with the girls who knowingly sleep with married men. Im glad a lady started this post- ladies, and only them, have the power to stop this mess

No-Dont!!
Send me her number instead

Let me add this, if it'll be any help

My girlfriend told me about her past- which isnt pleasant and I get really sad anytime I think about it but just when I want to tell her I cant cope something tells me how much I'd miss her if I do. So i believe your man will come back to you, just give him a lil space to think straight

On the face of this post I would say agree that he was rather harsh on walking out after ur confession but something tells me there's a missing fact: Are you sure you and this guy were not together during those time you were sleeping with the school boy? - that will be the only reason he;s so hurt

If your answer is sincerly 'NO" then i suggest u move on- You 2 are never meant to be

aisha2:
Again, Whats all the hype about Valentine. If someone loves you through out the year and can't make it on one day, you get to cancel all the 364 days because someone says thats the only day you can prove your love abi? I must be really dumb, someone educate me, I just don't get this valentine stuff

Aisha you just spoke my mind, word for word,
Every day should be a valentine's day for lovers

I had some funny ideas in my head as a little boy - i believed that if i never disvirgined a girl, i'd marry a virgin (funny right? well i guess some1 put that in my head to tryto make me a good boy), but then it stuck- i avoided virgins (i had more than 3 opportunities to take virginities but i ran away) - i was having sex with already deflowerd girls though

Now i have a girl i might consider marrying who's alraedy deflowered - i dont want to leave her cos of this but i often feel cheated. will disvirgining another girl remove this feeling?

Siena:
From the sounds of things, you seem to have problems dealing with the fact you weren't the first man in your girlfriends life, unless you're on the hunt for a virgin?

Are you a virgin yourself?

Your reasoning impresses me cos ur quite close 2d truth ( r u a psychologist?)
well 2 answer your questions1) i'm not on the hunt for a virgin  (but i guess it wudnt have been bad 2 have one) and (2) im not a virgin. I love my present babe - we've been dating for a year and I dont have any intentions of leaving her. I just have those thots coming 2 my mind now and then.  My worry is if those pasts will continue 2 torment me even after we are married ( I need married men here who have similar experineces 2 say something please)

If this is normal or will go with time then im good , else maybe i need 2 see a psychologist?

How do men feel when they know the woman they are marrying has a dirty past?

Is it ok for a lady to tell her man graphic details of her past? Should a man try to know?

Twice I have had had women tell me their pasts (out of love I guess) and it wasn't
easy living with it. Is it just me or do men generally feel same?

Please tell him. I'd appreciate if a girl told me that sincerely. Just try to tell him in a nice way

Freewilly:
@ poster,


Forgive me for being rude, but your English is just as horrible so be very careful pointing fingers.

I concur

Thank you all for the responses

Busta:
@topic,

if u don't like her body or the way she looks, move on to find someone that u love their bodies and has what u lookin for.

that simple!

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